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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Came to terms with not being anyone's first choice long time ago.
Meh,..make em smile while you can. People are fickle, you can't hand people ya basket of eggs and expect them to never fancy steak.... |
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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"... You get put on hold incase something better comes along in the meantime?
Dont get me wrong, Im quite aware it does happen but how do YOU deal with it?
Bye Bye Sooty!  "
Yeh.. Its getting that way.
Someone keeps asking me to meet.. We both want to meet but the times haven't been convenient with both working and other things.
A number of times Ive put up a meet where he has read it but doesn't acknowledge it where i just think he's prob made other arrangement..
He asked a few days ago was i free tonight where i said yes.. He said he will confirm yesterday..then nothing. Thing is hes done this before and then mails me at like 9pm asking to meet!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... You get put on hold incase something better comes along in the meantime?
Dont get me wrong, Im quite aware it does happen but how do YOU deal with it?
Bye Bye Sooty!
Yeh.. Its getting that way.
Someone keeps asking me to meet.. We both want to meet but the times haven't been convenient with both working and other things.
A number of times Ive put up a meet where he has read it but doesn't acknowledge it where i just think he's prob made other arrangement..
He asked a few days ago was i free tonight where i said yes.. He said he will confirm yesterday..then nothing. Thing is hes done this before and then mails me at like 9pm asking to meet!!
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Time to release him back into the wild and find someone new of interest to you. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I trust my instincts immensely. I would tell them to fuck off. "
Or you can go straight for the jugular like this  ...Note to self never upset Pandora... |
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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Nature of the world we live in just remember its there loss and maybe the chat managed to titilate you ready for a real meet  "
Nothing titilating about it... Its been going on for months and as i said, its not the first time lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I trust my instincts immensely. I would tell them to fuck off.
Or you can go straight for the jugular like this ...Note to self never upset Pandora...
Haha since joining fab, hands up iv become more sensitive to things (which is weird) , but it's taught me to not take any shit from blokes (go me)  I don't need or want twats in my sex life "
Its a fair comment as time is precious so why waste it.. Go You  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It totally depends on what you are really looking for . This is going to happen all the time if you want to be that 'special one ' and must be hard to deal with as a single on a site like this .
For us we have no illusions , it is what it is . People will say this , that and anything to get what they are after . And better options may turn up which they may choose to go with . We truly don't mind that , we have each other . And to be fair , our relaxed and non judgemental attitude to this , means we are never short of great meets .
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"I trust my instincts immensely. I would tell them to fuck off.
Or you can go straight for the jugular like this ...Note to self never upset Pandora...
Haha since joining fab, hands up iv become more sensitive to things (which is weird) , but it's taught me to not take any shit from blokes (go me) I don't need or want twats in my sex life "
With you on this one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you get put on hold its a definite bye!! I give them 30 mins to reply or when I log on next.if no reply then I block them.not because I'm upset that I've been ignored because everyone has a type at the end of the day but because I wouldn't want to message them again if I forgot I had done already if that makes sense 
In short...no reply...block and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you get put on hold its a definite bye!! I give them 30 mins to reply or when I log on next.if no reply then I block them.not because I'm upset that I've been ignored because everyone has a type at the end of the day but because I wouldn't want to message them again if I forgot I had done already if that makes sense
In short...no reply...block and move on "
My block list is huge by the way  |
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We have a few local 'couples' who will always contact us whenever we put up a meet and try to pump us for details. Sadly 'something always comes up at the last minute'. I have always assumed they were bored single men who never meet.
We know we should block, but we enjoy playing a game where mrs ddc and I guess the excuse.
(I'm winning )
No matter how frustrating it is, try not to let it get to you LittleM, it isnt a reflection on you.
Mr ddc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can honestly say whilst it may have happened, I've never been made to feel this way by a guy before.
Maybe because I don't meet very often and have to usually plan a date in advance we both know where we stand & are free to meet others inbetween. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It totally depends on what you are really looking for . This is going to happen all the time if you want to be that 'special one ' and must be hard to deal with as a single on a site like this .
For us we have no illusions , it is what it is . People will say this , that and anything to get what they are after . And better options may turn up which they may choose to go with . We truly don't mind that , we have each other . And to be fair , our relaxed and non judgemental attitude to this , means we are never short of great meets .
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Mr or Mrs Glosswingers, I am only looking for good sexual encounters, with decent people. my preference is not to entertain "fuck n go's" or people who are just meeting me because they're meet has changed they're mind, If I feel I'm being used or treated in a not so nice way I'd rather go without. Just because I on fab it still doesn't mean I have to lower my standards or just take what's being offered. I'm probably not making any sense but I know what I'm trying to say |
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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It totally depends on what you are really looking for . This is going to happen all the time if you want to be that 'special one ' and must be hard to deal with as a single on a site like this .
For us we have no illusions , it is what it is . People will say this , that and anything to get what they are after . And better options may turn up which they may choose to go with . We truly don't mind that , we have each other . And to be fair , our relaxed and non judgemental attitude to this , means we are never short of great meets .
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Defo no to the wanting to be special one!!
I'm talking about always asking when your free, you tell them then nothing. They see your free and looking at 2pm but again nothing until late that evening.
I told this person I was free last Sat night.. They had plans. Then 10pm there plans changed and wanted to meet.
I'm all for people changing there mind but don't keep asking then. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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We have only had one meet cancelled without being sure the excuse was genuine. Something along the lines of "We had a delivery of paving slabs and XXX is too tired to play tonight". We were in the car and on the way to their house, I am not sure building suppliers deliver after 5pm on a Saturday!
As for doing it to others? We don't get enough meets or offers to be able to wait for the better offer!  But even so, we don't arrange a meet unless they meet what we are looking for, so there wouldn't be better!  |
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"... You get put on hold incase something better comes along in the meantime?
Dont get me wrong, Im quite aware it does happen but how do YOU deal with it?
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I do sometimes wonder if they're just listening to me singing to the on-hold music |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It totally depends on what you are really looking for . This is going to happen all the time if you want to be that 'special one ' and must be hard to deal with as a single on a site like this .
For us we have no illusions , it is what it is . People will say this , that and anything to get what they are after . And better options may turn up which they may choose to go with . We truly don't mind that , we have each other . And to be fair , our relaxed and non judgemental attitude to this , means we are never short of great meets .
Mr or Mrs Glosswingers, I am only looking for good sexual encounters, with decent people. my preference is not to entertain "fuck n go's" or people who are just meeting me because they're meet has changed they're mind, If I feel I'm being used or treated in a not so nice way I'd rather go without. Just because I on fab it still doesn't mean I have to lower my standards or just take what's being offered. I'm probably not making any sense but I know what I'm trying to say "
I (Mr) totally understand what you are saying . You may note I said how hard it must be as a single . There is inevitably going to be a different perspective , or the need to feel wanted and desired . I'm not saying we don't want this too , but it doesn't matter as much for us .
This doesn't mean we lower our standards , nor do we expect anyone else to lower theirs .
What could be worse than lying in bed alone , and feeling used , unwanted and second best ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've felt like that quite a few times "
if people ignore you or put them on hold do the same... Treat people how they treat you.I have a friend on here who started talking less and less when they were talking to others .which is fair enough but then they expect me to be interested in their life I can't be bothered any more
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"... You get put on hold incase something better comes along in the meantime?
Dont get me wrong, Im quite aware it does happen but how do YOU deal with it?
Bye Bye Sooty!
Yeh.. Its getting that way.
Someone keeps asking me to meet.. We both want to meet but the times haven't been convenient with both working and other things.
A number of times Ive put up a meet where he has read it but doesn't acknowledge it where i just think he's prob made other arrangement..
He asked a few days ago was i free tonight where i said yes.. He said he will confirm yesterday..then nothing. Thing is hes done this before and then mails me at like 9pm asking to meet!!
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Yup, you're being messed about if not juggled! Even if the reasons are sometimes genuine (children have a habit of changing people's plans) I will not tolerate that and if something is not confirmed in good time I will just cancel myself.
There are one or two local hotties I would like to meet one day who keep asking, but never handle it with enough respect for me. I've even told a couple they can forget asking me in advance, no way I'm going to keep a night free for them anymore! I've told them why I say no each time - but if they get all their ducks in a row one day I might say yes.
I don't have an ego problem, there's always going to be someone hotter however great we think we are - but I can insist on respect. 
"I'm not moody, I'm just less inclined to take your shit" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It totally depends on what you are really looking for . This is going to happen all the time if you want to be that 'special one ' and must be hard to deal with as a single on a site like this .
For us we have no illusions , it is what it is . People will say this , that and anything to get what they are after . And better options may turn up which they may choose to go with . We truly don't mind that , we have each other . And to be fair , our relaxed and non judgemental attitude to this , means we are never short of great meets .
Mr or Mrs Glosswingers, I am only looking for good sexual encounters, with decent people. my preference is not to entertain "fuck n go's" or people who are just meeting me because they're meet has changed they're mind, If I feel I'm being used or treated in a not so nice way I'd rather go without. Just because I on fab it still doesn't mean I have to lower my standards or just take what's being offered. I'm probably not making any sense but I know what I'm trying to say
I (Mr) totally understand what you are saying . You may note I said how hard it must be as a single . There is inevitably going to be a different perspective , or the need to feel wanted and desired . I'm not saying we don't want this too , but it doesn't matter as much for us .
This doesn't mean we lower our standards , nor do we expect anyone else to lower theirs .
What could be worse than lying in bed alone , and feeling used , unwanted and second best ?
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Totally agree
I don't want to be "the special one" I want to be made to feel special with a meet. (Is that too much to ask on fab?)
Whether that's just for a couple hours or stay over hotel meet. His also applies leading up to the meet too sometimes depending on the situation. |
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