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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its just sex tho, does it matter? x.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmm... Yeah, I do the same. Some people assume I'm fishing for compliments, while in reality my self esteem's just shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men are exactly the same, it's a great confidence booster when you send a lady your pic and you get a phwooaar back haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive."

But they are just going on some photos online. And I hide the shitty parts of me.

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By *smCouple over a year ago

Liskeard

I used too. But now I say thank you .

I find now I am more confident I get more compliments in real life too ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive.

But they are just going on some photos online. And I hide the shitty parts of me."

I like to show full body shot so people can't be put off by the tattoos or hairyish chest.. What you see is what you get lol

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yep.

We may take good pictures but we're not daft enough to believe we look as good in person.

Plus we know exactly what flaws we have. Unless someone's met us they can only go by 2D images on a screen - and there's a difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Amazing amount of mail directed at jools stating she is the best looking woman on here, best boobs, stunning, phwoarr....

We both laugh at these.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm reasonably self confidential but would prefer a 6 pack and be more toned. I wish my hair hasn't gone grey as quick as it did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive.

But they are just going on some photos online. And I hide the shitty parts of me."

I had a quick look at your pics and that middle one (forgot to look at the date) seems to be showing plenty for anyone to get an idea what you look like. They probably don't see anything 'shitty' about you, honestly.

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By *smCouple over a year ago

Liskeard

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive.

But they are just going on some photos online. And I hide the shitty parts of me."

but we all do that lol . Including the men . I Smile, shoulders back, feel sexy inside and I would happily walk naked through a room of strangers , fuck them if they don't like it x

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

Angel does this, only way to give her a compliment is to smother it in super glue first, and even some of those slip off.......i see what i see, don't mess with my eyes man

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive.

But they are just going on some photos online. And I hide the shitty parts of me.

but we all do that lol . Including the men . I Smile, shoulders back, feel sexy inside and I would happily walk naked through a room of strangers , fuck them if they don't like it x "

Oh god, I'd never do that. I'm the one at Kestrels remaining covered up all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

Yeah me, all the time

If anybody tell me I look great I straight away start telling them about my shit boobs and baggy belly

I usually say somethimg like I look better from the back that's why I have back pics

I should put a pic of my front up really but I couldn't cope with the abusive mail I would get so I save that for private chat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope I just say "thanks "

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I'm honest

I don't need anything, not looking for anything and not seeking any short term/long term friendships...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take it all with a pinch of salt. I don't respond to flattery so it's wasted on me. I have enough great sex with men who like my body and even if I didn't I wouldn't feel good or bad about anything anymore says the me,on or off here. I want sex from here,nothing else. If I like the look of someone and the conversation we will meet

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan over a year ago

Nearby

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

Let u know when I get a message saying how great I look

Take the compliment, ur photos don't do u justice anyway x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have good self esteem, but fundamentally I'm a realist. I know what lies beneath my clothes!

Is there a fine line between being a realist and what is perceived as a lack of self esteem?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

The proof of the pudding as they say. You can tell by the way a man touches and kisses your body and what he says in person whether he's actually into you.

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By *ola.Woman over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I used to now I just say thanks.Does not mean that I believe them.I have a couple of pics that I took recently in my private gallery which I would send if I were meeting anyone. Nude body so they can see what they are in for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

The proof of the pudding as they say. You can tell by the way a man touches and kisses your body and what he says in person whether he's actually into you."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't take compliments as honest compliments on here and more just smooth talk to get in my knickers (nope it don't work) lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?

Let u know when I get a message saying how great I look

Take the compliment, ur photos don't do u justice anyway x"

You are a charmer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

The proof of the pudding as they say. You can tell by the way a man touches and kisses your body and what he says in person whether he's actually into you."

I agree with that and when you meet somebody who does like you its great

What I worry about is meeting a guy and seeing the look of disappointment on his face upon seeing me, it always really worries me before meeting somebody new

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

The proof of the pudding as they say. You can tell by the way a man touches and kisses your body and what he says in person whether he's actually into you.

I agree with that and when you meet somebody who does like you its great

What I worry about is meeting a guy and seeing the look of disappointment on his face upon seeing me, it always really worries me before meeting somebody new

This is exactly why I put them straight about how I look when I reply to their messages.

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By *amparaWoman over a year ago

biggleswade

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"
i think most people have insecurities there is always something that they would change,you have what you are given and thats it, i just try and look after what ive got but i never believe when someone gives me a compliment 99%, some days i feel god i'm beautiful other days i think god i'm so ugly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm under no illusions that the best looking one out of us is Ginger and constantly being told off by her for saying I'm not good looking. Personally think she needs her eyes testing when she says I am

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Yep ugmo here but proud. Who cares we are what we are. So you make the best of it npt much else you can do really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

like most ppl i think we get mail saying your mrs looks fit etc and from ppl that look absolutely stunning.had a few offers of a meet with model types but i just write back and say would love a meet but would not want to waste your time your way out of our league.very neggative i know but we like to be honest

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I used to now I just say thanks.Does not mean that I believe them.I have a couple of pics that I took recently in my private gallery which I would send if I were meeting anyone. Nude body so they can see what they are in for. "

Runs off for a perv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I make sure they are aware that just because I am the same age as Julia Roberts or Michelle Pfeiffer, I do not resemble them. Just so I don't have to see the disappointed look when we meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do point out that i don't look like my pics all the time and that in reality I'm just a frumpy old exhausted mum who works full time so i can't compete with the young hotties. If that doesn't put them off then we continue chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Born with the looks I have and the parts of body I have. I am not going to get anything done to my body for someone else. If I want too its only for me.

I too take compliments with a pinch of salt, the real proof is when you do meet someone there is a glint in the eyes, there is spark and that person likes you for being you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes now - but i always used to - but a certain person has given me more confidence about myself - i can give the impression im sure but inside i can be quaking

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I feel the need to mention to potential meets that unlike the majority of people I actually do look better in photos than I do in real life. As long as they are forewarned and see some of the more candid full body shots I have in my friend only gallery I feel I have done my bit to puncture the online bubble with a dose of reality. And it is realism, not a self esteem issue. I'm not horrendous to look at but I am photogenic, which may be a double edged sword in the online world.

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Hmm... Yeah, I do the same. Some people assume I'm fishing for compliments, while in reality my self esteem's just shit.

Same here!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think i will tell potential meets "prepare to be horribly disappointed" so if they are they would have known and had been prepared and if not then all good.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman over a year ago

East Yorkshire

When I get the messages I just think yeah ok. I've just looked at last nights messages and they all pretty much say 'you're beautiful' or 'stunning'. Complete bollocks I've no public face pic and a few fat pics. I think it's just desperate men saying anything to get a hole!!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

Never!!!

I wouldn't play with anyone who did. Insecurities and ego massaging is not my forte and lack of confidence is a major turn off for me.

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By *ola.Woman over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I could never send a nude body pic out on here "

Why? My body is unclothed in many of my pics. Just one where I am totally naked with no filters, no gimmicks oh and no head. I have not sent it to anyone yet, only a friend but he has seen me in the flesh.It has taken me most of my adult life to be comfortable in my own skin. Now I really do not care what anyone else thinks other than me if they don't like my body that is ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

I'm not the most confident of guys but when someone says they like me i will take it all day long.... i remember when you sent me a PM Miss Innocent... I was shocked but very happy at the same time....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Realistic, for me, is finding a variety of men attractive. Many of which aren't your conventional type of attractive.

So no i wouldn't put myself down if someone fancies me, i know it's possible they actually do find me attractive."

This.

I am sometimes pleasantly surprised when someone says something nice with no ulterior motive.

Mostly I don't like overt compliments from people I don't know because it just smells of bullshit. There's other ways to compliment. I prefer those ways.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

It is a very nice thing to get compliments but it's how we process them that counts, I'm not a bad looking woman with reasonable boobs but the rest of me is ruined and I always point that out as I would hate to give anyone a terrible surprise when my pants come off and my baby belly falls out

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

I could never send a nude body pic out on here "

you should

have a word with yerselves ladies, your all sexy in your own way, a bit of belief goes a long way.......women, you exasperate me, you really do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Truth answer to that

Because I'm embarressed and ashamed of my body and I would be scared if I sent out a naked pic I'd just get rudness back

Taking your cloths off infront of somebody is not the same as sending naked pics out on here people are far ruder on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

Ive done this sometimes myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

Your pics hide nothing. You display all the rude bits and the packaging. Got a good idea of what would get with you. I've got rid of my body shots cause they were too unfocused and had clothes on floor lol. Plan on doing fresh ones when I can be botherered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?

oh my - oh my - someone that takes note of what people want off a profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmm... Yeah, I do the same. Some people assume I'm fishing for compliments, while in reality my self esteem's just shit.

Same here!!!

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?

oh my - oh my - someone that takes note of what people want off a profile

I will always add something in my nessage to a female or couple which clearly shows I have read the profile to me that is common sense and courtesy....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a long conversation about theseinvisible'Brave' people who have no thought of what their words could be interpreted as, and what damage they do.

Yet I real life , if confronted ,they'd hide behind their friends.

I've got a few pictures andi careful as to who I accept as friends , and only when I feel comfortable with a person would I let them see my face.

In the words of Bambi's monthly, if you can't say anything ice, don't say anything at all.

Treat people as you would like to treated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here "

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!! "

Nude-free meets? What are those?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pretty much all of our pics are 'action' so to speak , so people can see exactly what's in store .

Confidence is a sexy trait , lack of confidence a passion killer . Be proud and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

All the time, I feel like they re feeding me a line and i dont like it. Im perfectly happy with the way i look, fat bits and wrinkles included...someone telling me how stunning I am from my frankly dodgy face pic turns me right off.

Oh course they may be genuine and i may be totally paranoid!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!! "

Nor me

I can't remember the last time anybody besides me saw my boobs and I don't like looking at them that much

I suppose the good thing about being a woman is you can leave your underwear on, pretend your making an effort for them when in reality your hiding your shit bits

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's the reason right there...not to say I haven't

Offered Compliments My Self. There are only a very small number of munters on here, and non on this thread....there you go, a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are who we are dont like it f##k them everybody different

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nude-free meets? What are those?

undies or something left on, only exposing the main areas of attention. We have a friend that does the same, and angel normally keeps something on as well, i don't give a fuck, i get all my kit off, which is odd because i'm normally shy as fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

I send one to those who don't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nor me

I can't remember the last time anybody besides me saw my boobs and I don't like looking at them that much

I suppose the good thing about being a woman is you can leave your underwear on, pretend your making an effort for them when in reality your hiding your shit bits

Your body is way better than mine but i don't care. I let people see my 'shit' bits.

I honestly think guys prefer us to just enjoy sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

I send one to those who don't

That's given me an idea actually

next time somebody I don't fancy mails me I'll send him a naked full frontal that's sure to be more effective than a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

I send one to those who don't

I absolutely have NO desire to see a naked pic of you hehe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nude-free meets? What are those?

Aha same! I usually go with the intention of keeping something on, some strategically placed attire, but come the end of a meet I'm totally naked, I can't even find my clothes usually! Naughty people we meet ahem

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

When I get a message telling me I look better than a real girl, I strongly doubt not only their eyesight, but also question how big a whopper they're telling everyone else in an attempt to get laid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah if its someone i like I expect the compliment if its someone im not interested in I ignore it

All the pics I have are upto date and totally me I can't turn up to a meet nowing they are getting someone they think is slimmer sexier or whatever n likewise I want real time pics I don't do surprises

N on the ignored messages not please single men give us time to reply before you put up silly little statuses tut tut tut

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

I send one to those who don't

That's given me an idea actually

next time somebody I don't fancy mails me I'll send him a naked full frontal that's sure to be more effective than a no thanks

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no confidence whatsoever in my body.....get msgs all the time saying it looks good, but my pics don't show the multiple flaws I have....I always make guys know I'm not perfect in any way....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nor me

I can't remember the last time anybody besides me saw my boobs and I don't like looking at them that much

I suppose the good thing about being a woman is you can leave your underwear on, pretend your making an effort for them when in reality your hiding your shit bits

Your body is way better than mine but i don't care. I let people see my 'shit' bits.

I honestly think guys prefer us to just enjoy sex. "

My fronts really bad, I have lost a lot of weight since last year, nearly half my starting body weight as a result my skin is loose, I have gone from a 42F to 36C bra but my boobs are just saggy flaps of skin now, I hate them, my belly has that deflated balloon look, loosing the weight hasn't given me a body to be proud of it's just swapped one set of problems for another

where as before I didn't like showing myself cause I was fat I still can't get naked because I'm saggy and let's be honest who really wants to see that?

that's why I keep underwear on

a corset looks much better

damned uncomfortable to shag in but looks better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"
I do this all the time I know what I look like and prefer to tell it as it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"
I do this all the time I know what I look like and prefer to tell it as it is.

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

If only we had the ability to look through other peoples eyes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, I always do this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nor me

I can't remember the last time anybody besides me saw my boobs and I don't like looking at them that much

I suppose the good thing about being a woman is you can leave your underwear on, pretend your making an effort for them when in reality your hiding your shit bits

Your body is way better than mine but i don't care. I let people see my 'shit' bits.

I honestly think guys prefer us to just enjoy sex.

where as before I didn't like showing myself cause I was fat I still can't get naked because I'm saggy and let's be honest who really wants to see that?

that's why I keep underwear on

a corset looks much better

damned uncomfortable to shag in but looks better

So long as you're happy.

I lost 4 and a half stone, saggy baby belly and bum has some weird extra idk what it is on there now but i'm not fussed any more.

I think most guys find it sexy i've had loads of kids (means i've had loads of sex lol) and don't care about the belly, nobody said anything if they didn't like it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?

oh my - oh my - someone that takes note of what people want off a profile

Oooo was it you who pointed it out originally lol?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most guys find it sexy i've had loads of kids (means i've had loads of sex lol) and don't care about the belly, nobody said anything if they didn't like it anyway."

I met a guy Saturday and he kept uncovering my belly and kissing it that really freaked me out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll send a naked body pic to whoever wants to see.

I send one to those who don't

I dont want to see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most guys find it sexy i've had loads of kids (means i've had loads of sex lol) and don't care about the belly, nobody said anything if they didn't like it anyway.

I met a guy Saturday and he kept uncovering my belly and kissing it that really freaked me out

Naww that's sweet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most guys find it sexy i've had loads of kids (means i've had loads of sex lol) and don't care about the belly, nobody said anything if they didn't like it anyway.

I met a guy Saturday and he kept uncovering my belly and kissing it that really freaked me out

I've had that on a meet. It's nice i thought.

Shows they like every part of your body, bet he's sub...

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I could never send a nude body pic out on here

Same here. I don't get naked on meets either!!

Nor me

I can't remember the last time anybody besides me saw my boobs and I don't like looking at them that much

I suppose the good thing about being a woman is you can leave your underwear on, pretend your making an effort for them when in reality your hiding your shit bits

Your body is way better than mine but i don't care. I let people see my 'shit' bits.

I honestly think guys prefer us to just enjoy sex.

where as before I didn't like showing myself cause I was fat I still can't get naked because I'm saggy and let's be honest who really wants to see that?

that's why I keep underwear on

a corset looks much better

damned uncomfortable to shag in but looks better

I have lost my boobs too but I just think, well, they don't know what they looked like before so I just let them roam free.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Girls love yourselves we are all beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most guys find it sexy i've had loads of kids (means i've had loads of sex lol) and don't care about the belly, nobody said anything if they didn't like it anyway.

I met a guy Saturday and he kept uncovering my belly and kissing it that really freaked me out

I love doing that!!

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By *arymore1Man over a year ago

Glasgow

In general people are not looking for perfection, we are not perfect and don't expect others to be either, take the good comments as they are meant and appreciate that someone sees something in you that attracts them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It was a hard decision but I've just had to accept that I'm awesome

^_^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a hard decision but I've just had to accept that I'm awesome

^_^"

And soooo modest!

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Hmm... Yeah, I do the same. Some people assume I'm fishing for compliments, while in reality my self esteem's just shit.

Yes. Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In general people are not looking for perfection, we are not perfect and don't expect others to be either, take the good comments as they are meant and appreciate that someone sees something in you that attracts them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a hard decision but I've just had to accept that I'm awesome

^_^

And soooo modest!"

My modesty is one of my greatest features if I do say so myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do this all the time too. In day to day life I never believe compliments and on here its even harder to as a lot (not all) men will say anything to get in a girls knickers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I don't, I'm confident without being arrogant, there are genuine people who like the way I look, I have plenty pics so don't hide, I am who I am ,I generally can find that out after chatting/meeting at a party. I am also grounded and realistic and know compliments can be a way of saying 'I want a shag' so what I want a shag too

I can take a compliment and accept it without putting myself down, as much as I can take a non compliment without getting upset about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short. "

some things you can't change though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But you are fabulous babe

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short. "

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

some things you can't change though"

Always thought your photos were pretty hot. What do you need to change? Obviously people find you attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while."

And that's the only way I can do anything about the bits I moan about, I've lost the weight but I can't loose the saggy skin, I'd love my boobs and belly done but I promised my kids i won't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while."

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers."

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

Well find somebody for me then I'm gagging for a shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

Well find somebody for me then I'm gagging for a shag

Lol i tried but unfortunately you booted me into touch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

Well find somebody for me then I'm gagging for a shag

Lol i tried but unfortunately you booted me into touch

really?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short. "
years of put downs can be.a.little hard to reverse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

Well find somebody for me then I'm gagging for a shag

Lol i tried but unfortunately you booted me into touch

really?

Is it worth me trying again ?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone feels insecure sometimes, except possibly the fucking perfect among us, but they generally have some personality traits which are a damn sight worse than displaying a little bit of vulnerability and insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

All woman on here get loads of offers what does that prove

That there is somone for everyone

Well find somebody for me then I'm gagging for a shag

Lol i tried but unfortunately you booted me into touch

really?

Is it worth me trying again ?

You mailed me to ask a question because you said you didn't want to ask in public, I was polite and answered you, sorry but when you mailed to say you just wanted to ask a question I believed you just wanted to ask a question so I answered and left you alone, I have no idea what you mean by I booted you into touch??

or why it's been bought up here for that matter

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers."

Sure I do. I am a woman on Fab, so I get several messages a day. But none of them have seen my boobs. In fact they all go on about my gorgeous pictures, when I have one, very tame pic on my profile. So why should I believe anything anyone I have not met says about me being gorgeous?

Anyway, I was just responding to the OP. I don't let me saggy boobs prevent me from meeting and/or shagging anyone. Just saying I am disappointed they're not perky enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone feels insecure sometimes, except possibly the fucking perfect among us, but they generally have some personality traits which are a damn sight worse than displaying a little bit of vulnerability and insecurity. "

I'm not vulnerable

I know i have falts but I'm a hard faced cow and nobody could exploit me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apologies that i have offended you

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I don't think everyone has been moaning.

Just expressing an awareness of reality.

Whether someone is sending a message thinking that due to good pics or simply sending overly sycophantic compliments in the hope it boosts their chances - it's always sensible to be aware of ones flaws and imperfections. And to avoid misleading anyone else.

I don't give a stuff about mine - plenty are impossible to do anything about. Some are. I may even do something about them someday if I feel the need. Til then? I'm happy living with them.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I am far from perfect but I don't need invisible people on the Internet to plug my insecurities. I would deal with it professionally and for the long term, not a titivating 15 seconds.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

But each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am far from perfect but I don't need invisible people on the Internet to plug my insecurities. I would deal with it professionally and for the long term, not a titivating 15 seconds."

I don't think the thread was about asking invisible people on the Internet to plug my insecurities. Neither are they worthy of professional attention, but they exist and they are part of me, what's wrong with being upfront about that?

(You might want to get that rampant cynicism looked at though)

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

(You might want to get that rampant cynicism looked at though)"

No, I am fine thanks

Good luck with yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(You might want to get that rampant cynicism looked at though)

No, I am fine thanks

Good luck with yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all hide the shitty parts of ourselves and I sometimes think that flattering pics are sometimes a bit of a cheat. Then again, there's no way I'd put photos up that I thought looked hideous.

At the end of it all, we actually have to meet people face to face and only then can you actually tell if there's a buzz.

I think a little crisis of confidence happens to most of us at some time or other. When it happens just give it the middle finger and carry on as you were

The proof of the pudding as they say. You can tell by the way a man touches and kisses your body and what he says in person whether he's actually into you.

I agree with that and when you meet somebody who does like you its great

What I worry about is meeting a guy and seeing the look of disappointment on his face upon seeing me, it always really worries me before meeting somebody new

I don't worry about it. I tell them exactly what to expect physically,then usually have to explain I'm not making excuses or ashamed of my body,and then they only have themselves to blame. If someone is flattering just because they're feeling horny they soon get bored because I don't fall for it,and it shows.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fairly screwed because I have more physical imperfections than most (unless you've had little kids stop and look at you in horror then you are fairly clueless about self esteem issues) and a less than attractive personality to top it off.

But fuck it, I'm still here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sometimes do the same :/

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By *emini1637Woman over a year ago

Warwickshire

"When I get a message telling me how great I look, I find myself putting myself down & telling them that I'm not.

I'm being totally honest because I want them to know exactly what to expect if they were to meet me.

Does anyone else do this?"

I do exactly that! I've done it all my life before other people put me down! Like you say it's so they know what to expect when they see me! And most of the time I get told off for it

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

I recieve one and totally dismiss it with a "what's all this about" attitude. Mrs N goes bright red and doesn't know what to do: blurting out "thank you" in a demented kinda way. Two shy peeps I guess, however, it does feel nice but we're only used to hearing it from each other so it confuses us a little.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers."

See in don't get this _iew point. Do you seriously base your self image on the amount of men on the Internet who ask you for sex?

That doesn't seem the healthiest of _iew points as it's a very external source of your identity both women you said this to have stated it's not about what others think it's about what they think.

And the clear bullshit people who want to get their dick wet have told them shows its not a sensible _iew to take.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

See in don't get this _iew point. Do you seriously base your self image on the amount of men on the Internet who ask you for sex?

That doesn't seem the healthiest of _iew points as it's a very external source of your identity both women you said this to have stated it's not about what others think it's about what they think.

And the clear bullshit people who want to get their dick wet have told them shows its not a sensible _iew to take.

You shouldn't assume the boob job is to get me more meets. I do fine thanks. The boob job would be for me, because I don't like whats happened to them.

Obviously I prefer to rely on my winning personality, but we live in the real world here, so I have to rely on being attractive to someone. If I don't feel attractive (whether saggy boobs, or something else), I won't feel relaxed enough to have a successful meet.

This post isn't about validation by men. Its about us talking about how we feel about our faults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pretty surprised at some of the replies on here. Stop moaning about perceived imperfections and either do something about them or learn to love them. Life is too short.

I really wish I could afford the boob job required but just not going to happen, at least not for a while.

You're another one. Stop putting yourself down. Bet you get loads of offers.

See in don't get this _iew point. Do you seriously base your self image on the amount of men on the Internet who ask you for sex?

That doesn't seem the healthiest of _iew points as it's a very external source of your identity both women you said this to have stated it's not about what others think it's about what they think.

And the clear bullshit people who want to get their dick wet have told them shows its not a sensible _iew to take.

You shouldn't assume the boob job is to get me more meets. I do fine thanks. The boob job would be for me, because I don't like whats happened to them.

This post isn't about validation by men. Its about us talking about how we feel about our faults."

Ermm that's exactly what I was saying....

That judging yourself by the amount of meet requests you get from men on the Internet isn't a healthy _iew point.