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How small is the swinging world?
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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago
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Anyone else noticed? Not because there are so few involved, but how close knit everone is.
I can guarantee that if I am checking out somone else's profile, that on checking their verifications list we will know, or have played with someone on it. Either that or click one of those verifications and there will be someone on that list.
Small world indeed! Maybe its just a Yorkshire thing? anyone else noticed it?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are certainly little groups within groups or cliques in the swinging world.
We travel around the country and our friends and verifications are wide and varied.
We go to parties and clubs, where we meet most of our new and old friends.
Some people like to build a select group of playmates and once they have them, they rarely venture outside their comfort zone.
We are pretty much a go with the flow type of couple  |
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How small is the swinging world?
Its massive just look on here and some of the other well known pay sites and see how many members there are, and what about all the people who swing without joining sites.
Its a small world as even though we have moved to spain we still meet people who live very close too close and who know people we know. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone else noticed? Not because there are so few involved, but how close knit everone is.
I can guarantee that if I am checking out somone else's profile, that on checking their verifications list we will know, or have played with someone on it. Either that or click one of those verifications and there will be someone on that list.
Small world indeed! Maybe its just a Yorkshire thing? anyone else noticed it?
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what happened on other sites is that it became a lot more regionalised than it use to be....
I remember when people use to travel all across the country for socials and events and that doesn't happen nearly are much... those people are becoming more and more rare.....
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"Anyone else noticed? Not because there are so few involved, but how close knit everone is.
I can guarantee that if I am checking out somone else's profile, that on checking their verifications list we will know, or have played with someone on it. Either that or click one of those verifications and there will be someone on that list.
Small world indeed! Maybe its just a Yorkshire thing? anyone else noticed it?
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This is exactly why I don't use verifications and I don't display my friends. I have no need to know who's shagging who. I like discretion.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its quite scary when you come across someone you know. But as we'r all adults we hope that in the near normal world. They like us would respect their/our private lifes.
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"I have looked at verifications in the past and avoided meeting because of them, a small world it is at times."
I'd rather make up my own mind about someone than take someone else's word for them being genuine or not.  |
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"Its quite scary when you come across someone you know. But as we'r all adults we hope that in the near normal world. They like us would respect their/our private lifes.
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happened to me, ran into a mum from my son's school at a club...we are good friends now though so it worked out ok...lol was quite the shock on the night though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know lots who hide there feed back as fine people go after the ones thay have meet ....its a bit like getting one over on someone thay feel meeting them not knowing. . Some meet loads and thay think thay are the only ones if just show 1or 2 ....you get all sorts in the swinging world.Its up to them at the end of the day. jo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have looked at verifications in the past and avoided meeting because of them, a small world it is at times.
I'd rather make up my own mind about someone than take someone else's word for them being genuine or not. "
Its not a matter of making your mind up about someone because of what someone else says. I would rather not meet someone because of who they previously met, nothing at all to do with being genuine or not. |
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"I have looked at verifications in the past and avoided meeting because of them, a small world it is at times.
I'd rather make up my own mind about someone than take someone else's word for them being genuine or not.
Its not a matter of making your mind up about someone because of what someone else says. I would rather not meet someone because of who they previously met, nothing at all to do with being genuine or not. "
Well we all have different ways of swinging, no need to roll your eyes at me.
I don't give a monkies who meets who. All I'm interested in is who I've met. I don't need to know what people have done in the past. I just need to know that they know what discretion means because that's important to me. Swinging is after all supposed to be NSA... we all know it's not though. |
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"I have looked at verifications in the past and avoided meeting because of them, a small world it is at times.
I'd rather make up my own mind about someone than take someone else's word for them being genuine or not.
Its not a matter of making your mind up about someone because of what someone else says. I would rather not meet someone because of who they previously met, nothing at all to do with being genuine or not.
Well we all have different ways of swinging, no need to roll your eyes at me.
I don't give a monkies who meets who. All I'm interested in is who I've met. I don't need to know what people have done in the past. I just need to know that they know what discretion means because that's important to me. Swinging is after all supposed to be NSA... we all know it's not though. "
You would care who meets who if the potential playmate had met someone who indulges in unprotected sex. |
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"You would care who meets who if the potential playmate had met someone who indulges in unprotected sex. "
Aha... interesting, but that's not so much about who's slept with who... that's about the kind of sex they have which is slightly different.
People trip themselves up with that all the time in their photos so I dare say that's a form of verification too. Perhaps I do use it and haven't really thought of it that way. 
But when it comes to having safe sex, ultimately I have to look after myself. How will you ever be sure? You can't.
I wouldn't choose to play with people who have unprotected sex as a matter of course but if there are no verifications to say that they have safe sex, would you not play with someone? |
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"You would care who meets who if the potential playmate had met someone who indulges in unprotected sex.
Aha... interesting, but that's not so much about who's slept with who... that's about the kind of sex they have which is slightly different.
People trip themselves up with that all the time in their photos so I dare say that's a form of verification too. Perhaps I do use it and haven't really thought of it that way.
But when it comes to having safe sex, ultimately I have to look after myself. How will you ever be sure? You can't.
I wouldn't choose to play with people who have unprotected sex as a matter of course but if there are no verifications to say that they have safe sex, would you not play with someone?"
You can't prove someone is 100% safe to play with but if you know the history or some of it about someone giving a verification it can be a red warning flag to avoid them. Well it has been on a couple of occasions for me anyway. |
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