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If you could change one personality trait?
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over a year ago
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Anxiety. I'm a big worrier and I can sometimes spiral into a a big "what if this happens, and then this happens, and then this..." and I get quite stressed about it. I'm a bit like this at the moment! So yes, if I could be a bit more laid back and easy going I would be. |
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"If you could change one thing about your personality, what would it be?"
Probably my indecisiveness.
Or my shyness.
Or my anxiety.
But then should I worry about my inability to be serious?
Lol.
Or maybe my use of trendy teenage abbreviations, obvs.
No, definitely my indecisiveness.
Except.....
(continues ad infinitum)
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over a year ago
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The bit of shyness i have and me being reserved towards others. That and the preconceived judgement that people don't really like me.
However, once i get to know someone a little. The barriers come down. I'm just a bit too wary sometimes.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anxiety. I'm a big worrier and I can sometimes spiral into a a big "what if this happens, and then this happens, and then this..." and I get quite stressed about it. I'm a bit like this at the moment! So yes, if I could be a bit more laid back and easy going I would be."
This in so many ways  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The Tory Party, their MP's, & their mindset. I can't stand them. Usually I'm pretty chilled out but they are like a red rag to a bull for me. I'd like to be more objective about them but I just can't. I just want to arse fuck the lot of them, even the ugly ones just so they know how the rest of us feel. Lol
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You sound like you need anger management Does your irrational rage extend to conservative voters? |
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"I've been thinking about this for about five minutes and the list is so flaming long I can't narrow it down to one thing.  "
Me too. I wish I was more confident. I wish I was more thoughtful, and didn't get jealous or put people down. I wish I was more motivated and just got stuff done rather than talk about it! |
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"I've been thinking about this for about five minutes and the list is so flaming long I can't narrow it down to one thing.
Me too. I wish I was more confident. I wish I was more thoughtful, and didn't get jealous or put people down. I wish I was more motivated and just got stuff done rather than talk about it!"
I am the worlds worst prevaricator, I can't do anything unless I am on a deadline....that is what I would change...thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Better include most of the fuckwit MPs in that too. Heehee!
Wasn't this thread about something you dislike about yourself as opposed to others?
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Maybe he dislikes that he dislikes them? |
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"The bit of shyness i have and me being reserved towards others. That and the preconceived judgement that people don't really like me.
However, once i get to know someone a little. The barriers come down. I'm just a bit too wary sometimes.
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Ahhhh same as me pops!! I always worry people don't like me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Better include most of the fuckwit MPs in that too. Heehee!
Wasn't this thread about something you dislike about yourself as opposed to others?
Maybe he dislikes that he dislikes them?"
Good point! |
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"The Tory Party, their MP's, & their mindset. I can't stand them. Usually I'm pretty chilled out but they are like a red rag to a bull for me. I'd like to be more objective about them but I just can't. I just want to arse fuck the lot of them, even the ugly ones just so they know how the rest of us feel. Lol
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I don't feel arse fucked by anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd wind in my sarcasm a bit, I need to recognise it's not entirely appropriate all the time!
Sometimes I choose to take things the wrong way to beat myself up - no idea why, but it's annoying.
I should probably wear my heart on my sleeve less too!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I could stop over thinking , it lets me down .
I tried mindfulness to help with this . It works but there are times when it still works in overdrive.
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A bit of everything on a downside of Things, anything on a upside is always Good for me, worst of late thou Absentmindedness I seem to switch off to Readily when I really don,t want to but Its nothing new to me..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My social anxiety id love to be able to go to the shops or anywhere for that matter on a busy day and not have a panic attack just to be able to relax and enjoy |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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"Better include most of the fuckwit MPs in that too. Heehee!
Wasn't this thread about something you dislike about yourself as opposed to others?
Maybe he dislikes that he dislikes them?"
Got it. Life's too short to dislike fuckwits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The Tory Party, their MP's, & their mindset. I can't stand them. Usually I'm pretty chilled out but they are like a red rag to a bull for me. I'd like to be more objective about them but I just can't. I just want to arse fuck the lot of them, even the ugly ones just so they know how the rest of us feel. Lol
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Yeah full them and their raising the tax free threshold. ..wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it."
Dysmorphia? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia? "
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia?
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest."
Was a joke as you're always going on about your muscles nearly as much as shag :p
Good luck with it though mate, and if you really do want to change pick up the phone and ring mind they can point you in the right direction for help.
It's not gonna be an easy fix but just think of it like the first day you decided to go to the gym it'd a long road it will take a lot of work and a lot of dedication not just focused on it but other aspects of your life too.
But in the end you can change it.
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia?
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest."
moobs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ooooh. Good one! Probably my Black and White _iew of the world. It's either Black or White. No grey areas in my world. Miss C. Xx "
Fuck the grey areas turn around and see the technicolour side  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia?
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest.
Was a joke as you're always going on about your muscles nearly as much as shag :p
Good luck with it though mate, and if you really do want to change pick up the phone and ring mind they can point you in the right direction for help.
It's not gonna be an easy fix but just think of it like the first day you decided to go to the gym it'd a long road it will take a lot of work and a lot of dedication not just focused on it but other aspects of your life too.
But in the end you can change it.
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The condition I have is sadly incurable (yes I have had it well looked into), but regardless, I do appreciate your help, you'd be surprised just how badly misunderstood so many personality issues are, not to mention the people who have them, so your understanding is admirable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia?
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest.
Was a joke as you're always going on about your muscles nearly as much as shag :p
Good luck with it though mate, and if you really do want to change pick up the phone and ring mind they can point you in the right direction for help.
It's not gonna be an easy fix but just think of it like the first day you decided to go to the gym it'd a long road it will take a lot of work and a lot of dedication not just focused on it but other aspects of your life too.
But in the end you can change it.
The condition I have is sadly incurable (yes I have had it well looked into), but regardless, I do appreciate your help, you'd be surprised just how badly misunderstood so many personality issues are, not to mention the people who have them, so your understanding is admirable."
If you look at my pics mate you'll see I wear my issues on my sleeve as it were so I know where you're coming from.
there's often not a cure but coping stratagies can always be improved.
So if you ever need some to talk to I'm here but I may not be a massive help. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it."
Me too. It was what inspired me to start the thread. For the most part though, I think most things have some good that come with the bad.
Even if it's only to identify others in a similar position and be able to empathise.
Don't beat yourself up trying to change the unchangeable. Acceptance starts with yourself. Easier said than done though.
But everyone is fighting a personal battle. This is one of ours. |
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By * and LCouple
over a year ago
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D speaking: I hate how my hatred for authority has gotten me in trouble over the years. Never knowing when to keep my mouth shut.
Another is the whole swinging lifestyle. I love it as a concept and me and the wife have a great time. But, I have recently figured out how different I am to most people. Its very hard knowing that my family actually know so little about me. My _iews on the world are completely different to my family and to have to sit and nod my head at some of the bollocks they go on about is and can be very difficult.
Knowing that so many people you class as good friends or family would hate how we live can be painful at times.
But.....that's there problem!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My lack of self-confidence...
At times i feel im hiding the real me behind the make up,hair and clothes...it does feel right to be dressed though and feel more confident like that
Strange i know |
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"I wish I could stop over thinking , it lets me down .
I tried mindfulness to help with this . It works but there are times when it still works in overdrive.
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I over think too. The most insignificant comment can create a major crisis. I'd like to stop doing it but wouldn't know how. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lack of patience
A dislike of other peoples self importance (not saying I don't have any, but when it shows in others it really iritates me)
More local to here, reading a thread formulating a response hitting post only to forget the response and having to go back and remind myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if the trait we have chosen would be the one our friends and loved ones would choose for us to change."
Probably. If only to avoid having any more blood stains on the carpet lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if the trait we have chosen would be the one our friends and loved ones would choose for us to change."
For me, probably not! Feeling anxious doesn't really affect anyone but me because for the most part my spiral of doom stays in my head and doesn't come out. They'd probably make me less argumentative or possibly a bit more spontaneous, but they'd be way down my list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if the trait we have chosen would be the one our friends and loved ones would choose for us to change.
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I asked myself this question earlier, if I didn't have what I did, would I still be recognisable as myself?
Then I wondered, but does the world even want who I am, the way I am? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a particular personality complaint that I would change in a heartbeat were there a cure, but it's highly personal, so I won't say what it is, only that I hate having it.
Dysmorphia?
No, Datmorphia.
But seriously, I'm not trying to start a guessing game, I just saw the thread, and wanted to get it off my chest.
Was a joke as you're always going on about your muscles nearly as much as shag :p
Good luck with it though mate, and if you really do want to change pick up the phone and ring mind they can point you in the right direction for help.
It's not gonna be an easy fix but just think of it like the first day you decided to go to the gym it'd a long road it will take a lot of work and a lot of dedication not just focused on it but other aspects of your life too.
But in the end you can change it.
The condition I have is sadly incurable (yes I have had it well looked into), but regardless, I do appreciate your help, you'd be surprised just how badly misunderstood so many personality issues are, not to mention the people who have them, so your understanding is admirable.
If you look at my pics mate you'll see I wear my issues on my sleeve as it were so I know where you're coming from.
there's often not a cure but coping stratagies can always be improved.
So if you ever need some to talk to I'm here but I may not be a massive help."
Thankyou, I do appreciate the empathy, and can see you've had your own issues to deal with, so respect to you for having the strength to press on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if the trait we have chosen would be the one our friends and loved ones would choose for us to change.
I asked myself this question earlier, if I didn't have what I did, would I still be recognisable as myself?
Then I wondered, but does the world even want who I am, the way I am?"
Who cares what the world wants. The world gets what's it's given same as you do. All that matter is that you're someone you can look in the mirror ever day.
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"I wonder if the trait we have chosen would be the one our friends and loved ones would choose for us to change.
I asked myself this question earlier, if I didn't have what I did, would I still be recognisable as myself?
Then I wondered, but does the world even want who I am, the way I am?"
Yes the world does simply because you are in it and functioning. Just as you wouldn't be recognisable as yourself without what you have so it follows the world wouldn't be recognisable without you. |
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"My lack of self-confidence...
At times i feel im hiding the real me behind the make up,hair and clothes...it does feel right to be dressed though and feel more confident like that
Strange i know "
That's not strange at all. The amount of women who need their 'slap ' on is for the same reason as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Extremely high expectations of myself and everyone and everything. Apparently I set those around me up for failure   "
If you set your standards nice and low I'm sure I could meet them :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish i could be more confident when meeting people for the first time, im quiet and shy which gives a false impression of what im really like, perhaps its anxiety rather than confidence i dunno. What ever it is, id change that
Peach |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I dress I'm the person I always wanted to be.
I want to learn to bring more of Rachael's personality into my male life.
She's way more popular than I am. |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain |
"To stop flirting with straight men.
Kop, wanna go on a camping trip?
Eeek! "
Couldn't resist that one.
Ok, ok... I wish I didn't always enjoying winding folk up, but I do. Phew... there, I said it. |
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