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over a year ago
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I am new to this and don't really no how to approach people. With this being a site like it is it is hard to judge how to approach some even after reading there profile how would approach ?? |
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over a year ago
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A simple hello,tell them you find their profile interesting and why. Tell them useful thing about yourself and if your extremely lucky they will. 1. Read it. 2. Reply. |
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"I am new to this and don't really no how to approach people. With this being a site like it is it is hard to judge how to approach some even after reading there profile how would approach ??"
Can be hard graft just got to find someone who gives you a tad bit of time to see what your about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say - and I'm only saying because of a recent conversation - get involved with the forums. You can gauge a person's personality more that way, better than a few photos and some words on a profile. Also, if you're just firing out messages left right and centre, quite a few of those will get overlooked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think about how you want to leave them feeling after they have read it,
You want them to understand what your looking for and your interest in what they are looking for, without in anyway becoming over bearing or desperate
Make them want to know more so no essays on what you want but some detail is important
Introduce
Mention their profile and something off it to show read
Brief intro of your interests
Hope to hear from you
Add an if not of interest no reply necessary bit,
Get it right and you will stand out from the 'fancy a' message,
The problem is getting it seen when its a needle in a haystack with 100s of 'fancy a' message bombarding the site
Minimum word count will help with crappy one liners,
Or just get you one line 10 times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
I like to get to know someone before I meet them - my time is limited and I would rather chat to see if we click before meeting. Some of my meets have spoken for months before we get time scheduled to coincide to meet.
Effort in = rewards out.
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
You'd think it's that easy haha |
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"I'd say - and I'm only saying because of a recent conversation - get involved with the forums. You can gauge a person's personality more that way, better than a few photos and some words on a profile. Also, if you're just firing out messages left right and centre, quite a few of those will get overlooked."
I've jus started using forums so this might be the way in makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say - and I'm only saying because of a recent conversation - get involved with the forums. You can gauge a person's personality more that way, better than a few photos and some words on a profile. Also, if you're just firing out messages left right and centre, quite a few of those will get overlooked."
I agree with this.. woman or inundated with messages. Everyday.
If they have noticed you in the forums and notice a message from you they may actually open it.
I know a lot of women simply mass delete. |
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out."
I recently discovered the ratio is closer to 40 to 1!!! I would definitely limit single men..... If I was not one myself 
I wonder what the cull requirements would be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Generalising massively i would say for a newbie avoid women on the forum. A lot by their own admission are only interested in chatting on the forum and require some kind of gold plated opening message. Keep your targets local ish and look at verifications to see what kind of guys, if any, she is meeting. Then if possible look at their profiles and try and gauge what kind of men they are. Have they thought long and hard about their profile or not etc. If not then i doubt they worried to much adout their opening gambit. Thus your target is a "player" so don't worry to much about your initial greeting and worry more about your cock/torso/face pic. Never forget the number of women who use the forum on fab is comparatively tiny, so the advice they give is usually inaccurate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Take time to write a message, articulate yourself, check your spelling and grammar. Also be patient when waiting for a reply, just because someone is online it doesn't mean they're necessarily at their desk top.
Also avoid the usual cliché like send a picture of you knob, woman on here are inundated with cock shots. If you would like any more advice please deposit all your money into my off shore account lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out.
I recently discovered the ratio is closer to 40 to 1!!! I would definitely limit single men..... If I was not one myself
I wonder what the cull requirements would be? "
40 to 1????? You have to be kidding. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out.
I recently discovered the ratio is closer to 40 to 1!!! I would definitely limit single men..... If I was not one myself
I wonder what the cull requirements would be? "
christ on a bike that many,if it carries on like this it will men messaging other men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being honest.
you get out of this site what you put in
a well worded profile and nice photos will get you far and will start intrigue and perhaps a reply to a mail |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out.
I recently discovered the ratio is closer to 40 to 1!!! I would definitely limit single men..... If I was not one myself
I wonder what the cull requirements would be? christ on a bike that many,if it carries on like this it will men messaging other men "
Some men already do |
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply
Because this site is absolutely FULL of single men. I think the single male/single female ratio is 10:1 or something ridiculous like that. It's not Instashag!
As someone else has said, effort in=reward out."
I recently discovered the ratio is closer to 40 to 1!!! I would definitely limit single men..... If I was not one myself
I wonder what the cull requirements would be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
Why do you have to graft?
Because anything worth having, anything of any value, anything worth appreciating, is worth a bit of effort.
Put it this way, if you walked up to a total stranger in a bar and said "fancy a fuck?" do you think you'd get one?
But if you spent a few weeks getting to know her, allowing her to know you, building a bit of rapport, trust and attraction, do you think your chances of taking her to bed would be higher?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not just here that is saturated with single men,clubs and most other sites we all know of are exactly the same.So long as clubs and sites like these make money it is only going to get worse.And dont even start me on the price men have to pay to enter these clubs. |
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
"Why do you have to graft" - with that sort of attitude - you are going to struggle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Majority of my meets are not from the forum. People massively misjudge people on the forums and can get a very false sense of what's real and what's not. People project an image they want people to see. I think the best way is for one to one contact through messages. And get yourself to a social. A real "social", where play at the venue is not an option, so that you have to make an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take time to write a message, articulate yourself, check your spelling and grammar. Also be patient when waiting for a reply, just because someone is online it doesn't mean they're necessarily at their desk top.
Also avoid the usual cliché like send a picture of you knob, woman on here are inundated with cock shots. If you would like any more advice please deposit all your money into my off shore account lol "
This  and leave out the bullshit and trying to make yourself sound impressive. Just be you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But why do you have to graft it's not a dating site that's the reason I won't join them my thoughts on this site was if you like the look and sound of someone or a couple you have a social meet see how thing go from there not having to graft or pester just to get a reply "
No it's not a dating site and it doesn't have to be difficult, but it's not any easier (and probably harder in many ways) than getting people who you meet in real life to have sex with you. This applies regardless of the fact the male to female ratio is so high. If you met a woman in a bar and she didn't want to have sex with you, why would the same woman give a different answer because you've asked online? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take time to write a message, articulate yourself, check your spelling and grammar. Also be patient when waiting for a reply, just because someone is online it doesn't mean they're necessarily at their desk top.
Also avoid the usual cliché like send a picture of you knob, woman on here are inundated with cock in shots. If you would like any more advice please deposit all your money into my off shore account lol
This and leave out the bullshit and trying to make yourself sound impressive. Just be you. "
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