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Why do men think that if they 'get nowhere' it's because they are too nice?
Or put another way - why do they think 'ive been nice so I should be rewarded!'
I'm sure you choose who you want sex with and so does everyone else.
Nice or nasty it doesn't matter. Men are in the majority and have to exercise some patience.
Or bag off in reality cos it's easier than on here I have heard say.
P.S. You're good looking. Don't fret. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do men think that if they 'get nowhere' it's because they are too nice?
Or put another way - why do they think 'ive been nice so I should be rewarded!'
I'm sure you choose who you want sex with and so does everyone else.
Nice or nasty it doesn't matter. Men are in the majority and have to exercise some patience.
Or bag off in reality cos it's easier than on here I have heard say.
P.S. You're good looking. Don't fret."
. Yeah, wot she said. |
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Also, off topic here but what is considered a "nice guy" is subjective.
My ex considers himself a nice guy, but he's a cunt.
...Ok, sorry, he acts like a "nice guy" for all of 5 mins until he doesn't get what he wants, and then he goes back to being a dick and STILL doesn't get his own way.
Just sayin'... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git? "
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...
Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.
Ps nice tatts "
Did you mis spell that Evie ? |
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over a year ago
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Gent always, offer seat on the Tube, open the door, pull the chair, notice when they have had their hair done.
It costs nothing and it's nice to be nice
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
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You're right. I often see men on here describe themselves as cheeky when asking why they don't get meets and I wonder if they believe that's another trait women look for in a man.
Gents! There isn't a type that appeals to the majority of women, just be yourselves |
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...
Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.
Ps nice tatts
Did you mis spell that Evie ?"
I never make typos |
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere...
Just be you. That way you'll get somewhere with the right people not the right now people.
Ps nice tatts
Did you mis spell that Evie ?
I never make typos "
Oh yeah... I remember |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you thought about becoming a stand up comedian, OP? Many women claim to like guys that make them laugh. It may be more successful than being arrogant. Just a thought |
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"I'm polite.
But don't mistake that for being nice
So you say Fuck off PLEASE..... "
Nahh, more:-
"Excuse me, I'm terribly sorry to bother you but, if it's not too much trouble, would you mind awfully SHUTTING THE FUCK UP? Thanks." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere... "
Just be yourself...and relax.
Get on the forums and let your personality shine..let people get to know you.
Be nice, be polite, be genuine and dont try too hard...the 'desperate' forehead stamp is as easy to see on here as on a night out. And we all know that isnt attractive.
Be patient and make connections.. despite being fabsters we are all people first, and thats what we all want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.
"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"
So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site. |
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"Nice guys usually = I think if I out enough "nice guy" tokens into a woman she should eventually pay out sex.
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This.
If you're a nice guy, you will usually do well.
If you're just acting the nice guy to try and get your dick wet, most women will see through that.
Just be you and the gash will come. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm polite.
But don't mistake that for being nice
So you say Fuck off PLEASE.....
Nahh, more:-
"Excuse me, I'm terribly sorry to bother you but, if it's not too much trouble, would you mind awfully SHUTTING THE FUCK UP? Thanks.""
Shhhhhh that hurt my EARS ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.
"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"
So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site."
But being a gent is easy to practical everyone the "bad boy" is very hard for most lol |
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"Be a gent, allways, believe me, any woman you can get by being a git, is a woman you don't want or need in your life, I think it was Bob Marley that said.
"If she's worth it it won't be easy, if she's easy, she won't be worth it"
So be a gent, it will bring its own rewards in the end, leave the arrogance to the "I want to shag everyone on the site" people, and then revel in the glory of attaining the real ladies of the site."
Bob Marley wasn't very nice about women then was he, "if she's easy she won't be worth it" |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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I have been on and off this site for several years, I have always been polite....
However you need to accept that for most single women this is a meat convayor...forgive the phrase but let's be honest, you log in, check your inbox and its no,no,no, maybe,no,no.... Or just don't bother even reading.......
You can send 10 messages each day for a month and get nothing back.,... Trust me on this....
So either accept that one in a million will be polite and talk back or find another way to get you leg over.....
Sorry but its a ladies market and you need to accept it |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
bristol |
A friend of mine said it once
To the ladies that wear push up bras, fake eye lashes, covered in make up wanting a "real man" .... Stop being ironic in your statement....there are thousands of decent men but all go busy fixated on the next Beckham lookalike or whoever it is this month |
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"A friend of mine said it once
To the ladies that wear push up bras, fake eye lashes, covered in make up wanting a "real man" .... Stop being ironic in your statement....there are thousands of decent men but all go busy fixated on the next Beckham lookalike or whoever it is this month "
Since you have such a poor perception of us women you're probably better off without us. |
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"One should be a gentlemen and always walk on the right side of the line between confidence and arrogance.
No one should be a man.not some winging pussy. Take control your a man ffs tell her what your gonna do and don't ask her for permission. Your the boss. YOU DA MAN "
Dear Lord tell me you're joking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just try to treat others how I wish to be treated myself. I prefer to be polite and respectful and if things work out for the best great if not then it was just not meant to be. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
bristol |
I view a woman as an equal in all ways.....
The statemebt about fake eye lashes ect ect is surprisingly apt for a site like this.... As I pointed out in my first post, you can be polite, well mannered, respectful and still get no where.
I know I'm nothing special to look at, so far from arrogant..... However as a person I am the friend that will be there through thick and thin..... Yet on a site where a woman gets bombarded with emails each time...the "average" man doesn't stand a chance .... I could be the best sex on here but how is someone going to know unless they try and see? But that's never going to happen because I'm average...... See the vicous circle?
It's these reasons I go to clubs because there I can be me to someone's face on a social level and they can get to know me as a person rather than a photo and words on a screen..... Does that Make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere... "
try being an arrogant git then, come back in a month and let us know how many meets you've had |
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"Starting to think that being a nice guy is getting me nowhere... "
I can understand what you're saying OP as the same thought has crossed my mind from time to time. I'd like to think I was a nice guy too but it doesn't always help you get the ladies. As Noel Gallagher once wrote...'You've got to be yourself. You can be no one else.' Be true to yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not. That's the worst thing you could do. Your time will come... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I view a woman as an equal in all ways.....
The statemebt about fake eye lashes ect ect is surprisingly apt for a site like this.... As I pointed out in my first post, you can be polite, well mannered, respectful and still get no where.
I know I'm nothing special to look at, so far from arrogant..... However as a person I am the friend that will be there through thick and thin..... Yet on a site where a woman gets bombarded with emails each time...the "average" man doesn't stand a chance .... I could be the best sex on here but how is someone going to know unless they try and see? But that's never going to happen because I'm average...... See the vicous circle?
It's these reasons I go to clubs because there I can be me to someone's face on a social level and they can get to know me as a person rather than a photo and words on a screen..... Does that Make sense? "
Looking for NSA sex and a relationship are different things. I'm not looking for the friend who will be there through thick and thin but I have been lucky enough and grateful enough to have found that here with some people.
The comments on fake lashes etc. only makes sense if men ignore the women who wear them. Somehow I think a lot of men like the window dressing.
What we look for here may be totally different to what we look for elsewhere: it's fantasy fulfillment land. Nothing more.
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I can't help but feel that this way of thinking belies a huge sense of entitlement. Fab is what it is, men far outnumber women so they're able to an extent to pick and choose. Nothing will guarantee anybody a meet and being nice is not what is preventing anybody getting one simply because women do not have to meet anyone if they don't want to.
Don't let yourself believe that because you can't get a meet that there's something wrong with you it isnt a normal environment and women aren't attracted to one generic man. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!
You just can't get the bandwidth these days."
I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.
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"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!
You just can't get the bandwidth these days.
I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.
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in and out of traffic ?
a basket?
a web of deceit ? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"God's sake ! You go to make a cuppa.. come back . someone's pinched half your thread!
You just can't get the bandwidth these days.
I think all the interesting stuff happened when I was weaving.
in and out of traffic ?
a basket?
a web of deceit ?"
Fabricating a little story with an inconsistent thread... |
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
"
Evening charming man here
.. ??????
If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
Evening charming man here
.. ??????
If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps. "
I'll vouch that you're a charming man. |
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
Evening charming man here
.. ??????
If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.
I'll vouch that you're a charming man. "
I'm blushing. Haha
Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
Evening charming man here
.. ??????
If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.
I'll vouch that you're a charming man.
I'm blushing. Haha
Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun. "
You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.
I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
Evening charming man here
.. ??????
If you're a nice fella then you'll err someone nice at right time. Law of averages perhaps.
I'll vouch that you're a charming man.
I'm blushing. Haha
Hope you're well. Off topic of course but I try and be nice and we're having lots of fun.
You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.
I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.
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True on both accounts.
My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol
On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"been on these sites for 8yrs now"
How have you found those 8 years OP?
Surely after that long you'd have worked out a successful approach - be it nice or arrogant? The site (and similar ones) won't have changed that much so if you have previous experience that worked just follow the same approach.
Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.
I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.
True on both accounts.
My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol
On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha "
I'd argue that on your own you don't do as well as many of us don't trust an approach from just the male in a couple to meet alone.
I feel cheated that I've never had a massage. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"been on these sites for 8yrs now
How have you found those 8 years OP?
Surely after that long you'd have worked out a successful approach - be it nice or arrogant? The site (and similar ones) won't have changed that much so if you have previous experience that worked just follow the same approach.
Yeah I've worked my own approach and it's being myself, it's others I can't work out whether they would rather some arrogant git and just being nice because your being nice.
Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.
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"one should just be oneself as if one is not oneself one wont be getting ones wick dipped..
frightfully insightful, good show old bean"
Oh can this be a thing *clears throat*
Spiffing advice old sport |
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You've got a female partner with big, erm... eyes! For the single men trying to get their end away they don't have that advantage.
I bet you two don't choose the big I am men though.
True on both accounts.
My lady likes confident fellas but not pushy ones. One liners and cock pics don't work on my lady lol
On my own it is harder so agree with author. My lady pimps out my massaging prowess then I do the rest haha
I'd argue that on your own you don't do as well as many of us don't trust an approach from just the male in a couple to meet alone.
I feel cheated that I've never had a massage. "
That makes sense. At Kestrels I'll offer massage, no strings and often get the cold shoulder and understand it looks like I'm trying to take advantage which I don't. But once starling sets it up they're generally happy after massage haha
One day a massage will come your way. And I'll be the lucky one
He's such a charmer lol lol lol |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"been on these sites for 8yrs now
How have you found those 8 years OP?
Surely after that long you'd have worked out a successful approach - be it nice or arrogant? The site (and similar ones) won't have changed that much so if you have previous experience that worked just follow the same approach.
Of course if you had no success over 8 years it might be worth trying something new.
A
Yeah I've worked my own approach and it's being myself, it's others I can't work out whether they would rather some arrogant git and just being nice because your being nice.
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You have your answer then!
Be yourself - don't worry about others. You can try working people out but you'll guess wrong as often as you'll guess right.
Good luck!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't help but feel that this way of thinking belies a huge sense of entitlement. Fab is what it is, men far outnumber women so they're able to an extent to pick and choose. Nothing will guarantee anybody a meet and being nice is not what is preventing anybody getting one simply because women do not have to meet anyone if they don't want to.
Don't let yourself believe that because you can't get a meet that there's something wrong with you it isnt a normal environment and women aren't attracted to one generic man." thank god they are not xx |
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"Also why do men think women are daft enough to want an arrogant git?
I think that they see some men who treat women badly doing well sexually and see some women who are attracted to that sort of drama and think that must be the secret to sexual success.
They don't see the charm and control exercised in the run up to that "success".
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Maybe the OP should simply be more observant? 8 years is a long time on here. Surely there should have been some basic pattern recognition and analysis going on. In that time you would surely work out success vs failure for meets. You should also have worked out how to spot things like..your type, possible compatibility, how to spot bs and time wasters.
Almost every living organism learns eventually.. |
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