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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One lie does tend to be followed another 
You get to a point where you start to question everything that is said and done and once trust is lost then you might as well pack the whole lot in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
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very true!!! They don't care as long as they get their leg over haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
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why do you think they get more meets?
I find sometimes, that they actually don't get many...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think? "
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.  |
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By *4STYWoman
over a year ago
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It's definitely I turn off me, a big liar. But than again I don't like meeting married (or with gf) guys.
But than again why do I need to know you married or have a gf. Best to keep that private unless we intend to be seeing each on a regular basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think? "
I agree - I'm open about my situation, and I suspect that I do OK because of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because they'll be mercilessly pulled apart (if they're male) if they're upfront about being married? Or is that just the forums and not the rest of the site?
I agree it would be better to be honest, but based on some recent threads that only appears to apply to certain things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer. "
well if you want to be restrained, try out new and different things which make you feel mentally vulnerable etc... It's not all about lying back and getting a basic fuck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because they'll be mercilessly pulled apart (if they're male) if they're upfront about being married? Or is that just the forums and not the rest of the site?
I agree it would be better to be honest, but based on some recent threads that only appears to apply to certain things."
definitely more shit on the forums than elsewhere on the site!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think? "
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
why do you think they get more meets?
I find sometimes, that they actually don't get many... "
I've found it to be the opposite actually. They spurt all the shit. Many believe it. They get their fuck. She's suddenly amazed that he lied to get a shag.
Think i've been an agony aunt to many and that's where i'm coming from.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer. "
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx"
Ps - many of my friends are couples - so not suggesting couples don't make friends here too!  |
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One thing which i don't like. And i hope many don't take this the wromg way as it may sound a bit bitchy. But, it's one of my pet hates.
I really don't understand why after they've found out a guy has been lying (usually after someone has told them and it's quite clear from the outset, even when they explain it to me that the guy is chatting bullshit to get himself a fuck) they think to themselves 'now he cant meet me anymore and i've ended it. I win'.
Erm, no you don't. Regardless. He's fucked ya. Got what he wanted. Doesn't matter to him no more.
(I'm on a proper rant today aren't i?)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer. well if you want to be restrained, try out new and different things which make you feel mentally vulnerable etc... It's not all about lying back and getting a basic fuck"
Lol @ basic fuck
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. "
I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?! |
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"Totally agree with you, but then if they cannot be honest with the ones they are cheating on, then I cant expect them to be honest with me either!!!!!"
Agree!
I have cannot accommodate on my profile this is because I have two children who sometimes stay with me if I am home or they go to there mums when I am not.
I do want to protect my kids but the amount of people who think that I am married or have a girlfriend or have something to hide is ridiculously!
Maybe they have trust issues or had a bad experience from before.
If I had a a gf I hope she would be on here with me!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with you there Peach. That's what i'm looking for. Can't do that with someone who is lying.
I'm a shit liar anyway. Can't lie if my life depended on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie."
That's just not true. Perhaps married guys are actually just better at this than the single guys that have an expectation that this place is instashag. I could realistically meet someone every couple of weeks if I put my mind to it, it isn't as hard as the guys here portray. Or just perhaps you underestimate the number of women here that are happy to meet married guys but don't shout about it in the forums. |
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"You often find out when they say on a meet........please dont mark me.........
But I've got sensitive skin and scar easily   "
lol....you know when they mean it as far as ....god I dont want my other half to see.....because I cannot explain how those marks got on that part of my body......lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx
Ps - many of my friends are couples - so not suggesting couples don't make friends here too! "
Sometimes marrieds even make friends too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You often find out when they say on a meet........please dont mark me.........
But I've got sensitive skin and scar easily
lol....you know when they mean it as far as ....god I dont want my other half to see.....because I cannot explain how those marks got on that part of my body......lol"
getting undressed in the dark helps |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"You often find out when they say on a meet........please dont mark me........."
Don't know about that we have been with men who have been childish enough to try to give B a love bite.
What adult wants to walk about town displaying a love bite?
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"Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
why do you think they get more meets?
I find sometimes, that they actually don't get many...
I've found it to be the opposite actually. They spurt all the shit. Many believe it. They get their fuck. She's suddenly amazed that he lied to get a shag.
Think i've been an agony aunt to many and that's where i'm coming from.
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Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing which i don't like. And i hope many don't take this the wromg way as it may sound a bit bitchy. But, it's one of my pet hates.
I really don't understand why after they've found out a guy has been lying (usually after someone has told them and it's quite clear from the outset, even when they explain it to me that the guy is chatting bullshit to get himself a fuck) they think to themselves 'now he cant meet me anymore and i've ended it. I win'.
Erm, no you don't. Regardless. He's fucked ya. Got what he wanted. Doesn't matter to him no more.
(I'm on a proper rant today aren't i?)
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What if the sex was amazing. How gutted would they be then eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You often find out when they say on a meet........please dont mark me......... I hate being marked, and I'm single lol  "
I have family I have had to explain bite marks and bruises to. I forget about some bite marks on my back once and my granddaughter came into the bathroom and asked to wash my back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx
Ps - many of my friends are couples - so not suggesting couples don't make friends here too!
Sometimes marrieds even make friends too..."
That was my comment underneath lovely! A lot of my friends on here are couples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Welcome to fab swingers in my experience 90% of the people on here are liars and the other 10% don't tell the truth. I have never lied to get a shag *cough cough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because they'll be mercilessly pulled apart (if they're male) if they're upfront about being married? Or is that just the forums and not the rest of the site?
I agree it would be better to be honest, but based on some recent threads that only appears to apply to certain things."
Probably just on the forums... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Welcome to fab swingers in my experience 90% of the people on here are liars and the other 10% don't tell the truth. I have never lied to get a shag *cough cough "
I'm trying to work out where I fit in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm no one's moral guardian. What they choose to do is purely up to them. I have no feelings of guilt regarding their decisions. I would prefer to know but if they choose not to tell me then that's up to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer.
I think fab is slightly different for singles than it is for couples though guys!
Couples tend to just be looking for extra sexual partners to spice up their sex lives!
Many singles - including me - are here for friendship as well as great sex - often with regular partners - and for that it's important to have honesty and trust!! Xx
Ps - many of my friends are couples - so not suggesting couples don't make friends here too!
Sometimes marrieds even make friends too...
That was my comment underneath lovely! A lot of my friends on here are couples! "
I meant married people here solo. Cheaters. One of the OPs questions was about motivations for such people to be here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So many men here to empty their balls and so many needy women. I'm surprised there aren't more crash and burns.
Sorry if that sounds brutal, but there is a harsh reality to the fab game. That said, there are some cracking people here too! |
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"Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on. "
I'd agree with this, except I would broaden it further to include some women and couples too, and possibly narrow the men down to 'some' too. In addition some people almost lie to themselves about what they are looking for on here.
I suspect the forums magnify an issue that is probably less of an issue for those that use the meets section, and even less for those that use clubs.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on.
I'd agree with this, except I would broaden it further to include some women and couples too, and possibly narrow the men down to 'some' too. In addition some people almost lie to themselves about what they are looking for on here.
I suspect the forums magnify an issue that is probably less of an issue for those that use the meets section, and even less for those that use clubs.
Mr ddc"
Totally agree with this! There are many people who lie to themselves about what they want from this and what they are here for.. I don't understand that mentality. I just think on this kind of site, surely you would be better off telling the truth and being someone who actually wants to have sex and/or socialize with you?! Lol
Otherwise you may as well pay for it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Possibly because some on here rip them to pieces if they are here without their partners knowledge even if they just say hi so are not forthcoming about it and I don't blame them with some of the threads I've seen in the past. |
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?! "
I think most of the marrieds on here are indeed in loveless/sexless situations. It isn't just about sex, it is often about being desired. It is a solitary place to be in a marraige and know you aren't wanted sexually. If love is still there, it will survive, but not without some heartache. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on.
I'd agree with this, except I would broaden it further to include some women and couples too, and possibly narrow the men down to 'some' too. In addition some people almost lie to themselves about what they are looking for on here.
I suspect the forums magnify an issue that is probably less of an issue for those that use the meets section, and even less for those that use clubs.
Mr ddc
Totally agree with this! There are many people who lie to themselves about what they want from this and what they are here for.. I don't understand that mentality. I just think on this kind of site, surely you would be better off telling the truth and being someone who actually wants to have sex and/or socialize with you?! Lol
Otherwise you may as well pay for it... "
Is this thread something you're actually curious about or is it a dig at a specific person who has presumably lied to you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Possibly because some on here rip them to pieces if they are here without their partners knowledge even if they just say hi so are not forthcoming about it and I don't blame them with some of the threads I've seen in the past."
fair enough, some forumites accept it amongst "some of their own", but not in others..
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?!
I think most of the marrieds on here are indeed in loveless/sexless situations. It isn't just about sex, it is often about being desired. It is a solitary place to be in a marraige and know you aren't wanted sexually. If love is still there, it will survive, but not without some heartache."
totally agree. My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol |
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"Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on.
I'd agree with this, except I would broaden it further to include some women and couples too, and possibly narrow the men down to 'some' too. In addition some people almost lie to themselves about what they are looking for on here.
I suspect the forums magnify an issue that is probably less of an issue for those that use the meets section, and even less for those that use clubs.
Mr ddc
Totally agree with this! There are many people who lie to themselves about what they want from this and what they are here for.. I don't understand that mentality. I just think on this kind of site, surely you would be better off telling the truth and being someone who actually wants to have sex and/or socialize with you?! Lol
Otherwise you may as well pay for it...
Is this thread something you're actually curious about or is it a dig at a specific person who has presumably lied to you? "
Would you rather I wrote a post about how to stuff a mushroom? How long to cook a sausage? How does one make gravy?
No dig, I'm just asking a question. Forums seem to be massively different to the rest of the site in my experience.
I don't have an issue with married people on here. But I would rather I knew in advance so that if a partner were to ever ring me/whatsapp/message on here, I wouldn't be left thinking "wtf", and trying to cover tracks. Especially if I had met them numerous times etc. |
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?!
I think most of the marrieds on here are indeed in loveless/sexless situations. It isn't just about sex, it is often about being desired. It is a solitary place to be in a marraige and know you aren't wanted sexually. If love is still there, it will survive, but not without some heartache. totally agree. My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol "
Sometimes, all the effort in the world isn't enough though. It has to be a mutual thing so, if one party refuses, game over. What to do then? I understand about the pregnancy periods. I accepted the lack of attention in those days. It is when it has lasted decades afterwards that you doubt your own sense of self worth. I don't see the point in hiding the truth on profiles here, as the truth will out sooner or later. At least people can make informed choices, or be judgemental, or both. |
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"Welcome to fab swingers in my experience 90% of the people on here are liars and the other 10% don't tell the truth. I have never lied to get a shag *cough cough
I'm trying to work out where I fit in "
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?!
I think most of the marrieds on here are indeed in loveless/sexless situations. It isn't just about sex, it is often about being desired. It is a solitary place to be in a marraige and know you aren't wanted sexually. If love is still there, it will survive, but not without some heartache. totally agree. My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol
Sometimes, all the effort in the world isn't enough though. It has to be a mutual thing so, if one party refuses, game over. What to do then? I understand about the pregnancy periods. I accepted the lack of attention in those days. It is when it has lasted decades afterwards that you doubt your own sense of self worth. I don't see the point in hiding the truth on profiles here, as the truth will out sooner or later. At least people can make informed choices, or be judgemental, or both."
I totally agree.
The thing which I think annoys me about it, is that there will ALWAYS be something that someone who doesn't want to meet you won't like.. Whether you are in a relationship or not, in my opinion, is just another of those things. So why hide it?
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
I don't care what their motives are. It's hardly new news that people cheat. Everyone has their own reasons that would take too much brain power to dissect to understand. Some people won't understand or be empathetic or sympathetic. If you just want to slag off cheaters it's been done to death. That's the collective you not you personally. I'm not slagging off cheaters. I'm wondering what they get out of it, other than the obvious.. They can't all be in loveless/sexless partnerships surely?!
I think most of the marrieds on here are indeed in loveless/sexless situations. It isn't just about sex, it is often about being desired. It is a solitary place to be in a marraige and know you aren't wanted sexually. If love is still there, it will survive, but not without some heartache. totally agree. My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol
Sometimes, all the effort in the world isn't enough though. It has to be a mutual thing so, if one party refuses, game over. What to do then? I understand about the pregnancy periods. I accepted the lack of attention in those days. It is when it has lasted decades afterwards that you doubt your own sense of self worth. I don't see the point in hiding the truth on profiles here, as the truth will out sooner or later. At least people can make informed choices, or be judgemental, or both. I totally agree.
The thing which I think annoys me about it, is that there will ALWAYS be something that someone who doesn't want to meet you won't like.. Whether you are in a relationship or not, in my opinion, is just another of those things. So why hide it?
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"Yup, and this happens in all categories - single, attached, married.....sadly many men have simply learned to say what they think women want to hear to such an extent that they are virtually never straight with anyone. There is a lot of deception going on.
I'd agree with this, except I would broaden it further to include some women and couples too, and possibly narrow the men down to 'some' too. In addition some people almost lie to themselves about what they are looking for on here.
I suspect the forums magnify an issue that is probably less of an issue for those that use the meets section, and even less for those that use clubs.
Mr ddc
Totally agree with this! There are many people who lie to themselves about what they want from this and what they are here for.. I don't understand that mentality. I just think on this kind of site, surely you would be better off telling the truth and being someone who actually wants to have sex and/or socialize with you?! Lol
Otherwise you may as well pay for it...
Is this thread something you're actually curious about or is it a dig at a specific person who has presumably lied to you?
Would you rather I wrote a post about how to stuff a mushroom? How long to cook a sausage? How does one make gravy?
No dig, I'm just asking a question. Forums seem to be massively different to the rest of the site in my experience.
I don't have an issue with married people on here. But I would rather I knew in advance so that if a partner were to ever ring me/whatsapp/message on here, I wouldn't be left thinking "wtf", and trying to cover tracks. Especially if I had met them numerous times etc. "
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" . My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol "
I hadn't realised that, sorry. Now I feel like my usual blundering fool
(I'd use the phrase 'bull in a chinashop' but apparently bull means something else here too )
I guess some people aren't thinking ahead sufficiently to think through what happens when it all comes out. The really heartbreaking moments come when single man, just looking for fun (but maybe more with the right person) meets single lady, also just looking for fun (but maybe more with the right person) and each blind themselves to the presence, or absence, of the brackets, and then blame each other.
Some lies are understandable, we have certainly been evasive about our vanilla lives during meets, so we understand that others will too, but I agree with your opening bit that life would be easier if we all felt we could be 100% honest all the time.
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think? "
Yes i agree OP, can't stand liars, prefer people to be honest and upfront about their relationship status. |
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As I've said before, I used to have that: I am married and that whilst my partner is happily aware she doesn't get involved, on my profile.
I took it off when I got fed up of messages asking would she watch, would she be there, would she change her mind if she saw their cock and so on.
The end result was I made no secret of being married, but didn't broadcast it, either.
How it works for us, is that she has a chap she sees and I have this. It works fairly well. |
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"So many men here to empty their balls and so many needy women. I'm surprised there aren't more crash and burns.
Sorry if that sounds brutal, but there is a harsh reality to the fab game. That said, there are some cracking people here too! "
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" . My husband cheated on me with someone online when I was pregnant... Because in his words, I "wasn't giving him attention"... if he had put the same amount of effort into bedding her as he did me, then perhaps we would still be together! Lol
I hadn't realised that, sorry. Now I feel like my usual blundering fool
(I'd use the phrase 'bull in a chinashop' but apparently bull means something else here too )
I guess some people aren't thinking ahead sufficiently to think through what happens when it all comes out. The really heartbreaking moments come when single man, just looking for fun (but maybe more with the right person) meets single lady, also just looking for fun (but maybe more with the right person) and each blind themselves to the presence, or absence, of the brackets, and then blame each other.
Some lies are understandable, we have certainly been evasive about our vanilla lives during meets, so we understand that others will too, but I agree with your opening bit that life would be easier if we all felt we could be 100% honest all the time.
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oh no need to feel like that!!! Don't be silly I'm all cool now. But having been the partner who "doesn't know", to then find out, is heartbreaking. hence why I think it is an important thing to mention up front.
You don't need to know the ins and outs of everyone's vanilla life, but I do feel that if you are meeting someone regularly then it should be made known. I understand some people don't give a flying fuck, but I would hate to ever make someone feel like I did that day! |
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What do I think?
I think some people are capable of lying about all sorts of things on and off here and I can't understand why some people are surprised by that.
And to me ~ the married ones have been far more honest & upfront ( reiterate towards me ) about their intentions / expectations than some of the single guys I have met.
I for one, ask for no more.
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"What do I think?
I think some people are capable of lying about all sorts of things on and off here and I can't understand why some people are surprised by that.
And to me ~ the married ones have been far more honest & upfront ( reiterate towards me ) about their intentions / expectations than some of the single guys I have met.
I for one, ask for no more.
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Dammit - I'm one year outside of your age range! |
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"Yep, i don't understand why many lie. But, truth be told. Those who lie, tend to get more meets actually.
Yeah, once they've been found out it doesn't really matter. Because they've fucked you already.
Harsh truth. I know so many who fall for so many lies...but, bit too late by then. They've got what they wanted.
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I'm a very lucky guy I dont need to lie, I have 3 and 4 sums with OH and we both meet on our own with others blessing |
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer. well if you want to be restrained, try out new and different things which make you feel mentally vulnerable etc... It's not all about lying back and getting a basic fuck"
If you want a man to have sex with you when you are physically and mentally vulnerable then I guess you need a guy who is not going to take advantage of the situation and who will respect your parameters.
Have you found that married cheaters are prone to abusing vulnerable women whilst genuine single men are perfect gentlemen?
We have found married guys very polite and keen to please. The "trust" that is allegedly broken with their spouse is not the same trust they extend to us.  |
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Fab could be the place where people are free to be themselves, if others didn't have those pesky preferences as well as prejudices.
People expect to have sometimes a full reveal of your past sexual, marital, smoking and consumption history, such as whether a guys enjoyed a cock rubbing against his in DP, smoked a fag anywhere and inhaled or seen a tgirl and got a stirring.
We come with our interests, baggage and volume of choice - those more blessed with a huge fan base able to ensure conditional compliance.
If people become better known, they are permitted some leeway but most users here are male and largely anonymous, so ain't afforded that luxury.
Many of us have felt the pain of being cheated on, so don't wish to aid and abett someone doing this to another.
In a non online scenario things can become a little more liberated but I don't put any money on it happening here soon. |
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"Why do some people feel the need to lie about whether they are single or not?
Surely fab should be the place where you can be 100% yourself, lay all your cards on the table about what you want and what you have to offer?
I find as soon as I find out, my trust in the person goes, and the sex is never quite the same.... It is never as carefree.
What do you think?
It is very hard for a "single guy" to get a meet on Fab. Add "married cheater" and it is nearly impossible. So they lie.
It does not matter with women as there are always plenty of men to service them who do not care if they are married.
Not sure what "trust " you need to fuck so long as you are confident he is not a mad axe murderer. well if you want to be restrained, try out new and different things which make you feel mentally vulnerable etc... It's not all about lying back and getting a basic fuck
If you want a man to have sex with you when you are physically and mentally vulnerable then I guess you need a guy who is not going to take advantage of the situation and who will respect your parameters.
Have you found that married cheaters are prone to abusing vulnerable women whilst genuine single men are perfect gentlemen?
We have found married guys very polite and keen to please. The "trust" that is allegedly broken with their spouse is not the same trust they extend to us. "
no I haven't actually.. I find the married ones to be the most forthcoming with what they want from fab. They don't tend to waffle so much shite to get what they want. Hence why I asked initially, as I do find them to be the most sexually satisfying and truly no-strings pleasure! My post was in no way "married bashing", rather finding out why it isn't shared, as sometimes they are the best meets. As long as you know their situation (just in case)! |
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"Am I beginning to detect a slight tendency to appreciating the marrieds on here? i do hope so because the constant bashing and labelling of being a "cheat" does get tiresome."
I don't want to be appreciated for being married. I don't particularly want to be slagged off either, but I'd like to just be appreciated or judged accordingly as an individual. |
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"Am I beginning to detect a slight tendency to appreciating the marrieds on here? i do hope so because the constant bashing and labelling of being a "cheat" does get tiresome.
I don't want to be appreciated for being married. I don't particularly want to be slagged off either, but I'd like to just be appreciated or judged accordingly as an individual."
Exactly, but my experience is that if I approach someone and they won't meet married men, they've been polite and told me so. Many of the people I chat to and meet have no issue and seem to appreciate me as good fuck because that's why they're here. |
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I just hate liars, on here and in the 'real' world x
People lie about the stupidest things, and big things!
I was also 'the last to know' and it does hurt, and leave trust issues.
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A liar is worse than a thief.
I'd rather know the truth, no matter how awful,they deem it to be.
For those who lie about being in a relationship,surely they would stand more of a chance of 'getting their leg over' if they where honest from the beginning? just my view.
I've had my eyes opened recently on this site. Such devious behaviour..
A lot of clever people on here..or so they perceive
Takes brains to be a good liar.
I spend a lot less time here than I used to.
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I don't understand those that lie about what kind of relationship there in. At the end of the day there is plenty of people on here who sleep with attached or unattached. Personally I wouldn't sleep with someone who is happily married or in a relationship. Wouldn't want the guilt and worry of it
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"I just hate liars, on here and in the 'real' world x
People lie about the stupidest things, and big things!
I was also 'the last to know' and it does hurt, and leave trust issues.
Sara x"
It's the stupid things that are the most annoying! What's the point?!
There are so many people on here, and assumptions made on what each person wants and is looking for. People lie to try and fit what they "think" the person wants.. If you aren't that person that you pretend to be, then ultimately I don't believe either party will be satisfied... |
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"A liar is worse than a thief.
I'd rather know the truth, no matter how awful,they deem it to be.
For those who lie about being in a relationship,surely they would stand more of a chance of 'getting their leg over' if they where honest from the beginning? just my view.
I've had my eyes opened recently on this site. Such devious behaviour..
A lot of clever people on here..or so they perceive
Takes brains to be a good liar.
I spend a lot less time here than I used to.
It's very! Off putting and a shame. "
the problem is, that generally, as soon as they admit to one lie, the cracks start to show in other "truths" they have told, and then the slippery slope begins. It's a shame. And people loose faith in each other because of it. Fab, in my opinion, should be an honest avenue to explore yourself and your body. Push buttons. Excitement and intrigue. Not lies and deceit. Whether you are in a relationship is such a basic thing.
Maybe some people actually don't want to admit to it because THEY feel guilty, rather than saying it's because they will get abuse? |
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