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"Most of us single guys are actually genuine and ok, but this site has been ruined for us by all the idiots on here"
Lots of single men say that, in what way have they ruined it? I'm genuinely interested why you feel this way not having a go.
We meet single men and the ok, genuine ones stand out against the others making it easier for them but enough men who consider themselves to be ok think like you do to make me think there must be some truth in what you say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it hasn't....still having fun over here. Most women and couples are well able to separate the ones they would like to meet from the ones they wouldn't and the dross. |
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"Most of us single guys are actually genuine and ok, but this site has been ruined for us by all the idiots on here"
. How could anyone ruin the site for you ? In fact it helps those seeking meets because the people you refer to as idiots will not obtain meets . You sell yourself on fab by having a good well written and informed profile with pictures . The behaviour of other members has no impact on you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's quite positive in some respects.
Think of it this way, if 'asshole' is the baseline, the good guys stand out like a Vicars cock at a wedding.
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Op
Saying (Hi) on here like what you might do in real life aint really going make you stand out or seem fun and interesting.
So you've signed up right.....you see alot of sexy ppl, pussy pics, cock pics whatever floats your boat.........so now your thinking I see the product this should be easy. .....so you message in a way that is offensive (Over Cook) too blunt no spice.
All am trying to say is bring yourself across just the way you would perform Sexually but with words not too blunt and not too dry.
Leave the person thinking thats different I wanna try that
Most ppl on here are here to spice up there sex life or explore new things.
So you can be genuinely real and down to earth funny and all but no different from the normal.
Be True to yourself my friend.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Blaming others for your lack of success is such a cop out. How about take some responsibility and make the site I work for you like it does for many single men |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
You can only control how you behave not the behaviour of others, control the controlable,
if the site aint working you could always try socials, clubs, then folk can see the genuine ok guy 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is the tool,
Use it wisely and you can have a great time!
I do lol
Just think of every idiot as a positive to you....unless one soon realises it's not the others who are the idiots. Moaning is an unattractive trait.
Doing something about it, shows resolve and determination....last time I checked...woman like confidence! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you."
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing. |
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing."
Now there's a whole different conversation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing."
What a beauty  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to say...ive had no trouble at all! Obviously not every women replies but I'm not Leonardo Di'Caprio so I don't expect them to! Whether that's down to them not being interested or the fact that they're swamped with messages I don't know!
But I'm certainly getting enough fun when I want it!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I disagree OP. The only person who has any influence on your success on fab is you."
Well,that's not true.. All it takes is for one person to name and shame for whatever reason or a bad veri and people will run for the hills..
As for the op's point I think (may be wrong ofcourse) he's referring to the amount of members who have blocked single guys due to the behaviour of some but more likely due to the sheer numbers of us.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No it hasn't....still having fun over here. Most women and couples are well able to separate the ones they would like to meet from the ones they wouldn't and the dross."
I like all the hurrendous blokes on here as it makes me look much better ha!! If everyone was genuine it would be much harder for me and all single guys but instead it helps me stand out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of us single guys are actually genuine and ok, but this site has been ruined for us by all the idiots on here
Lots of single men say that, in what way have they ruined it? I'm genuinely interested why you feel this way not having a go.
We meet single men and the ok, genuine ones stand out against the others making it easier for them but enough men who consider themselves to be ok think like you do to make me think there must be some truth in what you say."
Good question |
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing."
It doesn't for me |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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To the OP...up to a point I would agree...I have seen many profiles and posts saying that they have been put off meeting single men because of idiots so will now not meet them/ only play with them in clubs.
If you look at it from a positive...if you make yourself stand out as not act like an idiot then hopefully you will find fun with the people still looking for single males.  |
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing.
It doesn't for me"
Me either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing.
Now there's a whole different conversation!"
I know, I'm being awkward.
But I'm always slightly amazed when people are astounded to find out that the good looking, sensitive, caring, funny, intelligent, successful 32 childless man they thought was single is in fact in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing.
It doesn't for me
Me either "
I know I don't see eye to eye with the rest of you on this one, but it suits me fine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing.
Now there's a whole different conversation!
I know, I'm being awkward.
But I'm always slightly amazed when people are astounded to find out that the good looking, sensitive, caring, funny, intelligent, successful 32 childless man they thought was single is in fact in a relationship. "
They say just how amazingly perfect he is...and then they're astounded that he's taken! Although some secretly like it im sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry nothing to say here
Damn revolving touch screen,tried to go back and posted a blank message instead.. Smartphones my arse |
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I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want.... "
Not at all. I like 50/50.
A good message and photos will always stand out
If it intrigues
me I will reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No they have not ruined it for me and to be honest I don't even pay them much thought.
You get out of things what you put in to them and I have been lucky enough to make some great friends here and long may that continue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No they have not ruined it for me and to be honest I don't even pay them much thought.
You get out of things what you put in to them and I have been lucky enough to make some great friends here and long may that continue. "
Exactly.
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want.... "
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel.."
Yep sit down keep stum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No it hasn't....still having fun over here. Most women and couples are well able to separate the ones they would like to meet from the ones they wouldn't and the dross."
I agree completely with this. We are able to discern which single guys we are interested in - and most have been great!
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want.... "
I'd rather do both. A message is easily deleted if it's unwelcome or inappropriate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel..
Yep sit down keep stum "
Ya see its sounds more appealing coming from you, will I be punished if I say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of us single guys are actually genuine and ok, but this site has been ruined for us by all the idiots on here"
Very true. Shame so many cpls and women have had a bad time with the minrity of jerks on here. We have always had a good time, and usually a laugh whenever we have been on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think most people on here and in this thread know what the op is getting at. There are are fair few number of threads where people have a go at single males. There have been some very recently that have clearly stated that single males have been blocked entirely as a result of arseholes messaging. And yeah it makes sense that it will be easier for single ladies or Couples to go looking for males given that situation. As has been well documented on here the ratio of men is huge. This means that it's pot luck whether a Particular bloke even gets his profile read let alone anything further. So in a sense that means the op is right to a point. His Chance to shine in an initial message is reduced simply by the fact that the number of people available to be messaged is reduced even further.
Of course it's down to him on the messages he can send.
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel.."
Who said anything about not being allowed to have fun?
I have plenty of fun on here and also chat with friends I've made on the site..
I agree wholeheartedly with your point about drivel being spouted as you so ably demonstrated... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of us single guys are actually genuine and ok, but this site has been ruined for us by all the idiots on here"
Really? How have they ruined it for you?
Personally they do me a great service most of the messages I get from women say something like
"Hey I like your profile so different to most of the guys on here"
If all the single guys had decent profiles, had clear pictures and sent decent non pestering messages it would make things way harder for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel..
Who said anything about not being allowed to have fun?
I have plenty of fun on here and also chat with friends I've made on the site..
I agree wholeheartedly with your point about drivel being spouted as you so ably demonstrated..."
Can I try and put it a different way. I read it as means the blokes have to wait and hope they are picked out. |
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To be honest I get more lazy messages from couples, and yes, I state I do not meet them alone, on this profile, than I from single guys. Single guys do see to make the effort, although somewhat misguided. Couples wink, friend request or say hi and send a kiss at least as often as single guys do, but don't appear to get any flack on the forums for it. I have a couple profile for couple meets, but we don't operate it like that ever. Occasionally I wink, so if you just got one, I meant it! That is because I am working at home to a deadline and trying so hard not to let Fabs distract me, .... Not working then is it? |
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"To be honest I get more lazy messages from couples, and yes, I state I do not meet them alone, on this profile, than I from single guys. Single guys do see to make the effort, although somewhat misguided. Couples wink, friend request or say hi and send a kiss at least as often as single guys do, but don't appear to get any flack on the forums for it. I have a couple profile for couple meets, but we don't operate it like that ever. Occasionally I wink, so if you just got one, I meant it! That is because I am working at home to a deadline and trying so hard not to let Fabs distract me, .... Not working then is it?"
We second this statement |
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel..
Who said anything about not being allowed to have fun?
I have plenty of fun on here and also chat with friends I've made on the site..
I agree wholeheartedly with your point about drivel being spouted as you so ably demonstrated..."
Got more than enough friends on here myself chum and I certainly didn't get them by sitting back hoping they would come looking me.. And atleast my drivel was ably demonstrated,yours on the other hand |
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"To be honest I get more lazy messages from couples. Single guys do seem to make the effort, although somewhat misguided. Couples wink, friend request or say hi and send a kiss at least as often as single guys do, but don't appear to get any flack on the forums for it."
I find the same. Couples may simply be used to just having to give a little virtual nod in someone's direction and they get a response. I don't think it's necessarily any more than that because when you chat to singles/couples, most people are pretty much the same.
And those couples who start threads about pic sharing and then just share/PM their one existing public pic... I'm sure it's not deliberately lazy; just they get plenty of responses, so why change what they do? |
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel..
Who said anything about not being allowed to have fun?
I have plenty of fun on here and also chat with friends I've made on the site..
I agree wholeheartedly with your point about drivel being spouted as you so ably demonstrated...
Got more than enough friends on here myself chum and I certainly didn't get them by sitting back hoping they would come looking me.. And atleast my drivel was ably demonstrated,yours on the other hand "
You did ably demonstrate how to talk utter drivel it's true.....chum. |
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"I think it's far better if women and couples seek their single men as and when they want them rather than being bombarded by what turn out to be mostly unwelcome and inappropriate messages.
Most people on here are quite adept at searching for what they want....
So single men shouldn't be allowed to have any fun or seek our own gratification ..we should sit and wait like good little toys until somebody else decides to use us as a tool and be grateful when they do.. Fecking hell,some people on here really talk some amount of drivel..
Who said anything about not being allowed to have fun?
I have plenty of fun on here and also chat with friends I've made on the site..
I agree wholeheartedly with your point about drivel being spouted as you so ably demonstrated...
Got more than enough friends on here myself chum and I certainly didn't get them by sitting back hoping they would come looking me.. And atleast my drivel was ably demonstrated,yours on the other hand
You did ably demonstrate how to talk utter drivel it's true.....chum."
Cheers buddy,whatever u do in life you should always do ably,then no one can really complain |
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Idiots do hamper it.
Due to the way the inbox works you may well have some good prospects but because most guys believe in 'more spam is better' logic they drown those prospects out.
Always makes me laugh when I see some couple/womans profile with BIG ANGRY WALLS OF TEXT on it and it causes their fragile ego to sulk.
Men ruin it for other men, you just need to rise up above the turds. |
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"I've found that a lot of guys (and girls) who are single between let's say 35 - 45 are single for a good reason....this becomes evident as they try and communicate with you.
I've noticed this sometimes too...makes the cheaters seem more appealing."
Hello Anna |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single men don't ruin it, the reason is cos the site is saturated with us lol
I'd love a single man to 'saturate' me right now  "
Yes, that sounds like a good idea |
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Honestly is that the best excuse you could think of?
single guys.. 