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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Bit fed up of the way mums are seen as the better parent whilst dads are seen as nothing more than sperm donors in some cases.
Children have two parents & believe it or not, sometimes the dad is the better parent than the mum.
So all you dads, keep doing what you are doing. I think you're bloody fantastic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My dad was just the sperm donor, not on my birth certificate and hasn't made any contact with me since I was 8, he's only ever bothered to meet up with me once, 4 years ago when I turned up unannounced at his workplace, if I try and plan to come up he just gives me excuses, fuck him, he's just not worth thinking about or wasting my time on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be lost without my dad. We're incredibly close. He's an amazing role model for my daughter and I.
Love him to the moon and back.
Great dads rock! Xx
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My daughter said to me the other day that she "loves me 'cos I'm so funny".
As I pointed out, enjoy it while you can as there will come a time when you find me deeply embarrassing.
She's (still) very sweet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mum died when I was 2. I belive my dad saw me when I was a baby. Not since. Was brought up my step dad's parents as he went off the rails after my mum died. I'd give anything to have had the proper experience of either parent despite the great life that my step grand parents gave me. |
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"I'm a brilliant dad...on call 24/7....
Just wish the kids were as good !!"
I think of it that it's quarter of a million years of human evolution a little applied psychology.
It is a feature of human relationships that we try to put right in the next one what went wrong in the past one - friends, lovers or family - without recognising that this is a completely different person and a completely different situation.
You can only do you best.
And remember that there's no right or wrong way to do it, there's just what works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My children called me 'The Best dad in the world' the other night.
I was very moved.
Thing is, that title belongs to my Dad - who is also one of my best friends.
I fought a tough legal battle to get the arrangement that I currently have with my kids and do the very best that I can for them - particularly given the circumstances.
It can be difficult sometimes, but they are so worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a brilliant dad...on call 24/7....
Just wish the kids were as good !!
I think of it that it's quarter of a million years of human evolution a little applied psychology.
It is a feature of human relationships that we try to put right in the next one what went wrong in the past one - friends, lovers or family - without recognising that this is a completely different person and a completely different situation.
You can only do you best.
And remember that there's no right or wrong way to do it, there's just what works. "
Not a parent but that sounds pretty spot on to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My children called me 'The Best dad in the world' the other night.
I was very moved.
Thing is, that title belongs to my Dad - who is also one of my best friends.
I fought a tough legal battle to get the arrangement that I currently have with my kids and do the very best that I can for them - particularly given the circumstances.
It can be difficult sometimes, but they are so worth it"
Props to you sir. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My dad did and amazing job binging up me my sister and 3 brother's up when Mum walked out when I was 9 I have a fantastic relationship with my daughter of 5 hope to be as good a dad as mine has been to me xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think I'm a good dad and that my little girl is happy.
I lost my mum when I was 21 and my dad has been amazing ever since to the point where I would be lost without him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a truly terrible real mum but an awesome Dad. She has tainted any ideal of nice mothers for me which is quite sad. "
My mum the same so we are not close and that is how I want it to stay. My dad unfortunately passed away suddenly a few years ago but we had a great relationship  despite my mum's constant nastiness towards him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex - yes he's an arse where I'm concerned, but I can rarely fault him as a Dad.
I lost my own Dad at 13, he was a truly exceptional man who died far too young. Lost my step dad too in my early 30's - he was a lovely guy, so I was lucky to have two wonderful fathers in my life. I will miss them both this weekend on Father's Day.
So I agree - well done to the majority of dads out there who do a great job.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single dad here.
It's been a very hard slog and plenty of times when I've felt totally out of my depth but I wouldn't change a thing. My kids are all doing well, happy and healthy so I must have done something right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have an amazing dad who I nearly lost a few years ago due to a terrible accident .We have always been close and he's always been there I'd e lost without him.However the ex is merely a sperm donor ( my daughter's words) as he's never been there for her at all. Even crossed the road to ignore her but that's his problem not ours.He's a waste of oxygen as far as a dad is concerned.
I've a few friends who are single dad's as the mother as just up and left and watching them with their kids is great.I'd just say single parents regardless of sex are just bloody amazing and rock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm lucky enough to have a wonderful mum AND dad. His own dad died when he was a baby but he had an older brother who was a great male influence in his life.
I'm incredibly similar to my dad in terms of personality, and I think we have a quiet extra closeness because of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't piss on my dad if he was on fire
Enough said.  "
Agree! He spends more time with his 18 year old daughter more than the 8 years he knew me for, just goes to show who's more important eh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"2 one direction gigs,a Jedward gig and a Saturdays gig behind me , I think that qualifies as a good dad,,(Didn't really mind the Saturdays gig though   "
I know that feeling well. Disney on ice, High school Musical stage show, Steps and a whole host of other shows.
I will admit that Steps were actually amazing! |
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My mum died when i was 7, my dad brought me and my 3 brothers up. One who has special needs. He worked nites so in the summer holidays we had a little bit of help from nan but my dad did the rest and he was the best. We wanted for nothing, we went on holidays abroad every year and id like to think weve all grown up into decent adults and i put all that down to my dad.
Whenever anyone asks "whos ur hero" my dad is always my answer.
So dads do rock! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you cut me through the middle you would find the word 'dad'
Well, after you had cleaned up all the blood and stuff anyway.
And its not an invite to try it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A dad here...seperated but see my kids a lot...most days. I try to be a good dad always and adore my boys. But being a part time dad...now four years breaks my heart...I was always cut out to be a family man....husband and full time dad....and I not. I live with it and get on....but there is always a sadness for not being 24/7 dad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex... Father of 4 children is the biggest waste of space, he only bothers with the oldest child.... Never phones, sends cards or anything..... Total sperm donor.....
My dad brought me up and tbh, I think he did a great job. He struggled like hell but I turned out ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex... Father of 4 children is the biggest waste of space, he only bothers with the oldest child.... Never phones, sends cards or anything..... Total sperm donor...."
My dad is the same, he only bothers with his youngest, complete waste of space, I feel like turning up at his work and just saying I know he doesn't want me in his life and cut all ties with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single dad here.
It's been a very hard slog and plenty of times when I've felt totally out of my depth but I wouldn't change a thing. My kids are all doing well, happy and healthy so I must have done something right."
Well done Tom |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"single parent here, ive done my best when ex walked out on stepson and daughter at 1 and 3 year old
ive had a few cards saying i love you and thankyou for all that youve done "
And well deserved cards too xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I  my dad so much (and mum just as much) it hurts! He would do anything for me and I would do anything for him. I'd be totally lost with out him in my life. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit fed up of the way mums are seen as the better parent whilst dads are seen as nothing more than sperm donors in some cases.
Children have two parents & believe it or not, sometimes the dad is the better parent than the mum.
So all you dads, keep doing what you are doing. I think you're bloody fantastic "
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Thank you Op..
My experience has been it is much easier being a dad than being a son..
My relationship with my dad has never been easy,however my relationship with my two (adult)sons has been challenging rewarding and overall fantastic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both my parents are wonderful. They have their foibles but I love them to bits "
Oh yeah and I love my son more than words can say. Thankfully he's nothing like me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances."
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances.
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances.
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances.
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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agreed
I've raised three kids on my own never had any financial help from their dad, I work two job to keep them in a good lifestyle
that does not make me anything special I'm just a mum who loves her kids and will go out my way for them, it's what parents do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I my dad so much (and mum just as much) it hurts! He would do anything for me and I would do anything for him. I'd be totally lost with out him in my life. X"
xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances.
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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I'm a single mum too & don't expect to have smoke blown up my arse either.
It was just a post for those single dads who do a great job. It is Fathers Day soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have 3 children 1 who lives with me he has special needs my eldest lives with his mother and my youngest lives with his mother.
I have contact with all my children after long battles and come out the other side with my two eldest. I am now going through a battle to see my youngest.
Family court is held behind closed doors.why can't it be an open court |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kudos to OP for this thread.
Shame on those using it to vent their own personal grievances.
It's the way the original post is worded. Fed up of mums always seen as the better parent and the dads are seen as sperm donors in some cases.
In some cases the dads are just sperm donors and choose to have little or nothing to do with their children.
In some cases the mother will have nothing to do with her children and the dads raise them alone.
Being a single parent whether you're a mum or a dad is hard, trying to balance work around looking after your children is the most challenging thing you can do. I do it everyday and don't expect or need to have smoke blown up my arse for doing it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have 3 children 1 who lives with me he has special needs my eldest lives with his mother and my youngest lives with his mother.
I have contact with all my children after long battles and come out the other side with my two eldest. I am now going through a battle to see my youngest.
Family court is held behind closed doors.why can't it be an open court "
Do you really want everyone knowing your private business? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born? "
My use of sperm donor the last couple days is because he is just that , the sperm donor. He has very little to do with baby and that is just how they worked it out.
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"Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born?
My use of sperm donor the last couple days is because he is just that , the sperm donor. He has very little to do with baby and that is just how they worked it out.
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I suppose what I'm getting at is, either there are loads of men completely changing personality overnight after babies are born, or there are an awful lot of women having babies with men who are dickheads to start with. In which case, why in god's name have a baby with that person? You hear a lot about deadbeat dads and men criticised for fathering loads of children by different women and so on, but it takes two to tango and that could all be prevented by just not getting pregnant by that person if they're such an arsehole.... |
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"Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born?
My use of sperm donor the last couple days is because he is just that , the sperm donor. He has very little to do with baby and that is just how they worked it out.
I suppose what I'm getting at is, either there are loads of men completely changing personality overnight after babies are born, or there are an awful lot of women having babies with men who are dickheads to start with. In which case, why in god's name have a baby with that person? You hear a lot about deadbeat dads and men criticised for fathering loads of children by different women and so on, but it takes two to tango and that could all be prevented by just not getting pregnant by that person if they're such an arsehole...."
I get what you saying but what I meant was he was picked to be a sperm donor from an online site. He wanted to help woman have children , she wanted a child but without the partner. It works for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born?
My use of sperm donor the last couple days is because he is just that , the sperm donor. He has very little to do with baby and that is just how they worked it out.
I suppose what I'm getting at is, either there are loads of men completely changing personality overnight after babies are born, or there are an awful lot of women having babies with men who are dickheads to start with. In which case, why in god's name have a baby with that person? You hear a lot about deadbeat dads and men criticised for fathering loads of children by different women and so on, but it takes two to tango and that could all be prevented by just not getting pregnant by that person if they're such an arsehole....
I get what you saying but what I meant was he was picked to be a sperm donor from an online site. He wanted to help woman have children , she wanted a child but without the partner. It works for them. "
I can understand that, that's what I meant by an actual sperm donor as opposed to where it's being used as a term of offence (not by you, btw!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something I've always wondered about, those with children by "sperm donor" (as used in a derogatory sense on this thread, rather than actual sperm donor) or arseholes, did they change after the kids were born?
My use of sperm donor the last couple days is because he is just that , the sperm donor. He has very little to do with baby and that is just how they worked it out.
I suppose what I'm getting at is, either there are loads of men completely changing personality overnight after babies are born, or there are an awful lot of women having babies with men who are dickheads to start with. In which case, why in god's name have a baby with that person? You hear a lot about deadbeat dads and men criticised for fathering loads of children by different women and so on, but it takes two to tango and that could all be prevented by just not getting pregnant by that person if they're such an arsehole....
I get what you saying but what I meant was he was picked to be a sperm donor from an online site. He wanted to help woman have children , she wanted a child but without the partner. It works for them.
I can understand that, that's what I meant by an actual sperm donor as opposed to where it's being used as a term of offence (not by you, btw!) "
Ah I'm with you now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A huge yay for my dad.
Did his very best for me. I didn't realise how much he did when I was younger.
I have a much better appreciation of what he did now I'm older. I made sure he knew how much I respected him before he went.
Miss him lots.
Love you pop. |
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My ex is a great dad. He's also a better ex than he was a husband!!! My dad was a great dad too, I lived with him as a teenager when my step dad's job took him abroad & I didn't want to go.
Some dad's are a waste of space but so are some mums x |
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