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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I have a stalker.
He is determined that there is a connection between us and has made numerous profiles both on here, and on kik, in order to talk to me and get round my blocks.
He is generally easy to spot but it's starting to freak me out now.
Logic says that he doesn't know my name or where I live but it's still disturbing.
There is no point changing my ID on here because he will find me through existing veris and friends. Changing my kik will be hard work but I think I need to do that.
At the moment I have screen dumps of each profile he has used to contact me, both here and on kik, and everything he has said and sent. Well all apart from the original messages before his psycho tendencies became clear.
Is there anything else I can do? Apart from stopping worrying?
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I would suggest that not posting about how it is worrying you might be an idea. He knows he is getting to you every time you post. Ignore him and he'll get fed up.  |
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Call the non emergency number for your local police and ask their advice.
Changes in the law have made stalking easier to prosecute and their have been drives to get police forces to take it more seriously.
Perhaps put in your status that someone is stalking you and that you're going to the police about it. Don't name him, just see if this helps.
Some may suggest you get a male friend involved but I think that would just inflame things.
Don't forget to report every new profile as the site rules say that it's not acceptable to do that to get round a block. Reporting them all will mean there is an online record if the police want further evidence.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Contact Admin via one of the mails he has sent. Also contact the police. Tell them all the information.
There have been similar cases and admin have liaised with the police in the past to sort them out. They are apparently very good (admin and the police) and will deal with it accordingly. Good luck. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would stop worrying
I had a stalker that was doing the exact same things. Only difference was I had met him once and he knows my name and where I work.
Fake profiles on here and other sites and on kik too.
I told him I went to the police. He stopped for a while. Then came back. Said I'd get a restraining order. Never heard anything since.
I'd tell him you went to the police. Or go and let them know that there's someone stalking you online. |
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Oh and stop being scared, get angry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Filter your messages so non verifieds can't message you to start with.
Keep gathering the evidence you're gathering, and contact the police. These days police have dedicated teams for online lawbreaking and they'll be able to give you advice. Don't be shy about it being a swinger site, half of them are on here themselves (they're human too) and won't judge you.
Good luck. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Threads and Status Updates fuel the flames, he knows he is getting to you.
Contact admin and the authorities. Don't react, I appreciate it must be worrying but the more you react, the more he will do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just PM'd you  Good luck |
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Out of gbh/kidnap or going to the police?? I'd go down the police route  "
Clearly it wasn't a serious suggestion!
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"Just PM'd you Good luck"
Oooooh, are you the stalker? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doubt he'll get fed up this site should have his ip address and they have some duty of care to make sure weirdo's like this one don't use it to stalk you.
He may also have hacked into your phone and computer so you need both checking out.
Change any passwords but use someone else's computer.
Not trying to panic you here by the way I've had similar for different reasons and they try and fuck up any social life you have via media online.
Report them here make a report to the Police and any other sites this arsehole has bothered you on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out of gbh/kidnap or going to the police?? I'd go down the police route
Clearly it wasn't a serious suggestion!
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clearly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just PM'd you Good luck
Oooooh, are you the stalker?"
No.. but I can be yours if you'd like |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Report any profiles you "think" might be him to Admin...report any offline "stalking" to the police 
Use message filters |
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