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over a year ago
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As much as you wouldnt want them getting hurt how many times can you help before they learn?? For me id help every time because thats what friends do.... Yh friends annoy you all the time but they are your friends and we love them lol.... Even if it does mean youll get your head smashed in we carry on defending them!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd step in then confront him when sober. I'd explain how his actions effect me, how I feel when he does it and that if he continues to do it, it jeopardises our friendship. |
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"someome that hurts someone's feelings on two different occasions when Ther d*unk,
And you stop his head gettin smashed.
Do you carry on or let him learn?"
If you are their friend you will continue to protect them. When they destroy that friendship you will shrug your shoulders and let them deal with the consequences of their d*unken behavior.
That you are asking this question tells me that the breaking point is fast approaching. Maybe the question you need to be asking yourself is: Do I broach the subject with my friend (when they are sober) before I turn my back on them when they are d*unk and about to get a kicking because of their behavior?
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"someome that hurts someone's feelings on two different occasions when Ther d*unk,
And you stop his head gettin smashed.
Do you carry on or let him learn?"
Yeah, despite the - let 'em do it comments - it can be difficult to disentangle your emotional attachment from a person who's hurting themselves in front of you. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I know a Tgirl that used to get smashed to the point where people would ask her if she was with anyone. When I took her and her bf (a good friend of mine) out to Pink Punters I just told her that if she got hammered, she would have to walk the 100 miles back. She only got mildly d*unk. |
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"I know a Tgirl that used to get smashed to the point where people would ask her if she was with anyone. When I took her and her bf (a good friend of mine) out to Pink Punters I just told her that if she got hammered, she would have to walk the 100 miles back. She only got mildly d*unk. "
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Id have a word when they are sober ... if that doesnt work well youve tried ... they are adults at the end of the day....you gotta let them learn ... sometimes if you get too involved it can backfire on you ..good luck ...
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You step in, even if not a friend. A d*unken friend is not in a position to be able to have the foresight and brain power that others would have when sober.
Would you step in if someone was about to be sexually molested, and they were d*unk? Of course. The same duty of care applies, whether it's never happened before or if it has.
You deal with issues in your relationship at the appropriate times. That won't be at the time of a crisis and letting them have their just deserts. |
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Why don't you record him on your phone when he is d*unk then play it back to him when he is sober.I had a mate who did it with his friend his friend is now a reformed moderate drinker. |
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