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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks"
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Politeness and patience  "
Oh fuck that shit that's basically saying sit and wait for scraps to fall of the table.
Be confident, be upfront, and don't be scared to approach people.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?"
Thanks for your time to write this post, and the reference actually made me laugh, but it is a valid point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I get msgs first as well from women now and again, mostly from the forum X
Are they asking why you haven't got an 8 pack yet?"
lol and yes they ask that as well few times to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?
Thanks for your time to write this post, and the reference actually made me laugh, but it is a valid point. "
There's one thing I can tell you mate every first message I've had from a woman or couple has mentioned how they liked how my profile was written, that they thought it was funny, interesting, different.
Write it honestly, and show who you are, what you're after and what you like.
Don't try to speak to everyone as you'll end up appealing to noone say what your actual after and you'll probably find it.
One key piece of advice I can say is read your profile and see if you can think of a message to write yourself, the better your profile the easier that should be.
The easier you are to start a conversation with the more people will do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I get msgs first as well from women now and again, mostly from the forum X
Are they asking why you haven't got an 8 pack yet?lol and yes they ask that as well few times to "
I would ask though what's your cheat/shoulder routine though shag my pecs are just reluctant to grow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the tips, never actually wrote a profile text but I'll give it a bash! ??"
Also number one priority a good torso/bum/face pic to use as your avatar the black default one is an instant delete for many |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I get msgs first as well from women now and again, mostly from the forum X
Are they asking why you haven't got an 8 pack yet?lol and yes they ask that as well few times to
I would ask though what's your cheat/shoulder routine though shag my pecs are just reluctant to grow."
Yes, if it don't grow u ned to make sure and focus ur workouts around it and do it 3 times a week.
Chest
Bench prees/ 5 x10 reps Max 135kg 1rep max
chest dunbell press 5x10
chest pec dec 5x10
dip machine 3 x 10
u need to go to failure on all reps.
Shoulders
Shoulder press machine 5x10 Max rep 75kg for 10 reps
Side lats 5 x 15 reps
Front raises 5.10
Rear shoulder machine 5 x10
Shrugs 5 x 10
That's the routine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha, I go out for a run most days but don't actually use a gym. Just don't have time with work"
Strong lifts 5x5 is what I do takes me 30-40 mins 3 times a week I do it on the way home from work at 6:30 am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks"
I message those I'm interested in as I'm sure some other fems will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well "
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap. "
Let's face it - they're going to be diving in to your lap.....
Face first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often message guys first in fact, I have times when I block guys so no one can message me and actively search myself. The profile has to have a good selection of pics including a face pic and an informative and light hearted write up to get my attention. It works well for me and all the guys I've met on my current profile have been guys I made first contact with. |
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Yesterday I got an early morning message from a couple asking if I would like some fun. I didn't have time.
Then on the way home, as I passed through a couple of different areas I got a couple more from single ladies.
All this with my profile stating that I am not meeting
I get most messages from the forums, but I do receive unsolicited mail from the site as well. My avatar helps and suggest you do something to catch the eye of those you want to attract.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I message men first as we have blocked single men from contacting us first. We did that because when we joined the site we didn't have any blocked set and we were overwhelmed with messages. It was too much too soon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my honest advice....
put yourself in the ladies position, she gets bombarded with messages everyday, so unless you really put yourself out there no one is going message you... as you have no pictures, you describe yourself as avaerage, theres no effort dude....
its not a criticism... my a few guys profile that seem to be doing well and try pick up some tips. good luck |
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I much prefer to actively seek out men and message them, rather than sift through loads of shit mail, to find decent profiles. Nearly all my single male meets, are from those that I contacted first. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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My meet on Saturday came as a result of an initial message from the lady...I was delightfully shocked at the time and even more delighted when it was her who messaged me Saturday afternoon asking if I was free that evening |
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Get some more pics ... Maybe say a bit more on your profile ..... There are many guys on here so competion is tough and above all you got too be patient and in my opinion if a girl likes you she finds you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have email conversations; I chat to people - rarely is it sexual in nature. If someone was interested that way I would hope it came about organically in the ebb and flow of conversation - or they just asked directly.
So much focus is on messaging as a fast-track to sex, rather than as a social medium.
I believe that this makes a lot of couples / single ladies recipient to email single guys because they fear its immediately taken as a sign of interest. Then the guy will expect nude shots on email number 2 followed by time, location and a detailed itinerary of sexual acts on mail number 3!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've messaged some but only if they have winked at me and caught my eye.
When it comes to profiles you have to stand out. One thing though, you say you are genuine but can't accommodate. To me this screams 'married man getting his cake and wanting to eat more'.
I am not being 2 faced as i can't accommodate either but I have young kids at home.
Profile pics as well. But then again we always hear "i have to be discreet" but I'm sure no one would recognise a torso or arse shot unless you have a birthmark the shape of italy on your left buttock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks"
Yes, I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've messaged some but only if they have winked at me and caught my eye.
When it comes to profiles you have to stand out. One thing though, you say you are genuine but can't accommodate. To me this screams 'married man getting his cake and wanting to eat more'.
I am not being 2 faced as i can't accommodate either but I have young kids at home.
Profile pics as well. But then again we always hear "i have to be discreet" but I'm sure no one would recognise a torso or arse shot unless you have a birthmark the shape of italy on your left buttock"
So a man who cannot accommodate must be married eh , ever thought that some may be in the same position as you ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've messaged some but only if they have winked at me and caught my eye.
When it comes to profiles you have to stand out. One thing though, you say you are genuine but can't accommodate. To me this screams 'married man getting his cake and wanting to eat more'.
I am not being 2 faced as i can't accommodate either but I have young kids at home.
Profile pics as well. But then again we always hear "i have to be discreet" but I'm sure no one would recognise a torso or arse shot unless you have a birthmark the shape of italy on your left buttock
So a man who cannot accommodate must be married eh , ever thought that some may be in the same position as you ?
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Its easier for a woman to get a meet than it is a man. A small explanation on his profile to why he can't accommodate would actually work in his benefit. How many womens profiles do you see that say they won't meet married men? Quite a few! It wasn't a dig at any married man, just a small heads up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?"
That is brilliant way of putting it well impressed admin should put this on the faq bit where whinging folk who cant get meets or make no effort should go. |
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If I like the look of someone then yes I will message first. More chance of being a good match for me than receiving 50 'hi Hun' 'you free now' 'fancy a fuck' messages. Mind you it's often met with disbelief that a real woman would actually message first. Seriously guys, some women know what they want and not afraid to go after it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap.
Let's face it - they're going to be diving in to your lap.....
Face first "
Oh now there's a vision... |
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By *aycee70Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of the mail I recieve comes through the forum but I still get a the odd one every now and then.
You attracting odd women Lib?"
Like attracts like. Apparently. |
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?"
Haha, very good..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've ever messaged a man first..  definitely reactive rather than pro active.
Poke poke..... aww yes I need to reply to you xxxx"
I've patiently worn my fingers down to the bone tapping them on the table |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have quite frequently sent the first message. I do get quite a lot of messages, I don't reply to the one liners or those who obviously haven't read my profile, and I will reply even if I not interested if the bloke has made an effort to write or makes me laugh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks
You have no profile picture
You have one public picture and it's a pretty poor cock pic
You profile is shorter than this post and says practical nothing about you.
But yes women do message men.
But here's the thing your in the supermarket you go to the tinned food section one tin says "delicious baked beans with pork sausages in a rich tomato sauce" with a lovley picture of the sumptuous contents
The other says "please ask a member of staff if you wish to know the contents of this can" with no picture at all.
Which do you think our beans and sausage buyer is going to pick up?
Thanks for your time to write this post, and the reference actually made me laugh, but it is a valid point.
There's one thing I can tell you mate every first message I've had from a woman or couple has mentioned how they liked how my profile was written, that they thought it was funny, interesting, different.
Write it honestly, and show who you are, what you're after and what you like.
Don't try to speak to everyone as you'll end up appealing to noone say what your actual after and you'll probably find it.
One key piece of advice I can say is read your profile and see if you can think of a message to write yourself, the better your profile the easier that should be.
The easier you are to start a conversation with the more people will do it."
That's mint advice. Writing yourself a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whey hey! Thanks Lisa, my first reply! Haha
Yeah I'm always up for a laugh fetishman, just no one gives me a chance haha"
You have no pictures Hun! Would you buy something you saw advertised if you couldn't see a picture of it??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap.
Let's face it - they're going to be diving in to your lap.....
Face first "
Oh you'd be surprised...it hasn't always been a successful endeavour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap.
Let's face it - they're going to be diving in to your lap.....
Face first
Oh you'd be surprised...it hasn't always been a successful endeavour "
Quite! I get probably 90%+ outright no reply or 'no thanks'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have sent the first message many a times and been shot down many times as well
Same here, if I'm looking for a new meet I'm not going to just sit and wait for it to fall into my lap.
Let's face it - they're going to be diving in to your lap.....
Face first
Oh you'd be surprised...it hasn't always been a successful endeavour "
Blind and or stupid lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I message guys (and ladies) from the forums mostly!!
Regular users though (ie non forumites):
Well - once in a blue moon I browze local men and see this:
Cock pic
Shadow
Shadow
Cock
Shadow
Cock
Cock
Uninspiring!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, so this is my second attempt on fabswingers with no luck before, used to mail women (not in the pervy way) and I just wouldn't get replies. But I did notice women don't mail first. Is this the case with others?
Thanks"
No pics. Average text. Not a chance. |
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