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It would probably never happen because I don't think that anyone could know my body the way Mr N does.
We have both had experiences with others that we haven't with each other for instance we met a lady who could deep throat and I can't, I was just happy that he got to experience that.
I honestly don't think though that the experience of having sex a couple of times with someone else could ever be better than a whole lifetime of experience of having sex with a trusted and loved partner. |
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I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship. |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
You can't have a threesome with only two of you, you can't live out some of our wilder BDSM fantasies with only two, you can't look over and meet your husbands eyes as you fuck another man and enjoy the thrill that seeing him getting off on watching you gives, or see him being deep throated by a woman and thoroughly enjoying it....I could go on.  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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As I don't have a partner I see sex as an enhancement to my life.
When I did have a partner, long before I ever knew about swinging, I agreed to have a threesome with his best friend. It was a Christmas present to him. It was an enhancement and gave us something to titillate us for some time.
It wasn't a comparison between the great sex we had just a different experience we couldn't achieve on our own.
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
people swing for different reasons, variety, mmf, mfm, moresomes, generally, well for me, my partner only has one cock and one body plus doing stuff together exploring, has nothing to do with the sex between us.
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You can't have a threesome with only two of you, you can't live out some of our wilder BDSM fantasies with only two, you can't look over and meet your husbands eyes as you fuck another man and enjoy the thrill that seeing him getting off on watching you gives, or see him being deep throated by a woman and thoroughly enjoying it....I could go on. "
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You can't have a threesome with only two of you, you can't live out some of our wilder BDSM fantasies with only two, you can't look over and meet your husbands eyes as you fuck another man and enjoy the thrill that seeing him getting off on watching you gives, or see him being deep throated by a woman and thoroughly enjoying it....I could go on. "
Yeah, I can understand that xx |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...  "
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
And actually the question I asked initially hadn't been asked before. |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
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Really? I thought everyone was supposed to comment on every thread in every forum, even if it wasn't in any way remotely of interest to them or applied to there lives in any way.
Well done the canaries by the way. |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
Really? I thought everyone was supposed to comment on every thread in every forum, even if it wasn't in any way remotely of interest to them or applied to there lives in any way.
Well done the canaries by the way. "
Thanks!! Monday was a great day for me |
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The sex isnt always the pull in swinging. It certainly isnt for me.
The thrill in swinging for us is that we are doimg something taboo and decadent. We get off on the fact that we attend all these crazy parties and indulge in naightiness and then following day we go back to our professional and prim and proper lifestyle.
The thrill for us is our secret life and not the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It would probably never happen because I don't think that anyone could know my body the way Mr N does.
We have both had experiences with others that we haven't with each other for instance we met a lady who could deep throat and I can't, I was just happy that he got to experience that.
I honestly don't think though that the experience of having sex a couple of times with someone else could ever be better than a whole lifetime of experience of having sex with a trusted and loved partner. "
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
And actually the question I asked initially hadn't been asked before."
I saw it (before you deleted it.)  |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
And actually the question I asked initially hadn't been asked before.
I saw it (before you deleted it.) "
So you know there wasn't another thread about it then? |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
And actually the question I asked initially hadn't been asked before.
I saw it (before you deleted it.)
So you know there wasn't another thread about it then?"
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
Really? I thought everyone was supposed to comment on every thread in every forum, even if it wasn't in any way remotely of interest to them or applied to there lives in any way.
Well done the canaries by the way.
Thanks!! Monday was a great day for me "
Why, what happened on Monday?
Are you still celebrating?
Who do you want as your first game? |
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"Honestly, do we need another one of these threads?...
You do know you don't have to comment on threads don't you.
Really? I thought everyone was supposed to comment on every thread in every forum, even if it wasn't in any way remotely of interest to them or applied to there lives in any way.
Well done the canaries by the way.
Thanks!! Monday was a great day for me
Why, what happened on Monday?
Are you still celebrating?
Who do you want as your first game?"
A nice easy game at first would be good so Liverpool |
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"The sex isnt always the pull in swinging. It certainly isnt for me.
The thrill in swinging for us is that we are doimg something taboo and decadent. We get off on the fact that we attend all these crazy parties and indulge in naightiness and then following day we go back to our professional and prim and proper lifestyle.
The thrill for us is our secret life and not the sex. "
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Been thinking this one over myself - I don't want or yearn for sex with other man, as I am part of a couple, so my profile states that I only meet women, which is the case, despite the many messages I receive to the contrary. As a couple, I also meet TVs and, as my bf is bi, we also meet bi guys, but that brings in a different experience |
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"The sex isnt always the pull in swinging. It certainly isnt for me.
The thrill in swinging for us is that we are doimg something taboo and decadent. We get off on the fact that we attend all these crazy parties and indulge in naightiness and then following day we go back to our professional and prim and proper lifestyle.
The thrill for us is our secret life and not the sex. "
But you enjoy the sex though? |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
I didn't see the original question, but I can hazard a guess from the first response. |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
I don't think its a case of sex with others being better or worse. I think its just the change that can be exciting. |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
I think you are massively missing the point about why couples swing. It's not to compensate for something that is missing sexually |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
I think you are massively missing the point about why couples swing. It's not to compensate for something that is missing sexually "
I interpreted the OP asking couples to clarify because she needs a bit more insight here? |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
I think you are massively missing the point about why couples swing. It's not to compensate for something that is missing sexually
I interpreted the OP asking couples to clarify because she needs a bit more insight here?"
First paragraph maybe but anyone assuming that people swing because there relationship is dull or predictable is missing the point as to why the vast majority of couples swing. It's about 'adding to' not 'compensating for' |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
I think you are massively missing the point about why couples swing. It's not to compensate for something that is missing sexually
I interpreted the OP asking couples to clarify because she needs a bit more insight here?
First paragraph maybe but anyone assuming that people swing because there relationship is dull or predictable is missing the point as to why the vast majority of couples swing. It's about 'adding to' not 'compensating for' "
That makes a lot of sense. Thanks xxx |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
I think you are massively missing the point about why couples swing. It's not to compensate for something that is missing sexually
I interpreted the OP asking couples to clarify because she needs a bit more insight here?
First paragraph maybe but anyone assuming that people swing because there relationship is dull or predictable is missing the point as to why the vast majority of couples swing. It's about 'adding to' not 'compensating for'
That makes a lot of sense. Thanks xxx"
Now that makes it a little more interesting because in the mathematical sense, if you have to add, you have not got enough? If there was enough, you would not need to add anything, would you? I haver a couple profile on here too, so not making any judgements here, just like a good debate - without judgement (not sure if that is possible in these forums), but also with the proviso that I have to get ready to go to work so may be in and out, then out for a while .... |
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I am only one woman. I have my likes, my dislikes, my turn ons and turn offs. There are other women out there with their likes, dislikes, turn ons and turn offs. I am not the same as these other women. That does not make me better than them, it makes me different. There are things I can do with other men that wouldn't turn 2wheels on and there are things he likes to try with other women that does nothing for me. Variety is the spice of life.
Plus, it would be very difficult for us to have group sex with just the 2 of us.
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"I am only one woman. I have my likes, my dislikes, my turn ons and turn offs. There are other women out there with their likes, dislikes, turn ons and turn offs. I am not the same as these other women. That does not make me better than them, it makes me different. There are things I can do with other men that wouldn't turn 2wheels on and there are things he likes to try with other women that does nothing for me. Variety is the spice of life.
Plus, it would be very difficult for us to have group sex with just the 2 of us.
crystal "
Absolutely right
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
Good question |
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"I am only one woman. I have my likes, my dislikes, my turn ons and turn offs. There are other women out there with their likes, dislikes, turn ons and turn offs. I am not the same as these other women. That does not make me better than them, it makes me different. There are things I can do with other men that wouldn't turn 2wheels on and there are things he likes to try with other women that does nothing for me. Variety is the spice of life.
Plus, it would be very difficult for us to have group sex with just the 2 of us.
crystal "
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship."
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
S x"
God, no, I'd never think I'd be better than anyone else.
And,no, I haven't met any MF couples but like someone else said on here, variety is the Spice of life, for all of us, not just those in relationships. |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
S x
God, no, I'd never think I'd be better than anyone else.
And,no, I haven't met any MF couples but like someone else said on here, variety is the Spice of life, for all of us, not just those in relationships."
But you're open to meeting them even though you assume there's something wrong with their sex life? Surely they'd be the last type anyone would want.
And yes, variety is definitely the spice of life. You understand that so what was the point of the OP?
Just wondering...
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
S x
God, no, I'd never think I'd be better than anyone else.
And,no, I haven't met any MF couples but like someone else said on here, variety is the Spice of life, for all of us, not just those in relationships.
But you're open to meeting them even though you assume there's something wrong with their sex life? Surely they'd be the last type anyone would want.
And yes, variety is definitely the spice of life. You understand that so what was the point of the OP?
Just wondering...
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I never assumed there was something wrong with their sex life but quite a few swingers have said they got into swinging because their sex life had got boring & mundane. |
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
S x
God, no, I'd never think I'd be better than anyone else.
And,no, I haven't met any MF couples but like someone else said on here, variety is the Spice of life, for all of us, not just those in relationships.
But you're open to meeting them even though you assume there's something wrong with their sex life? Surely they'd be the last type anyone would want.
And yes, variety is definitely the spice of life. You understand that so what was the point of the OP?
Just wondering...
I never assumed there was something wrong with their sex life but quite a few swingers have said they got into swinging because their sex life had got boring & mundane."
Well you had your answers already then.
Some had mundane sex lives so started swinging.
Some didn't and sometimes engage others as toys/add-ons to add variety to an already good sex life.
Variety
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"I suppose I'm always a little bit intrigued that if sex between swinging couples is so good, why would you want or need sex that is second best then?
I can understand if sex has become boring & predictable & swinging helps to put the spark back in a relationship.
You meet MF couples?
Genuine question:
If you think the sex might be rubbish between the two of them - are you offering yourself as helper or hoping he'll see you as better than her? If so, to what end?
I'm wondering why straight single women meet MF couples
S x
God, no, I'd never think I'd be better than anyone else.
And,no, I haven't met any MF couples but like someone else said on here, variety is the Spice of life, for all of us, not just those in relationships.
But you're open to meeting them even though you assume there's something wrong with their sex life? Surely they'd be the last type anyone would want.
And yes, variety is definitely the spice of life. You understand that so what was the point of the OP?
Just wondering...
I never assumed there was something wrong with their sex life but quite a few swingers have said they got into swinging because their sex life had got boring & mundane."
Seems to be a bit of a witch hunt.
There's nothing wrong with the question you asked OP. You are right in that some people will have started swinging because their sex life was boring, it's just that those people are unlikely to admit it to their partner, let alone admit it to the forum.
Some great answers on this thread though. Good insight into other people's perceptions. |
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"Well you had your answers already then.
Some had mundane sex lives so started swinging.
Some didn't and sometimes engage others as toys/add-ons to add variety to an already good sex life.
Variety
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Neither of those apply to us. We have great sex, are still very much in love after many years of being together, and we certainly don't see other people as toys. We're looking to swing in the same way people fancy visiting Africa or India... life's an adventure and swinging can be a part of that adventure. We're both artists so we're both more open than "ordinary folk" about all the various fruits of life we'd like to try on our journey through.. and that includes the possibility of growing an extended community of friends which enables a more profound intimacy between us... we're basically a couple of hippies    |
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"Well you had your answers already then.
Some had mundane sex lives so started swinging.
Some didn't and sometimes engage others as toys/add-ons to add variety to an already good sex life.
Variety
Neither of those apply to us. We have great sex, are still very much in love after many years of being together, and we certainly don't see other people as toys. We're looking to swing in the same way people fancy visiting Africa or India... life's an adventure and swinging can be a part of that adventure. We're both artists so we're both more open than "ordinary folk" about all the various fruits of life we'd like to try on our journey through.. and that includes the possibility of growing an extended community of friends which enables a more profound intimacy between us... we're basically a couple of hippies "
I always imagine you smiling all the time. I like that. Happy. |
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"Well you had your answers already then.
Some had mundane sex lives so started swinging.
Some didn't and sometimes engage others as toys/add-ons to add variety to an already good sex life.
Variety
Neither of those apply to us. We have great sex, are still very much in love after many years of being together, and we certainly don't see other people as toys. We're looking to swing in the same way people fancy visiting Africa or India... life's an adventure and swinging can be a part of that adventure. We're both artists so we're both more open than "ordinary folk" about all the various fruits of life we'd like to try on our journey through.. and that includes the possibility of growing an extended community of friends which enables a more profound intimacy between us... we're basically a couple of hippies "
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Swinging means different things to different people - that's why it's so good. It's so varied and there's something for everyone. Add-ons aplenty for us |
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"I am only one woman. I have my likes, my dislikes, my turn ons and turn offs. There are other women out there with their likes, dislikes, turn ons and turn offs. I am not the same as these other women. That does not make me better than them, it makes me different. There are things I can do with other men that wouldn't turn 2wheels on and there are things he likes to try with other women that does nothing for me. Variety is the spice of life.
Plus, it would be very difficult for us to have group sex with just the 2 of us.
crystal "
I've come back to this because I liked it a lot crystal. I think this carries over well into non-swinging life too. For just general life type things.
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