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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Bi men?
I read lots of post's regarding bisexuality in men, and more often than not it seems to be frowned upon 
Being orally bi myself I would like to find other's that welcome this kind of behaviour.
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Bi men are aids spreading deviants.... 
A lot of people like their men to be manly,and alpha as fuck..so the thought of a guy being bummed doesn't fit in with that..although as you,and I are aware a lot of bi men don't do bumming or being bummed..there like you,and I;orally bi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, I have no idea! One of my friends who's part of a couple is "orally bi" like yourself.
I think some straight men just assume that bi men will pounce on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think people are against bi men, but that its just something that doesn't float their boat. There seems to be plenty of people it does appeal to so it might be an idea to look for those that do rather than think about those who don't. |
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I find people who frown on bisexual men to be two faced themselves. I know a few people who claim to be "straight" but have fun with TVs/CDs, but when it comes to meeting a couple, they claim to be all straight and don't want a bisexual partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No clue...I don't mind bi men at all. Adam is straight, but I don't think it would bother him too much to meet with a bi guy in a couple situation as long as the guy is aware that there will be no guy/guy play. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do tend to look for the couples on here that are at least bi curious, my observation was purely based on forum posts.
I enjoy what I do, not always sucking a cock, I alao like to lick and fuck too (wwomen) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't want to meet a guy who was bi even if it's just orally bi, wouldn't want to meet anyone that would do sexual things with TV's either. My reasons being men are the best at pleasuring other men, I wouldn't want my skills to be outdone by anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't want to meet a guy who was bi even if it's just orally bi, wouldn't want to meet anyone that would do sexual things with TV's either. My reasons being men are the best at pleasuring other men, I wouldn't want my skills to be outdone by anyone. "
Hense the reason im orally bi 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly, I have no idea! One of my friends who's part of a couple is "orally bi" like yourself.
I think some straight men just assume that bi men will pounce on them."
I don't think it's always the guys that object x |
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As a bi man myself i wouldnt jump on a straight guy if he didnt want me too xxx In the same way i dont bum or get bummed by every guy going im not that desperate but dont see why i should hide who i am from anyone if they dont like well its there loss xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bi men?
I read lots of post's regarding bisexuality in men, and more often than not it seems to be frowned upon
Being orally bi myself I would like to find other's that welcome this kind of behaviour.
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Because those of us who get tested regularly are warned about bi guys and the higher risk of sti with them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bi men?
I read lots of post's regarding bisexuality in men, and more often than not it seems to be frowned upon
Being orally bi myself I would like to find other's that welcome this kind of behaviour.
Because those of us who get tested regularly are warned about bi guys and the higher risk of sti with them "
What if I said I only suck cocks with condoms?
This is another issue, people assume we all just go down on it and get going, I am very cautious on what I do, and prefer the safe option over risking my health  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bi men?
I read lots of post's regarding bisexuality in men, and more often than not it seems to be frowned upon
Being orally bi myself I would like to find other's that welcome this kind of behaviour.
Because those of us who get tested regularly are warned about bi guys and the higher risk of sti with them "
Genuine question. Has that ever been backed up scientifically? |
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"I don't think people are against bi men, but that its just something that doesn't float their boat. There seems to be plenty of people it does appeal to so it might be an idea to look for those that do rather than think about those who don't. "
What are you on about?!! Do you mean we should respect and accept we won't appeal to all therefore concentrate on those with similar sexual _iews?!! 
I've heard it all now!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those pesky preferences again where we be without them!
Just remember people can express them with out being narrow minded or scared of Bi men jumping on any stray cocks. There are many reasons why they wouldn't. Not so easy going when people label the other way hypocritical even. |
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The stigma of men playing with men still endures but is receding all the time.
I'm as alpha male as they come but horny people make me horny regardless.
That said , I find gay men and especially effeminate men repulsive. Funny old world ain't it?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I assume that's aimed at me. Not labelled anyone as far as I'm aware. I just don't understand the logic. If a guy plays safe no matter the sex of their partner what does it matter? And I do not accept the _iew that bi men are less manly. |
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"I don't have a problem meeting bi men.
A few have said they have difficulty meeting single women because they are bi. "
I haven't had a problem in the past, but as I'm also a 53 yr old smoker, my target audience is diminishing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have a problem meeting bi men.
A few have said they have difficulty meeting single women because they are bi. "
Some really great photography Jo.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no problem with people who would rather not meet me because of my sexuality or because I look so amazing dressed as a girl
I only want to play with people who really want to play with me too.
The rest? Well they can just go play with someone else |
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I really don't know why everyone always wants to get so worked up about other peoples preferences (or prejudices if they're that).
I don't know why some on here say no bi/gay men and I care even less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The moment I start to worry about it, I will seek help to cope with the trauma.....
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Priceless
Love your observations .
Our previous post was a genuine one and every time (6 weeks ) we go it's the same .... have you played with any bi men ? And every time we say yes but neither of us do anal andi I'm not even orally bi . But because we go dogging we do meet bi guys .
So we have the anal swabs too ..... hey ho ... was just saying ....
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"Bi men are aids spreading deviants....
A lot of people like their men to be manly,and alpha as fuck..so the thought of a guy being bummed doesn't fit in with that..although as you,and I are aware a lot of bi men don't do bumming or being bummed..there like you,and I;orally bi "
ive been bummed and sucked by lotsa alpha males .. you just never know as most bi guys are secretly bi |
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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I find people who frown on bisexual men to be two faced themselves. I know a few people who claim to be "straight" but have fun with TVs/CDs, but when it comes to meeting a couple, they claim to be all straight and don't want a bisexual partner. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting. Not as though they are the only major risk group.
Are people regularly asked about this risk group at their GUM clinic?
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-south-west-wales-33115866
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"I really don't know why everyone always wants to get so worked up about other peoples preferences (or prejudices if they're that).
I don't know why some on here say no bi/gay men and I care even less."
give this man a cigar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to meet bi guys. I love them! All the bi guys I have met are filthy!! I wouldn't have it any other way.
plus I love the expression on their faces while being pegged  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I really don't know why everyone always wants to get so worked up about other peoples preferences (or prejudices if they're that).
I don't know why some on here say no bi/gay men and I care even less."
we don't always agree..... but on this.... absolutely...
too many people is preference as a personal dig....
you are not going to be attractive to everyone... so i don't see why so many people try!!!
too many spend their time trying to chase those people who won't appeal... as oppose to concentrating on those who would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't know why everyone always wants to get so worked up about other peoples preferences (or prejudices if they're that).
I don't know why some on here say no bi/gay men and I care even less.
we don't always agree..... but on this.... absolutely...
too many people is preference as a personal dig....
you are not going to be attractive to everyone... so i don't see why so many people try!!!
too many spend their time trying to chase those people who won't appeal... as oppose to concentrating on those who would "
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"I don't think people are against bi men, but that its just something that doesn't float their boat. There seems to be plenty of people it does appeal to so it might be an idea to look for those that do rather than think about those who don't. "
This exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't want to meet a guy who was bi even if it's just orally bi, wouldn't want to meet anyone that would do sexual things with TV's either. My reasons being men are the best at pleasuring other men, I wouldn't want my skills to be outdone by anyone. "
the thing is, you wont know unless they tell you and many wont |
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"I really don't know why everyone always wants to get so worked up about other peoples preferences (or prejudices if they're that).
I don't know why some on here say no bi/gay men and I care even less.
we don't always agree..... but on this.... absolutely...
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I don't know about that. I find I often agree with a lot of what you say just don't always say so.
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too many people is preference as a personal dig....
you are not going to be attractive to everyone... so i don't see why so many people try!!!
too many spend their time trying to chase those people who won't appeal... as oppose to concentrating on those who would "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Genuine question. Has that ever been backed up scientifically?
Yes. http://www.cdc.gov/std/life-stages-populations/STDFact-MSM.htm"
Fair enough. I stand corrected. That does make me understand the preference to not meet bi men. If that's the sole reason it is understandable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can't more then a few days on here without a bi guy thread. Tbh the less we talk about it the better. People are free to make their own decisions but the number of profiles saying no bi-guys isn't that high. For those guys who think their not getting meets with couples and women because they've put bi it probably has nothing to do with that.
Reasons why are probably the same for why straight men haven't been getting meets.....The ratio of guys to couples and females, badly written profiles, bad pictures and messages which don't really inspire conversation. As soon as guys then hide being bi they decrese their pool even more and not just amongst men.
Guys be proud of what you are as there are women and couples who like bi guys! |
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That said , I find gay men and especially effeminate men repulsive. Funny old world ain't it?!
Wow "
I thought afterwards my comment might get that reaction. Not the best wording and easily taken out of context. My bad.
I meant purely from the sexual attraction aspect, not that they are repulsive as people.
Repulsive is also too strong a word |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That said , I find gay men and especially effeminate men repulsive. Funny old world ain't it?!
Wow
I thought afterwards my comment might get that reaction. Not the best wording and easily taken out of context. My bad.
I meant purely from the sexual attraction aspect, not that they are repulsive as people.
Repulsive is also too strong a word"
There was nothing wrong with what you put originally. You expressed how you feel. That is your right. The response of wow was wrong. We can't all like the same things as we are reminded daily on these very forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own
Been there, done it, didn't get owt out of it for me...moved on try something different to keep it fresh
No one complains bout Bi Fems ...do they! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That said , I find gay men and especially effeminate men repulsive. Funny old world ain't it?!
Wow
I thought afterwards my comment might get that reaction. Not the best wording and easily taken out of context. My bad.
I meant purely from the sexual attraction aspect, not that they are repulsive as people.
Repulsive is also too strong a word
There was nothing wrong with what you put originally. You expressed how you feel. That is your right. The response of wow was wrong. We can't all like the same things as we are reminded daily on these very forums."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bi men are aids spreading deviants....
A lot of people like their men to be manly,and alpha as fuck..so the thought of a guy being bummed doesn't fit in with that..although as you,and I are aware a lot of bi men don't do bumming or being bummed..there like you,and I;orally bi "
lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some straight men just assume that bi men will pounce on them."
Or not as the case may be, I can vouch there are bi men/straight men who love to be pounced on even "bummed " as one post member had wrote, yes I know some woman in the couple relationship don't like bi guys so the " straight" husband usually goes it alone, I am not saying all straight men or bi men enjoy getting it up the bum but there are plenty who like to give it. |
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It is interesting for us to be a bi couple. We meet lots more open minded bi men, not all of whom we play with .... than bi men in couples. Often the straight wife thinks I may pounce ... and I am not a pouncer, even though I am dom. So we steer clear. I take exception to playing fem fem in public, something I hardly ever do, and only when I know it is not for entertainment value. I think despite being fairly experienced we are both learning a lot about the dynamic. Off to a tv/gay club later ....another first for me .... although Mr is an old hand as such things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Genuine question. Has that ever been backed up scientifically?
Yes. http://www.cdc.gov/std/life-stages-populations/STDFact-MSM.htm"
Swingers.... std free........ |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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It's those damned personal preferences again.
Personally I've rarely encountered any problems. Sure there are a few profiles that state "Straight" as their sexuality, a few Couples that request "No Bi guys", just as there are some that mention "No Smokers".
I've chosen Gay on mine as I live & prefer men, but after years on Adult Sites, attending Socials, House Parties & even some Clubs I've had the privilege of meeting a variety of folk, many who've become life long friends & a few select hotties I've played with. It's opened my personal boundaries & theirs, though in truth I've played with a few fems & my first 3some was a FMF. Doesn't make me Bi but I do consider most folks sexuality as fluid & flexible. Thank god for the flexible, open-minded types & not the constricted, inflexible, rigid ones. I've previously arranged & enjoyed MFM's that later expanded to Bi MFM's. Not because the guy was Bi curious but because he felt comfortable. It also turned the hell on for the fems just as a Bi FMF turns on a Str8 lad. So now I can enjoy much more than what I perceived as a far more limited sexuality, particularly if everyone is comfortable, experiencing pleasure & having fun.
As for profiles that say Str8 I consider these as an indication & not a very good label at that as I've had numerous invites & mails from Couples. However as I'm very selective I don't accept every offer. That, like those who request "No Bi's" is my choice. There's still plenty of folk on Fab willing to push their boundaries & not be restricted by perceptions on a profile. |
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"It's those damned personal preferences again.
Personally I've rarely encountered any problems. Sure there are a few profiles that state "Straight" as their sexuality, a few Couples that request "No Bi guys", just as there are some that mention "No Smokers".
I've chosen Gay on mine as I live & prefer men, but after years on Adult Sites, attending Socials, House Parties & even some Clubs I've had the privilege of meeting a variety of folk, many who've become life long friends & a few select hotties I've played with. It's opened my personal boundaries & theirs, though in truth I've played with a few fems & my first 3some was a FMF. Doesn't make me Bi but I do consider most folks sexuality as fluid & flexible. Thank god for the flexible, open-minded types & not the constricted, inflexible, rigid ones. I've previously arranged & enjoyed MFM's that later expanded to Bi MFM's. Not because the guy was Bi curious but because he felt comfortable. It also turned the hell on for the fems just as a Bi FMF turns on a Str8 lad. So now I can enjoy much more than what I perceived as a far more limited sexuality, particularly if everyone is comfortable, experiencing pleasure & having fun.
As for profiles that say Str8 I consider these as an indication & not a very good label at that as I've had numerous invites & mails from Couples. However as I'm very selective I don't accept every offer. That, like those who request "No Bi's" is my choice. There's still plenty of folk on Fab willing to push their boundaries & not be restricted by perceptions on a profile. "
Here here im bi and open minded but not one to jump into bed with just anyone i do have self control after all. |
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Whereas I've I said already I don't care why some people express a preference for no bi or gay men I also don't think it's that surprising that many do. Homosexuality was only mostly legalised in England and Wales in 1967 and Scotland in 1980. When I was growing up at school there was no question in my mind that it was wrong (that's not my _iew any longer). The worst insult you could throw at someone was to call them a puffter or homie (gay came along later). If anyone was caught doing anything remotely homosexual they were ridiculed and excluded at the very least and often much worse, many times with those in charge turning a blind eye. Although never actually taught that homosexuality was wrong it was definitely a culture that said it was unnatural, deviant, perverted and immoral.
Although things are a lot better now we should not be surprised that some of those attitudes still hang over. It takes more than changing the law to fully change the culture. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As I said earlier I don't have anything against gay/bi men. It just doesn't turn me on at all. Everyone has preferences as sooooooo many people state on here yet as soon as you state you prefer straight men all of a sudden you are deemed as closed minded etc etc. No. I just like what I like. I don't care about what other people do. Up to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im not against bisexual men but I am a great believer if men suck another man off or fuck them up their bum even with a dress on, they are bi. No probs its just the ones that wont admit to it I dont like. Because in swinging well proper swinging their should be total honesty regarding sexual preferences or practices. I think thats the same for most of us. Just be honest. Men wont show a veri from a TV or Bi but they veri them why be ashamed to show or admit |
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"Im not against bisexual men but I am a great believer if men suck another man off or fuck them up their bum even with a dress on, they are bi. No probs its just the ones that wont admit to it I dont like. Because in swinging well proper swinging their should be total honesty regarding sexual preferences or practices. I think thats the same for most of us. Just be honest. Men wont show a veri from a TV or Bi but they veri them why be ashamed to show or admit "
So where does leave someone who thinks they're bi-curious, tries it and decides they don't like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im not against bisexual men but I am a great believer if men suck another man off or fuck them up their bum even with a dress on, they are bi. No probs its just the ones that wont admit to it I dont like. Because in swinging well proper swinging their should be total honesty regarding sexual preferences or practices. I think thats the same for most of us. Just be honest. Men wont show a veri from a TV or Bi but they veri them why be ashamed to show or admit "
What is "proper swinging"? |
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That said , I find gay men and especially effeminate men repulsive. Funny old world ain't it?!
Wow
I thought afterwards my comment might get that reaction. Not the best wording and easily taken out of context. My bad.
I meant purely from the sexual attraction aspect, not that they are repulsive as people.
Repulsive is also too strong a word
There was nothing wrong with what you put originally. You expressed how you feel. That is your right. The response of wow was wrong. We can't all like the same things as we are reminded daily on these very forums."
Sorry, but if the original comment is ok, because it's an 'opinion', then the response is also fine, because it's also an opinion. See how it works? Like magic. |
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By *j73Couple (MM)
over a year ago
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To be fair, we all have things that sexually make us go a bit queasy. I'm gay, and I don't like the thought of "lady gardens" up close at all. Repulsive is too strong a word, but I certainly wouldn't go near one. So it would be hypocritical for me to condemn a totally straight guy for not wanting to go anywhere near a cock - it's not homophobic, just how we are wired. The point is, we are all different and we should all respect each other. |
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