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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?"
Yes but it sounds like it was written by an ex nun in the fifties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had an ex who wouldn't allow herself to. I know the reason why but not something I'd share. However she is still the best fuck I've ever had and was absolutely filthy.
So yes it is in the mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet you get sick of messages saying 'you haven't tried me' or 'I could make you' ?
I hope one day you experience one x
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If that is aimed at me, I tell few and yes you are right, some guys are so arrogant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've never orgasmed??? 
Nope but I am not alone either as quite a few on here haven't, no big deal, can't miss what you haven't had"
I'm in that club too..doesn't mean I can't have an amazing time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The op is quite correct .
While it is possible to cum without letting go for a guy from sheer physical stimulation , it's a bloody sight easier and more satisfying to let go .
Way too many guys seem to think it's the wrong thing to do , and deliberately hold back . Thereby prolonging the play , but resisting the orgasm . This may be good if the lady wants a long session , but it crap if she doesn't .
So depending on the type of play , the ability to let go and experience the ultimate orgasm , or to hold back and maybe not cum at at all is entirely your choice . We know which we prefer  |
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?"
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person?"
A woman / bloke has never brought you off??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm. "
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But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person?"
Nor me |
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person?
Nor me"
Really?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm.
Use the quote button to comment on a post that way we know who you are responding to.
But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone "
I don't have orgasms with meets either. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've never orgasmed ever or a man has never made you orgasm? A man has never made me orgasm! But I can make myself orgasm.
Use the quote button to comment on a post that way we know who you are responding to.
But if it was me and the other lady? No I haven't, I once came very close to cumming with my ex but stopped it as didn't want him to be my first. On my own however, I have some really good ones more so when I am home alone
I don't have orgasms with meets either. x"
I don't have orgasms 9nor cum) full stop be it a meet or boyfriend |
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person?
Nor me
Really?
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Nobody has made me cum in the last 20 years. Weather its coz the sex has not been as good as with previous ladies or for some other reason I'm unsure, but I've had to finish myself off which is a bit frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have only ever cum from oral once and until yesterday through penetration once and yes its definitely down to mindset
Yesterday I was with my Fb and I just feel so at ease with him and he got me into a really nice position and wow its soooo different from a clitoral orgasm but was amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.
Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Not really...
Never been made to cum by another person?"
Being 'made to cum by another person' wouldn't negate what the OP's post said. It's still just as much in the mind of the person concerned. |
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?"
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.
Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing. "
Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation 
On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.
Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.
Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation
On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"
I'm naturally more of a giver which is probably why I don't cum on meets.
And to answer your question - yes, absolutely. I'd rather do that to someone than cum myself. |
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I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.
If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying! |
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I agree with the quote. I only cum with a very small number of men, most I don't with though. It's mix of reasons but I won't or can't let go is a key one, can also be they don't give me enough time before moving onto their own pleasure or don't have the skills to know what buttons to press. Sometimes I'm just in the mood to fuck so it's fine and if not enough time I find another one...and sometimes another two...  |
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"I've just been laying in bed reading about orgasms (as you do)
I found this passage and I think it's ace...
"The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressured to orgasm, guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have an orgasm in order to have one."
Do you agree?
Yes but it sounds like it was written by an ex nun in the fifties."
Surely it wasn't your work Gran? |
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"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.
Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.
Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation
On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"
Yes..
just say the gold credit card is all yours my sweet as you walk into Gucci, Prada etc..
was very pleasantly surprised as a young man when a partner had a small orgasm from nipple play alone..
i said if its that exciting you can stroke my cock too..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.
If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying!"
I can so relate to this..
Sometimes I get so close but something happens in my brain and the feeling goes away instantly. I have to really really concentrate to then get back to that point.
Once I get to the point of no return, when I know I won't lose it, I'm soooo relieved and can fully let go into orgasmic bliss. I'm gone then, utterly spent, and will need a few minutes before I can function again! Or go for another  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I very rarely cum on meets, but just accept that's the way it is.
Sex for me is all in the mind. To be able to make someone cum without any physical stimulation is mind blowing.
Hardly surprising you don't cum on meets if there's no physical stimulation
On a more serious note , is it actually possible to cum with absolutely no physical contact ?"
Apparently in dom/sub relationships, the sub learns to be able to cum when her Master says |
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"I find it very difficult to push myself over the edge with someone, I get so close but my brain stops it happening! I think there are 5 or 6 people in the "Made Rhia Cum" club.
If someone else uses something vibrating then it will happen, but it's just not as satisfying!
I can so relate to this..
Sometimes I get so close but something happens in my brain and the feeling goes away instantly. I have to really really concentrate to then get back to that point.
Once I get to the point of no return, when I know I won't lose it, I'm soooo relieved and can fully let go into orgasmic bliss. I'm gone then, utterly spent, and will need a few minutes before I can function again! Or go for another "
Yup I have to just concentrate on the warm feeling building inside me and I have to use my brain to imagine physically radiating it out and through my body! Sounds daft but that's how it feels!
I think the fact mine are so difficult to achieve means they are more intense, silver lining and all that  |
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