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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are too busy having fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some people have all the fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know so boring pfft no one meets any one we all.sit here knitting.it's like watching paint dry......or is it that we are busy enjoying fabs ,meets etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm washing my hair...

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back"

There are plenty who get plenty of replies, maybe the problem isn't with the site.

Have a look at some of the more successful guys and see what they're doing that you aren't (Like good photo's).

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back"

The replies men get decrease exponentially in line with various factors there isn't a great deal you can do about that. The best way to meet people is at socials or clubs if you can.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

As ever....there is a simple logical solution op...gauranteed

Dont send messages...

This advice is free, for the guaranteed way to get replies please send me your bank card details..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back"

Some advice you have no public pictures and nothing much written on profile that'll be why redo profile maybe things will improve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can get a wee samey so take a bit of time out OP...

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

All work no play is the problem with this place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for advice ppl

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Thanks for advice ppl"

Ah sorry dude

you're near my patch and they are all talking with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, not boring in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm having a blast.

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By *emini1637Woman over a year ago

Warwickshire

I don't find it boring!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too busy having group sex sorry.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back"

Why would you want to remain on a boring website? By inference, that makes you boring. And all of us. So if everyone is the same and boring, why have some people clearly having the time of their lives?

Clue: it's not the website....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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You have to give the people you message a reason to want to reply

Lots of women read profiles before they even open a message

You're competing against a huge number of other single men which makes it even more difficult

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is fab swingers so boring nobody replies back"

You're doing it wrong, never found it boring yet tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You get out of fab what you put in ....Don't send cut pasts to people as no matter how good they know .mail them with not a cock pic but a face and don't be boring asking for a shag first letter ..Make it stand out and different in some way ...or you just blend in. With the rest here ... My tips to you men here on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks and wouldn't dream of asking for a shag in first message thats desperate lol but thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead"

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here."

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's such a shame the site gets such grief. This site is the best I have used. It's user friendly, even for dafties like me, it's safe, it's very cheap for enhanced use and it's got plenty of tools to help make our time here more enjoyable.

The problem is the users! Not reading profiles fully (or at all), copy and paste messages, fake profiles and fantasists. Also people's expectations of a 'sex site'.

It's a great site, use it well, be patient and reap the filth in time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

True.

Maybe we should clarify.

Cheaters who come on the thread moaning that no-one wants to meet them seem to get a wide berth.

Cheaters going quietly on their own way not drawing attention to themselves, as they do in real life, just get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks and wouldn't dream of asking for a shag in first message thats desperate lol but thanks again

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I am glad you don't ...as people here need to see if they like you first . It must be hard being a man here but woman love a cheeky charmer with a good brain not just a cock .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was a single lady and close by I'd have you blocked. 'I always use condoms sometimes lol' sexual health isn't something to laugh or joke about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here."

Have I missed the bit that says he's married?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's such a shame the site gets such grief. This site is the best I have used. It's user friendly, even for dafties like me, it's safe, it's very cheap for enhanced use and it's got plenty of tools to help make our time here more enjoyable.

The problem is the users! Not reading profiles fully (or at all), copy and paste messages, fake profiles and fantasists. Also people's expectations of a 'sex site'.

It's a great site, use it well, be patient and reap the filth in time

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spot on ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

Have I missed the bit that says he's married?"

Gathering from earlier comments, the OP has changed his profile.

Seems he has added photos as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

First I'm not married lol n I suppose patience is a must thanks to the non judgmental on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

Have I missed the bit that says he's married?

Gathering from earlier comments, the OP has changed his profile.

Seems he has added photos as well."

Its a shame married/attached people get such a hard time on here because he's now obviously changed his profile. I don't meet attached people and appreciate the ones that make it clear on their profile so I know not to bother them. Now, because people have said cheaters have a hard time on here, he's denied us that info to make an informed decision. Its no wonder so many married/attached people lie on here when they get such a hard time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Standard advice OP:

1: profile.

Look at your profile name, status, pics and text. (Spell check and punctuation are important to some).

Look at the ladies you like and their verifications. Compare your profile with the people they meet and make positive changes.

2: communications.

You have messages, the forums and chat rooms. Use them.

You can send fire and forget messages, but with a scattergun approach expect nothing more than close-to-zero response rate.

So, start with thr forums and chat rooms while you build your profile and reputation.

3: patience.

This isn't InstaShag.com.

Do you think it would be worth your time and effort to be on this site for 8 weeks before you met someone for coffee the first time?

If not, change your expectations. You may be lucky, but you shouldn't expect anything.

4: clubs.

If you are serious about meeting people go to swingers clubs and meet people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First I'm not married lol n I suppose patience is a must thanks to the non judgmental on here"

Thanks OP for clarifying although you shouldn't have to. All the best to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Standard advice OP:

1: profile.

Look at your profile name, status, pics and text. (Spell check and punctuation are important to some).

Look at the ladies you like and their verifications. Compare your profile with the people they meet and make positive changes.

2: communications.

You have messages, the forums and chat rooms. Use them.

You can send fire and forget messages, but with a scattergun approach expect nothing more than close-to-zero response rate.

So, start with thr forums and chat rooms while you build your profile and reputation.

3: patience.

This isn't InstaShag.com.

Do you think it would be worth your time and effort to be on this site for 8 weeks before you met someone for coffee the first time?

If not, change your expectations. You may be lucky, but you shouldn't expect anything.

4: clubs.

If you are serious about meeting people go to swingers clubs and meet people. "

Sorry, just seen your photos: smile.

Not many can carry the moody look well. They normally look bored and stupid.

Get a photo from when you were doing something you enjoyed. Seriously, you can tell the difference in the photo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I was a single lady and close by I'd have you blocked. 'I always use condoms sometimes lol' sexual health isn't something to laugh or joke about. "

This

HUGE put off!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

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it's just nice if you know if they are ..so if not your thing you can say no thanks but it's there choice end of the day ... I just feel at times there's a which hunt here to out them ...if not upfront .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

it's just nice if you know if they are ..so if not your thing you can say no thanks but it's there choice end of the day ... I just feel at times there's a which hunt here to out them ...if not upfront . "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

As an aside, apart from the very vocal CheatersMustDie club (you know, the ones where half their partners are contacting us secretly anyway), I think the forums have become a lot more balanced recently with a few people taking the time and risk to make their case patiently and without reacting to the personal abuse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

I agree. I've seen a couple of threads where the OP has simply introduced themselves, had it clear they are attached on their profile and have been subject to the Spanish inquisition, then removed this info. One thread was closed and rightly so as the OP was getting such a hard time from some when he was just saying hi."
op should never be picked on because of a profile ..Some men get a really hard time here when having a go to standing out in forums so they get seen . It's about fun not all that here in forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

I do think eveyone has the right to know before meeting ~ whether it's via a profile or when messaging that is upto the individual.

You can see why people don't choose to display it though.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP....going back to your original question you need to sell yourself more via your profile, better photos & text will help.

Remember fab is a tool to use not the be all & end all of meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

I do think eveyone has the right to know before meeting ~ whether it's via a profile or when messaging that is upto the individual.

You can see why people don't choose to display it though.....

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well I think more of them if they say on there profile to tell the truth .. But it's nice to know at the end of the day so I don't have the wife on my door step.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP....going back to your original question you need to sell yourself more via your profile, better photos & text will help.

Remember fab is a tool to use not the be all & end all of meeting people."

Its too late now, the cheating police have labelled him as married, his fab life is over!!

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Because everyone is boring, clearly.

Anyway, can't stop now I'm off to 1890 in the Time-machine to pick up my new waistcoat for tonights mollynogging and shenanigans...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do say a bad workman blames his tools....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps because you're married? Maybe get the wife along and set up a couples profile instead

So are you married OP?

Cheaters tend to get a wide berth here.

That's not exactly true.

There's some very successful married 'cheaters' on here who just get on with it.

I agree. I've seen a couple of threads where the OP has simply introduced themselves, had it clear they are attached on their profile and have been subject to the Spanish inquisition, then removed this info. One thread was closed and rightly so as the OP was getting such a hard time from some when he was just saying hi. op should never be picked on because of a profile ..Some men get a really hard time here when having a go to standing out in forums so they get seen . It's about fun not all that here in forums."

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By *punkyhelmet5Man over a year ago

Weston-super-mare

Im ok i had 4 different meets in 10 days maybe its your attitude but everything comes to those who wait lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too busy ironing all my wyncette nightie's

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They're all busy meeting us

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

The line about not really liking more than a size 14 but will make exceptions, just doesn't read right, while its fine to have preferences, to me it's just translates as if I'm desperate enough for a shag a big girl will do! Not remotely appealing, ask yourself OP would you rather be with someone that genuinely finds you attractive and wants you or is just settling for the first one that replies?

However, maybe that's just my interpretation as a touchy, hormonal, heavily pregnant woman

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By *onyneMan over a year ago

Newcastle

It's all good for me...Not boring at all or I would leave

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

The problem is the users! Not reading profiles fully (or at all), copy and paste messages, fake profiles and fantasists. Also people's expectations of a 'sex site'.

It's a great site, use it well, be patient and reap the filth in time

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly your pics are not great. You seem like your hiding and a smile would be nice - this is a fun site. No need to look so serious!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Welcome to the site.

One thing that has not been mentioned is....it won't matter what is on your profile some people just don't reply at all.

If you accept this your time on the site will be more enjoyable.

Good luck.

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