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"where are friends when you need them, you hit a bump need advice or help and are they bothered no"
Have you asked them for help and advise? Maybe they are busy with their own lives?
I'm sure if you ask for advice on the forums you will receive plenty, there's always a friendly poster about. |
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"Friends on fab, aren't real friends "
When your angry a friend will calm you down,
A real friend however will skip along side you with a bat singing "someone's gonna get it!" |
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"Friends on fab, aren't real friends
When your angry a friend will calm you down,
A real friend however will skip along side you with a bat singing "someone's gonna get it!""
A friend will help you move.
A good friend will help you move the body.........  |
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"where are friends when you need them, you hit a bump need advice or help and are they bothered no"
1) Are they friends in real life i.e. people you've known for a while and know you can rely on?
2) Are they FAB 'friends' that you've never met or spent a moments of time with ?
3) How do you know they are not bothered ?
4) Is this thread tongue in cheek ? |
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"where are friends when you need them, you hit a bump need advice or help and are they bothered no
(At the risk of sounding like the Ki-ora crows...)
We'll be your friend 
(Woof)
Mr ddc"
A dawg is for life not just for an advert.
Um Bongo beats Kia Ora by a Sunkist ! |
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They are friends in real life and I have asked them and no response. Yes it's man trouble, but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged |
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"They are friends in real life and I have asked them and no response. Yes it's man trouble, but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged"
Oh ok.
Just venting your frustration then? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"They are friends in real life and I have asked them and no response. Yes it's man trouble, but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged"
you may need to consider ending the friendship with them if they haven't been there for you. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"They are friends in real life and I have asked them and no response. Yes it's man trouble, but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged"
may they thought that you wouldn't listen, that it was your own fault and just let you get on with it.... sometimes that is the best thing to do
good luck |
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"They are friends in real life and I have asked them and no response. Yes it's man trouble, but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged"
Say what's happened. You'll get the best advice from faceless strangers because they will give you honest unbiased advice without sugar coating anything. |
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Yeah I do know who my friends are. Even if I thought it was their fault the mess they were in I would still support them and help them no matter what. They are my friend, if what had got them into this mess made them happy I would help them sort it out especially if they needed support to make decisions |
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You can have hundreds of good friends who listen and offer advice, but in the end, it's down to you to make the choices and face of up the consequences of those choices. We all have shit times OP, it's how we handle them that makes the difference. Good luck. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah I do know who my friends are. Even if I thought it was their fault the mess they were in I would still support them and help them no matter what. They are my friend, if what had got them into this mess made them happy I would help them sort it out especially if they needed support to make decisions"
just tell us the situation, you will get the advice and you will be in a better situation than you are currently, at least you will know what others think...
unless you know already, then I would suggest working to the solution as a priority rather than evaluate your friendships... |
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"where are friends when you need them, you hit a bump need advice or help and are they bothered no"
'Sup?
Either tell us so we can help or suck it up cupcake |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I do know who my friends are. Even if I thought it was their fault the mess they were in I would still support them and help them no matter what. They are my friend, if what had got them into this mess made them happy I would help them sort it out especially if they needed support to make decisions"
is there any specific support you want/need at the minute?
Is it just a sympathetic ear and a cuppa you need or is it someone to help you move out of a hasty decision to move in together and need a sofa to crash on for a few nights while you sort things out? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"No the man and friends are not the same. I'm not here to be judged and made to feel like crap because I started seeing my ex and now believe his new gf has just found out. "
well surely you knew what the outcome would be if the other person found out.. |
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"No the man and friends are not the same. I'm not here to be judged and made to feel like crap because I started seeing my ex and now believe his new gf has just found out. "
Ouchy!
Thats always gonna be messy.
Do you wanna keep him?
If so tell him, if not leave well alone x |
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on"
Does he want to keep you ?
I think that's an important consideration before you act. |
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Not sure what you want your friends to do in this situation? And it's possible that if they were against you having an affair with your ex they could feel that they are better off out of it,
As for your ex girlfriend finding out that he's cheating on her, surely you both knew that this was a possibility when you started the affair? So are you upset for yourself or her that she has found out? |
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By *iewMan
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on"
You are reaping what you sowed, you didn't plan on her finding out but intended to play behind her back.
I am sorry but I am not surprised that your friends are sitting quiet.
I hope you both get together and his GF moves on with her life and is happy... |
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on
Does he want to keep you ?
I think that's an important consideration before you act. "
I ask this cos the fact that you both deceived her and that you both worry she has found out indicates that SHE is his partner and you are the fun on the side. Fun over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Drama
Quite simply when you play with fire you get burnt
What advice apart from don't get involved with someone else's relationship do you need?
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"No the man and friends are not the same. I'm not here to be judged and made to feel like crap because I started seeing my ex and now believe his new gf has just found out. "
People on here have done a lot worse than that. When I split up with my ex of 10 years and he got a new girlfriend I still loved him and had feelings for him and if the opportunity to reconcile or sleep with him again was there, I would have done it despite him having a new girlfriend because we had history and I believed he was still mine.
With your situation you are not responsible for the new gf's feelings, that's your ex's responsibility. If you two have history and there's feelings involved on your part I understand how things like this can happen.
So what's making you feel bad? Did you want to reconcile with your ex but he doesn't want to? Do you still love him and have feelings or what? |
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Sea witch I would msg u but can't as no pic, we were talking about reconciling, but he had a month to decide. Yes we have history and complicated one at that, I just want to know where I stand without walking away |
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"Sea witch I would msg u but can't as no pic, we were talking about reconciling, but he had a month to decide. Yes we have history and complicated one at that, I just want to know where I stand without walking away"
You'll know where you stand by his actions. If he wants to continue anything he'll get in touch with you. |
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"..... but posting about it in here will get me no where as I will be told it's your own fault and all that, and I don't need be judged"
While it is true this does happen, there are usually helpful posts in amongst them too. You just need to be able to mentally skip the unhelpful ones and concentrate on the others.
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"Friends on fab, aren't real friends
When your angry a friend will calm you down,
A real friend however will skip along side you with a bat singing "someone's gonna get it!""
Love it |
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If she has found out and he hasnt contacted you then it sounds like he has decided to stay with her!
Best thing to do is move on with your life, the guy isnt that great if he is already cheating on a new gf |
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"If she has found out and he hasnt contacted you then it sounds like he has decided to stay with her!
Best thing to do is move on with your life, the guy isnt that great if he is already cheating on a new gf "
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on"
What does this have to do with the OP? |
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By *iewMan
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on
What does this have to do with the OP? "
I think because she is wanting to know what is happening as he hadn't been in touch, she hadn't heard through friends as well.
I think |
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"Of course I want to keep him. We didn't plan on her finding out, my problem is how I contact him now to find out what's going on
What does this have to do with the OP?
I think because she is wanting to know what is happening as he hadn't been in touch, she hadn't heard through friends as well.
I think"
Thanks. Probably keeping out of the fallout.  |
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