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Without the obvious, shes got her handss down your pants kind of obvious...girls, how can I tell if a woman has the hots for me. I always get this one wrong even at 29. Mistaking being nice for fancying me too often.
Im not so atuned to detecting when her lips turn more red, her eyes dilate and her respiration increases as I am told are the physiological things.
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"if she holds eye contact and smiles at you a lot, if she carries on talking to you even when there is no need. If she accepts your invitation for a drink. "
Thanks. That all makes sense. I wish there wasn't so much pressure on guys today to make the first move, there'd be a lot morefun times happening if this happened more me thinks.  |
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"For me, it's if I touch you.
And I don't mean I grab your crotch, just a hand on your knee or a stroke of your arm.
That speaks volumes."
That would work
Seems for this to occur though the guy and girl must at least know each other to some extent right? I've never had a young girl do this, they seem more shy to be doing that.
How would you tell a guy without you necessarily being next to him long enough to touch him? |
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"if she holds eye contact and smiles at you a lot, if she carries on talking to you even when there is no need. If she accepts your invitation for a drink. "
But I thought ALL women carried on talking when there is no need !!! (joke)  |
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"For me, it's if I touch you.
And I don't mean I grab your crotch, just a hand on your knee or a stroke of your arm.
That speaks volumes.
That would work
Seems for this to occur though the guy and girl must at least know each other to some extent right? I've never had a young girl do this, they seem more shy to be doing that.
How would you tell a guy without you necessarily being next to him long enough to touch him? "
Would depend where I was. But the usual, staring intently at you, following you wherever you went, turning up at your work, standing outside your home. Those kind of subtle hints should give you the idea  |
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"For me, it's if I touch you.
And I don't mean I grab your crotch, just a hand on your knee or a stroke of your arm.
That speaks volumes.
That would work
Seems for this to occur though the guy and girl must at least know each other to some extent right? I've never had a young girl do this, they seem more shy to be doing that.
How would you tell a guy without you necessarily being next to him long enough to touch him?
Would depend where I was. But the usual, staring intently at you, following you wherever you went, turning up at your work, standing outside your home. Those kind of subtle hints should give you the idea "
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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This is Kevin Bloody Wilson's advice....
Kev's Courting Song.
Blown to much of me time
Buyin' Dinner and Wine
And me money on flowers and lollies
Only to find
That what's on me mind
Isn't on hers and she's sorry
So I've made up some lines
That save wastin' time
And keep me from blowin' me brass
I'm ever so cool
I just prop on me stool
Right next to hers and I ask
Do you fuck on first dates
Does you Dad own a brewery
Could I feel Your tits
Or would you show 'em to me
Cause you've got a nice head
And you look pretty honest
So me face'll be leavin' in quart of an hour
I'd like you to be on it
You know how it feels when you first meet a sheila
And the bullshit you gotta go through
Like callin' her up
An' tellin' her you love her
When all that you'd love is just a screw
But she wants to hold hands
And meet her old man
And sit around for hours and talk
But me new method is, you just cut through the shit
And get down to the goodies straight off
Do you fuck on first dates
Does you Dad own a brewery
Could I feel Your tits
Or would you show 'em to me
Do you sleep in the nick
Do you give head very often
If we can decide you place or mine
We can fuck off then
You know how it feels when you first meet a sheila
An you'd give a weeks pay to hold her
Don't sit actin' dumb
Just front her full on
and drop a few lines that I told ya
This new method of mine
Might not work every time, but then again no method will
I've been spat at and slapped
and kneed in the nackers
But then I've got a few fucks as well
Do you fuck on first dates
Does you Dad own a brewery
Could I feel Your tits
Or would you show 'em to me
If the answer is no
to me questions above
Then be a good sport and give me the name
Of a girlfriend who does |
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"if she holds eye contact and smiles at you a lot, if she carries on talking to you even when there is no need. If she accepts your invitation for a drink.
But I thought ALL women carried on talking when there is no need !!! (joke) "
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I'll tell you a good one - failure to maintain personal space.
If I get closer to you, or let you get closer to me, or do not take care to avoid to odd touch of shoulders as we walk - then I'm yours for the asking!  |
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"I'll tell you a good one - failure to maintain personal space.
If I get closer to you, or let you get closer to me, or do not take care to avoid to odd touch of shoulders as we walk - then I'm yours for the asking! "
yes, think Chris Evans on the One Show sofa with Alex |
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"I tend to lean in closer, keep eye contact smile a lot and generally make my lips look more and more appealing "
I wish more girls did this...in my experience they have all been too shy and im not brad pitt so it takes a bitbof courgae on my oart and a blushed red face to ask a girl out. |
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"I'll tell you a good one - failure to maintain personal space.
If I get closer to you, or let you get closer to me, or do not take care to avoid to odd touch of shoulders as we walk - then I'm yours for the asking! "
So what you're sayi g is test th waters by intruding into her comfort zone so to speak and stand or lean in closer, if she pulls away then shes not interested. ?? Interesting, never thought of that one.
What about if she while I do this, she plays with her hair, this happened once in a bar as it qas loud and she started tostroke her hair. I took Iit as a sign of flirting on her part.
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It's important to spot a negative response, otherwise take responsibility to communicate your interest, until your desired partner reacts more positively or rejects you.
The body language ideas above are great. Proximity, leaning towards you, pointing some aspect of their body to you - except a middle finger, sticky eyes that linger, or just physically lingering near you, matching your posture or tempo.
The micro gestures spotting needs practice and feedback. Which means you've got to be willing to put yourself on the line and explore.
Everyone is possible, unless communicating a no. |
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"It's important to spot a negative response, otherwise take responsibility to communicate your interest, until your desired partner reacts more positively or rejects you.
The body language ideas above are great. Proximity, leaning towards you, pointing some aspect of their body to you - except a middle finger, sticky eyes that linger, or just physically lingering near you, matching your posture or tempo.
The micro gestures spotting needs practice and feedback. Which means you've got to be willing to put yourself on the line and explore.
Everyone is possible, unless communicating a no. "
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"It's important to spot a negative response, otherwise take responsibility to communicate your interest, until your desired partner reacts more positively or rejects you.
The body language ideas above are great. Proximity, leaning towards you, pointing some aspect of their body to you - except a middle finger, sticky eyes that linger, or just physically lingering near you, matching your posture or tempo.
The micro gestures spotting needs practice and feedback. Which means you've got to be willing to put yourself on the line and explore.
Everyone is possible, unless communicating a no. "
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I work in a busy store and always spot hot girls but they're always with their friends and im not THAT gutsy or good looking enough I think to get away with going and asking the girl for her number. I wish it was more socially acceptable these days for the girl to ask a guy out after all, im stood alone and shes with her friends checking me out, odds are in her favour compared.  |
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There are a number of ways to tell a woman mood.
For instance, you can tell from her hands.
If they're gripped tightly around your neck, she's probably pissed off with you.
Similarly, you can tell from her legs. If they're tucked behind her ears, chances are that she really likes you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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You should take a leaf out of a dogs book and go round sniffing crotches until you find one that you like the smell of then hump her leg and slobber on her...After all with a scent like that she was gagging for you
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"Body language speaks a lot to. Leaning towards you, playing with her hair (grooming), eye contact, touching of your arm, or even 'mirroring' copying your body language "
Thanks. Do women realise they play with their hair when aroused? Or isit subconscious? And I mean the hair on their head before anyone says...ha ha  |
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I just assume that they don't. That way, there's no disappointment if she blows you out - and nothing to lose by trying )
You can tell i'm a glass half full kinda guy, right? |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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"Body language speaks a lot to. Leaning towards you, playing with her hair (grooming), eye contact, touching of your arm, or even 'mirroring' copying your body language
Thanks. Do women realise they play with their hair when aroused? Or isit subconscious? And I mean the hair on their head before anyone says...ha ha "
It's usually subconscious, but if you pay attention you should notice |
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"Without the obvious, shes got her handss down your pants kind of obvious...girls, how can I tell if a woman has the hots for me. I always get this one wrong even at 29. Mistaking being nice for fancying me too often.
Im not so atuned to detecting when her lips turn more red, her eyes dilate and her respiration increases as I am told are the physiological things.
In your honest words, how can a guy tell? A question for the young women and more mature"
Girls like nice guys but fancy tossers
The easiest way is to walk down the street together when you come upon street furniture change direction so it's obvious she will walk into it .
Second way hold your hand as if for her to grab it when she does move it away ang do this a few times
Third way never ring or text her more than she rings you .
Never reply to her text immediately
Never answer phone when busy etc
Fourth way lean forward to kiss her put your hand to her face and just rub a bit and say i thought that was a wart
Always point out her faults eg hair scruffy say I don't think I could date someone who is scruffy
Bowling or pool is a good way to get it out in open say I like bowling so I can check out your arse without being a perv pool is check out tits
If she asks what u think snog and say will think about it and say she needs practise
She will hopefully hit you and say don't touch the goods till you have bought
I usually say if they say single what's wrong with you
If you need to practice do it on people that get paid To listen shop workers etc
Biggest mistake talk about her or ur exes
Then when looking at her
Big warning signs
Is she friends with exes
Have a history of bad relationships
Do her kids see her ex
Lots of kids by different dads
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"Body language speaks a lot to. Leaning towards you, playing with her hair (grooming), eye contact, touching of your arm, or even 'mirroring' copying your body language
Thanks. Do women realise they play with their hair when aroused? Or isit subconscious? And I mean the hair on their head before anyone says...ha ha "
No they are preening if a single guy walks into a room they will do it subconsciously
It's a bit like sniffing arses when your a cat . But a bit more Modern |
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"I'll tell you a good one - failure to maintain personal space.
If I get closer to you, or let you get closer to me, or do not take care to avoid to odd touch of shoulders as we walk - then I'm yours for the asking! "
Yup, this. Not always aware I'm doing it either |
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"Without the obvious, shes got her handss down your pants kind of obvious...girls, how can I tell if a woman has the hots for me. I always get this one wrong even at 29. Mistaking being nice for fancying me too often.
Im not so atuned to detecting when her lips turn more red, her eyes dilate and her respiration increases as I am told are the physiological things.
In your honest words, how can a guy tell? A question for the young women and more mature"
I know that this might be totally revolutionary, but have you considered saying to someone 'I really like you, are you interested in me at all?' Then they could say either yes or not, and there would be no doubt about how either of you feel. |
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"Without the obvious, shes got her handss down your pants kind of obvious...girls, how can I tell if a woman has the hots for me. I always get this one wrong even at 29. Mistaking being nice for fancying me too often.
Im not so atuned to detecting when her lips turn more red, her eyes dilate and her respiration increases as I am told are the physiological things.
In your honest words, how can a guy tell? A question for the young women and more mature
I know that this might be totally revolutionary, but have you considered saying to someone 'I really like you, are you interested in me at all?' Then they could say either yes or not, and there would be no doubt about how either of you feel."
unless your a twat like me
the last time somebody shown interest in me in the real world I just lost the plot
he told me he liked me and would I like to go for a drink
I panicked said no and walked away kicking myself
I still to this day have no idea why I said no, I think it's because I was put on the spot |
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"I'll tell you a good one - failure to maintain personal space.
If I get closer to you, or let you get closer to me, or do not take care to avoid to odd touch of shoulders as we walk - then I'm yours for the asking!
Yup, this. Not always aware I'm doing it either "
No me neither, but one day I noticed I brush shoulders with people I like as I walk more, so I realised I was behaving differently. |
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"Without the obvious, shes got her handss down your pants kind of obvious...girls, how can I tell if a woman has the hots for me. I always get this one wrong even at 29. Mistaking being nice for fancying me too often.
Im not so atuned to detecting when her lips turn more red, her eyes dilate and her respiration increases as I am told are the physiological things.
In your honest words, how can a guy tell? A question for the young women and more mature
I know that this might be totally revolutionary, but have you considered saying to someone 'I really like you, are you interested in me at all?' Then they could say either yes or not, and there would be no doubt about how either of you feel.
unless your a twat like me
the last time somebody shown interest in me in the real world I just lost the plot
he told me he liked me and would I like to go for a drink
I panicked said no and walked away kicking myself
I still to this day have no idea why I said no, I think it's because I was put on the spot "
You plank!
(I did the same with a hot electrician who was working on something in my roof years ago. We'd chatted all afternoon and he asked me for a drink and I was like 'no!'. I just figure I didn't deserve him for being a complete dick...) |
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All good advice from everyone. Thanks. I needb to observe more the hair stroking sign, seems this one is a dead giveaway if you can spot it. Obviously combined with the longered stares to support it |
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"All good advice from everyone. Thanks. I needb to observe more the hair stroking sign, seems this one is a dead giveaway if you can spot it. Obviously combined with the longered stares to support it"
no it's not do not believe what the women say . They have this vision of knights on horseback . What a women says she wants is usually the opposite
What one women wants is not the same as the other
your mum told you all women like a sweet guy who is romantic etc etc .
I hav said it before and I have said it again and again women like someone different . You Can guarantee if on dating site that they are having a few blokes on the go
Just for a laugh set up a single lady profile and see the rand crap guys send , you need to
Stand out from the crowd and then the women chase you
Mysterious stranger or creepy weirdo that's the difference between men that get women and virgins
Ever wondered how that arsehole mate of yours gets all the women the one who doesn't call them and laughs at them . Yet you do everything right romantic always there . Do anything for them
Doesn't make Sense does it and that's because women are mental and all the things you think work don't |
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"All good advice from everyone. Thanks. I needb to observe more the hair stroking sign, seems this one is a dead giveaway if you can spot it. Obviously combined with the longered stares to support it"
I touch my head and my hair all the time, but it doesn't mean I'm interested in the man I'm talking to. |
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"Body language speaks a lot to. Leaning towards you, playing with her hair (grooming), eye contact, touching of your arm, or even 'mirroring' copying your body language
Thanks. Do women realise they play with their hair when aroused? Or isit subconscious? And I mean the hair on their head before anyone says...ha ha "
not all women will display interest by playing with their hair nor will it be a sign of arousal..
as said above experience and not being mortified if you misinterpret what you believe to be an obvious sign.. |
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"All good advice from everyone. Thanks. I needb to observe more the hair stroking sign, seems this one is a dead giveaway if you can spot it. Obviously combined with the longered stares to support it
no it's not do not believe what the women say . They have this vision of knights on horseback . What a women says she wants is usually the opposite
What one women wants is not the same as the other
your mum told you all women like a sweet guy who is romantic etc etc .
I hav said it before and I have said it again and again women like someone different . You Can guarantee if on dating site that they are having a few blokes on the go
Just for a laugh set up a single lady profile and see the rand crap guys send , you need to
Stand out from the crowd and then the women chase you
Mysterious stranger or creepy weirdo that's the difference between men that get women and virgins
Ever wondered how that arsehole mate of yours gets all the women the one who doesn't call them and laughs at them . Yet you do everything right romantic always there . Do anything for them
Doesn't make Sense does it and that's because women are mental and all the things you think work don't "
I actually agree. I've found exactly this happening my entire life and is the main frustration with me with women. I am exactly what the women ask for but never go for if that makes sense. Yet its not within me to be rude, ignore and say outloud something derogotrary to them.
Im never sure what to do. Yet I can quite categorically say that the guys I know who have girlfriends, shouldn't. As much as they have every right to, don't get me wrong, it's that they are compete ass holes and do not respect what they take for granted as having a girlfriend.
What would you say? |
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