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By *gNeMan
over a year ago
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Sounds like you have delayed ejaculation. Similar to premature, but at the other end of the spectrum. Not that common. Most fellas don't seek help cos some bird along with the help of their own ego is telling them it's a good thing, that they are a stallion or some such.
I'd go to the doctors. Will much improve your sex life! |
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over a year ago
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough.
You would have loved me last week then  "
With a body like yours I'd love you whenever  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same problem, I have to really concentrate if I'm to cum in a condom, takes some of the fun out of it. Can't cum from blowjobs either although I enjoy them and they bring me close, but no cigar, so to speak. It's either my hand or a wet pussy. I need a girlfriend! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you can't cum in a condom then you will have to either get her to mastrrbate you, do it yourself or not cum or of course go bareback with a willing partner.
I'm sure you wouldn't use the 'i can't cum in a condom' line to put pressure on a woman to.go bareback would you?
It will be a problem to some of course but if told in advance then they just won't meet with you so all good really. I personally don't choose long stayers because it would bore me and I'd have to leave.
There are people who match each others desires, you just have to find them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough."
I had an ex who thought this and actually spent half the night crying because she thought I wasn't attracted to her etc! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe focus with one lady for now? Find out what makes you cum obvious without a condom and work out why a condom stops that. Regardless of me just being with mr we use condoms on the odd occasion to sorta.. keep things fun as it were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cant tell my doctor about this...!..
unless its the new asian lady doctor at my practise..
Shes hot :-
You definitely can lol. "
If you can tell a bunch of strangers..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough."
years ago I would of found it an insult as I would think I hadn't turned him on enough.But nowadays I've learnt to listen to the man ....although only happened once
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm proper turned on it doesn't take me long.
Though if it's a big load the first time that impacts on how much I cum afterwards.
Sometimes I'm bang in the mood for penetration which can be frustrating as i love splattering faces, but if I've already cum quite heavily through penetration then no matter how furiously I wank nothing comes out.
But then if I switch back to penetration I'll cum. .. no problem. That's usually because I'm really turned on.
Depends how much I want penetrative sex with her at the time.
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I have a similar issue with delayed ejaculation, sometimes it just doesn't happen at all but over the years I've learnt to live with it, it has up and down sides.
I made a post about it a while back and it's actually not uncommon, just inform them in advance and if they turn you down don't worry about it.
Better than the alternative of them thinking it's their fault, a condom on or off plays no part in it for me though obviously bareback feels better but that's the trade off for having safe fun.
I think regarding the condoms issue that's a personal issue you need to talk to someone professional about. |
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough."
Backwards sexism right there, the belief that if a guy has sexual problems it's bad and there's something wrong with them/you.
In this day and age I should hope we're past such stigmas, comments like that stop the people who need sexual help (primarily men) from getting it out of embarrassment. |
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough."
Its something we cant control, it just happens, same as how long you can fuck for, depends on all things, the next time we might cum within seconds lol and some think its to quick.
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By *gNeMan
over a year ago
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough.
Backwards sexism right there, the belief that if a guy has sexual problems it's bad and there's something wrong with them/you.
In this day and age I should hope we're past such stigmas, comments like that stop the people who need sexual help (primarily men) from getting it out of embarrassment. "
True enough. The problem is that men and women just do not understand each other, we think in entirely different ways.
When, generally speaking men do something which women don't like, it's called sexism. The other way round no one cares.
It's a complex issue, and boils down to the high societal value of female sexuality in contrast with the low and disposable value of the males. That's why society views women who sleep around as slags whilst men are heroes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough.
Backwards sexism right there, the belief that if a guy has sexual problems it's bad and there's something wrong with them/you.
In this day and age I should hope we're past such stigmas, comments like that stop the people who need sexual help (primarily men) from getting it out of embarrassment.
True enough. The problem is that men and women just do not understand each other, we think in entirely different ways.
When, generally speaking men do something which women don't like, it's called sexism. The other way round no one cares.
It's a complex issue, and boils down to the high societal value of female sexuality in contrast with the low and disposable value of the males. That's why society views women who sleep around as slags whilst men are heroes. "
Or not.  |
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By *gNeMan
over a year ago
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Or not.
Please elaborate oh wise one.
I'd maybe agree with you if the statements weren't so sweeping and generalised. "
One cannot discuss anthropology without generalisation or sweeping statements... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I know where the op is on this one
I've had a couple of meets where the lady has said i was 'too in control' its not that at all. I love to fuck, the orgasm is always a little end hence its called a climax so I think over the years I have got to the point where I cum when im ready and I really want to cum, I think some ladies have had men just bolt there load in 10 minutes and if I'm 45 mins in they think I'm not enjoying it...which is far from it..but I never really have sex just to cum.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know where the op is on this one
I've had a couple of meets where the lady has said i was 'too in control' its not that at all. I love to fuck, the orgasm is always a little end hence its called a climax so I think over the years I have got to the point where I cum when im ready and I really want to cum, I think some ladies have had men just bolt there load in 10 minutes and if I'm 45 mins in they think I'm not enjoying it...which is far from it..but I never really have sex just to cum.
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It's nice when a man has control and takes his time,when he isn't banging away for ages. It seems like he's just trying to make his enjoyment last and doesn't care about mine. |
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough."
Don't ever go with a guy on high doses of citalopam then lol.
When I was on that plus the painkillers after the crash deciding to have a wank meant clearing the whole afternoons schedule lol |
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"I personally find it an insult if a guy takes ages to cum. It's like I haven't turned him on enough.
Don't ever go with a guy on high doses of citalopam then lol.
When I was on that plus the painkillers after the crash deciding to have a wank meant clearing the whole afternoons schedule lol"
I'll remember to ask them before meeting then |
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