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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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This is driving me mad. Has anyone out there ever had a time of their life where you really want tondo something fun, go to a party a club see friends a day out buy yourself something and yet find everytime some part of yourself that's your own worst enemy stopping you holding back and making excuses like ah I'd love to but I will be busy etc and the later wishing when it's too late you had done it. It's like the worst enemy is yourself but what the hell causes this and what is it. It's like self denial and a sense of undeserving of self punishment. Crazy  |
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"This is driving me mad. Has anyone out there ever had a time of their life where you really want tondo something fun, go to a party a club see friends a day out buy yourself something and yet find everytime some part of yourself that's your own worst enemy stopping you holding back and making excuses like ah I'd love to but I will be busy etc and the later wishing when it's too late you had done it. It's like the worst enemy is yourself but what the hell causes this and what is it. It's like self denial and a sense of undeserving of self punishment. Crazy "
Could be a form of depression - I would talk to your Doc x |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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Maybe but genrally im really happy and do stuff with my life I don't think I'm depressed I certainly don't exhibit all the symptoms and can relate to some but only sometimes. I'm not the only one I know like this it's just an odd feeling where you fee kind of like an observer of your own life rather than being inside your own life. Sorta hard to describe really  |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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Yes controlling parents and nastyness constantly could be it along with bullying destroying self perception of who you think you are from the core of who you are but how do you change that. And reclusion fits love to socialise but also enjoy my own solice too |
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"Maybe but genrally im really happy and do stuff with my life I don't think I'm depressed I certainly don't exhibit all the symptoms and can relate to some but only sometimes. I'm not the only one I know like this it's just an odd feeling where you fee kind of like an observer of your own life rather than being inside your own life. Sorta hard to describe really "
I know exactly what you mean but depression can manifest as inertia rather than sadness per se. Worth talking through with a professional I think anyway, good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure if I understand the context? A lot of people hold themselves back in certain ways or stay sensible rather than adventurous etc, or do you literally mean avoiding fun by convincing yourself to avoid it for no particular reason? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes you've just got to do less thinking and more doing.
Yup. I might have crippling shyness but when opportunity knocks I'm having it!!"
I can't imagine you coming across shy in person! |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure if I understand the context? A lot of people hold themselves back in certain ways or stay sensible rather than adventurous etc, or do you literally mean avoiding fun by convincing yourself to avoid it for no particular reason?"
I suppose social situations, parties for example thinking if you went you would not really fit in or be in the way. Or say of someone said they liked you your initial reaction would be to feel your about to be part of a gag or something |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Ps flashy. Love the beard. Gives me something to hang on to. Woof!
Hahah lol love Lord flashheart just a fun name to use.
I do tend to over think stuff can't help it  "
We all do sometimes. But listen-unless you're some religious type this is it. One life. May as well enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I behave like that often. For me it's a constant struggle against my natural hermitism! I knowv it's not good for me and I'm missing out on life but I just want to stay at home on my own."
I like shagging hermits  |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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"Ps flashy. Love the beard. Gives me something to hang on to. Woof!
Hahah lol love Lord flashheart just a fun name to use.
I do tend to over think stuff can't help it
We all do sometimes. But listen-unless you're some religious type this is it. One life. May as well enjoy it."
Not religious at all I believe in people being free  |
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"I behave like that often. For me it's a constant struggle against my natural hermitism! I knowv it's not good for me and I'm missing out on life but I just want to stay at home on my own.
I like shagging hermits "
It's tricky though, luring them out of their cave! |
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"I behave like that often. For me it's a constant struggle against my natural hermitism! I knowv it's not good for me and I'm missing out on life but I just want to stay at home on my own.
I like shagging hermits
It's tricky though, luring them out of their cave!"
best not advertise I'm bringing them to the party  |
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"I behave like that often. For me it's a constant struggle against my natural hermitism! I knowv it's not good for me and I'm missing out on life but I just want to stay at home on my own.
I like shagging hermits
It's tricky though, luring them out of their cave!
best not advertise I'm bringing them to the party "
There's a party? I can't go, I won't know what to say to people, I'll sit in a corner on my own all night, i won't enjoy it. I'll stay home with the cats.....just to get back to the topic, that's my reaction to an invite out! |
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No. If I had an issue like this, I would deal with it. Once you're clear what it is that you need and want, you can cut yourself a deal.
Either you'll go for stuff and live, or accept a different course in life, where other things will be important and you can forget about other stuff.
Plenty of ways to change and get over issues and blocks. I'll start a thread when I'm more alert.
And never give yourself a hard time. Life's tough enough without sadism added on. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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That zone called comfort is so named for a reason. Sometimes it's easier to oot out than to take a risk. Sometimes we're on just say no mode because we don't think we deserve the fun. Sometimes there's just no point getting dressed up because you're in a crap mood.
Take a risk every one in a while. The more that pan out the more you're willing to take. |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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"No. If I had an issue like this, I would deal with it. Once you're clear what it is that you need and want, you can cut yourself a deal.
Either you'll go for stuff and live, or accept a different course in life, where other things will be important and you can forget about other stuff.
Plenty of ways to change and get over issues and blocks. I'll start a thread when I'm more alert.
And never give yourself a hard time. Life's tough enough without sadism added on."
good advice from someone who knows the difference it's hard for some of us to see that way and the. When we can still find it hard to do ourselves. I often find I give others the advice I need to take myself weird  |
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By *rSinful OP Man
over a year ago
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Starting to think this is the same for me with other things in life. Once I was frightened to get on stage now I just do it and live the moment. But used to over think over practice.
I have discovered in life what when you do take the plunge fear becomes excitement mostly and you wonder why you waisted time. Best get me me and the Mrs to some clubs soon |
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