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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the outside world I am not even nearly normal but in my head I feel perfectly normal and all you others are weird freaks  "
I'm away with the fairies too!  |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"To the outside world I am not even nearly normal but in my head I feel perfectly normal and all you others are weird freaks
I'm away with the fairies too! "
We are definitely the cool ones  |
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"You're saying though, that it's abnormal. Whatever "it" is ? And is it ? Or just not normal in your eyes? Takes all sorts as they say. "
I'm not referring to any one thing in particular, just the people who say "what is normal" to excuse abnormal behaviour.
We're a xenophobic species for a good reason, it's kept us alive. We're don't like new and strange things and we're communal, we like to be part of a group and when a person does something that's not widely accepted as acceptable behaviour or doesn't think like everyone else then that's not normal.
I'm not saying individuality is bad just that certain things are not accepted because the average person doesn't think about them..... for good reason.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normal is just an illusion.
Everyone looks for it and some have this 'ideal' that they aspire to. Yet it's probably one of the things that messes us up most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now you're entering dangerous territory 
What's an average person ? "
Does he mean, mean, modal, or median? Anything under the bell curve? Only people that share his part of a Venn diagram? |
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Don't know about others but I am a deviant...
I am a left handed (1 in 5 are left handed), bisexual (1 in 10 men admit to being gay or bisexual), manic depressive (about 1 in 40).
Now that definitely deviates from the average!
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"Normal is just an illusion.
Everyone looks for it and some have this 'ideal' that they aspire to. Yet it's probably one of the things that messes us up most. "
Normality is not an illusion it's thinking and behaving like the majority.
There are plenty of things that are classed as abnormal for very good reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normal is just an illusion.
Everyone looks for it and some have this 'ideal' that they aspire to. Yet it's probably one of the things that messes us up most.
Normality is not an illusion it's thinking and behaving like the majority.
There are plenty of things that are classed as abnormal for very good reason. "
The behaviour of the majority, contains many variables. What are the variables which line you might step over to put you into a minority? |
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"Normal is just an illusion.
Everyone looks for it and some have this 'ideal' that they aspire to. Yet it's probably one of the things that messes us up most.
Normality is not an illusion it's thinking and behaving like the majority.
There are plenty of things that are classed as abnormal for very good reason.
The behaviour of the majority, contains many variables. What are the variables which line you might step over to put you into a minority? "
Having thoughts of bestiality, incest and paedophilia to name three straight off the top of my head.
If you're thinking about either of those then you're not normal because normal sane healthy people don't think about those things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normal is just an illusion.
Everyone looks for it and some have this 'ideal' that they aspire to. Yet it's probably one of the things that messes us up most.
Normality is not an illusion it's thinking and behaving like the majority.
There are plenty of things that are classed as abnormal for very good reason.
The behaviour of the majority, contains many variables. What are the variables which line you might step over to put you into a minority?
Having thoughts of bestiality, incest and paedophilia to name three straight off the top of my head.
If you're thinking about either of those then you're not normal because normal sane healthy people don't think about those things. "
Do you hold the numbers for the people that actually think about about ( not act) these activities? Or are you presuming? So what other activities are in YOUR definition of unnaceptable deviancy? Watersports? Fisting? Bdsm, hang gliding, base jumping?
I sound pedantic, but if your going to define normal, then you have a very very very long check list to conform to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's a difference between following the majority and completely unacceptable behaviours.
The majority don't join sex sites but yet here we all are. Does this make us 'abnormal' ?
I don't want to always be the same as everyone else and as a parent to a teenager on the spectrum Normal is no more than a setting on the washing machine . So many times he's been called a freak or parents of so called friends have described him as not normal because he doesn't do some of the expected things his peers were
It broke my heart to see him cry and not know why. He just kept saying about being normal. He was 8.
Now at almost 15, he's working hard and following his dreams. He likes things a certain way and has struggled with friendships for a long time. I have always told him and his brothers normal is not real and I will continue to .
It doesn't mean they don't know the difference between right and wrong. I'm just trying to spare them the hardship of trying to fit into a box when they could be so much more out of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just an excuse to get away with something the masses would frown upon. Someone who randomly sends cock pics to women on Facebook isn't normal because very few men would do it,ergo it is not the norm. |
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"Those people who say things like "what is normal" when justifying acts/behaviour that are not widely classed as acceptable in society as their be all end all argument for said acts/behaviour "
Are you referring to swingers also who that response, when some approaches them and says Swinging is not normal  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes you are being pedantic but that brings me back to my original point about the saying. It's pedantic, there's no real answer to the question and they know it. "
And that's precisely the reason they ask it. If you can't define it, then its a bit silly trying to use it as a label. Are you "normal"?
Normality is a personal definition. Not everyone, shares the same definition and its pointless to talk about majorities when the numbers are pretty much unknowable. |
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It's part of the human condition to fit in to a certain extent. We are largely socialised to our current century's norms.
Let others live as they like, as long as no one is harmed, all are respected etc.
I don't break enough rules or norms but have a few behind me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But you can only use the word "normal" or "average" for specific interests, behaviours, values etc. It cannot be used to label someone as a whole person. Otherwise you have to look at the person who is the average height, weight, sexual orientation, wages, hair colour, sexual partners.......etc ad nauseam.
And that person would then be in a minority! |
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