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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you say you're easy to live with? If so, have you learned to compromise your behaviour? Or do you think you should just be yourself and the other person should accept you for who you are? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha! No! Unless you're another introvert like me who needs to withdraw into themselves quite a lot. Apart from that I'm very straightforward."
I married a cuddly bouncy extrovert and negotiating a balance between our polarized needs proved too difficult. We now have a lovely friendship instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Course you should compromise!
I however cant... . So if me and hubs ever split up "I Vant to be alone" Muahahaha
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I feel the same, prefer to live alone and have meets, even if with one person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm probably a complete nightmare, which explains why every relationship I'm in is like a total car crash!
It's also the women you pick "
There's only one that I don't regret. We're still good friends. We're very much alike but it just wasn't our time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you say you're easy to live with? If so, have you learned to compromise your behaviour? Or do you think you should just be yourself and the other person should accept you for who you are? "
All successful relationships have a basis of compromise. ..from small to big things..otherwise they just dont work. If there is no give and take then its a domination or ownership and not a true relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must be easy to live with as I've been living with my husband over 20 years. I think there has to be compromise on both sides for any relationship to work. I couldn't live with someone that wasn't prepared to consider my needs and I hope I consider those around me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am, apparently, a nightmare to live with. I wouldn't agree, I just have things that drive me nuts, socks left rolled up on the floor. Grrrrr! No need for it, I'm happy to wash, dry, sort, fold, and put away the laundry. Why should I have to go round collecting washing off the floor, and unroll, dried out sweaty work socks?! Not going to happen. My ex reckoned I was horrible to live with because of 'nagging' him over insignificant things. I saw it as he was a lazy shit.
Think I'll stay living with just my 3 yr old, who doesn't leave socks rolled up and uses the laundry basket!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With all the Will in the world and desire to compromise, sometimes people are just not compatible as their nature's are too different. However, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone with similar needs but who had no consideration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't want anyone living with me...I like my own space too much but IN a relationship compromise deffo.My ideal relationship would be in our own houses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex husband would say I'm not but really his opinion doesn't count.
I actually think I'd be very easy to live with. I've been single a long time now though and finding someone who would convince me to let them in my life enough would be the issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't want anyone living with me...I like my own space too much but IN a relationship compromise deffo.My ideal relationship would be in our own houses. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not easy to live with, I know that, I'm picky, sarcastic and a total clean freak, it burned me up when people don't use coasters, it might sound like I'm being an arse, but I paid a lot of money for the furniture in my house, and I don't want rings on it.
Yeah I'm a pain in the arse lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was a disaster until my ex 'domesticated' me... Now washing up left to harden in the sink gets me down and a dirty fridge also pisses me off.
Sometimes (because we were living together nose to nose) I would need a bit of my own space but he was always pretty good at taking himself off to do things when I was working or university-ing.
Thank you for imparting the skills needed to keep myself as a functional adult! I must admit when I was in Amsterdam, the other four people I was staying with did not have a CLUE about tidying up son muggins here was left to clear up various things. That really fucked me off! |
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I think im easy to get along with
with diy i just get on with it, within the house if i have the materials to do the jobs needed
wall paper has to be compromised with within the areas that you both sit in or sleep rest of the house get on with it for me
I tend to like the lived in look more than a total clean person fridge and tops are usually clean unless ive used them for something but gets cleaned up before cooking upon
clothes theres 2 sets one to get changed into after work the other is work clothes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure as I have have always lived on my own and prefer it, but I would say yes as most of my days is eating and meal prep so wouldn't be that easy to live with, unless they liked they liked the smell of tuna and chicken |
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"Would you say you're easy to live with? If so, have you learned to compromise your behaviour? Or do you think you should just be yourself and the other person should accept you for who you are?
All successful relationships have a basis of compromise. ..from small to big things..otherwise they just dont work. If there is no give and take then its a domination or ownership and not a true relationship"
Yup, when people both put the needs of the other first it works really well. I expect a lot in some ways, but I am very giving and happy to compromise on most things, I prefer living with someone.
My photographers used to day I was very difficult to work for, a perfectionist - but the results were worth it. I reckon I'm a bit like that to live with, and damn good fun to boot!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy the preparation for 'friends' coming for the weekend, but not sure I could commit to living with someone long term, like others I'm a bit set in my ways and have my own timetable for during the week.
I'd sulk if I had to interfere with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm highly entertaining to live with.
Although reckon I could get on ya tits to an extent.
But to give and take by way of comprises without comprising yourself. Gotta be the only way to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not always easy to live with. I like my own way and I can be a spoilt cow if they don't do as I say.
I also like to keep things tidy and can lose my temper if my curtains are touched or things out of place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was a disaster until my ex 'domesticated' me... Now washing up left to harden in the sink gets me down and a dirty fridge also pisses me off.
Sometimes (because we were living together nose to nose) I would need a bit of my own space but he was always pretty good at taking himself off to do things when I was working or university-ing.
Thank you for imparting the skills needed to keep myself as a functional adult! I must admit when I was in Amsterdam, the other four people I was staying with did not have a CLUE about tidying up son muggins here was left to clear up various things. That really fucked me off!"
The person with the lowest tolerance for filth is the one who does the cleaning |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you're easy to live with? If so, have you learned to compromise your behaviour? Or do you think you should just be yourself and the other person should accept you for who you are? "
I am easy to live with , I have told her that and every one knows men are always right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easy to live with, so long as you pick up after yourself and don't leave everything to me. And make me a brew occasionally.
I'm not arsed about the bog seat being up or down, my arms work.
Caps on the toothaste don't matter.
I'm lazy and don't care if the dishes get done or not.
If i have a problem i will give you blunt shit for it so you know why i'm pissed off.
And i apologise when out of order, when i've stopped being pissed off.
I won't punch you for pissing me off either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you're easy to live with? If so, have you learned to compromise your behaviour? Or do you think you should just be yourself and the other person should accept you for who you are? "
I'm easy to live with - as long as I'm living with someone on the same wavelength.
I was very lucky until I moved into a shared house when I started my degree - where I discovered I was living with a drug dealer (who's mother in law owned the property) and an addict (training to be a teacher). I couldn't even leave, because my contract kept me paying for months after I'd discovered it wasn't right for me.
I have a nesting partner currently. He's wonderful. We have separate bedrooms and invite each other to spend the night in our rooms when we want intimacy. There's no hard feelings if we say no. We split the chores - even though he works all week and I'm a student and freelance journalist. But we also split all the bills roughly equally - even though he earns about six times as much as me.
It really works for us. We've both never been as happy. And we've even discussed what will happen if we stop being intimate either each other in the future - because we're poly relationship anarchists we've decided that we'd continue to live together. We already have our partners over to stay, so it's not really like it would be any different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All successful relationships have a basis of compromise. ..from small to big things..otherwise they just dont work. If there is no give and take then its a domination or ownership and not a true relationship"
I've not had to compromise in any of my current relationships.
I've not had to. I found the right people. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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if they dont need instructions,high sex drive,like a calm atmosphere, are intuitive and responsive to the joint environment, and understand i need a cup of tea , a wee and a cigarette before morning sex, so preferably a night owl or a separate room for me to hang in, then im easy to live with...
if you love bringing drama home,need to watch TV, get bored easily or want to interrupt me when i'm in the middle of doing something i'm doing, because you need my constant reassurance and attention ..i'm sure i'm a complete bitch. |
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