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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
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I believe that any insecurities are a direct result of your own self-evaluation so self imposed. Others do have an influence, but only if we let them (her. |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I believe that any insecurities are a direct result of your own self-evaluation so self imposed. Others do have an influence, but only if we let them (her."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Mostly agree but there was the one self imposition i made that i'd never thought of until the other party mentionned their criteria.  "
Has it become an insecurity ? |
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me  "
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media. |
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I think at times its a result of my own hang ups and feelings of doubt. Sometimes those feelings have been triggered by others.
I also believe that what we feel we are worth is what we get even if it is not what we really desire. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mostly agree but there was the one self imposition i made that i'd never thought of until the other party mentionned their criteria.
Has it become an insecurity ? "
No, it's tighter than ever.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media. "
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
Sorry to hear that "
Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.
Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing  |
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
Sorry to hear that
Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.
Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing "
Your clit might be bigger than my cock  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
Sorry to hear that
Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.
Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing
Your clit might be bigger than my cock "
God I hope not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.
Totally agree"
Totally disagree.
That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
Sorry to hear that
Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.
Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing
Your clit might be bigger than my cock
God I hope not "
So do I... I would really have a sexual insecurity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.
Totally agree
Totally disagree.
That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to. "
I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
Sorry to hear that
Yeah... That was seven years ago, definitely left a lasting impression.
Though his moobs were bigger than MY boobs. Not a difficult thing
Your clit might be bigger than my cock
God I hope not
So do I... I would really have a sexual insecurity "
I have a lovely PETITE clit thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.
Totally agree
Totally disagree.
That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.
I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it... "
I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.
Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.
I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.
That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.
Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.
So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.
Totally agree
Totally disagree.
That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.
I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it...
I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.
Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.
I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.
That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.
Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.
So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?
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First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.
I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.
Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
That's body insecurities and I definitely think most people with them are due to other people and the media.
Totally agree
Totally disagree.
That would be like saying that the solution to body insecurities is in the other guys hands/domain, someone you may never ever see again, or wish to.
I see your point and agree with it, yet you can't deny the fact the people's opinion have an impact on your self perception... plus the media adds the"perfect body image" to it...
I can and do deny it. Other people may comment but it doesn't formulate my self perceptions.
Re the media and perfect body, no it doesn't.
I find Vanessa Fetlz disgusting onthe TV ( bad enough the radio) but someone likes her.
That Carol Vorderman, celebrity, constantly searching for a decent body shape, but someone likes her.
Kate Moss, most would see her as skinny but someone likes her.
So, what is the "perfect body image" the media uses?
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If enough people tell Vanessa Feltz her body is disgusting she will possibly end up insecure about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.
I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.
Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?
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No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.
No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.
Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.
I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.
Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?
No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.
No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.
Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.
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How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?
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By (user no longer on site)
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First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.
I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.
Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?
No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.
No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.
Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.
How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?
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I honestly don't know. Is Jennifer Aniston not curvy? Angela Joile? That's curvy as in femine curves,not rotund.
Is the "Hollywood look" to be aspired to? And how many of they themselves have their own psychological self image issues?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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First of all, my bad I might have uncorrectly expressed myself cause I have the feeling that you think it was personal.
I should have used the personal pronun "We" instead of "You". It was more generally speaking.
Then I don't recall seeing a lot of voluptuous women in magazin? Is James bond attracted to Melissa McCarthy type or Claudia Schiffer type?
No probs at all, not taken it personally at all.
No voluptuous women? To mention just two, you must have heard of, if not seen, Gina Lollabrigida and Sophia Loren? THEY were curvy.
Funny you should mention Claudia, she was by far and away my fave model. Beautiful, plus she had decent tits. Afraid i don't know who or what Melissa McCarthy is or like.
How many curvy women are in magazin and how many hollywood type are?
I honestly don't know. Is Jennifer Aniston not curvy? Angela Joile? That's curvy as in femine curves,not rotund.
Is the "Hollywood look" to be aspired to? And how many of they themselves have their own psychological self image issues?
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It shouldn't at all... yet media have normalised that "Hollywood type" as the only type to be attracted to...
I am not, you aren't either but if you do a poll...it is the predominent type
Anorexia is partly due to the image almost all media extols of "The Perfect body image" "the Hollywood type" ...
And yes they certainly have their own psycological self body image but I am sure it is also due to their job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me "
This is why I get frustrated when I see people offering advice saying "it's only words......"
Words on a screen and words spoken are the most powerful tools we have.
They can support, empower, nurture, heal and destroy.
Let's all pause for breath before we type or speak..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me "
His idea of proportions, not everyone else`s, he may have been insecure and that`s his way of bringing you to his level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me
This is why I get frustrated when I see people offering advice saying "it's only words......"
Words on a screen and words spoken are the most powerful tools we have.
They can support, empower, nurture, heal and destroy.
Let's all pause for breath before we type or speak....."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me "
You look well proportioned in your profile pic. It's sad that someone has said such a hurtful thing to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first man who saw me naked told me that I was entirely out of proportion. That's stuck with me "
It's funny how things that are told to you early on life stick with you for the remainder. For the record, I think you look great in your pics x |
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"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.
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Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?
I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can. |
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"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.
Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?
I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can."
Now you got me thinking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.
Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?
I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can.
Now you got me thinking "
When meeting at mine or a hotel, I only meet if I can sense and feel the other person really wants to meet me, to meet me! Not just fuck me. |
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"Yeah, I'm always very suspicious of people who compliment /want to sleep with me as I think they must be lying.
Why would they lie about wanting to fuck you?
I'd be more inclined to think, are they fucking me cause they really want to and really like me or are they fucking me because they have nothing better to do or just because, they can.
Now you got me thinking
When meeting at mine or a hotel, I only meet if I can sense and feel the other person really wants to meet me, to meet me! Not just fuck me. "
That's the complete opposite to the way I think. When I meet someone I assume it is because they want to fuck me. That is why I'm meeting them after all! |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
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I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women. |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women."
Your socks helped ? |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
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Great question OP!
We'd all like to think that our insecurities/anxieties are not based on others' criteria but at one point or another (individual or society based), external opinions do play a part. Whether they develop and grow will depend on the individual and their own self-esteem. Some people have made peace or love their "flaws" while others are struggling to deal with them. So I believe they are result of others' criteria but we can choose whether or not to impose it on ourselves. |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women.
Your socks helped ? "
Weirdly the socks have helped! They've helped get me noticed and I've had messages from women who wouldn't have messaged me had it not been for the socks |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women.
Your socks helped ? "
There his lucky socks |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women.
Your socks helped ?
There his lucky socks "
They must be. I am a very lucky man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
I think in my case they're self imposed anxieties. I'm confident about most things in life apart from relationships with women. This then gets more frustrating because I love women so much.
I have trouble even taking compliments. I still have a hard time coming to terms that there might actually be a woman out there that might actually want to spend some time with me or even talk to me. Plus now I've been out of the game for so long it makes it even harder. Slowly building the old confidence but it's taking time. Fab has been very good for me with that. And I've found some lovely understanding women.
Your socks helped ?
There his lucky socks
They must be. I am a very lucky man "
You wear them with class as well |
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"Do you think our Sexual insecurities/anxieties are self imposed or it is the result of others' criteria?
Great question OP!
We'd all like to think that our insecurities/anxieties are not based on others' criteria but at one point or another (individual or society based), external opinions do play a part. Whether they develop and grow will depend on the individual and their own self-esteem. Some people have made peace or love their "flaws" while others are struggling to deal with them. So I believe they are result of others' criteria but we can choose whether or not to impose it on ourselves."
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