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Is it easier for men to get men here then woman?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If needing sex and not on here is it easier for men to pick up man in general if bi ...? As a lot of woman looking for more and like to know the person and stuff.... is sex just different for men? I think it's good more are open about being bi and I think you can be on sites like this ...say and do stuff you don't in normal life.

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By *rank EinsteinMan over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Catching the ghey increases your chances of getting sum fuk by 200% on average independent surveys say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. But not what I'd call a quality meet. Ie, if i want to have sex with a man in a car i could meet everyday. I don't want to do this so meets are more tricky. Still easier than meeting women. But to be fair there are very few women local to me that i would consider meeting.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory.

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By *ertiVogtsMan over a year ago

Exeter

Yes!I'm a bi guy who plays regularly with couples and I also play with single men and women.I find it much easier to meet single men than couples or single women.It doesn't normally involve a great deal of effort.Not sure what that says about men...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes!I'm a bi guy who plays regularly with couples and I also play with single men and women.I find it much easier to meet single men than couples or single women.It doesn't normally involve a great deal of effort.Not sure what that says about men...

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well it's nice to here the truth and how things are.xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. "

Compared to meeting women from here?

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By *eriousMeetZMan over a year ago

romford

" If needing sex and not on here is it easier for men to pick up man in general if bi ...? As a lot of woman looking for more and like to know the person and stuff.... is sex just different for men? I think it's good more are open about being bi and I think you can be on sites like this ...say and do stuff you don't in normal life.

So true I feel some women are a bit fussy on here tho single men ain't given a chance although I do respect everyone has there preference

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. "
well there's a lot here some I am sure are fine . Just do bi men wish to know you as a mate too. ..maybe that would sort the sleazy ones out. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do find myself wondering sometimes if cock was in short supply would there be such a thing as a BBM.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think men are just much more willing to go with anyone it makes it seem a lot more sleazy and all to easy.

One good thing about coming on here is it made me feel more normal as there are a lot of men who would

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

7 men mail to 0 women mail yesterday.. I could of been a very lucky boy

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By *ertiVogtsMan over a year ago

Exeter

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. well there's a lot here some I am sure are fine . Just do bi men wish to know you as a mate too. ..maybe that would sort the sleazy ones out. Xx"

Can I just say how much I LOVE sleazy? There is nothing better than sleazy for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haha

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By *amparaWoman over a year ago

biggleswade

there is no such thing as too fussy, and being fussy is the only way to be in my humble oppinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think men are just much more willing to go with anyone it makes it seem a lot more sleazy and all to easy.

One good thing about coming on here is it made me feel more normal as there are a lot of men who would "
well I like to know how it is for you men and I was thinking it must be different . Xx

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Although I'm bi and have met blokes off here in the past, if I want any man on man action now, I fuck off down the sauna

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Can I just say how much IOVE sleazy? There is nothing better than sleazy for me!

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well was not my words sleazy some like the unknown find it erotic ..we are all different I know this. Sleazy to some is erotic and fun to others a turn off.x

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. "
very brave posting.bisexualty is not shameful its just an expression of wider taste.understand your desire for privacy but hope it never completely inhibits you from a fulfilling life.well done for posting!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory."

But you have an amazing tinkle Mr monkey

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Possibly so. I get a fair amount of offers, but in reality, I'm not that easy to pull.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Possibly so. I get a fair amount of offers, but in reality, I'm not that easy to pull.

*Tugs Tina off somewhere

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory.

But you have an amazing tinkle Mr monkey

Thanks bro, it's all in the dinosaurs.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory.

But you have an amazing tinkle Mr monkey

Thanks bro, it's all in the dinosaurs.

Erm I don't mean I have sex with dinosaurs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. very brave posting.bisexualty is not shameful its just an expression of wider taste.understand your desire for privacy but hope it never completely inhibits you from a fulfilling life.well done for posting!! I think it's good people can be open here . It's not so easy in normal life now is it . its not a bit easy you are right.even in a forum like this we see the most dismissive and prejudicial attitudes!! why anyone would be critical of someones sexual tastes I've no idea.if its consensual safe and makes those involved happy...what's the gripe.not as if its compulsory!!!"
I have been a bi woman from a young age I new I was ...so I see you men no different to me ...my other half is not i wish he was .Its what's right for you at the end of the day ..and sites like this open the door for fun and new things it's good .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be frank if the messages I receive are anything to go by then no, the standard of single guys on here is so rock bottom that finding one attractive enough to be worth meeting would still be difficult.

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them.

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. very brave posting.bisexualty is not shameful its just an expression of wider taste.understand your desire for privacy but hope it never completely inhibits you from a fulfilling life.well done for posting!! I think it's good people can be open here . It's not so easy in normal life now is it . its not a bit easy you are right.even in a forum like this we see the most dismissive and prejudicial attitudes!! why anyone would be critical of someones sexual tastes I've no idea.if its consensual safe and makes those involved happy...what's the gripe.not as if its compulsory!!! I have been a bi woman from a young age I new I was ...so I see you men no different to me ...my other half is not i wish he was .Its what's right for you at the end of the day ..and sites like this open the door for fun and new things it's good ."
.Agree!! nothing more soul destroying than suppression of a natural harmless urge.this site and others are a means to a happy end if managed right.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory.

But you have an amazing tinkle Mr monkey

Thanks bro, it's all in the dinosaurs.

Erm I don't mean I have sex with dinosaurs."

Trex works quite well as a lubricant, so I've been told

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

Short answer, Yes.

Long Answer, when I split up from my wife, I needed cock, and lots off it. So I just fucked anything with a pulse. No getting to know them crap. It was purely business.

Now all that is out of my system, I have decided I don't want meaningless sex anymore, so I am not meeting anyone.

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"To be frank if the messages I receive are anything to go by then no, the standard of single guys on here is so rock bottom that finding one attractive enough to be worth meeting would still be difficult."
to be fair ,and with respect,your profile shows public photos of a large erect penis so i wonder why you don't understand it is bound to attract a baser and less selective type of individual to respond to this overt representation of yourself.there are as many types of men on here as there are women and while it is not a vanilla dating site its useful to remember the message given out influences the messages received.men are generally naturally assertive and immediate in their attempts to procure sex.some women the same! i wouldn't describe that as sleazy .its very much horses for courses!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Short answer, Yes.

Long Answer, when I split up from my wife, I needed cock, and lots off it. So I just fucked anything with a pulse. No getting to know them crap. It was purely business.

Now all that is out of my system, I have decided I don't want meaningless sex anymore, so I am not meeting anyone."
well you maybe could start just making friends and see where that go. I think we get all sort here. Why I say fab is like a sweet shop it's pick and mix.

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

From long experience I can confirm that it's easier to get men in to bed

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman over a year ago

West Midlands

"From long experience I can confirm that it's easier to get men in to bed"

Besides not all women need to "connect" to meet for NSA SEX

I don't always

If I fancy them often it's enough

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"From long experience I can confirm that it's easier to get men in to bed"

Really? You ain't been doing it right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think it's obvious what it says.......there are simply a lot more men on here so much more choice/chances.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm bisexual and live in Brighton and I suppose it would be easy for me to hook up with a guy for sex, however, I'm extremely picky about having sex with a man so although there are lots out there, there are very few I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Think it's obvious what it says.......there are simply a lot more men on here so much more choice/chances."
I think men are different to woman there needs at times ..yes men do out number woman but loads of bi men here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nice one bro!

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

"From long experience I can confirm that it's easier to get men in to bed

Really? You ain't been doing it right

Wanna bet? :P

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For every lady messaging me wanting to play with my tinkle I get 3 bros asking me the same thing if that helps your theory."

This mans a chick magnet it's more like 10 to 1 for me

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

Not just on here.

I regularly get chatted up by gay men...I've often reckoned that if only I were gay I'd be like a pig in muck!

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets just say, fab is a womans world lol

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

The penis is refined by nature to deliver semen into a recipient vagina, there's no reason why it would be considered overtly attractive to males in general - understandable yes, but you describe it as though it's somehow in the same category as a male bending over and presenting his bare ass."
i am aware what the penis is for in terms of reproduction.to put it plainly i really don't think you can put a pic on your profile of an erect cock and then express surprise when you receive messages from men.you and i both know that for many people on this site the profile requirements are ignored and a message is sent on the off chance the recipient enjoys a bit of cock fun on the side! i do not know how you imagine i was likening the pic to a provocative arse pic pose.both i feel would generate homosexual interest.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I don't meet men from this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The penis is refined by nature to deliver semen into a recipient vagina, there's no reason why it would be considered overtly attractive to males in general - understandable yes, but you describe it as though it's somehow in the same category as a male bending over and presenting his bare ass. i am aware what the penis is for in terms of reproduction.to put it plainly i really don't think you can put a pic on your profile of an erect cock and then express surprise when you receive messages from men.you and i both know that for many people on this site the profile requirements are ignored and a message is sent on the off chance the recipient enjoys a bit of cock fun on the side!"

I didn't actually say anything about being surprised, the point I made was how shit so many guys on here are. Crap profiles, crap pics, no idea how to broach the subject of sex.

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

The penis is refined by nature to deliver semen into a recipient vagina, there's no reason why it would be considered overtly attractive to males in general - understandable yes, but you describe it as though it's somehow in the same category as a male bending over and presenting his bare ass. i am aware what the penis is for in terms of reproduction.to put it plainly i really don't think you can put a pic on your profile of an erect cock and then express surprise when you receive messages from men.you and i both know that for many people on this site the profile requirements are ignored and a message is sent on the off chance the recipient enjoys a bit of cock fun on the side!

I didn't actually say anything about being surprised, the point I made was how shit so many guys on here are. Crap profiles, crap pics, no idea how to broach the subject of sex."
. agree with you partly on that point but many do promote themselves very well with florid text and clever pics.this site and results from it probably mean different things to different people.can't blame anyone for how they use it and who they try it on with!

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

Speaking as the partner of a bi man, he is picky about the men he meets and okays with, as least as much as I am, if not more so .... I think it is a myth that bi men are easier.

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"Speaking as the partner of a bi man, he is picky about the men he meets and okays with, as least as much as I am, if not more so .... I think it is a myth that bi men are easier."
it is largely.fits in with peoples prejudices.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Speaking as the partner of a bi man, he is picky about the men he meets and okays with, as least as much as I am, if not more so .... I think it is a myth that bi men are easier."

Maybe the straight ones that like cock are easier?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So,on the whole the site is full of undesirable people,fucking each other because they have either lowered their standards or just want any old cock or cunt. Except the forum users who can't find anyone worth fucking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So,on the whole the site is full of undesirable people,fucking each other because they have either lowered their standards or just want any old cock or cunt. Except the forum users who can't find anyone worth fucking. "
perfect summation

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the male arse is refined by nature to push out shit there's no reason why it should be considered overtly attractive to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm bisexual and live in Brighton and I suppose it would be easy for me to hook up with a guy for sex, however, I'm extremely picky about having sex with a man so although there are lots out there, there are very few I want to meet. "

I'm pretty sure you once messaged me, that definitely means you're not picky

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

Dung beetle maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live a secret life where everyone thinks I'm a real mans man

I tried to fight off my bicuriousity but it always pops up now and again

I seem to get a lot of attention of gay or bi guys because I seem to be what there after like a fantasy for them

Never took it the whole way and only done it once or twice but I don't think I'd ever meet a guy off here seems a bit to sleazy. "

Fantasy? You're a hole mate

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By *rchie300Man over a year ago

Hamworthy

"Catching the ghey increases your chances of getting sum fuk by 200% on average independent surveys say

"
whats the ghey? I really can't think what it is

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Men are just easy

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm pretty sure you once messaged me, that definitely means you're not picky :-

It wasn't about sex though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm pretty sure you once messaged me, that definitely means you're not picky :-

It wasn't about sex though!

Ffs not even the gheys want me

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm pretty sure you once messaged me, that definitely means you're not picky :-

It wasn't about sex though!

Ffs not even the gheys want me

Nor the bi guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really wouldn't know as i'm not that way inclined and I have filters on which prevent men from contacting me.

That said, I have found I have had to adjust PM settings in chat to prevent unwanted attention. Something else I have noticed in chat rooms is that I might make a comment addressing the ladies, after which I find a number of single guys _iewing my cam. Actually puts me off of going in there.

It seems that there is a majority of gay and bi men on this site that have absolutely no respect for other peoples sexual preferences - hence the need to block them.

Judging by this alone I would be inclined to suggest that perhaps it is easier for men to meet other men (if they choose to do so) than it is for them to meet women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really wouldn't know as i'm not that way inclined and I have filters on which prevent men from contacting me.

It seems that there is a majority of gay and bi men on this site that have absolutely no respect for other peoples sexual preferences - hence the need to block them.

Judging by this alone I would be inclined to suggest that perhaps it is easier for men to meet other men (if they choose to do so) than it is for them to meet women."

It's a bit weird that your actually put off by gay or bi people even looking at you...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

@alwaysfruity: no one can tell what your sexuality is unless they look at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a bit weird that your actually put off by gay or bi people even looking at you."

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"@alwaysfruity: no one can tell what your sexuality is unless they look at your profile. "

True, but the fact that I have made a comment addressing the ladies - fir example 'Afternoon ladies' - surely provides something of a hint

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"@alwaysfruity: no one can tell what your sexuality is unless they look at your profile.

True, but the fact that I have made a comment addressing the ladies - fir example 'Afternoon ladies' - surely provides something of a hint"

Not for a bi guy. They are just as likely to address ladies as well as men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"@alwaysfruity: no one can tell what your sexuality is unless they look at your profile.

True, but the fact that I have made a comment addressing the ladies - fir example 'Afternoon ladies' - surely provides something of a hint

Not for a bi guy. They are just as likely to address ladies as well as men. "

I suppose it's all a matter of perspective really.

As far as I'm concerned, if someone wishes to attract the attention of men, they would say 'hi fellas' etc rather than 'hello ladies'

Often I have said Hi room, or hello everyone as a general greeting, but from my point of _iew at least, if I make a comment specifically directed at the ladies, then it is intended only for the ladies.

Probably explains why I hardly use the chat rooms now

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a public forum and chatroom so you can't expect to dictate who replies to you. If you revise your expectations you might find your fab experience is more fun. So far, your gripes sound like being here is a chore, fending off unwanted attention. Be happy. Don't worry about what you can't change. So what if men look at your profile? Besides which, loads of people are in stealth mode so you don't even know who is looking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair Steve, I totally understand that the chat rooms and forum are public and for all to use. Been here ling enough to know that.

I wasn't actually trying to complain about unwanted attention, rather responding to the OP's original question.

Just that a couple if you chose to pick upon my comments and somehow insinuate that it is unreasonable for me to be uncomfortable about some things.

A straight guy. Have feelings? How very dare he.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"To be fair Steve, I totally understand that the chat rooms and forum are public and for all to use. Been here ling enough to know that.

I wasn't actually trying to complain about unwanted attention, rather responding to the OP's original question.

Just that a couple if you chose to pick upon my comments and somehow

insinuate that it is unreasonable for me

to be uncomfortable about some things.

A straight guy. Have feelings? How

very dare he."

I didn't mean to insinuate anything. Are you feeling uncomfortable talking to me here? If so, I won't talk to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One thing I can not stand is being patronised.

I made my initial comments on this thread in good spirits, but now I am considering asking admin to remove all of my posts from this thread

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"One thing I can not stand is being patronised.

I made my initial comments on this thread in good spirits, but now I am considering asking admin to remove all of my posts from this thread"

All I'm saying is if you get into the mindset that it doesn't matter who looks at your profile, you might enjoy fab a bit more. You mentioned feelings and being uncomfortable so I thought I'd ask. I wasn't patronizing you and I'm sorry it came across that way. Thats more a function of the limitations of typing rather than anything else.

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

"It's a public forum and chatroom so you can't expect to dictate who replies to you. If you revise your expectations you might find your fab experience is more fun. So far, your gripes sound like being here is a chore, fending off unwanted attention. Be happy. Don't worry about what you can't change. So what if men look at your profile? Besides which, loads of people are in stealth mode so you don't even know who is looking.

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common sense and well put! i am surprised anyone would be offended at being admired on this site,after all profiles are surely a marketing tool to procure desire and if the fallout is that attention is received from those you don't want to have sex with its just a mild and understandable side effect.'straight men" who complain about other men looking at them need to examine why they react as though its a threat.i think there is a bit of homophobic reaction there.?? having a pic of your man parts on show in public pics is frankly direct provocation for comment.

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By *eriousMeetZMan over a year ago

romford

common sense and well put! i am surprised anyone would be offended at being admired on this site,after all profiles are surely a marketing tool to procure desire and if the fallout is that attention is received from those you don't want to have sex with its just a mild and understandable side effect.'straight men" who complain about other men looking at them need to examine why they react as though its a threat.i think there is a bit of homophobic reaction there.?? having a pic of your man parts on show in public pics is frankly direct provocation for comment."
I cou of put that any better

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By *ancadamMan over a year ago

Stockport

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take great offence at the suggestion that I might be homophobic. How dare you?

I am not at all homophobic. I believe in equal rights for all, whether straight, gay, bi, trans or whatever.

I have the utmost respect for the choices and preferences and so on of others, and yet, it would seem from the bullying types that have decided to pick up on some comments that I made in response to the initial question of this thread - in which I was simply addressing a _iew on the question of the difference between the ease or difficulties of a man attracting either another man or a woman - patronising me about how the site works, what I should be expected to put up with and quite frankly suggesting that I should be grateful of the attention.

Why?

Let's go back to the comment I have just made about equality shall we?

How about others showing some respect for my choices and preferences eh?

And by this i'm not trying to get into the argument about people in chat rooms not knowing someone's sexuality etc. I'm talking about those within the forums who feel that they have some kind of divine right to tell others how they should be using fab and what they must put up with etc.

Who on earth do you people think you are?

Up until this morning I have thoroughly enjoyed my past 2 years on fab. I've been comfortable and happy with everything. I've learned how it works.

One thing I will not tolerate though, is bullying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like cake.

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

This went well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need a poo. And my only option is a sun baked hired portaloo...do i brave it, or bake it?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"i think there is a bit of homophobic reaction there.?? .

I think that is a huge over reaction. The word "homophobic" is used willy nilly at times, if you say you won't meet bi men you get accused of it too.

Maybe people should just accept that not all " straight" men or women for that matter want to be approached/ looked at by bi men or women and stop being defensive when the subject arises.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

'Always fruity' does have a gay/bi ring to it

No offence and I don't think you came across homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'Always fruity' does have a gay/bi ring to it

No offence and I don't think you came across homophobic. "

AlwaysHorny was already taken

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always think it's odd when people say they don't like gay/bi people looking at them. But it takes all sorts i guess. Btw am using the portaloo. Its really hot in here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always think it's odd when people say they don't like gay/bi people looking at them. But it takes all sorts i guess. Btw am using the portaloo. Its really hot in here..."

I find some things that other people like or dislike really odd, but I respect that everyone is different and that different people like different things and that maybe some things I quite like might not be to the taste of others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

https://youtu.be/Y2WVu6A-Fvw

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would seem that some comments in my initial post on this thread have been taken completely out of context.

I mentioned that I was put off of using the chat rooms because of the number of men that _iew me in there, particularly after I have made a comment directed toward the women folk in the chat room.

This has led to a number of, quite frankly, rather offensive comments towards me which demonstrates a complete lack of respect for my personal preferences.

For the record, I have no problem with gay or bi-sexual men. I even have some personal friends who are gay.

I have no problem with gay or bi-sexual men _iewing my profile or indeed fabbing any of my pictures. It has been made perfectly clear in my profile, however, that I have no interest in them.

The comment I made relates only to the chat rooms. I can not explain why I feel uncomfortable when a single male _iews my cam, but I do.

Is that OK with you lot?

It would seem that there are a select few - and I emphasise the word FEW - gay or bi-sexual men who for some reason, known only to themselves, feel the need to ram their sexuality down the throats of others.

The comments that have been made towards me echo this. I have seen comments made on other threads in the past that support this, and I have also seen similar comments by women, both in the forums and in statuses, that indicate that there are also a select number of straight men who also seem incapable of taking a subtle hint.

The point I am trying to make here is that there seem to be a number of men, irrespective of sexuality, who lack respect for others personal preferences or choices.

How many times have we read comments from women about men sending abusive messages following a rejection message?

This site is supposed to be fun. And up until this morning, it has been.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but just because you disagree with mine, doesn't make yours any more important.

I'm not pointing fingers at anyone in particular here, it would be wrong of me to do so, but just consider that we are all here for our own reasons and our own enjoyment, so please let's all grow up and show a little respect.

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

And breathe!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That portaloo was so hot! It was like being punished in a Japanese prisoner of war camp!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That portaloo was so hot! It was like being punished in a Japanese prisoner of war camp!"