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Why we stay in manipulative domanent relationships
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I don't and won't stay in one regardless if the sex is amazing there is more to a relationship than sex. I don't like any kind of unhealthy relationships but some stay in them as the other person has got in their head some how. |
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over a year ago
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"Some people are not aware they're being manipulated.
and some people are actually scared
Plus they can make you think you can't live without them. "
Or that nobody else would want them. Self-esteem is usually in their boots.
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over a year ago
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They just don't care what you want. They see you as a supplier for whatever they want and use you as such. Simple as.
Some are very good at knowing what you want and pretending they'll give that to you, but mostly they stop even trying to please you because they know you'll give them what they want anyway. |
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over a year ago
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"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good p
I dont think the sex would make anyone want to stay in a bad relationship
You would be surprised "
fuck that |
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over a year ago
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"Very good answer affectionate bitch you know my story / and very thankful to you for all it advice / they tell you they love you want to marry you then abuse you and disappear for days to punish you and turn of phone / and when back tell lies to you as you take them bk / do you keep in contact affectionate / she now says she has another guy : just like that and wants to ring and stay friends / mane for financial safety I think : think better off to change my number / any more stories of mini pilasters out there ye sexy people / p     "
I personally cut anyone like that out of my life, and it will get to a point where you will want to too because you'll make sense of everything that's going on and realise what's really happening is not what you're being told, this will become obvious every time they speak to you.
I think you're still in the messed up head stage of knowing what's true but not quite believing it yet.
You can still have that person around in your life, but you have to cut yourself dead from them emotionally and you have to act like anything they say is irrelevant to your life as well - because it is irrelevant seeing as they are living in some kind of alternative reality to yours. |
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"So if you know what she's doing, do you think you're more on the path to telling her to take a hike then?
As most people I've known like that don't just have ONE person on the go..."
he likes the attention and to feel "wanted" |
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"Hi brad and any look up covert emotional manipulation on net first page wil explain the way it works it's sexual extortion for money a they tell you they love you but abuse you a lot more to make you heir financial slave / form of bran washing   they do it for control and money / they are unhappy pysopaths with no feelings / and get pleasure from abusing and robing there victim until they get borne fans start new victim /   "
Oh trust me, we both know the type.
One girl has tried it with Bradley in the past (she didn't get very far) and we have both seen friends and people we know fall foul to this.
But, of course, they bury their heads in the sand when you try and talk to them about it. |
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"So if you know what she's doing, do you think you're more on the path to telling her to take a hike then?
As most people I've known like that don't just have ONE person on the go...
he likes the attention and to feel "wanted" "
Plus she's given him all kinds of stories (that might actually be true) in the hope of making him feel sorry for her and wanting to look after her.
She knows what she's doing and how to get to people. It's all about her though and never about him, he'll get that eventually, and i think he's getting it now. |
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I think if most people are honest with themselves they'll realise that they have, at one time or another, been involved in a manipulative relationship and, if they're even more honest with themselves, some may even realise that they were the manipulator.
It's often said that everything in life is about sex except sex; sex is about control & power.
Without passing judgment one way or another, it would be interesting to hear the other side (in this case her side) of this story. |
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Just block numbers, stop all contact. She obviously knows how to press your buttons.
My ex was lovely when we first met then gradually got worse by which time I was (i thought) too in love with him to leave. Then I fell pregnant.
Took me a long time to realise that I was worth more than being abused and treated like a cunt.
Best thing I ever did walking away. I'm much stronger now and looking back the warning signs were there. I'll never be in that situation again., |
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It's a complex mix of emotions at play, as well as someone's beliefs.
Fear, anxiety - very linked of course. We can be frightened of change, and generally people do what they can to keep things stable, often even if it means they suffer.
Self-beliefs - such as a person will have it worse afterwards, maybe they've been threatened too. Lack of self belief - they haven't got what it takes to be alone or accomplish the split.
Guilt/shame - they would be bad to leave someone, in their own minds.
It's a complex web of interlinked stuff, some of dating from their earlier lives. |
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"I genuinely can't follow what's going on here anyone care to do a translation?"
I must admit I struggle to figure out what exactly the OP is saying but I'll try what I think is a translation. Watch this space. |
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"This story is only one sided anyway Unleashed Cracken.
The woman is psychotic, I can see that now. She rang me today to say this other guy is not for her even though she's been with him for 3 monts I suspect. She says she misses me and 'mane she llk mx man' (it's Greek to me) and that she's very depressed. Absolutely nuts! She also asked if I could lend her £100 (I'd never get it back, as usual). It's a sexual cash game that she's playing with other guy to, probably fucking someone one else at the same time to. It's just a game to her. She thinks we all want her, I think it helps to stave off her depression, she is mentally ill. I now know, thanks to you, it's just covert emotional manipulation for fun and money. She wants to destroy her victims mentally, affectionate bitch. She acts like the victim and if you disagree with her she will verbally abuse you; she dominates for power and control.
So there you have it folks, it's a money business, a sick game for her as she destroys guys emotionally.      "
Hope this helps and is a reasonable translation of what the OP was trying to say. |
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Right that makes more sense I'm guessing maybe his phone/pc etc maybe uses another language or something and all the grammatical things like commas and brackets arw being defaulted to / or something. |
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"Right that makes more sense I'm guessing maybe his phone/pc etc maybe uses another language or something and all the grammatical things like commas and brackets arw being defaulted to / or something. "
Well that's one explanation I guess. |
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"Well, for me it was a mixture of fear and him making me believe that nobody else would want me...
Certainly wasn't the sex, that was crap.
- Amy. x"
It usually is....if the sex was good you would stay because you wanted to. Not because some sick, inadequate bully manipulates you into thinking you have to. |
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