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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

focus on your own stuff, you'll be happier in the long run.

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By *oodmessMan  over a year ago

yumsville


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

I have met plenty of couples who aren't afraid of single guys.

Your argument could well be reversed though, that profiles only wanting single men as the woman isn't bi, would mean that the boyfriend or husband is again "controlling". The reality is that people meet who they want, and if they don't want to meet single guys they wont. Profiles do sometimes read as if they are there to pleasure the man, though how many single profiles are there on here from both woman and guys saying 'lick this now' or 'suck this now'. Demands are often as short lived as the profile.

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh

Wow 90% how did you come to that figure?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Yes but you are a single therefore your opinion is not valid , you do not understand !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes but you are a single therefore your opinion is not valid , you do not understand !"

I am in a relationship, I just meet alone. presumptuous

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

90% .....By taking an exit poll !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

How do you know it's 90%. I have to say I know more couples where the guy isnt allowed other women.. or their interactions are limited..

And also to be fair its not always about the guys, there are plenty of women who just want women

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Because they find women attractive as a couple but not men.

Next...

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh


"Yes but you are a single therefore your opinion is not valid , you do not understand !"

Not sure who that's for..... Maybe try quote so we know who your talking to

I was swinging for years as a couple and we mostly met single guys..... Does that mean I was controlling the relationship? Or maybe it was just what we both enjoyed.... Making up random figures and assumptions really doesn't validate your argument

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Exactly my point "You have met so many couples that are not afraid of meeting single guys" ..thus by definition you must have met couples where the male has felt threatens..It isno coincidence that so many couples advertise saying "No single males"..This is WITHOUT doubt the male influence in the partnership ..

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By *LCCCouple  over a year ago

Cambridge

There are some couples that are unicorn seekers, but not really that many. But in that dynamic, the woman wants a woman, and the man wants a woman, so why would they invite a single man? The man isn't interested in playing with another man, and if the woman wants a man then she already has her partner/husband.

I think most couples (not all) are looking for other couples. Then the man get to play with other women, the women can play together if they want, etc. etc. You can do so many more combinations with another couple than you can with just a single guy. You can have a MMF with a couple one night, and a FFM, the next night for example.

Slagging off the male half of a couple won't make them want to play with you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Personally MFM holds little interest to us, but as I am quite happy watching crystal get fucked by other men in 4sums and moresums and have no issue with her playing without me, I think with a degree of confidence I can say that it;s nothing to do with insecurity, jealousy or fear

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There are some couples that are unicorn seekers, but not really that many. But in that dynamic, the woman wants a woman, and the man wants a woman, so why would they invite a single man? The man isn't interested in playing with another man, and if the woman wants a man then she already has her partner/husband.

I think most couples (not all) are looking for other couples. Then the man get to play with other women, the women can play together if they want, etc. etc. You can do so many more combinations with another couple than you can with just a single guy. You can have a MMF with a couple one night, and a FFM, the next night for example.

Slagging off the male half of a couple won't make them want to play with you. "

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Yes but you are a single therefore your opinion is not valid , you do not understand !"

Anyone's opinion is valid.

I'm a guy in a couple.

We're not interested in single women. Rarely couples. When we were more actively meeting we looked for single men.

As do many couples.

So I guess that blows your statement and statistics out of the water.

Is there a motive behind your theory?

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Exactly my point "You have met so many couples that are not afraid of meeting single guys" ..thus by definition you must have met couples where the male has felt threatens..It isno coincidence that so many couples advertise saying "No single males"..This is WITHOUT doubt the male influence in the partnership .."

No its not without a doubt... Sometimes it will be ... Just as some times the women don't want to meet other women. We see a increase of couples wanting girl on girl play and then own partners .... Its there choice although we would choose not to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Exactly my point "You have met so many couples that are not afraid of meeting single guys" ..thus by definition you must have met couples where the male has felt threatens..It isno coincidence that so many couples advertise saying "No single males"..This is WITHOUT doubt the male influence in the partnership .."

Out of interest are you capable of seeing anything beyond your own somewhat limited perspective?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

how patronising

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Ours says no single men purely because we have a queue, no point chatting with new guys it would be months before we could meet them. We're very interested in single men, just not every night!

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh


"Yes but you are a single therefore your opinion is not valid , you do not understand !

Anyone's opinion is valid.

I'm a guy in a couple.

We're not interested in single women. Rarely couples. When we were more actively meeting we looked for single men.

As do many couples.

So I guess that blows your statement and statistics out of the water.

Is there a motive behind your theory?

A"

My thoughts are it seems like a single guy who can't get meets rant

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't think 90% is a fair estimate but sadly I do see some profiles which are for the males half's benefit only.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We used to have no single males on our profile as at that time we werent interested in meeting single males not because ess felt threatened far from it, i had no want for another male at the time.

Now we advertise for only bi males, thats for no reason other than ess being bi but id be interested to hear the psychological reason for this

Peach

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By *LCCCouple  over a year ago

Cambridge

OP I am assuming that you are the male half of the couple. You say that 90% of women are being used and you say you got this figure from an exit pole, presumably from women in couples that you have played with.

So 90% of women told you, after you had sex with them, that it was not consensual and that their partner forced them to do it so they could play with you Mrs?

Why would you continue to play if even one person said that to you? I certainly wouldn't

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By *qua vitaeWoman  over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !"

The 1950's called.

They wanted their attitude back if possible.

A

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By *qua vitaeWoman  over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

I'm always dubious when percentages come into play. I wonder what type of control group was used to make that inference?

I'm also part of a couple on here, having both MFMs and MFFs. My partner is definitely not 'scared stiff' - he like to see me with either men or women and I most definitely like to play with either sex. It's me that controls with whom we meet and what we do. Not pressured in any way.

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By *LCCCouple  over a year ago

Cambridge


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !

The 1950's called.

They wanted their attitude back if possible.

A"

Top quote, Wow! If you are assuming this about all couples you really have a lot to learn.

Bottom quote, brilliant! Please can we send him back for the 50s?

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By *evaquitCouple  over a year ago

Catthorpe

1000% (if it existed) the opposite of that here OP. Zero worries on the male part and no one is being used either. Both in it together for OUR experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Nowt wrong with the 1950s why don't you say the 1940s or 1930s ,or 1820s ,that's just a crass silly comment !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

I'm sure the ladies in couples are able to stand up for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Well Miss Innocent let us hope that for all you ladies out there that the male too can STAND up for himself !!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well Miss Innocent let us hope that for all you ladies out there that the male too can STAND up for himself !!!"

There are pills for that

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !"

Really? Have you never met a couple who are balanced equally? Or a dominant female?

You seem to have a very limited (and perhaps rather sad) view of human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a "female of a couple", who also meets alone, I personally would say a lot of couples have to write "no single males" because I suspect they get inundated with messages otherwise.

And may miss out on the messages they want as a result. (I can't always be bothered to sort through loads of messages.)

For the record, husband and I both meet alone, and together.

It's also very difficult to meet another couples as a couple because then you have having to deal with four lots of attraction.

I find it hard enough finding guys I like, that like me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Here we go using the "sad"word ...Gosh you sound like Einstein !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Here we go using the "sad"word ...Gosh you sound like Einstein !"

Eh? Bit weird. I don't recall Einstein posting about sexual relationships. Maybe I need to do a bit more research.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Yes you do because he wrote a book 're sadness shortly after publishing his paper on relativity . I do not think you are big in the book reading scene !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !"

Are you basing this assumption on the dynamics of your own relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes you do because he wrote a book 're sadness shortly after publishing his paper on relativity . I do not think you are big in the book reading scene !"

Being insulting is reflecting badly on yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

No , ......and !!!!!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !"

Well, if you're not convinced by the vast majority of actual couple's actual experience, then I don't know what I could add to this conversation.

But don't apologise, I suspect it's us who should feel sorry for whatever happened to make you feel this way.

I would instruct Mrs ddc to have her own twopenny'worth, but I'm afraid she's currently in use.

Mr ddc

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Yes you do because he wrote a book 're sadness shortly after publishing his paper on relativity . I do not think you are big in the book reading scene !

Being insulting is reflecting badly on yourselves."

Are you saying his posts would benefit from, say, a 10% input from his wife?

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Excellent comments from one and all ..I am not convinced and feel that , as in almost all aspects of life , the male wants to control and usually for economic reasons the female allows it ...Sorry if you do not agree !

Well, if you're not convinced by the vast majority of actual couple's actual experience, then I don't know what I could add to this conversation.

But don't apologise, I suspect it's us who should feel sorry for whatever happened to make you feel this way.

I would instruct Mrs ddc to have her own twopenny'worth, but I'm afraid she's currently in use.

Mr ddc"

You give her tuppence?

Bugger me! Your economic control is vastly superior to my own - Fox costs me a fortune!

I must be doing something wrong.

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Because they are straight in the couple lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I do have to agree that some men are very selfish and don't want to share their lady unless with another woman for their own kicks..but some women are also selfish and don't want to see their man with another woman.

Each to their own but lots of couples enoy the company of both sexes

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By *luttyslut34Couple  over a year ago

cumbria


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Newest meet 3 yr ago by 2 men..i hope ur husbands self doubt didnt get in the way

Discuss

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Mr ddc

You give her tuppence?

Bugger me! Your economic control is vastly superior to my own - Fox costs me a fortune!

I must be doing something wrong.

A"

Technically its sixpence, but I charge her fourpence for rent.

Obviously for that she has to get up at six in the morning, clean the paper bag she sleeps in, eat a crust of stale bread, go to work down t' mill, fourteen hours a day, week-in week-out, for sixpence a week, and when she gets home our I thrash her to sleep wi' mi belt....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes you do because he wrote a book 're sadness shortly after publishing his paper on relativity . I do not think you are big in the book reading scene !"

It really does help if you use the "quote and Reply" button.

Why do you think I do not read?

I have not read much Einstein, I do confess. However, I cannot find any reference to the book to which you refer on the internet. There were some quotes attributed to him with regard to sadness but they were to do with the Palestinian situation.

I am happy to be corrected. I do not claim 100% knowledge of any subject.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Mr ddc

You give her tuppence?

Bugger me! Your economic control is vastly superior to my own - Fox costs me a fortune!

I must be doing something wrong.

A

Technically its sixpence, but I charge her fourpence for rent.

Obviously for that she has to get up at six in the morning, clean the paper bag she sleeps in, eat a crust of stale bread, go to work down t' mill, fourteen hours a day, week-in week-out, for sixpence a week, and when she gets home our I thrash her to sleep wi' mi belt....

"

Great value for money!!

And you've put a 'but' I front of the 'no single males' - are you utilising this methodology as a performance related bonus for Mrs DDC if she gets the whites white and has your tea on the table within a pre-specified time limit upon your return from managing the mill?

I'm getting some great ideas from this thread on how things should really be!

A

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By *dam_TinaCouple  over a year ago

Hampshire

OP - I was going to read the whole thread but I figured that my response would be the same whether I did or didn't.

Absolute bollocks

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Great value for money!!

And you've put a 'but' I front of the 'no single males' - are you utilising this methodology as a performance related bonus for Mrs DDC if she gets the whites white and has your tea on the table within a pre-specified time limit upon your return from managing the mill?

I'm getting some great ideas from this thread on how things should really be!

A"

I don't know

You set these jokes up, out of the goodness of your own heart, and can you find three other Yorkshiremen to get to the punchline?

If I check your profile Obi, and I discover you're too young to have heard of Monty Python, there's gonna be trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This may throw a spanner in your thinking but I wouldn't mind if we met single males but my wife flat out said no to it.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

Great value for money!!

And you've put a 'but' I front of the 'no single males' - are you utilising this methodology as a performance related bonus for Mrs DDC if she gets the whites white and has your tea on the table within a pre-specified time limit upon your return from managing the mill?

I'm getting some great ideas from this thread on how things should really be!

A

I don't know

You set these jokes up, out of the goodness of your own heart, and can you find three other Yorkshiremen to get to the punchline?

If I check your profile Obi, and I discover you're too young to have heard of Monty Python, there's gonna be trouble!

"

I know them well!

But I've never been t'Yorkshire.

A

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By *jandjbCouple  over a year ago

Nr Manchester

For us the main reason is that we would be inundated with messages from men. We mean what we say in our profile - if we want to meet a single male JB will find him. Occasionally its on a forum but usually its in a club. Also nowadays we want to get to know the man which may mean on a number of occasions in a social setting ie a club.

My OH tells people that when we started swinging she thought I would be the main beneficiary but soon found out that she was.

Him

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

I know them well!

But I've never been t'Yorkshire.

A"

The only trouble we find with single men is that if you put 'no single men' on your profile, the only ones you'll never hear from are the very ones you want to meet. So Mrs ddc does her own searching.

(But no-one tell the OP, he'll think I'm perilously progressive)

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By *evaquitCouple  over a year ago

Catthorpe


"This may throw a spanner in your thinking but I wouldn't mind if we met single males but my wife flat out said no to it."

That's the way we've played 100% so far but been overlooked, lolz.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth

Mr 'DDC' and Obi, you have made my afternoon, I literally laughed out loud

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP - I was going to read the whole thread but I figured that my response would be the same whether I did or didn't.

Absolute bollocks "

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

What a pile of steaming old donkey poo..

I (Jane) don't choose to meet single men because I've got no interest in being fucked by random single men...The bi women we meet are because I (Jane) enjoy having sex with other bi women...no insecurities, no control. I'm able to think and make choices for myself...I can even walk and chew gum at the same time. And the vast majority of our friends are exactly the same...not saying there aren't some people whose dynamic isn't ours but as sweeping generalisations go, yours is way off in our experience

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yes you do because he wrote a book 're sadness shortly after publishing his paper on relativity . I do not think you are big in the book reading scene !

It really does help if you use the "quote and Reply" button.

Why do you think I do not read?

I have not read much Einstein, I do confess. However, I cannot find any reference to the book to which you refer on the internet. There were some quotes attributed to him with regard to sadness but they were to do with the Palestinian situation.

I am happy to be corrected. I do not claim 100% knowledge of any subject."

(m) answering "Albert Einstein hat nie ein buch herausgegeben mit der Sicht der Traurigkeit". Tough - in simple words Albert Einstein never ever wrote a book about "sadness", he discussed in various letters with Sigmund Freud 1933 "Warum Krieg?" (Why War?) but that was all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Of course that is true in some cases. And also vice versa where the woman is controlling her unwilling partner.

I disagree with your opinion that it is 90% of couples but I don't know what the true percentage is so... who knows, you could be right.

The forums are only a small percentage of swinging couples in the UK and therefore not statistically representative. It could be argued that those couples using the forums are the ones that have a truly mutual respect and desire for swinging... whereas those couple profiles that don't contribute to the forums could be run by a controlling male and the female just does as he says.

Discuss....

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss

Of course that is true in some cases. And also vice versa where the woman is controlling her unwilling partner.

I disagree with your opinion that it is 90% of couples but I don't know what the true percentage is so... who knows, you could be right.

The forums are only a small percentage of swinging couples in the UK and therefore not statistically representative. It could be argued that those couples using the forums are the ones that have a truly mutual respect and desire for swinging... whereas those couple profiles that don't contribute to the forums could be run by a controlling male and the female just does as he says.

Discuss.... "

A round thing Eastern Europeans throw further in the Olympics than other nationalities.

Discus

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Omg OP.... You can't just say your right... I have been doing this lifestyle for over 15 years... I have been in a relationship where he was controlling and didn't like me seeing other men. I got rid.

I have in my time met couples that he was in control but mostly I've met couples that are equal or female dominated.

Just because you say it over and over doesn't make you right... It makes it your opinion..

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By *-4pleasureCouple  over a year ago

Belfast


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

You honestly believe that women allow themselves to be controlled like that?

You have a very very low opinion of women - and of couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Ob your statistics are meaningless , no conclusions can be deduced from what you say !

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

Oooh, now you know I like a challenge!

Okay, but lets set the ground-rules:

All profiles that say 'no single males' count for you, but if they have been verified by at least 1 single male, they count for me. All that don't say, count for me, obvs.

You need to score 90% to win, if you win I promise to allow Mrs ddc to do anything she wants to you (tip: wear a cricket box). What do we get if we win?

Mr ddc

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Ok.

That might be the case in some instances but by no means all.

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By *o-jCouple  over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

I'm a bi sexual fem , I already have a man but not a woman .

Maybe the OP is getting lots of offers for the fem but not for himself ?

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

Maybe they state no single males to cut down significantly on unwanted mail and do the searching for a select few themselves?

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!

Oooh, now you know I like a challenge!

Okay, but lets set the ground-rules:

All profiles that say 'no single males' count for you, but if they have been verified by at least 1 single male, they count for me. All that don't say, count for me, obvs.

You need to score 90% to win, if you win I promise to allow Mrs ddc to do anything she wants to you (tip: wear a cricket box). What do we get if we win?

Mr ddc"

But what if all the profiles that say no single males are doing so at the insistence of the woman - and the guys ultimate fantasy is really to see her gangbanged by every 2013 Barclays Premier League player (including subs that didn't play a full game), the Ghurka Regiment, each and every male voice choir member in Wales and that token bloke from the Corrs?

Who gets the points then? Can't be him as he's wrong - but doesn't fit your rules either?

Arrrrrrrgh!! Proving the unprovable is sooooooooo irritating.

Can't we just throw some random statistics out there instead?

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !"

Have you met many couples? presumably you go to clubs, parties and socials and have met with plenty of couples to have based this on?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!

Oooh, now you know I like a challenge!

Okay, but lets set the ground-rules:

All profiles that say 'no single males' count for you, but if they have been verified by at least 1 single male, they count for me. All that don't say, count for me, obvs.

You need to score 90% to win, if you win I promise to allow Mrs ddc to do anything she wants to you (tip: wear a cricket box). What do we get if we win?

Mr ddc

But what if all the profiles that say no single males are doing so at the insistence of the woman - and the guys ultimate fantasy is really to see her gangbanged by every 2013 Barclays Premier League player (including subs that didn't play a full game), the Ghurka Regiment, each and every male voice choir member in Wales and that token bloke from the Corrs?

Who gets the points then? Can't be him as he's wrong - but doesn't fit your rules either?

Arrrrrrrgh!! Proving the unprovable is sooooooooo irritating.

Can't we just throw some random statistics out there instead?

A"

In that instance I'm happy to give him the points regardless.

We have probably interacted with all the closest 50 couples to us, and I'm pretty sure I'll get to the 10% figure just on bisexual men alone!

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !

Have you met many couples? presumably you go to clubs, parties and socials and have met with plenty of couples to have based this on?"

No need.

The word FACT was typed in capitals.

Irrefutable, conclusive and undeniable evidence that simply cannot be argued with.

It's the trump card of trump cards. Even scientists with 'ologys' wouldn't benefit us now.

I feel so deflated.

A

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple  over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

I find this a very strange comment seeing as you yourselves are a couple.

How many couples have you met?

It could of course be that the woman just doesn't want to meet single guys and prefers to just play with women along with her partner.

In all the years we've been on the site we have yet to come across a "controlling" partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Thank you all for taking part in this weeks discussion on the dominant role males play in deciding if another male can bang my wife ...Next weeks discussion will centre around , should greek men be allowed to copulate in the EU if they crash out of the Euro ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !"

I must let Stephen hawking know next time I see him that all those years of research proving theories have been wasted...All he needs to do is make up some turgid old shite not based in any kind of reality and put FACT! in capital letters at the end to make it true...he'll thank me for saving him some time FACT!

And now I'm going out for me tea...FACT! see how easy it is!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !"

You sound like you control your wife. Is she allowed her say or is she tied to the kitchen sink?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !

You sound like you control your wife. Is she allowed her say or is she tied to the kitchen sink?"

(It sounds more like she ran off with the couple they met and he's a little bitter)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !"

So is it an opinion or a FACT? I'm confused

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Firstly, anything which is your opinion "IS NOT FACT"... just your opinion.

As the male half of a couple, I have no issue at all if Anita would like to find a bloke to join us. Generally though, we would go to a club and chat to some blokes to see who she fancies.

On here, we are "Not looking for single men" for the sole reason that it stops us from getting hundreds of random messages from men. If we choose to invite a single man to join us, we will message him. That way he'll not be restricted by the filters.

I believe that this is much the same for many, many other couples. Certainly is a much more accurate generalisation than the "insecurity" issue that you've chosen to project onto others. What makes you feel that the male half of another couple wouldn't be bigger/better/faster or whatever than us too. Why wouldn't we get insecure about them ?

Cal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Janey , do the test I outlined ....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !

You sound like you control your wife. Is she allowed her say or is she tied to the kitchen sink?

(It sounds more like she ran off with the couple they met and he's a little bitter)

"

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Thank you all for taking part in this weeks discussion on the dominant role males play in deciding if another male can bang my wife ...Next weeks discussion will centre around , should greek men be allowed to copulate in the EU if they crash out of the Euro ?"

Can't we do the "All white men want to see their wife tupped by a large bull"?

I'm quite good at that one too

(Though I think if we get you and him on the same thread, the universe might explode)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Janey , do the test I outlined ...."

Why would I bother?

You're not trying to tell me what to do are you?

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple  over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )


"Thank you all for taking part in this weeks discussion on the dominant role males play in deciding if another male can bang my wife ...Next weeks discussion will centre around , should greek men be allowed to copulate in the EU if they crash out of the Euro ?"

Can't we have a kiss fuck or pass thread? They always full up quickly

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Wll Can if my oplnion is 1+1 is 2 does that not make my opinion fact ? Are you saying that an opiion can never be a fact ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

With regard to the other male being better, bigger, stronger, hotter etc etc

For me (male) all the better if he is! What's point in swinging if the sex is gonna be worse than we could have together? In an mmf I can do things to her to enhance her experience that I just can't do alone eg lick her while she is being fucked.

With just us she orgasms most times, a good 95% and we don't use any toys, just from penile sex. If she has the ultimate most jaw dropping, leg wobbling orgasm ever from another guy I'd be highly delighted for her. Our relationship would still be rock solid, we know that 100% so there is no pressure on either of us.

Any guy, any guy at all, all I have to do is say the word and he's dropped immediately, same for me with women, if she says the word they're dropped.

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Also.... you do really miss the who benefit of meeting a couple. When we meet with a couple, we effectively get to experience all of the benefits of a single bloke, a single woman and one of each at the same time. We can have a bit of MMF and a bit of FFM and a bit of MF-MF and of course a bit of MFFM... all in one tidy package. It's like winning the lottery really.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

So this thread is indeed a piss take. Thought so.

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"With regard to the other male being better, bigger, stronger, hotter etc etc

For me (male) all the better if he is! What's point in swinging if the sex is gonna be worse than we could have together? In an mmf I can do things to her to enhance her experience that I just can't do alone eg lick her while she is being fucked.

With just us she orgasms most times, a good 95% and we don't use any toys, just from penile sex. If she has the ultimate most jaw dropping, leg wobbling orgasm ever from another guy I'd be highly delighted for her. Our relationship would still be rock solid, we know that 100% so there is no pressure on either of us.

Any guy, any guy at all, all I have to do is say the word and he's dropped immediately, same for me with women, if she says the word they're dropped."

Well put Tony

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

Those that will agree with your views will post as well. The silent majority are against your view, too. Fantasy land is split. Some dwarf unicorns are in favour but the fairy magician community is on the whole against it. Those were my statistics, anyway. I am so glad that you are confident of yours.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Not all obviously , but a lot do ...FACT...Yes I accept it is only my opinion but opinions are determined by meets and understanding of what goes on in front of your own eyes ! For the record I adore women and think you are by far the greater of the sexes , but for many you are controlled by the male ..Sorry if that hurts !

You sound like you control your wife. Is she allowed her say or is she tied to the kitchen sink?

(It sounds more like she ran off with the couple they met and he's a little bitter)

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Also Canandnita , if you go to a doctor and he says in my opinion I think you have cancer and it later proves one has the disease does that not also prove that an oplion is fact ???? Your logic does not hold water !

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman  over a year ago

Deviant City

op is on a different planet

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just because some couples are male dominated does not mean they all are.

We meet normally once or twice a week... So think we have a bit more experience in actually meeting couples.

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh

This thread has had me

FACT

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

I can't say I've ever had the impression from any couples that the fella is scared stiff his partner might fancy the new male.

I kinda thought that was the point? It'd be pretty grim for the ladies if they were only allowed to swing with guys they don't fancy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Exactly my point "You have met so many couples that are not afraid of meeting single guys" ..thus by definition you must have met couples where the male has felt threatens..It isno coincidence that so many couples advertise saying "No single males"..This is WITHOUT doubt the male influence in the partnership .."

Not always so. It can be the female's choice.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire

Oh-oh, Mrs ddc's home and dinner isn't on't table . One of us is in the dog-house OP, and I'm not covering for you.

(I know who wears the trousers in our house)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

You may write in capitals all you like but it does not make you right.

The couples who say "no single males" are usually trying to limit the deluge of messages rather than actually not wanting to see single guys.

They put that and also adjust their filters and then they browse at leasure to find the single males they actually want.

You are wrong. Sorry. But you are.

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By *LCCCouple  over a year ago

Cambridge

But OP, "no SINGLE males" is not the same as "no males" so your whole argument goes out the window

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But OP, "no SINGLE males" is not the same as "no males" so your whole argument goes out the window "

^ winning

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Far from the case here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We don't meet single males because there's nothing of interest in it for me (Mr) if I want to see Mrs N being fucked, we'll invite a couple and I have a female to play with too. Simples

Your opening statement seems a bit sweeping and can't be backed up by fact.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

OP, could this view be skewed by your personal experience? Most are of course, it's called perception.

The number of profiles that say 'no single males' will be factual though it seems unlikely your personal research (90%?) will be definitive. What is clearly conjecture however, is the motive. You have suggested a hypothesis and invited discussion. A quick scan suggests that almost every reponse has suggested you are, at least in scale terms, wrong.

You, in a less than scientific way are suggesting that the evidence you are right is there but hidden from our eyes. The Higgs Boson of swinging as it were?

Here's what I think. Couples can select single men quite easily. Most have learned that to filter them out saves hassle. We have 'no single males' on our profile and yet have engaged in MMF at clubs a number of times (and never FFM). Could it be that a man with a tendency to grumpiness who is a little over the average age might just have statistics against him. For instance, my wife is totally at liberty to choose to involve you in our swinging, she just wouldn't. How would you tell the difference at your end I wonder?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I know of two contrasting viewpoints on this subject as a result of conversations directly with one member of the couple in each case. One couple would not meet single males because the lady did not want too whereas the bloke did. The other couple the lady wanted to meet single males but the bloke did not. This is not scientific proof of any pattern obviously but does show that some couples at the very least aren't able to agree on what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This is possibly the most patronising post we've EVER seen ( capitals seem to make things fact apparently....)

All it screams is bitterness stemming from personal issues.

Has anyone taken anything from this other than an insight into the OP's character?

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I know of two contrasting viewpoints on this subject as a result of conversations directly with one member of the couple in each case. One couple would not meet single males because the lady did not want too whereas the bloke did. The other couple the lady wanted to meet single males but the bloke did not. This is not scientific proof of any pattern obviously but does show that some couples at the very least aren't able to agree on what they want."

It isn't really something you can compromise on though. One person will always be doing something they don't want to do. Better in my opinion anyway not to do it, there's agreement there.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman  over a year ago

gosport ish


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"
Wow that's a hell of a sweeping statement op, you sound very bitter! And yes I have been on here previously with husband and your statement is rubbish

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh

I don't know why anyone is still posting, op has made it clear that anyone who disagrees with him is wrong

FACT

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wll Can if my oplnion is 1+1 is 2 does that not make my opinion fact ? Are you saying that an opiion can never be a fact ... "

I recall Hitler had an opinion or two as well....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't know why anyone is still posting, op has made it clear that anyone who disagrees with him is wrong

FACT "

Cos it makes for good sport

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know of two contrasting viewpoints on this subject as a result of conversations directly with one member of the couple in each case. One couple would not meet single males because the lady did not want too whereas the bloke did. The other couple the lady wanted to meet single males but the bloke did not. This is not scientific proof of any pattern obviously but does show that some couples at the very least aren't able to agree on what they want.

It isn't really something you can compromise on though. One person will always be doing something they don't want to do. Better in my opinion anyway not to do it, there's agreement there."

Lol

Completely agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ignore the lol. Was a bad paste.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This is possibly the most patronising post we've EVER seen ( capitals seem to make things fact apparently....)

All it screams is bitterness stemming from personal issues.

Has anyone taken anything from this other than an insight into the OP's character?"

Yes.

Mr DDC is better at economics than me.

And that 67.6% of statistics are made up 53.5% of the time according to 35.6% of people I couldn't be arse to survey.

A

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By *ustcutieWoman  over a year ago

edinburgh


"I don't know why anyone is still posting, op has made it clear that anyone who disagrees with him is wrong

FACT

Cos it makes for good sport "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This is possibly the most patronising post we've EVER seen ( capitals seem to make things fact apparently....)

All it screams is bitterness stemming from personal issues.

Has anyone taken anything from this other than an insight into the OP's character?

Yes.

Mr DDC is better at economics than me.

And that 67.6% of statistics are made up 53.5% of the time according to 35.6% of people I couldn't be arse to survey.

A"

That sounds a 100% made up

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This is possibly the most patronising post we've EVER seen ( capitals seem to make things fact apparently....)

All it screams is bitterness stemming from personal issues.

Has anyone taken anything from this other than an insight into the OP's character?

Yes.

Mr DDC is better at economics than me.

And that 67.6% of statistics are made up 53.5% of the time according to 35.6% of people I couldn't be arse to survey.

A

That sounds a 100% made up "

Would it sound more convincing if I put 'FACT' after it?

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This is possibly the most patronising post we've EVER seen ( capitals seem to make things fact apparently....)

All it screams is bitterness stemming from personal issues.

Has anyone taken anything from this other than an insight into the OP's character?

Yes.

Mr DDC is better at economics than me.

And that 67.6% of statistics are made up 53.5% of the time according to 35.6% of people I couldn't be arse to survey.

A

That sounds a 100% made up

Would it sound more convincing if I put 'FACT' after it?

A"

Absolutely. I'd believe it to be true if I see it. FACT

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By *dam_TinaCouple  over a year ago

Hampshire

OP you're missing a vital trick here. You're only doing half the job when you state FACT.......you also need to put 'end of'.

Then we have no choice but to agree with you

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

We love single men because Mr is bi, so that solves that one. I think most women these days can decide what they want and are not coerced into anything sexual, at least on here. When I was a newbie here, in a couple, not this one, I was not keen, but that was because of the relationship with my then partner and our dynamic. After we split, I stayed on here as a single woman and actually spent a lot of time exploring my sexuality for my own needs and purposes. Now, since I have met Mr my needs have changed as he meets a lot of them, and I only meet women alone. When we do meet, most often at a club, we do it together. By the way, I don't think he will mind me saying, I am the breadwinner, he is the homemaker --- thank goodness we are not in the 1950s or I would be in big trouble because I can't do housework to save my life, but I am ace at doing my job and buy a lot of takeaways. I decide who we meet and he likes it that way ... lucky for him I am not a controlling person or in any way jealous or insecure, so I encourage him to play with who he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But but but , you are I am afraid all wrong .. It is a given that mostly only those that oppose my views will reply to my topic (due to the fact that it has hit a nerve, along with the fact that you feel you are 21st centuary sophisticated people with open minds ) ..Ok do not take my word for it ...Do a test of say fifty couples on this site and see how many say "No single males" .... (NO CHEATING).....I have no doubt that most will say no single males at the insistance of the male involved in the couple ...I do realise that only those that do not agree with me will reply , and the silent majority will stay silent ...I AM RIGHT!"

you seem to be missing the point here, just because it says no single males doesnt mean that the reason is a controlling partner who doesnt want a male involved.

Could you provide some evidence to validate your view? Like some kind of actual proof that the reason is a controlling/insecure partner?

I dont know the percentage of couples where it works like that but it cant be 90%

We have been on and off here for the last three years and spoke to only a few couples where it could possibly be that dynamic, surely would be more if the figure was 90%

Anyway im babbling.

Peach

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Ha ha Boney , just as long as she lets you know Yes ?... Please explain the old Higgy to me , I doubt ,in FACT I know you can not ...Lets start with electrons and go from there , although that is about 20 steps from the real start .... What is the material that is first used to prove The Higgy ?...

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?"

And so did the hero from Bugs From Mars. It just goes to prove that bag from ummijig makes haggil from dragil soop.

Calm down, OP. Take the medication. You know you should. It will be better in the morning.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?"

If you press the quote button we'll all know who you are replying to

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?

If you press the quote button we'll all know who you are replying to "

I tried that but he was not listening. Agh.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Is it just me or does anyone else think the OP writes in a similar style to a recently unlos forumite?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Is it just me or does anyone else think the OP writes in a similar style to a recently unlos forumite? "

Let's wait for a bucket fanny thread

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Also Canandnita , if you go to a doctor and he says in my opinion I think you have cancer and it later proves one has the disease does that not also prove that an oplion is fact ???? Your logic does not hold water !"

A doctor is qualified to have opinions on medical matters. Also the doctor will then arrange for the correct procedure in order to obtain a confirmation either way. If you have cancer it will only then be fact.

However, your statements are your opinion rather than fact.

Unless you are able to ask a large enough sample group and are a qualified statistician; I regret your figures are inaccurate and frankly irrelevant.

Or to quote another poster "utter bollocks"

BTW I have an AS level in Statistics

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Hants you are so laid back , yer ? Bet you even went to The Stones concert in Hyde Park in 1969 ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Is it just me or does anyone else think the OP writes in a similar style to a recently unlos forumite?

Let's wait for a bucket fanny thread "

Not just me then.......

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Is it just me or does anyone else think the OP writes in a similar style to a recently unlos forumite? "

Who?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

BUT ....Mr Statistician the fact that an opinion becomes a fact does not detract from the fact that the opinion was a fact ...Got a feeling that your education was well and truly wasted ...Tell you what Mr Statistician why not do your stuff using your representative samples in the next election with your fellow statisticians and prove me wrong ! You should have done Media Studies ! Much more useful !

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Is it just me or does anyone else think the OP writes in a similar style to a recently unlos forumite?

Who?"

No.

Tom's still here.

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Quite happy for the good lady to meet other guys ,little chance meeting single gems so just roll with it a pleasure to see her being pleasures by me and another guy get up from me

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple  over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

Blimey is this still going?

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Blimey is this still going? "

It's a slow news day.

A

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"BUT ....Mr Statistician the fact that an opinion becomes a fact does not detract from the fact that the opinion was a fact ...Got a feeling that your education was well and truly wasted ...Tell you what Mr Statistician why not do your stuff using your representative samples in the next election with your fellow statisticians and prove me wrong ! You should have done Media Studies ! Much more useful !"

The opinion of the Doctor is not FACT at any point, it is still his opinion. If you were actually proven to have a cancer after further tests, your doctor would no longer express his opinion on the matter but state his accurate clinical diagnosis.... which would in FACT be factual.

There is also no need to be rude and the previous post was made by Mrs Statastician

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By *alandNitaCouple  over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Also..... If the Doctor had been wrong, his opinion would have still been his opinion at the time that he made it, when in FACT he was completely wrong.

FACT

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By *qua vitaeWoman  over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

An opinion is only someone's interpretation of the evidence brought before them. Doesn't mean it's a fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

But in the scenario I gave you it was NOT wrong and therefore was FACT !......Was it a fact that some philosophers believed the earth went around the sun ,has their opinions now be proven to be fact ! Just like me !..Fact can be backdated !

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple  over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )


"Blimey is this still going?

It's a slow news day.

A"

Is that a FACT?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But in the scenario I gave you it was NOT wrong and therefore was FACT !......Was it a fact that some philosophers believed the earth went around the sun ,has their opinions now be proven to be fact ! Just like me !..Fact can be backdated !

"

Your OP said it was your opinion, nowhere in the OP did it say it was fact.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"But in the scenario I gave you it was NOT wrong and therefore was FACT !......Was it a fact that some philosophers believed the earth went around the sun ,has their opinions now be proven to be fact ! Just like me !..Fact can be backdated !

"

Big fact hunt.

I once said that down the phone on a slightly dodgy line.

Took me ages to realise why they hung up on me.

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I do have to agree that some men are very selfish and don't want to share their lady unless with another woman for their own kicks..but some women are also selfish and don't want to see their man with another woman.

Each to their own but lots of couples enoy the company of both sexes"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?"

At this stage, explaining the point is beyond the bounds of your imagination, intellect and certainly ego...

Only our opinion of course, which by your own argument must be fact

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By *LCCCouple  over a year ago

Cambridge

As I said before, the OP is only basing this on the women he has played with.

Initially I thought it was unlikely that 90% of women who slept with him were forced, now the thread has continued, I have changed my OPINION, and can believe that 90% of the people the OP has slept with were coerced!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But in the scenario I gave you it was NOT wrong and therefore was FACT !......Was it a fact that some philosophers believed the earth went around the sun ,has their opinions now be proven to be fact ! Just like me !..Fact can be backdated !

"

I think you should let your "wife"speak now.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The OP is for a FACT a single man. It is my opinion & my opinion is FACT.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"But in the scenario I gave you it was NOT wrong and therefore was FACT !......Was it a fact that some philosophers believed the earth went around the sun ,has their opinions now be proven to be fact ! Just like me !..Fact can be backdated !

"

Lol. If your facts were actually right you wouldn't have so many people saying you are factually incorrect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Goodnight to you all and I am glad my topic proved truly controversial . I fully expected the furious assault by the ladies which confirms that my opinion is in fact , fact .I notice that the lads had verry little to say on the subject and I wonder why ! Just because the rabble disagree with a point usually means that their is a good bit of truth in what is being said ... Take care to you all XX

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As I said before, the OP is only basing this on the women he has played with.

Initially I thought it was unlikely that 90% of women who slept with him were forced, now the thread has continued, I have changed my OPINION, and can believe that 90% of the people the OP has slept with were coerced! "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Goodnight to you all and I am glad my topic proved truly controversial . I fully expected the furious assault by the ladies which confirms that my opinion is in fact , fact .I notice that the lads had verry little to say on the subject and I wonder why ! Just because the rabble disagree with a point usually means that their is a good bit of truth in what is being said ... Take care to you all XX"

Oh i get it now............a windup merchant

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Goodnight to you all and I am glad my topic proved truly controversial . I fully expected the furious assault by the ladies which confirms that my opinion is in fact , fact .I notice that the lads had verry little to say on the subject and I wonder why ! Just because the rabble disagree with a point usually means that their is a good bit of truth in what is being said ... Take care to you all XX"

The wives wouldn't let them express their opinions

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Goodnight to you all and I am glad my topic proved truly controversial . I fully expected the furious assault by the ladies which confirms that my opinion is in fact , fact .I notice that the lads had verry little to say on the subject and I wonder why ! Just because the rabble disagree with a point usually means that their is a good bit of truth in what is being said ... Take care to you all XX"

Night sun will be up tomorrow

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo


"Thank you all for taking part in this weeks discussion on the dominant role males play in deciding if another male can bang my wife ...Next weeks discussion will centre around , should greek men be allowed to copulate in the EU if they crash out of the Euro ?"

I won't be able to sleep with excitement

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By *ifes journeyCouple  over a year ago

scotland

opinions say more about the person than anything else sometimes....just saying op

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Woops before you all get on the spelling bandwagon , their should have read there ...I know what sticklers you all are for good english ! Ha ha

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Thank you all for taking part in this weeks discussion on the dominant role males play in deciding if another male can bang my wife ...Next weeks discussion will centre around , should greek men be allowed to copulate in the EU if they crash out of the Euro ?

I won't be able to sleep with excitement"

If they are allowed to copulate but are Catholic, unable to use condoms and as such have to rely on the withdrawal method.............

Will it be locally renamed as the 'Grexit' method?

A

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By *ifes journeyCouple  over a year ago

scotland


"opinions say more about the person than anything else sometimes....just saying op"

Obvious can be said on here ya know

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire

Blimey I can't believe I nearly FACT it up and missed the end of this thread!

Anyway:


"And so did Nelson Mandela ....And your point is ?"

I'm lost.

Is this today's entry for the "non-sequitur of the day" award?

Mr.ddc

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire

Anyway I've done my homework OP:

Within 5 miles of us there are 13 couples seeking men, 26 seeking women, 31 seeking couples.

Do I win a Mars Bar?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Anyway I've done my homework OP:

Within 5 miles of us there are 13 couples seeking men, 26 seeking women, 31 seeking couples.

Do I win a Mars Bar?

"

A fun size one, that's about as good as it gets

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple  over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Anyway I've done my homework OP:

Within 5 miles of us there are 13 couples seeking men, 26 seeking women, 31 seeking couples.

Do I win a Mars Bar?

A fun size one, that's about as good as it gets "

I'm hoping at least for a personalised insult, everyone else got one and I'm feeling a bit left out

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so so many men in the couple environment insist "No single men" but in the same breath want to meet bi females !..My opinion , for what it is worth , is that 90% of females in a couple environment are being used by the male .The male is scared stiff that his partner might fancy the new male on the scene .. Ladies please don't be taken in by your controlling boy friend /husband just because of their self doubts ....Discuss"

Can't agree - we do meet single men - but search them out when the lady is in the mood so, our profile looks as though we don't. The reason for that is simple - as with many couples - we get inundated with messages from single men if we have them on there and click on 'meet today'- just makes sense for us to look for the single men that may suit us - hope that makes sense

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'm at a loss as to what to do now, now I've come to the end

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Anyway I've done my homework OP:

Within 5 miles of us there are 13 couples seeking men, 26 seeking women, 31 seeking couples.

Do I win a Mars Bar?

A fun size one, that's about as good as it gets

I'm hoping at least for a personalised insult, everyone else got one and I'm feeling a bit left out

"

I haven't had one yet

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm at a loss as to what to do now, now I've come to the end "

Start part 2?

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I'm at a loss as to what to do now, now I've come to the end

Start part 2? "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm at a loss as to what to do now, now I've come to the end

Start part 2?

Lol "

It's either that or another fuck kiss avoid

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman  over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I'm at a loss as to what to do now, now I've come to the end

Start part 2?

Lol

It's either that or another fuck kiss avoid "

They get confusing as some don't play the above and do whoever they want on the thread...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Kiss, fuck and avoid having to leave

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