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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.
I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.
I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer from this. Most of the time it manifests in insomnia because I cannot shut my brain off.
I practice meditation and mindfulness to keep it under control as much as possible.
Or a large glass of single malt.... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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This sounds daft but I've recently discovered colouring books for grown-ups actually do help me relax and switch my brain off.
I've just ordered a dot-to-dot book for adults, (1000 dots per picture), to see if that has a similar effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
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"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.
I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.
I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax."
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Not that I am 'trying to find out about your daily business'
But is it a problem switching off mentally, physically or both?
Maybe (if possible) a pleasant 20 to 30 minute walk earlier on. To walk off your day before your soak in the bath.
And if more mentally switch off?
Consider looking at mindfulness techniques.
They are good at controlling the 'active mind and chatter you get in your head' switching off you mind to help relax.
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
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"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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This 100 percent. 
We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.
Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As part of that meditation and mind-fullness, I also factor in exercise.
When I'm out on the cycle, its just me and the road and I feel like I've left everything else behind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This sounds daft but I've recently discovered colouring books for grown-ups actually do help me relax and switch my brain off.
I've just ordered a dot-to-dot book for adults, (1000 dots per picture), to see if that has a similar effect."
I might have to try this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.
In which case we should meditate for an hour.
Wise words.....
Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.
No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.
Just allow the mind to wind down.
The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".
We need to learn how to be "off". |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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Definitely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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This 100 percent.
We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.
Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.
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I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.
In which case we should meditate for an hour.
Wise words.....
Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.
No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.
Just allow the mind to wind down.
The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".
We need to learn how to be "off"."
Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved? |
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
Halton |
"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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This 100 percent.
We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.
Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.
I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day "
There are some great books and online resources about it.
It's worth giving it a try.
But it does take a little practice.
As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'
Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.
This is normal and stick with it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?"
There are many different types.
Vedic, Yogic, Zen, Mindfulness, Loving meditation to name a few; there is no right one, just the one that's right for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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This 100 percent.
We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.
Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.
I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day
There are some great books and online resources about it.
It's worth giving it a try.
But it does take a little practice.
As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'
Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.
This is normal and stick with it.
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Thankyou |
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
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There are some great books and online resources about it.
It's worth giving it a try.
But it does take a little practice.
As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'
Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.
This is normal and stick with it.
Thankyou "
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You're more than welcome.
I really hope you manage to find something that works for you and allows you to switch off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.
In which case we should meditate for an hour.
Wise words.....
Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.
No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.
Just allow the mind to wind down.
The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".
We need to learn how to be "off".
Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?"
Meditation is about emptying the mind.
Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".
It's about relaxing the mind.
As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.
Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.
Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.
After time you should be able to wind down properly.
If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.
Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries. |
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"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.
In which case we should meditate for an hour.
Wise words.....
Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.
No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.
Just allow the mind to wind down.
The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".
We need to learn how to be "off".
Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?
Meditation is about emptying the mind.
Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".
It's about relaxing the mind.
As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.
Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.
Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.
After time you should be able to wind down properly.
If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.
Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries. "
I really need to try some of this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.
In which case we should meditate for an hour.
Wise words.....
Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.
No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.
Just allow the mind to wind down.
The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".
We need to learn how to be "off".
Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?
Meditation is about emptying the mind.
Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".
It's about relaxing the mind.
As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.
Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.
Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.
After time you should be able to wind down properly.
If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.
Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries. "
I'm ok with sleeping generally. I shall have a look in line about it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use a great relaxation / mediation app on my iPad.
Lie in bed ready for sleep, use a decent pair of headphones and switch on.
The effect of the voice / music is along the lines of self hypnosis, totally chills me out and I usually end up nodding off before the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.
The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.
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This.
I dont take my phone or ipad to bed
I usually have a yankee candle on take a book and a drink
30 mins reading i find helps me unwind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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put some music on turn the lights down low and lie back and close my eyes...
works every time... amazing what happens when the tv goes off and the music goes on.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Martial arts. Physically it uses the whole body, which simply makes you feel better, but there is a massive mental side to it: learning moves, patterns/katas, and the co-ordination required means you have to switch off from everything.
If you then move on to sparring, then that's an even greater level of concentration, focus and detachment needed.
Work? What work?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.
I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.
I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax."
We find that a great night of fun does the job nicely  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.
I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.
I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax.
We find that a great night of fun does the job nicely "
I sometimes find an orgasm, alone, helps me to drift off  |
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