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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?
C'mon OP....... own-up....would you go bareback on a stranger?  "
I have done when I was younger. How about you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?
C'mon OP....... own-up....would you go bareback on a stranger?
I have done when I was younger. How about you? "
No I won't bareback.... not with anyone...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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7 billion people in the world whose parents all went bareback, and the human race didn't wipe out overnight.
Shock horror some people bareback, and they're STILL ALIVE!! Surely their genitals will shrink up and fall off?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home."
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though |
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though "
whats the thread about. getting pregnant or contracting STIs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though whats the thread about. getting pregnant or contracting STIs? "
On every bareback thread the bb police will come in whether its std's or getting pregnant lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though whats the thread about. getting pregnant or contracting STIs? "
For a woman, I'd say both. |
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though whats the thread about. getting pregnant or contracting STIs?
For a woman, I'd say both."
And you trust a condom 100%?
My point was all these people flaming unprotected sex are probably all practicing unprotected sex, all the time. |
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?"
When we were younger we did. This is forty years ago mind you when safe sex was considered to be avoiding the edge of a cliff and the word condom was only used in obscure books and they were only for preventing pregnancy. Nearly every woman who indulged in casual sex was on the pill and STIs really weren't discussed much.
That was the reality of life then, of course the reality of life now is very different and we would never consider it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We play bareback, it's written clearly on our profile, if you don't like it, the complaints department is over there -----
'Safe sex' only is fine if that's your choice, but seen some of the most venomous anti bb brigade with pictures of themselves with about 20 peoples cum in their mouths on their profiles and God knows how many bare cocks and pussies in their mouths. Then have the cheek to talk about 'safe' sex lol.
I don't mind peoples choices, you play your way, but don't get on your high horse about it, especially as most of you are lying about 100% condoms anyway, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it. |
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"We play bareback, it's written clearly on our profile, if you don't like it, the complaints department is over there -----
'Safe sex' only is fine if that's your choice, but seen some of the most venomous anti bb brigade with pictures of themselves with about 20 peoples cum in their mouths on their profiles and God knows how many bare cocks and pussies in their mouths. Then have the cheek to talk about 'safe' sex lol.
I don't mind peoples choices, you play your way, but don't get on your high horse about it, especially as most of you are lying about 100% condoms anyway, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though whats the thread about. getting pregnant or contracting STIs?
For a woman, I'd say both.And you trust a condom 100%?
My point was all these people flaming unprotected sex are probably all practicing unprotected sex, all the time."
Lol, no I really don't. I don't 100% trust any contraception, it's why I'm on the Pill too.
I won't preach to people who do go bareback, their choice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With a partner, yes, with a meet, no. Don't BB with my Fwb, as condoms are not a barrier to every sti, and we both meet others. I also get tested every 3-4 months as don't use condoms/dental dams for oral. Risks are far lower for oral, but are still risks so like to get checked out aswell.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a few blokes who did in kenya, they are back in england and could be living near you, spin the barrell cock the hammer your turn to pull the trigger if you dare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nooooo
I've too many friends who are HIV+ after a little risky bareback
Really? I thought HIV was a pretty difficult thing to catch, as opposed to Hep or Chlamydia  "
is this a wind up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nooooo
I've too many friends who are HIV+ after a little risky bareback
Really? I thought HIV was a pretty difficult thing to catch, as opposed to Hep or Chlamydia "
Troll lolol |
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"Nooooo
I've too many friends who are HIV+ after a little risky bareback
Really? I thought HIV was a pretty difficult thing to catch, as opposed to Hep or Chlamydia "
It's way way more difficult to catch than Chlamydia, it likes blood so sex in the presence of STDs and frank ulceration or anal sex with bleeding are much more potent at transmission than simple sex
Saying that it's less contagious than a lot of the others there's millions worth wide with it so it's clearly catchable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Saw a bloke with hiv in a debate on TV once, someone was playing down, furious he said to him "ok take a vile of my blood and inject it into you" it shut everyone up on the spot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not with a random stranger....... With a trusted good friend, who I know the history then a different matter. So there are a few.....but stranger or a first meet. I don't think so thank you!
My current FWB who will be joining site soon.... hadn't had sex with anyone (that was her ex) for 4 years...... So we now have each other's trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone whether in swinging or in the normal world has at some point gone bareback as the result of either d*unkenness or stupidity/ not giving a shit . Obviously in swinging it would be not only foolish to play bareback as your asking for trouble ...end of ! In a committed relationship of course you would expect this to not matter as your only go bareback with your partner .
In plain honesty.....sex without rubbers will always feel a million times better then having sex wearing a rubber ...as there's no barrier so the sensations and feeling are amazing for both .
Final note : if you have ever caught an STI ....you would never ever ever ever question the thought of not bagging up.....you'd even double bag just as a backup. ....lmao
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"Nooooo
I've too many friends who are HIV+ after a little risky bareback
Really? I thought HIV was a pretty difficult thing to catch, as opposed to Hep or Chlamydia
Troll lolol"
Pffft! How am I a troll?!
They all played safe for years, thought 'fuck it, let's risk it this once' and bam.
Each to their own etc but to have so many friends who've had their lives turned upside down because of it, it's a big fat no from me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?"
Why is this even an option!!! I would never in a million years do bareback with a stranger play safe and stay safe x |
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If I had a penny for each time a gay man has said it's ok for me to fuck him bb... Well, I'd certainly have a few pounds...
Really?
Have you *any* idea where I've been? And you still don't care? Ok...
And no you bloody can't!
Ffs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?
Why is this even an option!!! I would never in a million years do bareback with a stranger play safe and stay safe x"
You know how many people do though....?? A lot... Go to a family planning centre after the weekend and see how many people got a bit d*unk and fucked someone without a condom.... Swingers sometimes get carried away too.. And also for some its what they want...
Why would anyone want to see their partner with another person a none swinger could ask... Who would do that... Most of us would say us... Its just horses for courses x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?"
Never again. We did on our first ever meet, because we were idiots and stupid. The worry and concern it caused us for 6 months after was horrible and we just thank our lucky stars that we got away with it that one time.
That was a long time ago and we would never ever do it again. We were young and silly and we regretted it for years after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We play bareback, it's written clearly on our profile, if you don't like it, the complaints department is over there -----
'Safe sex' only is fine if that's your choice, but seen some of the most venomous anti bb brigade with pictures of themselves with about 20 peoples cum in their mouths on their profiles and God knows how many bare cocks and pussies in their mouths. Then have the cheek to talk about 'safe' sex lol.
I don't mind peoples choices, you play your way, but don't get on your high horse about it, especially as most of you are lying about 100% condoms anyway, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it."
here here. Could'nt have put it any better myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nearly everyone says no but virtually everyone sucks cocks and licks pussy til the cows come home.
Last time I checked, sucking cock or licking pussy doesn't tend to lead to a possible pregnancy though "
Pregnancy I could live with.....potential deadly virus...literally couldn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We play bareback, it's written clearly on our profile, if you don't like it, the complaints department is over there -----
'Safe sex' only is fine if that's your choice, but seen some of the most venomous anti bb brigade with pictures of themselves with about 20 peoples cum in their mouths on their profiles and God knows how many bare cocks and pussies in their mouths. Then have the cheek to talk about 'safe' sex lol.
I don't mind peoples choices, you play your way, but don't get on your high horse about it, especially as most of you are lying about 100% condoms anyway, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Courtney if what you say is true you are a very exceptional circumstance.
I (he) have only ever played bareback with exception of a couple of shit fucks when I was about 17 and I've never caught an sti either. So nerr. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Courtney if what you say is true you are a very exceptional circumstance.
I (he) have only ever played bareback with exception of a couple of shit fucks when I was about 17 and I've never caught an sti either. So nerr."
Yes, what I am saying is true. I'm glad you haven't gotten an STI either, but I wouldn't insult you by saying "if what you're saying is true" when you tell me that. I accept it at face value because I don't know you, and all I can do in this situation is believe you know more about you than I do.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you ever go bareback on a stranger?
Piggyback race: yes.
Sex: no. "
what kind of sick individual are you!!! Think of the chafing!! I'm come on!! Play safe!! Wear clothes!!! |
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney"
Well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's amazing how when asked this question everybody says he'll no yet I'd say a good 90% of the guys I have met have tried to slip it up uncovered
Me thinks some people fib |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing how when asked this question everybody says he'll no yet I'd say a good 90% of the guys I have met have tried to slip it up uncovered
Me thinks some people fib "
90%? Really? Wow that seems exceptionally high. |
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It has be be no by default in my view. I would feel uneasy and unprotected otherwise yes its a pain and no its not as great but hell if we are lucky enough then its a small price to pay for peace of mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We play bareback, it's written clearly on our profile, if you don't like it, the complaints department is over there -----
'Safe sex' only is fine if that's your choice, but seen some of the most venomous anti bb brigade with pictures of themselves with about 20 peoples cum in their mouths on their profiles and God knows how many bare cocks and pussies in their mouths. Then have the cheek to talk about 'safe' sex lol.
I don't mind peoples choices, you play your way, but don't get on your high horse about it, especially as most of you are lying about 100% condoms anyway, you know it, I know it, everyone knows it."
Well said |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio "
Do I prefer the feel of bareback? Of course, who doesn't!?
Have I ever done it in anything but a long term relationship? No, never!
Lol all you like, that's fact. And I'm sure it's true of many others too - not everyone will take the same attitude to risk as you, however much they prefer the feeling of bareback. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio
Do I prefer the feel of bareback? Of course, who doesn't!?
Have I ever done it in anything but a long term relationship? No, never!
Lol all you like, that's fact. And I'm sure it's true of many others too - not everyone will take the same attitude to risk as you, however much they prefer the feeling of bareback."
Did I mention anything about me in my post or how I play? You should never make assumptions without first knowing the facts. Just sayin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No never - and then I also get tested because oral sex can transmit too - just don't think a moment of pleasure is worth a lifetime of regret personally |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney
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I don't begrudge you for sticking to your guns on this and you can never be too safe, especially where strangers are concerned but I have to ask, oral sex with a condom, does that not ruin the sensation? Couldn't imagine sucking a condom at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio
Do I prefer the feel of bareback? Of course, who doesn't!?
Have I ever done it in anything but a long term relationship? No, never!
Lol all you like, that's fact. And I'm sure it's true of many others too - not everyone will take the same attitude to risk as you, however much they prefer the feeling of bareback.
Did I mention anything about me in my post or how I play? You should never make assumptions without first knowing the facts. Just sayin "
By implication though you're saying you would. You're suggesting that guys that say no are liars - as you are a man then I assume you would or else you'd be a liar (note: Did I mention in you post that you HAD already? - the two are different! )
I quote: "Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio " - that's the fact I'm working on. Your own words. Just sayin |
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"It's amazing how when asked this question everybody says he'll no yet I'd say a good 90% of the guys I have met have tried to slip it up uncovered
Me thinks some people fib "
People doth protest too much...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney
I don't begrudge you for sticking to your guns on this and you can never be too safe, especially where strangers are concerned but I have to ask, oral sex with a condom, does that not ruin the sensation? Couldn't imagine sucking a condom at all. "
It is ok actually - obviously you lose a bit of sensation but it is not bad. Dental dam for ladies is awful in my opinion having tried it a few times and given up each time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio
Do I prefer the feel of bareback? Of course, who doesn't!?
Have I ever done it in anything but a long term relationship? No, never!
Lol all you like, that's fact. And I'm sure it's true of many others too - not everyone will take the same attitude to risk as you, however much they prefer the feeling of bareback.
Did I mention anything about me in my post or how I play? You should never make assumptions without first knowing the facts. Just sayin
By implication though you're saying you would. You're suggesting that guys that say no are liars - as you are a man then I assume you would or else you'd be a liar (note: Did I mention in you post that you HAD already? - the two are different!)
I quote: "Actually lol'ing at all the guys who say "no definately not". Hmmmm yeah ok then Pinochio " - that's the fact I'm working on. Your own words. Just sayin "
Technically I was referring to men who say "no, definately not" and as neither I nor you stated such a thing then we are exempt from this discussion |
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney
I don't begrudge you for sticking to your guns on this and you can never be too safe, especially where strangers are concerned but I have to ask, oral sex with a condom, does that not ruin the sensation? Couldn't imagine sucking a condom at all.
It is ok actually - obviously you lose a bit of sensation but it is not bad. Dental dam for ladies is awful in my opinion having tried it a few times and given up each time. "
I wasnt referring to being on the receiving end haha. |
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With a stranger? No.
With a long term fb? Probably.
We have one guy we meet quite often, have done now for more than 5 years, I'd consider him for bb but as yet that convo hasn't arisen. He's a very generous lover, understand our needs perfectly and better than anyone we've ever met, he understands what an mfm really means. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really is a matter of choice.There are some who will always safe but play bare but won't admit to it due to the back lash and condemnation from others. At the end of the day it's down to personal choice and anyone who plays bare should have their choice respected and that is that. |
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I've only ever had bareback sex and I've been alright. Think if you're able to do something as intimate as sex then you're able to talk about things beforehand. Logic, common sense and being a good judge of character, mainly logic for example, after my ex of 10 years I've only slept with 3 people in 6 years. 1 of those men was on gear (steroids) regular blood tests, me quizzing them to the hilt and agreeing that we only sleep with each other after we've both been checked and have the all clear texts on our phones, helps that I dated this person for 18 months following that. The other guy professional mma fighter from my kickboxing forum, went to great lengths beforehand to make sure we were both ok, me sorted with contraception etc so he could cum inside me and eat it out of my fanny. Last guy I fucked, been in Afghanistan for 9 months and only home 5 days before I met him in a nightclub. Before they go away they have to have std checks to make sure they are free from nasties, also the anti maleria drugs they have to take kills stds anyway, guy hadn't slept with anyone for a year before me and was him quizzing me on my sexual partners, I had to wait until my period came so I could start taking my pill again before I slept with him and during that time I'd had an all clear test for his peace of mind.
I think if someone's that keen to sleep with me then they will do all necessary requirements before the deed. I hate condoms because I like cum inside me. Part of the reason I don't do one off fucks is because I like to fuck bareback and for that you need to know the person to a degree and establish some trust. |
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A major part of practicing safe-sex is NOT being promiscuous. Therefor being an active swinger means by default that you are NOT practicing safe-sex no matter how much you try and kid yourself that you are, but don't let me spoil the delusion |
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over a year ago
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney
I don't begrudge you for sticking to your guns on this and you can never be too safe, especially where strangers are concerned but I have to ask, oral sex with a condom, does that not ruin the sensation? Couldn't imagine sucking a condom at all. "
No, it doesn't bother me (I use condoms that don't taste bad) and the guys we meet don't have an issue with it (we always tell them before meeting so they can decide). To be fair though, the guys we meet often I will give oral to without a condom as I know they are clean.
I'm surprised this post came back. I thought it died off weeks ago.
-Courtney |
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over a year ago
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"If they had up to date certs verified by passport or driving license number on cert at time of test & written letter yes. "
"At time of test" just like your mot doesn't mean it's still true afterwards.
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over a year ago
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People who insist on bare won't be playing with people who insist on condom, those in between will play bare and keep it quiet.
That's all there is to it, the rest is just hot air. |
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over a year ago
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"People who insist on bare won't be playing with people who insist on condom, those in between will play bare and keep it quiet.
That's all there is to it, the rest is just hot air."
This |
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over a year ago
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"We practice safe sex always. If others want to play without condoms then that is completely their choice. As long as everyone is clear when they play with us that condoms are a must.
I will say, however, that it bothers me when people who play BB accuse those who play safe as getting on their "high horse." Seems to me that a few people on this thread who play BB have fairly high horses as well.
And as for everyone (or almost everyone) having played unsafe at least once, I think people should stick to their own experiences on this. For example, I never had sex, even oral, before I met Marc. With Marc, we only had sex without condoms when we were in a committed relationship, and we ultimately got married. When we play, we only play safe (yes, including oral). Neither of us have ever had an STI. So not everyone has played unsafe at least once...
Like I said, I'm not on a high horse, others can play as they want, but it is irritating reading post after post about how sex isn't as enjoyable if you play safe. The guys we've played with haven't had a problem cumming, even with a condom during oral.
-Courtney
I don't begrudge you for sticking to your guns on this and you can never be too safe, especially where strangers are concerned but I have to ask, oral sex with a condom, does that not ruin the sensation? Couldn't imagine sucking a condom at all.
No, it doesn't bother me (I use condoms that don't taste bad) and the guys we meet don't have an issue with it (we always tell them before meeting so they can decide). To be fair though, the guys we meet often I will give oral to without a condom as I know they are clean.
I'm surprised this post came back. I thought it died off weeks ago.
-Courtney"
May I ask - which condoms do you use..? |
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"A major part of practicing safe-sex is NOT being promiscuous. Therefor being an active swinger means by default that you are NOT practicing safe-sex no matter how much you try and kid yourself that you are, but don't let me spoil the delusion"
Always makes me smile these threads.
Someone took exception at the phrase "high horse" but in reality a group of promiscuous people mount and ride their moral high horses because others in the group take more risks than them.
It's akin to Lewis Hamilton complaining Greg Hancock drives too fast! |
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"A major part of practicing safe-sex is NOT being promiscuous. Therefor being an active swinger means by default that you are NOT practicing safe-sex no matter how much you try and kid yourself that you are, but don't let me spoil the delusion
Always makes me smile these threads.
Someone took exception at the phrase "high horse" but in reality a group of promiscuous people mount and ride their moral high horses because others in the group take more risks than them.
It's akin to Lewis Hamilton complaining Greg Hancock drives too fast! "
Spot on, it happens all the time on this subject. It happens more than people will admit on here so the truth will be somewhere in between. |
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"Someone took exception at the phrase "high horse" but in reality a group of promiscuous people mount and ride their moral high horses because others in the group take more risks than them."
I think it was me who introduced the 'high horse' comment. Most don't of course, but some do send messages lecturing.
We only do bareback. The question 'would you do bareback with a stranger?' The answer is 'no', because we wouldn't do anything with a stranger at all. We meet first and as someone above stated you need to have a good judge of character.
We state it clearly on our profile we do bareback 'only', we don't want condoms anywhere near us. Others on here have 143 verifications from many many meets and they do condoms, great. We don't do those kind of numbers, we could be shagging every day if we wanted and used condoms, but we don't. We play our way, you play yours. If you play our way too, great, but just because you play bareback doesn't mean we'd meet you either lol, we still have our own 'type' etc. |
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"Someone took exception at the phrase "high horse" but in reality a group of promiscuous people mount and ride their moral high horses because others in the group take more risks than them.
I think it was me who introduced the 'high horse' comment. Most don't of course, but some do send messages lecturing.
We only do bareback. The question 'would you do bareback with a stranger?' The answer is 'no', because we wouldn't do anything with a stranger at all. We meet first and as someone above stated you need to have a good judge of character.
We state it clearly on our profile we do bareback 'only', we don't want condoms anywhere near us. Others on here have 143 verifications from many many meets and they do condoms, great. We don't do those kind of numbers, we could be shagging every day if we wanted and used condoms, but we don't. We play our way, you play yours. If you play our way too, great, but just because you play bareback doesn't mean we'd meet you either lol, we still have our own 'type' etc."
And where did I state I played bareback? As a Domme I seldom have penetrative sex. My comment is on the hypocrisy of promiscuous people trying to find some moral high ground. My analogy stands.
You'd laugh at Lewis Hamilton complaining a motorbike champion was taking risks riding fast but it was okay for him in his flimsy car! |
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over a year ago
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"some people like it
some people dont
some people are horiffied
some people arent
The End
Your most welcome
There's a song there, somewhere ...... "
what can I say you lot have that effect on me *must find ukulele* |
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over a year ago
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"Some will some won't but it's not really a debating point as it never convinces anyone.
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Not true actually. Commented on a similar thread a while back and a couple PM'd us asking for our advice and experience, because they'd had some crappy meets partly down to condoms, such as losing erection putting it on, dulled effect etc. They decided to bin condoms for less meets but better quality meets. |
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over a year ago
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"No chance.. I don't want my cock in a infected pussy
Infected pussy is fine with a condom on then?  "
Apparently so, that's the mentality of safe sex in the swinging world, if it's wrapped it can go anywhere. |
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over a year ago
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I've yet to meet anyone who hasn't at least once got carried away.
It's the nature of sex
We use precautions and regular check ups and accept that having sex with multiple partners is a risk... I also wouldn't ever give a bj with a condom on... And we do meet a lot.. ( although we have had a quiet year for us )
Some people like and will do bareback. It's the ones that try to sneak it in bare that annoy us.
Oh and someone elswe said90% of guys try to go bare... I'd say that's about right... But we find nearly as many couples try... And the women are worse.. pulling Mr in with their legs. |
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"No chance.. I don't want my cock in a infected pussy
Infected pussy is fine with a condom on then?
Apparently so, that's the mentality of safe sex in the swinging world, if it's wrapped it can go anywhere."
That is not fair. It is not the "mentality of safe sex in the swinging world" that condoms make everything safe. Just as it isn't fair to say that people who play BB are riddled with STIs. This conversation can be had without over-generalizations on both sides.
People who use condoms do so to mitigate their chances of catching and spreading STIs. Based on this thread, it seems that people who play BB have their own methods of mitigating those chances (getting tested right before a meet, only playing with people you know well, etc....).
As others have said, people are going to play the way they are comfortable playing.
-Courtney |
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"No chance.. I don't want my cock in a infected pussy
Infected pussy is fine with a condom on then?
Apparently so, that's the mentality of safe sex in the swinging world, if it's wrapped it can go anywhere.
That is not fair. It is not the "mentality of safe sex in the swinging world" that condoms make everything safe. Just as it isn't fair to say that people who play BB are riddled with STIs. This conversation can be had without over-generalizations on both sides.
People who use condoms do so to mitigate their chances of catching and spreading STIs. Based on this thread, it seems that people who play BB have their own methods of mitigating those chances (getting tested right before a meet, only playing with people you know well, etc....).
As others have said, people are going to play the way they are comfortable playing.
-Courtney"
It was a flippant comment based on a number of replies that constantly crop up on this subject, the one above being a prime example. Given the number of sexual partners people who swing will have, most seem to think because condoms are used that they're immune to STI's which is simply not true. Good judgement on sexual partners is as important as the actual act of wrapping in our opinion.
Everyone will take the level of 'risk' they feel comfortable with, we would never use condoms for oral as we deem the risks low enough to enjoy without, though respect your opinion for using them as you seem the risk involved high enough to warrant them.
Everyone is different and like I've said earlier, the truth between what actually happened will fall somewhere between what is actually posted.
Condoms are not a 100% safe barrier in sex, the only true safe sex is monogamy between two or more partners that are tested clean, the act of non monogamy opens you up the all sorts of risks condoms or not. |
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over a year ago
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We think in our humble opinion if couples or single fems or single guys enjoy bareback that is their choice and there will be site members who enjoy the same and will meet them. Those that don't want to play bare can choose not to meet them,simple really.It's about a choice we all have. |
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"We think in our humble opinion if couples or single fems or single guys enjoy bareback that is their choice and there will be site members who enjoy the same and will meet them. Those that don't want to play bare can choose not to meet them,simple really.It's about a choice we all have."
Exactly, there are certainly two sides to the camp and the subject when posted will bring our both sides to debate the pros and cons. We concentrate on our own meets and enjoy what we have, we simply don't care what other people get up to behind closed doors as they are not our concern. |
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"No chance.. I don't want my cock in a infected pussy
Infected pussy is fine with a condom on then?
Apparently so, that's the mentality of safe sex in the swinging world, if it's wrapped it can go anywhere.
That is not fair. It is not the "mentality of safe sex in the swinging world" that condoms make everything safe. Just as it isn't fair to say that people who play BB are riddled with STIs. This conversation can be had without over-generalizations on both sides.
People who use condoms do so to mitigate their chances of catching and spreading STIs. Based on this thread, it seems that people who play BB have their own methods of mitigating those chances (getting tested right before a meet, only playing with people you know well, etc....).
As others have said, people are going to play the way they are comfortable playing.
-Courtney
It was a flippant comment based on a number of replies that constantly crop up on this subject, the one above being a prime example. Given the number of sexual partners people who swing will have, most seem to think because condoms are used that they're immune to STI's which is simply not true. Good judgement on sexual partners is as important as the actual act of wrapping in our opinion.
Everyone will take the level of 'risk' they feel comfortable with, we would never use condoms for oral as we deem the risks low enough to enjoy without, though respect your opinion for using them as you seem the risk involved high enough to warrant them.
Everyone is different and like I've said earlier, the truth between what actually happened will fall somewhere between what is actually posted.
Condoms are not a 100% safe barrier in sex, the only true safe sex is monogamy between two or more partners that are tested clean, the act of non monogamy opens you up the all sorts of risks condoms or not."
I honestly don't understand the sentence where you say "monogamy between two or more partners who are tested clean." That is not monogamy... 
But, my real issue comes from your insinuation that people who use condoms have "slipped up" at least once. That what I am saying on the forum is not true, but that the truth will be "somewhere in between" what is actually posted. I don't question the veracity of people who play BB when they say they get tested regularly and are clean. I don't question the veracity of people who play BB when they say they are very careful about who they play with. I would appreciate it if people don't question my veracity, and the veracity of others who have posted, when we say we always use condoms for penetrative sex.
And I agree that your choice of sexual partners is very important. But it is also true that condoms, though not 100% effective, still mitigate someone's chances. I'm not saying everyone has to use them, but it isn't a pointless exercise.
Again, everyone can play as they want and with who they want.
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"No chance.. I don't want my cock in a infected pussy
Infected pussy is fine with a condom on then?
Apparently so, that's the mentality of safe sex in the swinging world, if it's wrapped it can go anywhere.
That is not fair. It is not the "mentality of safe sex in the swinging world" that condoms make everything safe. Just as it isn't fair to say that people who play BB are riddled with STIs. This conversation can be had without over-generalizations on both sides.
People who use condoms do so to mitigate their chances of catching and spreading STIs. Based on this thread, it seems that people who play BB have their own methods of mitigating those chances (getting tested right before a meet, only playing with people you know well, etc....).
As others have said, people are going to play the way they are comfortable playing.
-Courtney
It was a flippant comment based on a number of replies that constantly crop up on this subject, the one above being a prime example. Given the number of sexual partners people who swing will have, most seem to think because condoms are used that they're immune to STI's which is simply not true. Good judgement on sexual partners is as important as the actual act of wrapping in our opinion.
Everyone will take the level of 'risk' they feel comfortable with, we would never use condoms for oral as we deem the risks low enough to enjoy without, though respect your opinion for using them as you seem the risk involved high enough to warrant them.
Everyone is different and like I've said earlier, the truth between what actually happened will fall somewhere between what is actually posted.
Condoms are not a 100% safe barrier in sex, the only true safe sex is monogamy between two or more partners that are tested clean, the act of non monogamy opens you up the all sorts of risks condoms or not.
I honestly don't understand the sentence where you say "monogamy between two or more partners who are tested clean." That is not monogamy...
But, my real issue comes from your insinuation that people who use condoms have "slipped up" at least once. That what I am saying on the forum is not true, but that the truth will be "somewhere in between" what is actually posted. I don't question the veracity of people who play BB when they say they get tested regularly and are clean. I don't question the veracity of people who play BB when they say they are very careful about who they play with. I would appreciate it if people don't question my veracity, and the veracity of others who have posted, when we say we always use condoms for penetrative sex.
And I agree that your choice of sexual partners is very important. But it is also true that condoms, though not 100% effective, still mitigate someone's chances. I'm not saying everyone has to use them, but it isn't a pointless exercise.
Again, everyone can play as they want and with who they want.
-Courtney"
Two or more people can be monogamous, poly couples would agree with that, monogamy isn't exclusive to couples.
I think you've taken my comments personally when in fact my comment was aimed at a particular reply and replies of a similar nature on these threads when they crop up.
I'll duck out as I don't frequent these forums for arguments and as stated I couldn't care less what people do behind closed doors as it's their business.
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Given the number of sexual partners people who swing will have, most seem to think because condoms are used that they're immune to STI's which is simply not true.
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It's irrelevant whether people bareback or not. The issue is whether or not, and how often, they get tested.
And even then it's not "oooh I have a negative test today so I'm safe yayyy". |
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Nobody who has sex, whether or not they swing, is immune to STIs
It only takes one occasion.
Given the number of people who admit they cheat on here, an awful lot of non-swingers are far more exposed to the risk of STIs than they realise. They probably think they have safe(r) sex. |
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