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over a year ago
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I believe that couples who indulge in this lifestyle need to be strong in their relationship. Yet Ive heard stories from people who've met couples who've ended up arguing in front of everyone involved and making things extremely difficult.
I saw a couple in Chams once arguing, he was saying to her "go back and fuck him then if you want to" and she just stormed off. I was embarrassed just overhearing it. It has to be a two way decision on who or what to do when playing or it never works.
There are people who swing with others because they are lacking something in their own relationships. Its awful for people who meet them who get caught up in it all.
I just believe that if you're own relationship is shaky, dont swing to find fulfillment. Has anyone had experiences of couples falling out during a meet etc  |
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over a year ago
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I agree with you there.
My friend and i went to the alternate party at Chams last weekend. We were wandering around looking for a room to play in, just the two of us, in the last room were a couple that looked like they were having a heavy chat so we walked off, so embarrassing  |
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yes ive met up with couples in the past who clearly were there due to the male wanting to get his jollies but things turning a little prickly when he realized the female was enjoying the experience more than he bargained for . |
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Have seen it a few times at parties, and on one or two occassions things have kicked off big style!
We had hard and fast rules when we started, play only as a couple etc, but quite quickly found that we were comfortable with seperate play etc at parties, so long as we were happy that Jayne was safe. We would discuss things, and if one or other of us wasnt happy about anything, then we walked away.
This lifestyle is all about fun and friendships for us, if either of those factors isnt there, we dont do it, simples!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some good comments above. it must be one of them where your cringing when you see a couple arguing. shit they should of left the arguing for home. just leave em to it. Both parties need to be 100%. as for seperate room play, yes safty is paramount. |
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over a year ago
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i will not play with couples either meeting off here or in a club unless i have to go know them and i know they are happy and secure in what they do, ive had it so many times where couples have fell out after
I remember one night i was in the jacuzzi in chams and i was talking to a guy sat next to me, he was nice and he started touching me so i responded, i just had this feeling i was being watched and not in a good way, i turned round to see a rather sturn women stood at the steps watching us, it was his wife, to be honest i didnt even realise he was part of a couple, he turned to look at her and she yelled to him "oh your here are you, im sat upstairs waiting for you like a twat and i find you in here playing with that" .....looking at me 
so he stormed out and they had a bust up, later in the night i went to the bar where they was stood talking to another couple as i walked by the woman shouted out "yeah there she is look, fucking marrage wrecker going round playing with other wifes men behind their back" and to be honest there remarks went on pretty much every time she passed me to the point i got dressed and left
i didnt know he was a couple, i dont know what rules couples set, if guys in there wonder off and have a crafty play how the hell is it my fault
Ever since then i have only played with single guys and i always ask to make sure they are alone, if they are with someone i wont touch them |
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we had an argument with a couple once in connections it started when i went to a condom on and the womam said its ok you dont need to after we,d discussed it before hand and told them we play safe and they said they did too well my dick shrunk rapid and we left them then followed the barrage of insults i was gay becky was fucking ugly we were time wasters etc we didnt know where to put our faces but glen the manager give em a bollocking and threw em out funny enough ended up a good night as couples wanted to know what had gone on so we chatted to loads and played with a few |
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"we had an argument with a couple once in connections it started when i went to a condom on and the womam said its ok you dont need to after we,d discussed it before hand and told them we play safe and they said they did too well my dick shrunk rapid and we left them then followed the barrage of insults i was gay becky was fucking ugly we were time wasters etc we didnt know where to put our faces but glen the manager give em a bollocking and threw em out funny enough ended up a good night as couples wanted to know what had gone on so we chatted to loads and played with a few "
sounds like there was bond made after that. there can be some good that comes from an argument
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"yes ive met up with couples in the past who clearly were there due to the male wanting to get his jollies but things turning a little prickly when he realized the female was enjoying the experience more than he bargained for . "
Thats how my first 3sum ended. My boyfriend at the time pressured me into it, I was only 18, he stormed out in a paddy about an hour later because I was so into the woman, I'd forgotten he was there. I didn't notice he'd gone until about an hour after!!! |
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"i will not play with couples either meeting off here or in a club unless i have to go know them and i know they are happy and secure in what they do, ive had it so many times where couples have fell out after
I remember one night i was in the jacuzzi in chams and i was talking to a guy sat next to me, he was nice and he started touching me so i responded, i just had this feeling i was being watched and not in a good way, i turned round to see a rather sturn women stood at the steps watching us, it was his wife, to be honest i didnt even realise he was part of a couple, he turned to look at her and she yelled to him "oh your here are you, im sat upstairs waiting for you like a twat and i find you in here playing with that" .....looking at me
so he stormed out and they had a bust up, later in the night i went to the bar where they was stood talking to another couple as i walked by the woman shouted out "yeah there she is look, fucking marrage wrecker going round playing with other wifes men behind their back" and to be honest there remarks went on pretty much every time she passed me to the point i got dressed and left
i didnt know he was a couple, i dont know what rules couples set, if guys in there wonder off and have a crafty play how the hell is it my fault
Ever since then i have only played with single guys and i always ask to make sure they are alone, if they are with someone i wont touch them"
if that was us then we would make sure its ok if someone was to feel and touch us if we were apart say i (ryan) was at the loo but we would make sure we were both 100% happy about doing anymore than a touch and a feel with another person and not being caught having sex with another person when one of us was unaware of it.... |
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over a year ago
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Unfortunately I have also had some of these bad experiences with some couples, it's made me even more careful who I meet and equally important HOW I meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We very rarely play with couples and the one or two that we do occassionally play with we have known a long time and feel totally comfortable around
Generally I really don't feel comfortable playing with someone elses partner im much happier with singles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we had the same kinda thing happened at our first meet when nothing happened. the f fell in love with sam and well our friends know what happened after needless to say it became very akward lol but it made us stronger and made us ready and since weve dipped our toes in water and wanted to swim lol |
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over a year ago
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we've been on the scene a couple of years now and have only had one experience where the other couple had an altercation.
We'd finished playing, and as far as we were concerned, it went ok. By now the other lady was quite pissed, and she asked us to leave, just minutes after inviting us to stay over.
We tried to contact them the next day to see how things were and they'd blocked us
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over a year ago
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"me and my ex finished coz he cud shag anything wiv a pulse but not me!! he used me to get to couples, wasnt nice!!"
thats the shittest thing weve ever heard and one of the reasons we rarely see fuckbuddy couples.
the bloke has pulled a woman and in our honest opinion they are ussually plain to say the least , they then use that woman to play the couples whilst ignoring her completely..on the original topic we have been warned off certain couples by others weve met but never came accross a couple in a full scale argument..
you really do have to decide at the offset whats best for both and follow it through
if your a jealous type this game really isnt for you |
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A few examples I can cite where being married or not made very little difference...
A house party in Plymouth where the husband (married couple) was so annoyed that she was receiving too much attention that he left her at the party, got in his car and drove the Eighty miles home to North Devon without her....
A married couple I met through another site, he kept badgering her to try her bi side, I met them and she took me by the hand and led me upstairs.
She looked anything but a novice when she ravished me with great expertice, he came up and joined in but couldn't take the sight of his darling wife being more passionate with a woman than she had probably been with him in donkeys years......result?, he stormed out of the room and we found him in the back garden weeping like a baby....They were long term married.
A Couple I first got to know in Fetish clubs, they made the move over to swinging and when he looked to be enjoying himself a little bit too much one night at a club in Somerset (not with me I might add) she attacked him both in the club and during the drive home where she hit him so hard with her shoe he nearly crashed their car.....Long term married, but now seperated.
So please don't think that all married couples are neccesarily better equipped emotionally to handle swinging.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im always worried about it happening to us, I would hate to unknowingly overstep the mark and have someone accuse me of fancying their husband or partner a bit too much. That really would never be the case.
It is a very emotional thing at times and I guess it could happen to any one of us if that green eyed monster pops up. Luckily when we have met couples, we have always had a brilliant time and have loved the experience so at the moment its never been a problem. I have always got on with the female of the couple we are playing with. It helps to share a few messages on here and we meet for a drink first. |
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over a year ago
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we prefer to play seperate in rooms.
It's not everyones idea of fun, but we find we can relax and play without offending the other partner or your own partner.
ie, if the lady kisses your hubby too passionately, if she says something in the throes of lust that you think is a step too far. The same applies to the guys too of course.
It works for us.
We enjoy the occaisional free for all, where we are in an orgy situation, but when we play one on one, we prefer to play seperately.
We always play together afterwards, either there or on the way home if we are away.
We find that couples with bi partners usually like same room, not a hard and fast rule, but it's quite common in our experience, and we can understand that.  |
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I couldnt play separately, id feel very alone. For me sex is not the most important thing for me, its about the scenario of seeing him and him seeing me and we have to touch each other whilst in a play situation. We always look at each other whilst playing with others too.
I feel safe when hes there and the whole thing is a fantasy for us. We have time alone after any play session and we will chat and talk about it and giggle about it etc. To us thats the whole essence of swinging.
I can understand why couples do play in separate rooms though and then get together and talk about it. It really is down to how comfortable you are and thats what its all about |
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