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Hostility

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just an observation, I wondered if anyone else had ever noticed that the vast majority of all confrontations on here, in fact almost every single one, will begin with hostilities either between two males, or hostilities directed AT males, I don't believe I've ever seen much in the way of friction between two women or even couples on here.

Discuss.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Oh I've seen plenty of hostility directed at females on here. Usually by men but sometimes by women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's because women don't fight over men (usually),don't have pissing contests or talk about their muscles. We get put down we stick together and have a love in

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Just an observation, I wondered if anyone else had ever noticed that the vast majority of all confrontations on here, in fact almost every single one, will begin with hostilities either between two males, or hostilities directed AT males, I don't believe I've ever seen much in the way of friction between two women or even couples on here.

Discuss."

There is some, but men are generally more competitive and combative so I am not surprised there. And I guess the women wield more power here and like it!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"That's because women don't fight over men (usually),don't have pissing contests "

Lol, oh plenty of female pissing contests on here - and one or two catfights I have heard!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have noticed it's certain men that the hostility seems to revolve around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nono, women do and will get catty in here! I don't get the whole jealous bitchy thing though, neither here or in real life. I'm a good girl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really have not noticed that so much here but I know it will happen but I guess its something I turned a blind eye to..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men aren't fekin hostile....and if you say it again then....outside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a massive amount of bitchiness sometimes. But it can be snide little comments that you might just scroll past without noticing, where as some of the male on male hostility can be a bit more in your face (a little like the real world then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people get jealous, some are insecure, it happens. All adds a bit of drama to the forum I guess !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen the pathetic behaviour between females on here directed towards other females. Women having their strings pulled by men trying to turn the women against each other. Think it's disgusting women turning on each other because of saddo men. What's happened to girl code ladies?? Thankfully doesn't affect me cos I'd rather fuck women rather than men and bitchiness is never an attractive quality so just leave them to fight over their prize male.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've seen the pathetic behaviour between females on here directed towards other females. Women having their strings pulled by men trying to turn the women against each other. Think it's disgusting women turning on each other because of saddo men. What's happened to girl code ladies?? Thankfully doesn't affect me cos I'd rather fuck women rather than men and bitchiness is never an attractive quality so just leave them to fight over their prize male.

"Girl code" is stupid. Girls don't automatically have to like each other just because they share a gender. People are dicks.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

yeah, I've done it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The reason is simple. Those of us who are always right are getting pissed off with those who think they are right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Girl code" is stupid. Girls don't automatically have to like each other just because they share a gender. People are dicks. "

I can actually agree with that.

The question is which ones you enjoy getting fucked by.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm polite to all but it gets beyond the pale when people message abusive message after message. I tend now to name and shame then block which I don't like doing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women are just better at hiding their bitchiness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is a massive amount of bitchiness sometimes. But it can be snide little comments that you might just scroll past without noticing, where as some of the male on male hostility can be a bit more in your face (a little like the real world then

Oh, I notice the snide little comments

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Iv'e been on this site for 9 yrs now, and on the forums for about 6. I've witnessed cat fights & dog fights, both genders being bullied or repeatedly shot down in flames, sometimes resulting in an unlos

It's a perpetual cycle, it'll never change

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

Discuss."

Yet its almost the complete opposite in the outside world

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

There was a real ding-dong between two women on here about two weeks ago that dragged on for ages and got bitter and very nasty.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

some of the best laughs are watching the ding dongs or not reacting to any snipe and seeing the person getting more irritated.

silence is the most perfect expression of scorn when it happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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Oh, I notice the snide little comments

It's an exceptionally weak, cowardly and un-masculine thing to do, and one I've come to expect from certain posters.

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By *amparaWoman over a year ago

biggleswade

"some of the best laughs are watching the ding dongs or not reacting to any snipe and seeing the person getting more irritated.

silence is the most perfect expression of scorn when it happens"
you sound just like my husband because he says the same

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

When it's really obvious it makes me wince and I try not to join in. I occasionally post something innocuous on a thread that takes one of those turns and feel like an unwitting participant by proxy, which I hate. I am aware that I have an abrasive piss-takey type of humour myself so I try really hard for that not to be misread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife won't come on the forums any more . There is plenty of hostility towards doggers like us , male or female . And couples ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Girl code" is stupid. Girls don't automatically have to like each other just because they share a gender. People are dicks. "

Oh I certainly agree that some people are dicks. Maybe I am just used to being surrounded by nicer females than those that think it's ok to be despicable to other women so they can get a meaningless fuck off some Prick off the internet. I'll stick to my own 'girl code' thanks irrespective of you thinking it's stupid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it funny for a while but when it gets personal and nasty the people involved really need to grow up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a lot of male to male hostility, from an independent observers point of _iew a lot of it seems to be very testosterone fuelled and one alpha male trying to out-alpha male another (like rutting stags!)

A couple of weeks back I saw a guy make a point on a thread and there was general hostility to it but later in the very same thread a lady made a similar point but the response was very supportive / agreeable with it (can't remember the exact thread) which made me smile as it was the perfect example of how the sexes are perceived / treated on here as a general rule

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've seen a couple of corkers over the years

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is a lot of male to male hostility, from an independent observers point of _iew a lot of it seems to be very testosterone fuelled and one alpha male trying to out-alpha male another (like rutting stags!)

I remember someone once posted a thread with regards to a woman flashing once (or it may have been cheating I'm not sure, something to those ends anyway), to which someone else THEN posted a counter thread where the role had been switched to that of a male - of course, no one noticed and fell right into the trap. As you may have guessed, the issue regarding the woman was treated and erotic, naughty and enticing overall, the male was of course a disgusting, perverted bastard who deserved to be locked up.

Good old fab

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Us inbetweenies don't fight, it's too much effort after getting glammed up. Instead we just hit them with a cutting comment. If it's a good enough cutting comment, they'll go home and cut themselves....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate it when a thread goes off track and descends into a petty argument between a few others and the poor OP's thread becomes irrelevant and it gets closed.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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Oh, I notice the snide little comments

It's an exceptionally weak, cowardly and un-masculine thing to do, and one I've come to expect from certain posters."

Said the pot calling the kettle black!! lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good old fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not everyone falls for its OK for a Woman but not for a Male type post,

But these type of scenarios are nothing new to fab or the real world

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am always getting hostility.. From couples and women... Hmmmm more rudeness and severe attitude problems from woman to be honest.. Not really from guys!! I guess I don't chat up guys on here.. So that might be why!

Discuss."

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"There is a massive amount of bitchiness sometimes. But it can be snide little comments that you might just scroll past without noticing, "

Yea, that's the point - the men have no idea sometimes when it's clear as day to the women, lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

I enjoy a good debate and, to me, any bitching is just a bit of banter rather than anything to be taken seriously. Even personal comments don't make an impact on me unless I've actually met the person making them and value their opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are just arseholes... Irrespective of gender. Thankfully most people (notice the lack of gender specification there

) are decent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are just arseholes... Irrespective of gender. Thankfully most people (notice the lack of gender specification there

) are decent.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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Oh, I notice the snide little comments

It's an exceptionally weak, cowardly and un-masculine thing to do, and one I've come to expect from certain posters.

Said the pot calling the kettle black!! lol!

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

"There is a massive amount of bitchiness sometimes. But it can be snide little comments that you might just scroll past without noticing,

Yea, that's the point - the men have no idea sometimes when it's clear as day to the women, lol!!

I don't tend to notice the snidey ones either. I am mostly oblivious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate it when a thread goes off track and descends into a petty argument between a few others and the poor OP's thread becomes irrelevant and it gets closed."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its an odd one . Most of the hostilities start with us chaps, especially those who are new and expected it to be a wild orgy of sex every day.

Their expectations are jolly high and when they find the truth that ist about getting to know people . It takes time . They get jolly uppity.

I guess its a mix of high expectations and testosterone.

Those who stay learn have no expectations and.just enjoy the fun and laughs to be had on here with good friends.

I have made heaps , female and male

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The snidey comments I notice are usually made by women against women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a male I didn't notice the female bitchiness until it was pointed out. Then oh my fucking God, they never let up.

A couple of blokes can have an argument/fight/whatever then 2 mins later be agreeing on something random. But with the lasses, fucking hell... There are some seriously insecure or bitchy ladies who snipe and provoke and criticise and just never stop.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

the muscle thread is a prime example of what the OP was one about.... so maybe a little bit of "practicing what is being preached" may be in order....

its all water off a ducks back... and to be honest, this place is like a walk in the park to some places i visit....

but yes... there is a fair of territory marking that goes on... normally more noticable when the women do it over men or which ever flavour of the month it is..... but maybe i dont notice the men rutting stuff

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

sometimes things may be identified because it suits a personal agenda.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes we only see what we want to see.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The reason is simple. Those of us who are always right are getting pissed off with those who think they are right.

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By *amparaWoman over a year ago

biggleswade

"Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

the muscle thread is a prime example of what the OP was one about.... so maybe a little bit of "practicing what is being preached" may be in order....

its all water off a ducks back... and to be honest, this place is like a walk in the park to some places i visit....

well i'm very happy for you if you say its water off a ducks back but not everyone is like you and some people are slightly more sensitive and its very wrong for a person to goad others to insult people, bullying is bullying no matter what, had enough of that at school without it here thank you very much

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Sometimes we only see what we want to see."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes we only see what we want to see."

I know guys who love women being bitchy too. They get off on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate it when a thread goes off track and descends into a petty argument between a few others and the poor OP's thread becomes irrelevant and it gets closed."

I can't believe people don't want a third runway at heathrow?! What's wrong with these people?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure many behave differently online to how they would behave face to face. Men are often more directly confrontational, women do it covertly at times.

Plus we don't know which posts never made it to be posted do we?

It all goes over my head as this isn't the real world, although many think it is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes we only see what we want to see.

I know guys who love women being bitchy too. They get off on it."

And there are women who seem to love men having digs at others too.

Just very sad.

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By *ony HardcockMan over a year ago

Shepperton

"Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

the muscle thread is a prime example of what the OP was one about.... so maybe a little bit of "practicing what is being preached" may be in order....

its all water off a ducks back... and to be honest, this place is like a walk in the park to some places i visit....

I have not noticed anything and if I did I would ignore it I have to much of a life to get evolved

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I love people having digs at the people having digs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes we only see what we want to see.

I know guys who love women being bitchy too. They get off on it.

And there are women who seem to love men having digs at others too.

Just very sad."

Yes.

What happened to the battle forums? i offered to admin them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

They are just as bad or even worse in my opinion. Who made them the moral crusaders of Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

I have seen it from all genders equally

Each can be just as bad,some attempt to be more subtle though

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

They are just as bad or even worse in my opinion. Who made them the moral crusaders of Fab?

don't be so hard on yourself, or is it just others doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

Are you having a dig at the people having digs at the people having digs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

the muscle thread is a prime example of what the OP was one about.... so maybe a little bit of "practicing what is being preached" may be in order....

its all water off a ducks back... and to be honest, this place is like a walk in the park to some places i visit....

I have not noticed anything and if I did I would ignore it I have to much of a life to get evolved

Into what?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

Are you having a dig at the people having digs at the people having digs?

look up, I admitted it Anna in my first post on the thread.

my self-awareness is just fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't do hostility. Don't have the time nor the energy for that. We're not still kids and this isn't a playground.

I find all that stuff a bit daft.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate it when a thread goes off track and descends into a petty argument between a few others and the poor OP's thread becomes irrelevant and it gets closed.

I can't believe people don't want a third runway at heathrow?! What's wrong with these people?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

Are you having a dig at the people having digs at the people having digs?

look up, I admitted it Anna in my first post on the thread.

my self-awareness is just fine

Was supposed to be a joke, as opposed to me having a dig at you having a dig at those having a dig at people having a dig, but never mind.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

Are you having a dig at the people having digs at the people having digs?

look up, I admitted it Anna in my first post on the thread.

my self-awareness is just fine

Was supposed to be a joke, as opposed to me having a dig at you having a dig at those having a dig at people having a dig, but never mind. "

yeah,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it"

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it"

It's a tad warm today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here. "

Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Glad somebody has made a topic like this.

Since signing up to this website I've spoken to some sound people on here and also had a bit of a laugh via the forums and also via private message but there are some people on here that just get massively arsey over fuck all in the forum but even more so via private message. Even if somebody messages me that I'm not even physically attracted to and wouldn't meet i'd still humour them by talking to them, its not hard to be nice. I find that you message somebody on here and 70% of the time they ignore your message (which is fine) or just act obnoxious or HOSTILE like you've shit on their cat or something, it's just fuckin rude if you ask me. Worse part is when someone goes out their way to message you and then starts acting hostile 2 days later (that's happened to me twice) ...it just makes me think 'what is the actually point?'

I'm fairly sure that if everyone took this attitude towarss each other regularly the scene as well as this site would be dead.

Some people need to lighten the fuck up and have some fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actual*

Towards*

Fuckin autocorrect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

They are just as bad or even worse in my opinion. Who made them the moral crusaders of Fab?

don't be so hard on yourself, or is it just others doing it."

I don't have any morals

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I love people having digs at the people having digs

They are just as bad or even worse in my opinion. Who made them the moral crusaders of Fab?

don't be so hard on yourself, or is it just others doing it.

I don't have any morals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here.

Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily ."

What do you mean by that!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily"

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Stick ya heads in the Welsh forums sometime it's forever kicking off in there. Especially when someone nicks a sheep

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it."

there is a lot to this... the firebombers who chuck in something and when it kicks off they whistle innocently....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

It's a tad warm today

Aha very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

It's a tad warm today

Aha very true"

What's their excuse when its cold and wet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Girl code" is stupid. Girls don't automatically have to like each other just because they share a gender. People are dicks.

I can actually agree with that.

The question is which ones you enjoy getting fucked by."

I've only seen evidence of that once in the years I've been here. Do you think it's because some people look for trouble and enjoy watching it unfold?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily"

I don't always use emoticons. I like to see if people can read what I write and understand my tone.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

men do tend to be more open about disagreeing..

women tend to be more covert..like ignoring...or pming guys ive met and veried..yes they do...

i notice.. i ignore it.. i stay out of it or pleasant..

i dont find it pleasant for others to try maliciously to disempower anyone..however the truth comes out eventually and it gives me additional info on what people are like, which ones are nice, intelligent, funny in a nice way and which to avoid like the plague. the world is made up of different types of people..i can live and let live, the vast majority of the time

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By *orseydaveMan over a year ago

Norwich NR5

The standard of swingers/lifestyle people on here have lowered in the last couple of years..

Its all Jeremy Kyle-Style now !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it."

He won't be back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The standard of swingers/lifestyle people on here have lowered in the last couple of years..

Its all Jeremy Kyle-Style now !!!"

I know! Where's all the fucking happening??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here.

Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily .

What do you mean by that!?

Someone will know if you're being sarcastic , mischievous, have had a crap day, feel sad etc from how you carry yourself and your expression. I use my hands a lot when talking and smile, a lot - that can't come across in written text. I mean that kind of thing.

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By *iBeRtInE70Man over a year ago

around

Ooooh ...take a seat and grab the popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it.

He won't be back."

Why, what have you done to him Miss Lovely ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

blimey op where have you been hiding I've seen plenty of friction between some women on here. You can almost predict the ones that will set it off.

have to say where historically I thought it was women that carried grudges and bought them up in other threads, men appear to do this a lot now too.

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Yes!! On here as in real life, I prefer mens bitching. Its out in the open and over quickly.

Women's bitchiness is vicious, snide, passive aggresive and snooty.

Can get worse in the chatrooms (especially if a new female on cam enters room and the attention shifts). Amusing watching the men go quiet and stand back watching when it kicks off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here.

Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily .

What do you mean by that!?

I just realised that went straight over my head !

That's exactly it !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

And I've had an example of something being perceived as hostile when it wasn't meant to be. I think that also happens a lot on here.

Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily .

What do you mean by that!?

I just realised that went straight over my head !

That's exactly it ! "

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"A thread on hostility becomes hostile.. who'd have thought it

It's a tad warm today

Aha very true

What's their excuse when its cold and wet

Its a tad damp today!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So funny you noticed it OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it.

He won't be back.

Why, what have you done to him Miss Lovely ?"

I was talking about you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some posters deliberately post emotive/controversial subjects knowing full well its like lighting the blue touch paper and running away. As others have said, its like they get off on it.

He won't be back.

Why, what have you done to him Miss Lovely ?

I was talking about you

Can't be me Miss L, I've never started a forum thread, honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Apart from the really obvious threads (the muscle one for example) I tend to think it's pretty evenly split between fem, men and couples when it comes to bitching.

the muscle thread is a prime example of what the OP was one about.... so maybe a little bit of "practicing what is being preached" may be in order....

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it."

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate it when a thread goes off track and descends into a petty argument between a few others and the poor OP's thread becomes irrelevant and it gets closed.

I can't believe people don't want a third runway at heathrow?! What's wrong with these people?!

Hahahahhahaha

nice one ^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""Problem is you have no tone of voice or body language here, so things get mis interpreted easily""

With a geordie accent, even in person you don't know when we are taking the piss (spoiler alert: we are always taking thr piss)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

You don't get it, clearly

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

You don't get it, clearly

I suppose any attention, even negative, is better than none at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

You don't get it, clearly

I suppose any attention, even negative, is better than none at all."

It's not even negative, not all of it. I'm not the only guy on here who takes a controversial stance on things, but I'm one of the few who have the balls to stand by my _iews, no matter who disagrees or chooses to laugh at me.

You'd be surprised some of the messages I've gotten as a result of threads my detractors long to believe I buried myself on...

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

You don't get it, clearly

I suppose any attention, even negative, is better than none at all.

You'd be surprised some of the messages I've gotten as a result of threads my detractors long to believe I buried myself on..."

I wouldn't be at all surprised that you have found people who agree with you. However I believe your belief that you are somehow standing alone against the majority of Fab is something that is mainly in your head.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Oh ive seen handbags at dawn with two women on here many a time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not really, that particular thread was a direct attack against me by the OP attempting to cover his own insecurities, which he then hid behind a 'it was only a joke...' cop out.

Sadly, it appears I was the only one bright enough to actually see it.

Oh dear, you just keep setting yourself up for these don't you!

You don't get it, clearly

I suppose any attention, even negative, is better than none at all.

You'd be surprised some of the messages I've gotten as a result of threads my detractors long to believe I buried myself on...

I don't believe it's me against the site, only a notable handful of vocal twats

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

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