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The power of the kiss
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else ever wonder why the act of locking your mouth against someone else's, and possibly then exploring further with your tongue, is such an emotionally powerful and meaningful act?
I mean, is this how we would express our affections if we hadn't been taught so through things like movies and stories since we were children.
Don't misunderstand me, I absolutely ADORE kissing, but anyone who's read my other threads will know I tend to think deeply on things a lot, and this one is important to me, the sheer significance of that moment when two peoples lips touch, especially for the first time, it's a leap across the wilderness of unfamiliarity, a bold casting aside of the stranger status, and a declaration of either love or desire...
I ask only, why do we choose to express that, by bringing our mouths together...is it something to do with it being the apparatus through which we breath, eat and drink? Those things are necessary to keep us alive, perhaps love and passion are too, hence they enter through the same door...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Close physical contact of our heads which we're so used to protecting (notice how people slightly shift their heads away from bad smells, but towards nice ones) and using our mouths which communicate so many things to use a completely different array of senses. There's a closeness and bond from kissing that cannot be expressed any other way. It might not be the most romantic of answers, but it still sends tingling down my spine thinking of how it works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule..."
Kissing is the first thing that starts to to turn me on
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule..."
Indeed.
As I've expressed, kissing is a POWERFUL sign of trust and passion, if someone flashes me a red light on it, then I have no interest in them. Sex for me is all about trust, affection and desire, deny me my kisses, and you deny me those things also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also interesting that its all males who have answered so far...
...and ladies think we're simple minded when it comes to these matters "
It's not only us guys that can stereotype!
If you listen to some on here,all guys are snarling Neanderthals that want to turn up,have their cock sucked,roughly fuck a hole or two,cum,then leave... 
We are,well can be,sensory and sensual creatures too...  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule..."
There are plenty that feel that way. Nothing wrong with it and it's actually easy to understand.
As has been said - kissing is a very intimate and personal thing. Hence many couples choose to keep that solely between themselves. There's a big difference between sharing sexual intimacy in the form of many activities - foreplay related or full sex - an sharing intimacy through kissing. To many couples this maintains a separation of purely physical pleasure and emotional closeness. It's often questioned why couples are happy to indulge in oral sex (obviously an intimate act) yet don't kiss their meets. There's a difference. Whether people understand this or not is irrelevant - it's the couples decision and their preference.
It's generally singles who question this more than couples. Maybe they'd feel differently if they were in a relationship? Maybe not?
Either way - a preference is a preference - whether kissing, playing safe or any other act that may occur on a meet.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Also interesting that its all males who have answered so far...
...and ladies think we're simple minded when it comes to these matters
It's not only us guys that can stereotype!
If you listen to some on here,all guys are snarling Neanderthals that want to turn up,have their cock sucked,roughly fuck a hole or two,cum,then leave...
We are,well can be,sensory and sensual creatures too... "
Well, look at how much art, literature, music, movies, poems have all been created by men over the centuries, often focusing on - you got it! - LOVE, the desire to be wanted, needed, cherished, valued, and belong.
Yeah, we're just fucking, fighting, farting Neanderthals alright... |
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It's the expression of intimacy I would guess, in some ways it is more intimate than the sex itself.
I also think it's a natural expression of affection, I have always kissed my cats on the back of their head, and that wonderful velvety place on the side of my horses' muzzle, and I kiss my partners a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule...
There are plenty that feel that way. Nothing wrong with it and it's actually easy to understand.
As has been said - kissing is a very intimate and personal thing. Hence many couples choose to keep that solely between themselves. There's a big difference between sharing sexual intimacy in the form of many activities - foreplay related or full sex - an sharing intimacy through kissing. To many couples this maintains a separation of purely physical pleasure and emotional closeness. It's often questioned why couples are happy to indulge in oral sex (obviously an intimate act) yet don't kiss their meets. There's a difference. Whether people understand this or not is irrelevant - it's the couples decision and their preference.
It's generally singles who question this more than couples. Maybe they'd feel differently if they were in a relationship? Maybe not?
Either way - a preference is a preference - whether kissing, playing safe or any other act that may occur on a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule...
There are plenty that feel that way. Nothing wrong with it and it's actually easy to understand.
As has been said - kissing is a very intimate and personal thing. Hence many couples choose to keep that solely between themselves. There's a big difference between sharing sexual intimacy in the form of many activities - foreplay related or full sex - an sharing intimacy through kissing. To many couples this maintains a separation of purely physical pleasure and emotional closeness. It's often questioned why couples are happy to indulge in oral sex (obviously an intimate act) yet don't kiss their meets. There's a difference. Whether people understand this or not is irrelevant - it's the couples decision and their preference.
It's generally singles who question this more than couples. Maybe they'd feel differently if they were in a relationship? Maybe not?
Either way - a preference is a preference - whether kissing, playing safe or any other act that may occur on a meet.
A "
I'm not having a go at them for it,it's a preference,like mine for wanting to kiss is.I can't imagine having sex with someone without kissing.Like I said earlier,kissing is the start to the whole sexual experience for me...
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Forgot to add,that i'm put off by ladies and couples who have a no kiss/or only kiss partner rule...
There are plenty that feel that way. Nothing wrong with it and it's actually easy to understand.
As has been said - kissing is a very intimate and personal thing. Hence many couples choose to keep that solely between themselves. There's a big difference between sharing sexual intimacy in the form of many activities - foreplay related or full sex - an sharing intimacy through kissing. To many couples this maintains a separation of purely physical pleasure and emotional closeness. It's often questioned why couples are happy to indulge in oral sex (obviously an intimate act) yet don't kiss their meets. There's a difference. Whether people understand this or not is irrelevant - it's the couples decision and their preference.
It's generally singles who question this more than couples. Maybe they'd feel differently if they were in a relationship? Maybe not?
Either way - a preference is a preference - whether kissing, playing safe or any other act that may occur on a meet.
A
I'm not having a go at them for it,it's a preference,like mine for wanting to kiss is.I can't imagine having sex with someone without kissing.Like I said earlier,kissing is the start to the whole sexual experience for me...
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That's cool.
I was exactly the same when single - but met plenty of couples (and even the odd single female) who didn't kiss on meets. I still enjoyed plenty of other experiences with them.
As I said - there'll generally be a difference in perception of those that are single and those that are married/in LTR's.
Which is also cool.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Taste and smell are very strongly connected. Smell is very often a powerful sensory input for other animals. For humans, the sense of smell is apparently the sense that has the most memories associated with it. I think that this has something to do with why kissing can be so intimate. In a way, when you kiss, you are smelling, tasting, and touching the person that you are with. You are understanding each other on a very basic level. And sometimes basic can be the most powerful, and therefore meaningful.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best kiss so far, in my opinion, is the one that doesn't really invovle tongue touching...the one you do during love making,just after an intense french kiss, when you slowing penetrate your partner and stare into her eyes, mouth on mouth, both slightly open and breathing into each other... that kiss is the one for me...they call it soul kiss I think
I absolutely love it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Taste and smell are very strongly connected. Smell is very often a powerful sensory input for other animals. For humans, the sense of smell is apparently the sense that has the most memories associated with it. I think that this has something to do with why kissing can be so intimate. In a way, when you kiss, you are smelling, tasting, and touching the person that you are with. You are understanding each other on a very basic level. And sometimes basic can be the most powerful, and therefore meaningful.
-Courtney"
That's an interesting theory, albeit one that's difficult to show over cyberspace - I mean, in the case of these words I'm typing, your only sense that is able to detect them is sight, rather the same for the pictures on my profile. This is another reason why attempting to connect with others on an intimate level on the internet is so difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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you can tell so much by a kiss, how much somebody is attracted to you, how much they want you etc
you can tell by a kiss wether they really want to be with you or just making do, somebody who is only using you as a make do will not kiss you like they mean it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well, apparently if you want to know if he loves you so, it's in his kiss.
That's where it is.
And you can hug him, and you can squeeze him tight to find out what you want to know. But if it's love, if it really is, it's there in his kiss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, apparently if you want to know if he loves you so, it's in his kiss.
That's where it is.
And you can hug him, and you can squeeze him tight to find out what you want to know. But if it's love, if it really is, it's there in his kiss."
How about the way he acts ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, apparently if you want to know if he loves you so, it's in his kiss.
That's where it is.
And you can hug him, and you can squeeze him tight to find out what you want to know. But if it's love, if it really is, it's there in his kiss.
How about the way he acts ? "
Nope,that's not the way. You're not listening to anything I say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kissing for me is everything. I could give up sex but would be gutted to think I'd never kiss again.
It's powerful and bond forming. Therefore I can see why some couples have a no kissing rule as if is intimate and emotional.
It's also a deal breaker. A bad kiss would be game over and they wouldn't get any further x |
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"Kissing for me is everything. I could give up sex but would be gutted to think I'd never kiss again.
It's powerful and bond forming. Therefore I can see why some couples have a no kissing rule as if is intimate and emotional.
It's also a deal breaker. A bad kiss would be game over and they wouldn't get any further x"
Hehe, I need to get in the habit of checking the kissing on a social meet!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The best kiss so far, in my opinion, is the one that doesn't really invovle tongue touching...the one you do during love making,just after an intense french kiss, when you slowing penetrate your partner and stare into her eyes, mouth on mouth, both slightly open and breathing into each other... that kiss is the one for me...they call it soul kiss I think
I absolutely love it "
This a million times over! Utter bliss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Love kissing and have been told i'm a great kisser. When you're with someone who's also a great kisser it ignites a fire within. Could quite happily spend hours snogging   |
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not sexy! I love the soft lingering kisses that make you eager for so much more!! 