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over a year ago
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There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x"
I find a lot are looking for the perfect figure and looks. Nice pics btw xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For most on here, looks will attest as that's what attracts them from the off, especially in the case of meeting for one offs or club encounters. You'd be with said person for such a short time....why would you spend it with someone you don't fancy? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks. I hope you won't judge me on my looks though  x"
No way would like a chat if you fancy that. Am a down to earth man who would do anything to help others. Want to experience and explore what I have not had. Am honest at least lol xx |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x
I find a lot are looking for the perfect figure and looks. Nice pics btw xx"
If they are? That's their prerogative - might mean they have less of a pool to fish in but they're as entitled to their preferences as anyone.
You can't control other people's interests and who they're attracted to.
If it's not you? There's nothing to be done.
But there's enough members of the site to keep looking for someone who is interested in and attracted to you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For most on here, looks will attest as that's what attracts them from the off, especially in the case of meeting for one offs or club encounters. You'd be with said person for such a short time....why would you spend it with someone you don't fancy?"
Can see both sides as I know their has to be a attraction I just feel ppl should try harder (pardon the pun) lol and get to know the person. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the down fall of seeing pictures on the Internet. We are judging a picture. I could not like what I see in a picture, but if I saw them face to face (before seeing a pic) I could quite possibly like them.
I'd much rather make my decision seeing them in person (say at a party or a club)
There has to be an attraction of some kind before anything happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good looks will maybe get you the most interest from profile and at a club - but once we meet and chat if there isnt a nice chatty fun down to earth person inside that beautiful skin it would go no further |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think attraction matters.
I met a lovely woman online a few months back, she didn't have a camera, so didn't have any pics.
Over the course of a couple of months, we'd texted and chatted on the phone, we had a similar sense of humour.
All was rosey until we decided to met in person.
The one thing I was worried about happened.
No physical attraction at all.
I was proper gutted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes looks matter to me I'm not going to have sex with somebody im not attracted to and would rather a guy turn me down I'd he wasn't attracted to me
i would rather not have a sympathy "ah but she's a nice person" shag thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes looks matter to me I'm not going to have sex with somebody im not attracted to and would rather a guy turn me down I'd he wasn't attracted to me
i would rather not have a sympathy "ah but she's a nice person" shag thanks "
Very good point thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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having said that I don't go for classic good looking guys, the type of guys I like most women on here wouldnt touch with a barge pole, they only have to be good looking to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx
Would you fuck someone that you think is unattractive?"
No but what am trying to say is ppl glance at face pic and block. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx
Would you fuck someone that you think is unattractive?"
But so many on here say personality is more important and it's what's on the inside that counts so these people either would or are talking bollocks so they don't come over as shallow  |
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx"
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Tricky question..as you use the term "looks'..rather than beauty or handsome or tanned or smooth etc..
It's the physical appearance (whatever shape/size/colours etc) that makes you wanting to know them...then only you can get to know the personality..
So, I guess it does, at least for first impression...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx
Would you fuck someone that you think is unattractive?
But so many on here say personality is more important and it's what's on the inside that counts so these people either would or are talking bollocks so they don't come over as shallow "
Fab isn't a dating site so I agree with that point xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks makes us interested.
Personality hooks us in.
Personality and looks are not mutually exclusive. "
I always say looks gets my attention personality keeps it, I need both but it's always going to be looks that initially catches my eye |
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Everyone is attracted to a different kind of look. They'll always be someone who finds you attractive even if you may not class yourself as traditionally good looking.
I think the look of a woman will always be the thing that initially hooks me in but their personality will always be the thing that keeps me interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If looks were anything to go by then I would never get a meet!
It's what's inside that counts, im a fun person but ugly as fuck! Haha "
I feel the same, I'm not attractive and I don't have a good body buy I try and make the most of what little God did give me
I'd like to think I'm a nice person and I think that does help
luckily for me not everybody does go for look because I'd get nowhere if they did and that's not a feel sorry for myself put down I'm just realistic |
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx
Would you fuck someone that you think is unattractive?
No but what am trying to say is ppl glance at face pic and block. Xx "
Why is that wring? If they don't like the look of you they block to prevent any awkward rejection conversations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If looks were anything to go by then I would never get a meet!
It's what's inside that counts, im a fun person but ugly as fuck! Haha
I feel the same, I'm not attractive and I don't have a good body buy I try and make the most of what little God did give me
I'd like to think I'm a nice person and I think that does help
luckily for me not everybody does go for look because I'd get nowhere if they did and that's not a feel sorry for myself put down I'm just realistic "
Looked at your profile pics and you are good looking. Very seductive look xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx
Would you fuck someone that you think is unattractive?
No but what am trying to say is ppl glance at face pic and block. Xx
Why is that wring? If they don't like the look of you they block to prevent any awkward rejection conversations. "
A lot would reply in a nasty way but I would just accept it and move on xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For most on here, looks will attest as that's what attracts them from the off, especially in the case of meeting for one offs or club encounters. You'd be with said person for such a short time....why would you spend it with someone you don't fancy?"
Have to agree! In the swinging world I'm a fickle wee lassie - unless I get to know/like someone over a period of time! In the relationship world - if and when I chose to go back there - a six pack and a gorgeous face definitely won't be the deal-breaker!! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"For most on here, looks will attest as that's what attracts them from the off, especially in the case of meeting for one offs or club encounters. You'd be with said person for such a short time....why would you spend it with someone you don't fancy?
Can see both sides as I know their has to be a attraction I just feel ppl should try harder (pardon the pun) lol and get to know the person. Xx"
which is all well and good... but sometime a bit of introspective is needed.... what are You doing to improve your chances so that people aren't just focused on your looks....
its all well and good in effect blameing it on other people, but sometimes you have to say "what can i do better!!!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For most on here, looks will attest as that's what attracts them from the off, especially in the case of meeting for one offs or club encounters. You'd be with said person for such a short time....why would you spend it with someone you don't fancy?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do looks matter? Am not best looking but find some ppl judge by looks xx"
What I've found goes a long gone way is a genuine smile and an open and friendly personality which lets the other person relax and feel confident. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely. I won't sleep with someone if I don't find them attractive. However personality determines whether I find someone more or less attractive "
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Yep... Looks matter, we don't all have the same opinion about what we like personally, although I do think that most people have similar thoughts when they view people objectively.
But for me....
There is a massive difference between the flawlessly good looking, AKA the beautiful people.
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The flawlessly sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to have a mixture of both you need to have the initial physical attraction but then you also need the mental attraction to. Like a few have said this determines the amount total attraction to that person. For me if they looked great and nothing else is there then I would politely decline. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to FANCY the women I meet in order to make me want to have sex with them, and I wouldn't expect any less from them toward me. Looks certainly aren't the only factor, but there's nothing shallow about being excited and turned on by a persons appearance. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x"
Looks will generally get our attention initially but a nice personality & attitude will keep it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x
Looks will generally get our attention initially but a nice personality & attitude will keep it."
Thanks for your input. May pm you if that's ok xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shallow I know but I won't meet anyone I'm not attracted to and that usually means I'm attracted to their personality and intelligence and that little something that when you see their pics (or in person or course) makes you go phwooaaaaar  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just gonna question what you mean by "looks"... some people who look conventionally sexy I just find dull, and quite often unattractive. I'm usually far more interested in the weird girl hiding in the shadows lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shallow I know but I won't meet anyone I'm not attracted to and that usually means I'm attracted to their personality and intelligence and that little something that when you see their pics (or in person or course) makes you go phwooaaaaar "
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And phwooaaaaar to you Mr PB |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm just gonna question what you mean by "looks"... some people who look conventionally sexy I just find dull, and quite often unattractive. I'm usually far more interested in the weird girl hiding in the shadows lol "
Appearance way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks are definitely important to us. We don't want supermodels but there has to be some attraction. But personality is also very important. "
Ooh Lovers, your new avatar makes my pulse race...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Urban dictionary definition of Shallow:
A term that is massively overused. It usually means a man/woman who only judges by looks and not by personality.
Many ugly girls consider guys shallow just because they get turned down by them and vice versa. A lot of ugly guys think girls are shallow because they get turned down. But neither of these are true.
The true example of shallow is when a guy/girl base someone's personality on how they look. If you're confused read below.
"I was hanging out with my friend the other day who is quite a bit better looking than me (I'm not ugly, he's just hot I guess). So he and I are hanging out with this girl from school and I decide to test something.
Early that day I tell her a joke and she kind of laughs. So about 6 hours later, I have my friend tell her the exact same joke, word for word and she cracks up like it's the funniest thing she's ever heard.
Apparently the same exact joke was funnier when told by him, just because he's better looking. Avoid girls/guys like that at all cost." |
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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago
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"Looks are definitely important to us. We don't want supermodels but there has to be some attraction. But personality is also very important.
Ooh Lovers, your new avatar makes my pulse race...x"
Lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looks are definitely important to us. We don't want supermodels but there has to be some attraction. But personality is also very important.
Ooh Lovers, your new avatar makes my pulse race...x
Lol "
I can make more than your face blush my dear...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone said earlier the initial attraction is based on looks but to keep my interest so it progresses they have to have that certain 'something'.
Hard to describe what that 'something' is but I know the feeling I get when I meet someone who has it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have such a quirky taste in men but I do think looks do play a part in attraction. I'm not the most stunning looking woman but my personality often gets me far. "
Look great to me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x
I find a lot are looking for the perfect figure and looks. Nice pics btw xx"
But always remember that everyone is good looking to someone and noone is good looking to everyone. |
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x
I find a lot are looking for the perfect figure and looks. Nice pics btw xx
But always remember that everyone is good looking to someone and noone is good looking to everyone."
Best quote of today xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a difference between looks and attraction. Someone could be absolutely stunning but if they have the attitude of a bridge troll then I won't find them attractive at all and vice versa x
I find a lot are looking for the perfect figure and looks. Nice pics btw xx
But always remember that everyone is good looking to someone and noone is good looking to everyone."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shallow I know but I won't meet anyone I'm not attracted to and that usually means I'm attracted to their personality and intelligence and that little something that when you see their pics (or in person or course) makes you go phwooaaaaar
This
And phwooaaaaar to you Mr PB "
Miss Firestarter - have you been shopping?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find it impossible to judge from a photo. I've seen photos of good looking guys but found them really unattractive face to face.
And vice versa, guys I really wouldn't have thought I liked, were incredibly sexy when right in front of me.
I'm attracted to the way a guy moves, the way he smiles and laughs, how his voice sounds.
I wish it was easier to suss all this out from a photo. It would make my life a whole lot easier! |
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"I find it impossible to judge from a photo. I've seen photos of good looking guys but found them really unattractive face to face.
And vice versa, guys I really wouldn't have thought I liked, were incredibly sexy when right in front of me.
I'm attracted to the way a guy moves, the way he smiles and laughs, how his voice sounds.
I wish it was easier to suss all this out from a photo. It would make my life a whole lot easier!"
If you could figure it out then you could bottle it and you would make yourself a small fortune helping others out here. I think we are all in the same boat and if it was to easier do you think the fun in looking would be ruined? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She could be the most stunning lady, but if she's a complete bitch, it doesn't do it for me, give me an 'attractive' lady, with a great personality and I'm smitten |
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"Shallow I know but I won't meet anyone I'm not attracted to and that usually means I'm attracted to their personality and intelligence and that little something that when you see their pics (or in person or course) makes you go phwooaaaaar
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And phwooaaaaar to you Mr PB
Miss Firestarter - have you been shopping? "
Mr PB so kind of you to notice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For every 10 that don't like the look of you their will be another 10 you don't like the look of,
If that makes any sense  "
Another great way to look at it |
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"I have to FANCY the women I meet in order to make me want to have sex with them, and I wouldn't expect any less from them toward me. Looks certainly aren't the only factor, but there's nothing shallow about being excited and turned on by a persons appearance."
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