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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Define a time waster.

For us it's simply someone you've arranged to meet and they didn't turn up.

Labelling someone who wants to chat a bit before meeting isn't one.

And if you're finding endless chats then you're wasting your own time. You don't have to respond

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Define a time waster.

For us it's simply someone you've arranged to meet and they didn't turn up.

Labelling someone who wants to chat a bit before meeting isn't one.

And if you're finding endless chats then you're wasting your own time. You don't have to respond"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Define a time waster.

For us it's simply someone you've arranged to meet and they didn't turn up.

It is only this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would I want to meet someone who I hadn't spent the time chatting to first?

Your expectations about this site are unrealistic. Try an Escort site instead. At least then you will get some action and leave us who want to chat and arrange meets to do just that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was once blocked by a single woman who accused me of being a married time waster based purely on the fact there were patterned curtains and a soft toy in the background of one of my pics. She reckoned she could smell a time waster a mile off. Never got the chance to tell her the pic wasn't taken in my room, it was from a meet lol

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman over a year ago

gosport ish

"Define a time waster.

For us it's simply someone you've arranged to meet and they didn't turn up.

Labelling someone who wants to chat a bit before meeting isn't one.

And if you're finding endless chats then you're wasting your own time. You don't have to respond

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was once blocked by a single woman who accused me of being a married time waster based purely on the fact there were patterned curtains and a soft toy in the background of one of my pics. She reckoned she could smell a time waster a mile off. Never got the chance to tell her the pic wasn't taken in my room, it was from a meet lol

Maybe the real reason was she thought you had terrible taste!!

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

A simple rule of thumb: If it looks too good to be true, it probably is.

(myself excepted, of course :D )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was blocked for not replying the same day, said I was rude and she wouldn't chat up a guy again! Lucky escape I think

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I talk to people on here a lot. On a meet, I don't talk much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some people state on their profile they are just here for a nosey and a chat...they aren't time wasters

surely time wasters are ones who don't turn up for dates, or lead you along then suddenly disappear from the site or block you?

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By *iggy1Woman over a year ago

DORCHESTER

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?"

It's his age

I'm sure he did it twice

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?"

Yeah, the Elvis vs JXL version kicks ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unless my eyes are mistaking me... this is a thred by a bloke complaining about getting too many messages

Wow that's gotta be a first

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

So no single guys have children now?

Oddness...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I was blocked for not replying the same day, said I was rude and she wouldn't chat up a guy again! Lucky escape I think

Meh, Fuck 'er.

Next!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maaaaaaaaaaaan! How many fuckin times a week is this topic gonna raise its head??? Dear god!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A timewaster to me is a meet who doesn't turn up without a viable explanation

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By *my-blackTV/TS over a year ago

Poole

Its a bugger sometimes with timewasters. you can spot them in conversation a lot of the time but there have been a few surprises. guys you can chat to for a while and you really do think they are going to turn up then they dont.

They just dont know how much kinky fun they are missing out on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maaaaaaaaaaaan! How many fuckin times a week is this topic gonna raise its head??? Dear god!!! "

At least once more, You don't have to read them

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By *abloversCouple over a year ago

London

There are various timewasters.. those who don't turn up.. those who endlessly chat with every excuse as to why they won't send their number or face pic and those who just fo one liners expecting a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say my time had been wasted by someone who gave the impression they wanted to meet then ignored me. Or said they can accommodate when actually they live with someone and will the car do. Leading people to believe you're interested but not having any intentions of meeting is wasting someone's time. However,someone who isn't prepared to talk to see if there's an attraction may think I'm a timewaster when I don't set a date to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

Thanks for proving my answer correct on another thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My advice is work the chat for a reasonable time. Then work the convo towards a meet. One lass I've been talking to for 5 months now and still not met. Another we met after 2 weeks. Others are just chat buddies and will probs never meet. You can't really put a time on it. If you feel the chat has gone on long enough and you don't envisage a meet make a decision. Keep them as friends and just Chat or stop talking to them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

We all define TWs differently. To me, anyone who's dishonest is wasting my time. I'm a TW of my own time, if my gut instinct says that something is up and I ignore it or it's patently clear we're after different things.

Take responsibility and learn from each experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just don't reply to profiles that aren't verified

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?

Yeah, the Elvis vs JXL version kicks ass

Yep no sign of fat boy slim! Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's some people on here who I've spoken to for nearly a year before meeting.

We get on and chat but time and distance are usually an issue so getting a meet set up can be hard.

Then there's people I've spoken to for 5 minutes and we've been jumping into bed together because the situation has been right.

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

"
But not everyone is on the site for meets . Some members make excellent contributions to the forums and don't necessary meet people . In any event , how would we know if a member ever had any meets ?. Why would other members need to know about your meets ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

Lmao what a joke. I had someone call me this because I hadn't had a meet yet. They couldn't be more wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm sorry, think people mis understood me...

I'm saying that, I chat to a fair few ladies and it goes really well... Arrange a meet for a couple days time.... Then on the day of the meet I'll message them and get no reply.... Just confusing...

Please don't be put off by the veri thing... I set up the account and got into a relationship soon after hence not using the site... And now I'm back... I also refuse to just sleep with any one ( attraction or no attraction ) so I'll be unverified for aslong as it takes..

The right woman will understand this

Apologies if it was Elvis and not fat boy slim

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By *parklesglitzWoman over a year ago

Mancs

Occasionally it happens

Men do it as well

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Apologies if it was Elvis and not fat boy slim

Uh huh, Ithankyouverymuch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My advice is work the chat for a reasonable time. Then work the convo towards a meet. One lass I've been talking to for 5 months now and still not met. Another we met after 2 weeks. Others are just chat buddies and will probs never meet. You can't really put a time on it. If you feel the chat has gone on long enough and you don't envisage a meet make a decision. Keep them as friends and just Chat or stop talking to them.

I agree moshermick - nice attitud m x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry, think people mis understood me...

I'm saying that, I chat to a fair few ladies and it goes really well... Arrange a meet for a couple days time.... Then on the day of the meet I'll message them and get no reply.... Just confusing...

The right woman will understand this

Apologies if it was Elvis and not fat boy slim

Do you chat on the phone to them too? I always find that helps to establish if we would hopefully get on. Plus do you arrange socials first , so there is less pressure all round.

Maybe try a local larger arranged social too ? Would get to meet a variety of people then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm sorry, think people mis understood me...

I'm saying that, I chat to a fair few ladies and it goes really well... Arrange a meet for a couple days time.... Then on the day of the meet I'll message them and get no reply.... Just confusing...

The right woman will understand this

Apologies if it was Elvis and not fat boy slim

Do you chat on the phone to them too? I always find that helps to establish if we would hopefully get on. Plus do you arrange socials first , so there is less pressure all round.

Maybe try a local larger arranged social too ? Would get to meet a variety of people then. "

No haven't spoken on the phone yet... I quite happily would ...

Yes, I'm not one to go flying in with a " your fit fancy a fuck message... Always polite and always want a social first..

Good things come to those who wait right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very few people meet on here. Many cpls and fems meet people they have already met, or meet black guys with enormous cocks, but for most part cpls and fems meet in clubs or through the same cliquey circle of fuck buddies they already have.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have endless conversations on here because i like to,doesn't make me a timewaster though.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

If you are after a quick fuck then most of us on here can be classed as time wasters to some, there are probably more people on here who understand the dynamics of conversations and raport and that it's important to some of us to establish those things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry, think people mis understood me...

I'm saying that, I chat to a fair few ladies and it goes really well... Arrange a meet for a couple days time.... Then on the day of the meet I'll message them and get no reply.... Just confusing...

The right woman will understand this

Apologies if it was Elvis and not fat boy slim

You don't have to sleep with someone to get verified do you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people like to chat for ages before they meet. Some like no more than a couple of mails then meet to fuck.

Neither of those is wrong, no matter the rants from one group against the other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some people state on their profile they are just here for a nosey and a chat...they aren't time wasters

surely time wasters are ones who don't turn up for dates, or lead you along then suddenly disappear from the site or block you?"

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

The only person's time I waste is my own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are various timewasters.. those who don't turn up.. those who endlessly chat with every excuse as to why they won't send their number or face pic and those who just fo one liners expecting a meet"

Surely the clues are there (sound like David Frost off through the keyhole!) People endlessly chatting and coming up with excuses, would seem they don't want to meet so no point wasting your time continuing to message. I just give my number and leave it with them, if they want to meet they'll use it.

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By *andom2chatMan over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

The OP sounds a decent lad. No cock pics, clearly enjoys sporty things, can write a decent profile & posts so I'm not getting why the girls are suddenly stopping the chat.

Chin up dude. You're in an ocean of other single guys. I'd say maybe attend a local Social Event (see your local area Forum), go along & enjoy meeting other members & see if that helps.

Good luck.

PS: Only ever had one really bad time waster. A Str8, ex-Army guy that mailed me first, I drove to his & he was too scared to open the door! (God help him in the field if I scared him & the Taliban didn't!)

Report, Block & move on - best solution.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?"

Yep sure that was the King first

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

He'd get pissed and start txting me or whatever about how me wanted me to fuck him (I'm like, right, yr in Yorkshire adn yr so frankly massive I'd never be able to throw you round the bed but whatevva).

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her loss I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly. "

And now I'm sure many are blocking you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her loss I say

Haha thank you. Wanna fuck?

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

"The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly.

And now I'm sure many are blocking you

Oh, I'm still new here. Gimme time.

And bare in mind that there are real people behind computer screens. And occasionally, when crossed, they bite back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

But not everyone is on the site for meets . Some members make excellent contributions to the forums and don't necessary meet people . In any event , how would we know if a member ever had any meets ?. Why would other members need to know about your meets ?"

yawn .... here we go again ..... without wishing to upset anyone , swinging is a lifestyle where like minded people meet up . A participation lifestyle if you like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Indeed. Admin really need to make a common sense button...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly.

And now I'm sure many are blocking you

Oh, I'm still new here. Gimme time.

And bare in mind that there are real people behind computer screens. And occasionally, when crossed, they bite back.

Exactly. We are all real people and the thought of you putting personal messages on a forum would cause many to block you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

Lmao what a joke. I had someone call me this because I hadn't had a meet yet. They couldn't be more wrong

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

"The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly.

And now I'm sure many are blocking you

Oh, I'm still new here. Gimme time.

And bare in mind that there are real people behind computer screens. And occasionally, when crossed, they bite back.

Exactly. We are all real people and the thought of you putting personal messages on a forum would cause many to block you."

Different site- different rules.

I only had 32 blocks in the end

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I had a time waster (on a previous site), I had him pegged from the off.

Fit, handsome, big cock, thick as - a bit Geordie Shore tbh.

Anyway, I had a bet with another guy on the site that if he came through I'd actually eat one of my hats.

Cut a long story short, after 6mths or so of this shit he finally slips up. And I confront him.

He gets all shirty.

I give him 3 opportunities to apologise. He gets offensive.

So what do I do...?

Dump the contents of his PMs - all his crawling little messages, sick fantasies and desires, whole works - on the forums.

Fuckin' hilarious.

Admin weren't so amused and I got put on the nawti step for 4 hrs I think.

Moral of the story?

Don't fuck with _iamondjoe - or more accurately if you do be prepared to do it properly.

And now I'm sure many are blocking you

Oh, I'm still new here. Gimme time.

And bare in mind that there are real people behind computer screens. And occasionally, when crossed, they bite back.

Exactly. We are all real people and the thought of you putting personal messages on a forum would cause many to block you."

Only if they were timewasters

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By *ubicinchMan over a year ago

Gwynedd

I really enjoy getting to know people in a social way, it is part of it for me, and the play time fun is a bonus when it happens. This doesn't mean I chat endlessly to lots of people, but the ones I do seem to click with via messaging, are the ones I end up meeting and having a great time with. A social aspect is nice.

Each to their own though, there are plenty on here who don't say much and want you to turn up, fuck n go, never to be seen again. Not really for me.

Back to the point about time wasters, they can be hard to out, I have had a high success rate with profiles that are new, no veris or pictures.

I live in a rural area, and being a single male my options are extremely limited so it meant a long time initially getting anywhere at all on here, so not all are time wasters. I am however getting a sixth sense but still get caught out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've just been called a timewaster because I won't meet someone who won't send a face pic to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So just out of curiosity, as someone not looking to meet, married and simply active (being an irritant) in the forums,

If I make it to 12mth without being shot or removed for crimes of excessive waffle,

Will I get a letter from the queen or equivalent to commemorate my 12mths veri free service,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

"So just out of curiosity, as someone not looking to meet, married and simply active (being an irritant) in the forums,

If I make it to 12mth without being shot or removed for crimes of excessive waffle,

Will I get a letter from the queen or equivalent to commemorate my 12mths veri free service,

I'm sure TinaTitz will be happy to write you a letter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So in the words of fat boy slim...

I need a littlle Less conversation and a little more action...

Does anyone else find them selves having countless conversations but never actually meeting?

Need some advice on spotting a time waster I think!!

A little less conversation a little more action please - didn't Elvis say it first?"

He most certainly did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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I don't really care if I chat to people and they think I'm a time waster if we don't meet

I go at my own pace and won't ever be pushed,rushed or made to feel guilty for changing my mind about someone

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By *hocolate007Man over a year ago

london

"A typical timewaster is someone who has been on the site for over a year with no meets .

Hope that helps

?? Still tryin to get my head round this one, pls explain how being on here for over a year with no meets makes you a time waster ?

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