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how many meets is too many?
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Ok
Maybe I'm stirring up a hornets nest here
I don't mean to honest
BUT
I've seen on various profiles and seen mention on the forums that
"I'm not here to shag everyone else on Fab and won't meet people who do"
Especially when all you really know about most people's sex life is their verifications
So I'm just wondering
How many is too many? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."
What if they are from socials?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I think I'm right in saying that it's not the first time you've started a thread like this. Assuming that it is linked to you what does it matter what others think? Do what is right for you, but if the opinion of strangers bothers you that much then maybe reconsider what you do |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
What if they are from socials?
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We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that! |
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."
Is not being fussy such a bad thing? |
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Is not being fussy such a bad thing?"
If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!
Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
What if they are from socials?
We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that! "
So many people don't read the verifications, just judge on the number received ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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End of the day
Its who you want to meet and its your call on how many.
Your dammed if you do and dammed if you dont
If you are happy good if not change it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a personal level too many meets would be if or when I get bored. There is no magic number. For others I couldn't say. I don't ask others how many meets they've had. I really don't give a fuck what anyone else does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself."
But the OP has invited judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.
But the OP has invited judgement. "
Judgment or attention ? |
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.
But the OP has invited judgement. "
Yes she has. I meant in general. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
What if they are from socials?
We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that! "
It's not always clear as some are written to sound saucy. Someone going to a social every week and getting maybe just two verifications would soon have a summary saying "12 meets, 10 women, 2 couples, newest 1 day ago".
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Too many' will be totally subjective..."
This. This us our third couples profile... And we were both on here as successful singles before.
We have only a few verifications on this profile as decided not to chase previous meets for verification ...
So on here we look a pretty reasonable amount of meets.... But in reality its a damned site more... And add people that don't leave them.. or people we meet in clubs that are not on fab...
We don't get why people get so hung up .. if it's not for you then next profile |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself."
Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster. |
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.
Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster."
I didn't mean your judgements, I should have said "it's best to keep ones judgements".
I had in mind the men who say they would never enter into a relationship with someone from here, or someone who had had sex with their mates etc. Which I assumed had sparked the op. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.
Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster.
I didn't mean your judgements, I should have said "it's best to keep ones judgements".
I had in mind the men who say they would never enter into a relationship with someone from here, or someone who had had sex with their mates etc. Which I assumed had sparked the op."
I get that as I have had it myself in the past about having too many verifications (I've been to a fair few socials in the last 6 years I have been here) So yes the wording can bring about judgments, but if you do things that suit you, don't ask for validation and then disagree with others opinions! |
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"I tend to get all of my monthly meets over and done with in one night at a club. Saves so much time!  "
I like you
I need to get my car back on the road because that was me once upon a time
And because when you're in a club, nobody's keeping count
Because essentially it's no one's business
And obviously I do under understand that some people prefer people who are less voracious shall we say
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."
Oh but I AM fussy who I meet
Even I can't fuck all of those who ask
Although maybe I do try to a
little harder than most lol |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I was thinking about the stats just the other day.
My stats say that I have had over 150 meets with over 100 people. Most of those verifications are from organised socials. The stats don't cover how many people I met before this profile (I had a couples profile and then two singles before this one). It doesn't cover the number of people I have met at clubs or the number of people I have met who don't verify.
I can show just a handful of verifications, spaced out by date to make it look like I meet infrequently. I could also pick those that I think look the hottest or most intelligent or any other thing.
It's a funny old Fab world.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Oh but I AM fussy who I meet
Even I can't fuck all of those who ask
Although maybe I do try to a
little harder than most lol "
Like I said earlier, everyone has their own standards, mine aren't yours and yours aren't mine, how people meet is their own business, but everyone will have their own opinion, don't take uppence if someone doesn't meet yours in an open forum. |
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"I was thinking about the stats just the other day.
My stats say that I have had over 150 meets with over 100 people. Most of those verifications are from organised socials. The stats don't cover how many people I met before this profile (I had a couples profile and then two singles before this one). It doesn't cover the number of people I have met at clubs or the number of people I have met who don't verify.
I can show just a handful of verifications, spaced out by date to make it look like I meet infrequently. I could also pick those that I think look the hottest or most intelligent or any other thing.
It's a funny old Fab world.
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You are so right
I've been on sites like this since 2002
So on the various other dating sites
Plus swingers clubs I used to visit regularly
If you add them all up
Well it makes people's hair curl
Why?
I've got no idea
After all, isn't it exactly the point of sites like this
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Oh but I AM fussy who I meet
Even I can't fuck all of those who ask
Although maybe I do try to a
little harder than most lol
Like I said earlier, everyone has their own standards, mine aren't yours and yours aren't mine, how people meet is their own business, but everyone will have their own opinion, don't take uppence if someone doesn't meet yours in an open forum. "
Oh no
I'm far from offended
Absolutely not
Just find it odd that over a certain amount is regarded as far too many
That's all |
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Is not being fussy such a bad thing?
If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!
Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!"
Ok why would it put you off? |
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If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with. |
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"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with. "
I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Is not being fussy such a bad thing?
If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!
Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!
Ok why would it put you off?"
Because I want someone to want to meet me for my brains, my intelligence, Not just because I might have a wet hole (I wouldn't have a wet hole, because my brain is the main stimuli after attractiveness) but that is how I meet, but because that is how I meet, doesn't mean how others do, but does it affect me? Not one iota! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with.
I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind"
Arse crack??  |
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"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with.
I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind
Arse crack?? "
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"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.
But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.
Is not being fussy such a bad thing?
If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!
Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!
Ok why would it put you off?
Because I want someone to want to meet me for my brains, my intelligence, Not just because I might have a wet hole (I wouldn't have a wet hole, because my brain is the main stimuli after attractiveness) but that is how I meet, but because that is how I meet, doesn't mean how others do, but does it affect me? Not one iota! "
That's fair enough. I personally look for a connection with the person. I am less fussy about looks etc. I hope that explains why I was asking you directly.
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"One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile
Noob  "
I hid my summary ... for now... but I do love that I have 20,485 veri's from 250,417 meets. It works as a fantastic filter.
People that think verifications on this site are a true representation of the number of people a person has had sex with. And the types that won't meet any women "with no morals"- i.e. more than 2 veri's. |
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