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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Right now this minute? No.

Hot and sweaty with red, puffy eyes with dark rings round them isn't a good look.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Not on the outside just now, but yes, I have moments of being a beautiful person - inside and out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never feel beautiful, content but not beautiful

xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Right now yes.

Iv had the sun on my back (and front) a weeks rest and always feel better around the sun and having a tan.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Sometimes I feel pretty or sexy. I don't feel beautiful because I know that I'm not.

As my profile says, when it's visible, I'm not beautiful but nor am I a paper bag case. I'm average.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

Right now no. When I'm dolled up a bit I feel good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I'm laying beside a nice man,with him stroking my back and side and he's kissing me,I feel beautiful. Right this minute I have sore,watery eyes,a terrible chesty cough,a sore throat and bed hair. Couldn't feel any less beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

at the moment no

no sleep as moms in hospital

im ratty

and my hairs been cut shorter as im gorwing into a bob and im not liking it

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Sometimes I feel pretty or sexy. I don't feel beautiful because I know that I'm not.

As my profile says, when it's visible, I'm not beautiful but nor am I a paper bag case. I'm average."

This is about a comparison to some image you deem as beautiful then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ummm not right now no, I do have days where I feel beautiful but not today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

RIght now no, not inside or out

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I never feel beautiful, content but not beautiful

xx"

Content sounds rather beautiful to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

Beautiful? No.

Handsome? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never feel beautiful as I never will be x

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"RIght now no, not inside or out

"

Hello friend. I haven't seen you around for a while. What's messing up your inner beauty?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I never feel beautiful as I never will be x"

Why?

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"Sometimes I feel pretty or sexy. I don't feel beautiful because I know that I'm not.

As my profile says, when it's visible, I'm not beautiful but nor am I a paper bag case. I'm average."

ditto, but in happy with my lot

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

Beautiful? No.

Handsome? Yes."

What's the difference, for you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

"

That sounds wonderful. Feel the beauty of those good people and your own beauty.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes."

Good man!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"RIght now no, not inside or out

Hello friend. I haven't seen you around for a while. What's messing up your inner beauty?

"

Been a bit distracted of late, missed your party completely even the fall out on here

... inner beauty is full of nasty chemicals again, outer never was.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never have found myself beautiful... I believe with makeup that I am attractive in that I can pull out my eye colour using an artistic approach... Until recently I had always rated myself as a 5.5 since losing a wrestling match I've had to change it! Do I feel comfortable with it? nope... Still feel it's too high... I am however comfortable with myself !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just have never felt beautiful I see lots of beautiful people's profiles on here and I know id never look as good as they do x

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

yes thankyou

trust you do too xx

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By *nne CallanWoman over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.

Cant remember the last time I felt beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel attractive rather than beautiful. That's because I have lost lots of weight and am feeling better about myself than I have in a long time. I'm always told I am lovely on the inside. I wish others would see how beautiful they are, both inside and out.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"RIght now no, not inside or out

Hello friend. I haven't seen you around for a while. What's messing up your inner beauty?

Been a bit distracted of late, missed your party completely even the fall out on here

... inner beauty is full of nasty chemicals again, outer never was. "

I'm sorry to hear that. You have a beauty and I'm not referring to a black eye.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i dont think I ever have, its something I struggle hugely with but I do work hard to try and change it.... Even if it hasn't worked yet... Ever the optimist!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

Beautiful? No.

Handsome? Yes.

What's the difference, for you?"

'Beautiful' for me tends to reflect quite feminine characteristics. I don't really have feminine characteristics so it seems the wrong word to use.

I use beautiful to describe some men though, it's not a 'woman' thing.

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By *irceWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

Not externally as i get constantly reminded of difference but internally is a different story, i feel/live a life experience which has its own beauty far beyond any social boundaries and explore the creativity of the mind and heart x

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"yes thankyou

trust you do too xx"

I do, thank you. I don't expect people to see my outer self as beautiful by their standards or to experience whatever inner beauty I may have. After years of FEELING ugly regardless of what I looked like or behaved I now feel beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always and forever.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Not externally as i get constantly reminded of difference but internally is a different story, i feel/live a life experience which has its own beauty far beyond any social boundaries and explore the creativity of the mind and heart x"

That resonates with me.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

If you mean looks wise come on do me a favour you've seen me..

If you mean as a person god damn yes and again you seen me so you tell me I'm a babe right ?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"No i dont think I ever have, its something I struggle hugely with but I do work hard to try and change it.... Even if it hasn't worked yet... Ever the optimist!!"

It can take time. Keep working on it.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"If you mean looks wise come on do me a favour you've seen me..

If you mean as a person god damn yes and again you seen me so you tell me I'm a babe right ?

"

Your inner beauty shines through. Just brush your teeth.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Always and forever.

"

Good man.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Cant remember the last time I felt beautiful. "

But you have felt it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope x

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"If you mean looks wise come on do me a favour you've seen me..

If you mean as a person god damn yes and again you seen me so you tell me I'm a babe right ?

Your inner beauty shines through. Just brush your teeth.

"

Pmsl ok so whos been talking to wyed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not particularly as I'm all pregnant,tired and bit grumpy..... On the plus...my skin is shit hot

But I can live with feeling a bit bllluuuggghh and ugly cos I know I'm not a cunt. Despite everything I'm still kind, generous and a very lucky happy girl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can feel beautiful and content on the inside, but have never felt beautiful about my appearance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"yes thankyou

trust you do too xx

I do, thank you. I don't expect people to see my outer self as beautiful by their standards or to experience whatever inner beauty I may have. After years of FEELING ugly regardless of what I looked like or behaved I now feel beautiful.

"

an empowered woman..i love it. good for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don't. I try to be a nice person on the inside but I've never been happy with how I look on the outside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm quiet happy as a person and love my body shape I've been a size 22 then down to 6st through illness but I'm a perfect now curvy 14/16ish brilliant tits curvy bum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the best when I'm naked

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Sometimes I feel pretty or sexy. I don't feel beautiful because I know that I'm not.

As my profile says, when it's visible, I'm not beautiful but nor am I a paper bag case. I'm average.

This is about a comparison to some image you deem as beautiful then?

"

No, I know I'm not (physically) beautiful by the way people react to me.

Relatively few people are beautiful though, and it brings its own problems, so I'm fine with being average-ish.

Of course, some would say I'm pretty and some would say I'm a munter. It's very much in the eye of the beholder.

My own assessment is that I'm average-ish, not a paper bag case and am sometimes pretty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

"

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I do sometimes feel beautiful. It's usually linked to an emotional state of well-being rather than a visual or physical one. I do often feel pretty though but that's because I listen to a lot of music, which puts me into a bubble all of my own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I feel ugly even with my make up on and stuff.

Most of the time I feel beautiful from the minute I wake up to the minute I go to bed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know I'm not physically how you would describe a beautiful woman, but I do feel beautiful sometimes. A lot does depend on my mood though. I certainly don't feel beautiful all the time.

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

"No, I don't. I try to be a nice person on the inside but I've never been happy with how I look on the outside."

You're very nice. Both on the inside and the outside

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!"

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple over a year ago

Manchester Area

I've always said beauty comes from within

You can be gorgeous but your state of mind can make you an ugly person.

Must admit my other half does make me feel beautiful. (But keep that between us)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Face - yes, with makeup

Body - no, never will be

On the inside - not right now but I'm working on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I don't. I try to be a nice person on the inside but I've never been happy with how I look on the outside.

You're very nice. Both on the inside and the outside

"

Thank you Howard xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful."

Mine is the reason I feel ugly some days. being told your too fat for any one to want you kinda gets to you after a little bit. Sometimes mums can be mean.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful."

I get how you feel my mum was a wast of skin to but hey look at us now who needs em least that's how I feel x

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Face - yes, with makeup

Body - no, never will be

On the inside - not right now but I'm working on it "

Just go's to show no matter what ppl say it's how you feel that counts and you know my thought on your looks both in and out st wish I was 10 yrs ok ok 15 yrs younger

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman over a year ago

birmingham

I often feel beautiful, I often feel sexy, I'm not perfect in everyone's eyes but in mine, most of the time, I am x it's not vanity, it's confidence, self esteem and and self loving xx

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I often feel beautiful, I often feel sexy, I'm not perfect in everyone's eyes but in mine, most of the time, I am x it's not vanity, it's confidence, self esteem and and self loving xx "

Damn right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always!!

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

From as far back as I can remember, my father has always told me how beautiful, and wonderful I was. It wasn't that I really understood him at that early age, but I grew up knowing that I was, even down to my surname.

So when I was in my teens and we're all conscious about are looks, I new that i wasn't the most handsome of men, but there was nobody as beautiful as myself.

For me beauty is from within and when someone is beautiful inside, they always shine externally.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful."

neither did mine..however i recognized it as a power struggle of matriarchy, to keep you in your place...i decided the love for my life was more important that the acceptance of anyone, including my mother..this may be a bit deep, and im not saying its easy...but imagine she wasnt here...then how could you feel about yourself...

women should empower each other imo not compete...however enjoying who you are is a first step to overthrowing all negativity thrown at you from the external and the past..i saw it as a bit of a challenge..

but then it helped empower me xx..dont allow it..its them not you xx

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By *ertiVogtsMan over a year ago

Exeter

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

Beautiful? No.

Handsome? Yes.

What's the difference, for you?

'Beautiful' for me tends to reflect quite feminine characteristics. I don't really have feminine characteristics so it seems the wrong word to use.

I use beautiful to describe some men though, it's not a 'woman' thing."

I've met handsome women and beautiful men so that makes sense to me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not sure beautiful is the right word, happy, content and feeling bloody brilliant at 50. Having not been this weight since I was 24 its been 26 years since I've felt like this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

Mine is the reason I feel ugly some days. being told your too fat for any one to want you kinda gets to you after a little bit. Sometimes mums can be mean. "

I'm sorry yours was mean. Not every Mum is maternal unfortunately. Whatever she said though, that was mean spirited - you are beautiful.

I was lucky. I was just thinking that the day my mum found out there was nothing more they could do for her. I walked into the hospital and she said " How's my beautiful girl."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes

I've always had quite low self esteem mainly because I spent years being told I am fat and ugly and how no man would ever want me, you hear it enough times it grinds you down and you start to believe it

I'm nowhere near as bad as I used to be, since splitting with my ex I've lots a lot of weight which has done my confidance the world of good

i still have down on myself days but more and more I look at myself and think....you know, he was wrong your actually not that bad and when I go out I think I scrub up quite well

that's not a vanity thing I know I'm not perfect but I also now realise I'm not the hidious piece of shit he made me feel

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Wow some deep shit on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do sometimes feel beautiful. It's usually linked to an emotional state of well-being rather than a visual or physical one. I do often feel pretty though but that's because I listen to a lot of music, which puts me into a bubble all of my own."

Aww a bubble what a way of saying it... I like !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

I get how you feel my mum was a wast of skin to but hey look at us now who needs em least that's how I feel x"

I think you're beautiful Mr Blade!

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By *bfoxxxMan over a year ago

Crete or LANCASTER

I FEEL FINE.

And I couldn't give a toss about what anyone else thinks.

I AM WHAT I AM.

cue music. . .

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My mum's great and she didn't intend to be mean to me. She just doesn't get how constantly going on about how fat she is (at size 12/14), when I am much, much larger, would make me feel shitty about myself.

My nan was obsessed with weight too and very critical of others, so it's not surprising my mum is as she is. I can't understand though, knowing how my nan's comments affected her, how she can't see how she makes me feel.

At least I don't have kids to pass my neuroses on to.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

I get how you feel my mum was a wast of skin to but hey look at us now who needs em least that's how I feel x

I think you're beautiful Mr Blade!

"

Well of course you do you've met me

Seriously I'm blushing now thank you

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"My mum's great and she didn't intend to be mean to me. She just doesn't get how constantly going on about how fat she is (at size 12/14), when I am much, much larger, would make me feel shitty about myself.

My nan was obsessed with weight too and very critical of others, so it's not surprising my mum is as she is. I can't understand though, knowing how my nan's comments affected her, how she can't see how she makes me feel.

At least I don't have kids to pass my neuroses on to."

You don't need to pass anything on to your kids. My own childhood was the most fucked up childhood posibly but my own kids are the most balanced and happyest of any I've seen and are my meaning of life. Anytime I'm down all it takes is a hug of my doughter and the whole worlds right again and I'd quite literally die for both of them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful."

My Mum has never been interested in making me feel beautiful. Nor my Dad.

They're always felt far more concerned with making sure I felt bright, intelligent, funny, healthy, bold, ... etc...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!"

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel physically beautiful, and can be quite critical of my appearance. BUT, she makes me feel safe, secure and loved, and I much prefer that anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do feel beautiful. Makes me sad the many many nos on here

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

My Mum has never been interested in making me feel beautiful. Nor my Dad.

They're always felt far more concerned with making sure I felt bright, intelligent, funny, healthy, bold, ... etc..."

My mum has always made sure I know I'm intelligent.

I don't need her to make me feel beautiful, (I'm not, and I'm perfectly comfortable with that). It would be nice, however, if she didn't make me feel awful about my weight, constantly.

I don't think I'll ever be able to love my body, whatever I do.

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By *ola.Woman over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

In appearance I don't really take much heed in whether I am beautiful or if people think I am. I would rather be acknowledged for having a beautiful manner. I think everone can have be beautiful whether in appearance or manner. Some just need others to show them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never feel or think I look beautiful.but I'm a nice person on the inside and have never had any malace towards anyone

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I don't know if I feel beautiful per se but I do feel great. If I'm honest, I can't remember the last time I felt quite so good as I do right now.

Surrounding myself with some good people and their positive energy has really given me a lift and helped restore my faith in myself and my own abilities

I think having positive people around you always makes you feel good.

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

My mum constantly reminds me I'm immensely fat. She doesn't say it to me, but she goes on, constantly, about how huge and revolting she is when she's 4-5 dress sizes smaller and 4-5 stones lighter than I am (and a healthy weight for her height).

She's done this throughout my entire life and has been on a perpetual diet. She doesn't understand how this makes me feel bad.

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel beautiful.

My Mum has never been interested in making me feel beautiful. Nor my Dad.

They're always felt far more concerned with making sure I felt bright, intelligent, funny, healthy, bold, ... etc..."

Thinking about this, it's interesting. I've always been aware that I'm intelligent and comfortable with it. I've always thought it was because it could be tested and proven. My mum always made certain I knew it though, so perhaps it is down to an instilled confidence.

Of course, I've questioned whether the confidence is justified, which is where the testing and proving part comes in.

I believe in my intelligence, my creative thinking skills, my strength and tenacity.

I don't feel beautiful but I feel clever and capable. That's more valuable to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

occasionally I do, yes...

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"In appearance I don't really take much heed in whether I am beautiful or if people think I am. I would rather be acknowledged for having a beautiful manner. I think everone can have be beautiful whether in appearance or manner. Some just need others to show them.

"

Your beauty shines through daily both in and out.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Confident, intelligent, smart mouthed, strong, independent. Yes. Beautiful. Never. I've a physical image of beauty and its not me. I think I'm a decent soul, but still have cuntish side which is as much me as all the good bits. I like to make people smile. Smiles are beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I feel beastly

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I often feel beautiful, I often feel sexy, I'm not perfect in everyone's eyes but in mine, most of the time, I am x it's not vanity, it's confidence, self esteem and and self loving xx "

Exactly!

That's what the question of feeling beautiful conjured for me. It didn't raise questions about how others define or view beauty but the answers show that many of us judge ourselves against an external metric.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"From as far back as I can remember, my father has always told me how beautiful, and wonderful I was. It wasn't that I really understood him at that early age, but I grew up knowing that I was, even down to my surname.

So when I was in my teens and we're all conscious about are looks, I new that i wasn't the most handsome of men, but there was nobody as beautiful as myself.

For me beauty is from within and when someone is beautiful inside, they always shine externally.

"

Your inner beauty shines through in everything you do.

Reading the comments on the role parents play in whether we feel beautiful just emphasises how hard we have to work to get that sense of inner love if your parents fail, for whatever reason, to convey that they think you are beautiful. I grew up with my mother telling me I was the ugliest baby ever born. It's not surprising I believed it for a long time.

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

Explain to us what you think is beautiful and we will answer your question.

Beauty it is said is in the eye of the beholder.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"In appearance I don't really take much heed in whether I am beautiful or if people think I am. I would rather be acknowledged for having a beautiful manner. I think everone can have be beautiful whether in appearance or manner. Some just need others to show them.

"

I can see a truth in that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I walk into a club, dolled up and can hear my name being called from all directions, people all vying for my attention; yes. I feel beautiful.

Right now. At work. No. I don't. I'm not a beautiful person. It takes a lot of time and effort to get that feeling.

Poor lighting helps

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

Explain to us what you think is beautiful and we will answer your question.

Beauty it is said is in the eye of the beholder.

"

It's not what I think is beautiful but whether you FEEL beautiful by your own definition.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Confident, intelligent, smart mouthed, strong, independent. Yes. Beautiful. Never. I've a physical image of beauty and its not me. I think I'm a decent soul, but still have cuntish side which is as much me as all the good bits. I like to make people smile. Smiles are beautiful. "

Smiles are beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An interesting question whether you feel as opposed to whether you are.

I would say with age I've become a more confident person, accepting of my physical appearance and almost I suppose allowed myself to feel beautiful & it's a great feeling.

I cannot recal either of my parents ever telling me I looked beautiful or complimenting me in anyway, it just wasn't their way....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always do, if I don't, nobody will do it for me

gotta love myself

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"An interesting question whether you feel as opposed to whether you are.

I would say with age I've become a more confident person, accepting of my physical appearance and almost I suppose allowed myself to feel beautiful & it's a great feeling.

I cannot recal either of my parents ever telling me I looked beautiful or complimenting me in anyway, it just wasn't their way.... "

Well put

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"An interesting question whether you feel as opposed to whether you are.

I would say with age I've become a more confident person, accepting of my physical appearance and almost I suppose allowed myself to feel beautiful & it's a great feeling.

I cannot recal either of my parents ever telling me I looked beautiful or complimenting me in anyway, it just wasn't their way.... "

It was the phrasing of the question that struck me and what made it interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Not at the moment no

Sometimes I do though

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I feel beautiful all the time.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"I feel beautiful all the time."

Sorry I meant to say

'I feel beautiful people all the time.'

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I feel beautiful all the time.

Sorry I meant to say

'I feel beautiful people all the time.'"

I don't think skinning them and feeling their skin in your basement is quite what Woman's Hour was asking.

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By *appyguy17Man over a year ago

walthamstow

"beauty is in the eye of the beholder !!

I think when you get to a certain age,you realise there is no such thing as perfection......

Beauty in my eyes is a frame of mind...

As you get older your mind adjusts and beauty is all around you.....ugly doesn't exist !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do I feel beautiful?

Tricky question to answer without sounding like a complete narcissist. I think I'm an attractive guy to some people. I'm confident (I'm playing that down, I'm actually awesome), well spoken and have impeccable manners.

I feel knackered though. Everything hurts!

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"I feel beautiful all the time.

Sorry I meant to say

'I feel beautiful people all the time.'

I don't think skinning them and feeling their skin in your basement is quite what Woman's Hour was asking.

"

Ah my bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Confident, intelligent, smart mouthed, strong, independent. Yes. Beautiful. Never. I've a physical image of beauty and its not me. I think I'm a decent soul, but still have cuntish side which is as much me as all the good bits. I like to make people smile. Smiles are beautiful. "

Beauty comes from within.

It's not just physical appearance that makes you beautiful.

Your heart, soul and general being are the true things of beauty.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

At times I can feel sexy, desirable, pretty but beautiful, no.

When I make an effort, I can scrub up pretty well.

I've always lacked self confidence but the older I get, the comfortable I am with myself. That or I just care less about what other people think of me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"

I miss my Mum, I always think that the majority of Mums make their child feel beautiful. To them you are always beautiful!

I don't think my mum has ever made me feel physically beautiful, and can be quite critical of my appearance. BUT, she makes me feel safe, secure and loved, and I much prefer that anyway

"

Which makes perfect sense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I grew up with my grandparents always calling me bel bambino and bella ragazza. Always feel beautiful on the outside, it's what's inside and my mind that's ugly.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I grew up with my grandparents always calling me bel bambino and bella ragazza. Always feel beautiful on the outside, it's what's inside and my mind that's ugly. "

How did it get ugly?

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I grew up with my grandparents always calling me bel bambino and bella ragazza. Always feel beautiful on the outside, it's what's inside and my mind that's ugly. "

Take it that mean ugly in some way. I'm guessing they should have gone to speck savers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I grew up with my grandparents always calling me bel bambino and bella ragazza. Always feel beautiful on the outside, it's what's inside and my mind that's ugly.

How did it get ugly?

"

Just got loads of issues and they make my bad traits come out.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I grew up with my grandparents always calling me bel bambino and bella ragazza. Always feel beautiful on the outside, it's what's inside and my mind that's ugly.

How did it get ugly?

Just got loads of issues and they make my bad traits come out. "

I hope you are able to address your issues and feel beautiful.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

"

That you are.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

"

I agree it does x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope! Never have, never will. But I'm happy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right now no. When I'm dolled up a bit I feel good "

Right now no...as in work attire...happy yes as I love my work..

When I am in "play mode" and horny I am not really beautiful, I have a kind of cute, quirky, sexy look...I am not everybody's cup of tea...but I am happy with that...

So happy, happy, happy all round

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

"

Yay!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

At times I can feel sexy, desirable, pretty but beautiful, no.

When I make an effort, I can scrub up pretty well.

I've always lacked self confidence but the older I get, the comfortable I am with myself. That or I just care less about what other people think of me.

"

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Nope! Never have, never will. But I'm happy xx"

I've only met you briefly but your aura was good. I hope one day you will feel it too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

"

As someone pointed out earlier, it's usually in comparison with an idea or someone else looks that makes us feel beautiful/handsome/whatever.

People spend so much time obsessing about the things that make them feel unattractive and forget about the things that do make them attractive.

It might sound cheesy but we are all beautiful/handsome/whatever in our own way. As for me, I'm handsome. Maybe not what you think is handsome or what Disney thinks is handsome or Hollywood heart-throb handsome but I'm handsome.

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

As someone pointed out earlier, it's usually in comparison with an idea or someone else looks that makes us feel beautiful/handsome/whatever.

People spend so much time obsessing about the things that make them feel unattractive and forget about the things that do make them attractive.

It might sound cheesy but we are all beautiful/handsome/whatever in our own way. As for me, I'm handsome. Maybe not what you think is handsome or what Disney thinks is handsome or Hollywood heart-throb handsome but I'm handsome.

"

And on the inside? I'm bloody gorgeous!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes I do

"

Good man.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan over a year ago

Glasgow

To be honest I've never thought I was beautiful to look at. I've had moments where I think I look a little above average, but never beautiful.

However, I do honestly think that I am a beautiful person inside. I'm very gentle & caring as a person.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful."

How can you get to a point where you feel beautiful?

Weight/body shape/size has come up a lot on this thread and I can accept that not having control of your weight/shape/size can be an indication of an inner struggle but I have also learnt that you can't address it in any meaningful way from a place of hating yourself (the core of you).

Would I be happier if I was thinner, given that I am fatter than I have ever been? Maybe I would be but right now I feel beautiful and it has nothing to do with my size.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I do

Good man.

"

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm happy which makes me bewtifool

As someone pointed out earlier, it's usually in comparison with an idea or someone else looks that makes us feel beautiful/handsome/whatever.

People spend so much time obsessing about the things that make them feel unattractive and forget about the things that do make them attractive.

It might sound cheesy but we are all beautiful/handsome/whatever in our own way. As for me, I'm handsome. Maybe not what you think is handsome or what Disney thinks is handsome or Hollywood heart-throb handsome but I'm handsome.

And on the inside? I'm bloody gorgeous!

"

Good for you.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful.

How can you get to a point where you feel beautiful?

Weight/body shape/size has come up a lot on this thread and I can accept that not having control of your weight/shape/size can be an indication of an inner struggle but I have also learnt that you can't address it in any meaningful way from a place of hating yourself (the core of you).

Would I be happier if I was thinner, given that I am fatter than I have ever been? Maybe I would be but right now I feel beautiful and it has nothing to do with my size.

"

I don't think I ever will. But I'm ok with that. Ive got by ok the last 35 years. I'm more confident now, with my body but I'll never think im beautiful. I don't hate myself though. Just know that im an average lass.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful.

How can you get to a point where you feel beautiful?

Weight/body shape/size has come up a lot on this thread and I can accept that not having control of your weight/shape/size can be an indication of an inner struggle but I have also learnt that you can't address it in any meaningful way from a place of hating yourself (the core of you).

Would I be happier if I was thinner, given that I am fatter than I have ever been? Maybe I would be but right now I feel beautiful and it has nothing to do with my size.

I don't think I ever will. But I'm ok with that. Ive got by ok the last 35 years. I'm more confident now, with my body but I'll never think im beautiful. I don't hate myself though. Just know that im an average lass."

If average is most of us why can't average be beautiful?

I've spent some time with you and think you are beautiful. That's nothing to do with your gorgeous looks and body but about you beyond those things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do feel beautiful

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By *angerpointCouple over a year ago

sheffield

No, not at all sometimes I can't stand to look in the mirror. (Mrs)

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman over a year ago

birmingham

"I often feel beautiful, I often feel sexy, I'm not perfect in everyone's eyes but in mine, most of the time, I am x it's not vanity, it's confidence, self esteem and and self loving xx

Exactly!

That's what the question of feeling beautiful conjured for me. It didn't raise questions about how others define or view beauty but the answers show that many of us judge ourselves against an external metric.

"

Oh I never care a fig if people think I'm beautiful or not,,,

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

I do a lot of the time yes, because the people whose opinion on the subject really matters to me often tell me that I am.

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By *ertiVogtsMan over a year ago

Exeter

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

I do a lot of the time yes, because the people whose opinion on the subject really matters to me often tell me that I am."

Beauty and a nice barnet too

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman over a year ago

birmingham

It is sad that people don't consider themselves beautiful, in my mind ugliness is attached to personality,, I can see beautiful characteristics in almost everyone I've ever met,,, I'm a glass half full kinda girl,, I've met some really ugly personalities with a pretty face

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

"

Even when I was 21 and hot as hell I was never vain enough to say I was beautiful. I knew the 'power' I had and did not feel it was based in beauty, but in my 'vibe'.

Happily despite the ravages of time the older I get the more beautiful inside I feel I become, life's hard lessons can put you through a refiners fire for sure, and I strive to grow still.

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By *ambslass48Woman over a year ago

Peterborough

I never feel beautiful after having my mastectomy and reconstruction done got too many horrible scars

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Woman's Hour asked this and the response was a little sad to hear.

I think people don't like to say whether they think they are beautiful in case they are judged as vain. However, the question was whether you feel beautiful.

Do you feel beautiful?

I do a lot of the time yes, because the people whose opinion on the subject really matters to me often tell me that I am.

Beauty and a nice barnet too

"

I don't know if other people would think I'm beautiful but that doesn't really matter to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

Maybe this should be for another thread,

But theirs people on here expressing how there not feeling beautiful inside, but there photo gallery expresses beauty. So are you feeling beautiful when taking these pictures

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Most of the time I feel beautiful xx

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I never feel beautiful after having my mastectomy and reconstruction done got too many horrible scars"

I hope you find beauty despite of the scars soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No

But after a few glasses of wine I feel gooorgeous

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Maybe this should be for another thread,

But theirs people on here expressing how there not feeling beautiful inside, but there photo gallery expresses beauty. So are you feeling beautiful when taking these pictures "

Thank you for articulating that. I was wondering the same.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Most of the time I feel beautiful xx"

Here's to most of the time then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like a unique snowflake.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"No

But after a few glasses of wine I feel gooorgeous

"

Give it go without the wine.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Like a unique snowflake. "

I like that!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I was listening to "wear sunscreen" while stuck in a huge traffic jam yesterday and the bit about "don't read beauty magazines they will only make you feel ugly" made me nod my head in agreement. I think we encourage self deprecation too much and fail to praise often enough. We don't encourage people to celebrate their good points physical and spiritual without implying that they're conceited or arrogant. This should stop.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I was listening to "wear sunscreen" while stuck in a huge traffic jam yesterday and the bit about "don't read beauty magazines they will only make you feel ugly" made me nod my head in agreement. I think we encourage self deprecation too much and fail to praise often enough. We don't encourage people to celebrate their good points physical and spiritual without implying that they're conceited or arrogant. This should stop."

There is a world of difference between vanity/conceit/arrogance and self-worth.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Maybe this should be for another thread,

But theirs people on here expressing how there not feeling beautiful inside, but there photo gallery expresses beauty. So are you feeling beautiful when taking these pictures

Thank you for articulating that. I was wondering the same.

"

This is why my profile and pictures are hidden! I don't see any beauty in the pics, or in the mirror.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't feel it or see it in myself ever. I could be paid all the compliments but they mean nothing.

I'm working on my body. Not for any reason other than how I view it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies you're all beautiful and I will explain shortly xx

SMILE!!

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I don't feel it or see it in myself ever. I could be paid all the compliments but they mean nothing.

I'm working on my body. Not for any reason other than how I view it "

Compliments mean nothing if you don't feel it for yourself. I hope you can one day soon.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"never "

Give it a try.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think society needs to stop looking for a better model of themselves and comparing themselves with THAT model.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

"I never feel beautiful after having my mastectomy and reconstruction done got too many horrible scars"

Those are your survival scars

Wear them with pride xxx

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think society needs to stop looking for a better model of themselves and comparing themselves with THAT model.

"

To paraphrase Oscar, be yourself because everyone else is taken.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple over a year ago

Manchester Area

Lickety, this thread has had me thinking for a while.

is there a specific standard for beauty?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Lickety, this thread has had me thinking for a while.

is there a specific standard for beauty?"

I think we're fed an idea that there must be and a modern western aesthetic seems to have captured many (straightened hair, lightened skin, Barbie proportions). When you look across cultures or even across the centuries you can see there isn't a standard.

The point of this wasn't about a standard to measure yourself against but whether you feel yourself beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I do but not as often as I would like these days. I'm tired all the time lately due to ill health and so have not been making my usual efforts to look as good aesthetically as I would like to. Lucky for me I have a wonderful man who comforts me every day and offers me reassurance that I am beautiful to him even if I don't feel so myself.

I think I'm a nice person though with a kind heart. Beauty comes from within right ?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Sometimes I do but not as often as I would like these days. I'm tired all the time lately due to ill health and so have not been making my usual efforts to look as good aesthetically as I would like to. Lucky for me I have a wonderful man who comforts me every day and offers me reassurance that I am beautiful to him even if I don't feel so myself.

I think I'm a nice person though with a kind heart. Beauty comes from within right ?"

It does and we can all wobble at times. I hope as your health improves you will feel beautiful again.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful.

How can you get to a point where you feel beautiful?

Weight/body shape/size has come up a lot on this thread and I can accept that not having control of your weight/shape/size can be an indication of an inner struggle but I have also learnt that you can't address it in any meaningful way from a place of hating yourself (the core of you).

Would I be happier if I was thinner, given that I am fatter than I have ever been? Maybe I would be but right now I feel beautiful and it has nothing to do with my size.

I don't think I ever will. But I'm ok with that. Ive got by ok the last 35 years. I'm more confident now, with my body but I'll never think im beautiful. I don't hate myself though. Just know that im an average lass.

If average is most of us why can't average be beautiful?

I've spent some time with you and think you are beautiful. That's nothing to do with your gorgeous looks and body but about you beyond those things.

"

Thanks lickety. Means a lot xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

constant battle in my head between not feeling good enough, but still sometimes thinking I look better.. who knows. its easier to judge myself based on the people who treat me like shit.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I never do. Ive always been overweight with glasses and was bullied a bit at school so Ive never thought I was beautiful.

How can you get to a point where you feel beautiful?

Weight/body shape/size has come up a lot on this thread and I can accept that not having control of your weight/shape/size can be an indication of an inner struggle but I have also learnt that you can't address it in any meaningful way from a place of hating yourself (the core of you).

Would I be happier if I was thinner, given that I am fatter than I have ever been? Maybe I would be but right now I feel beautiful and it has nothing to do with my size.

I don't think I ever will. But I'm ok with that. Ive got by ok the last 35 years. I'm more confident now, with my body but I'll never think im beautiful. I don't hate myself though. Just know that im an average lass.

If average is most of us why can't average be beautiful?

I've spent some time with you and think you are beautiful. That's nothing to do with your gorgeous looks and body but about you beyond those things.

Thanks lickety. Means a lot xxx "

And seconded you really do have it both in and by god out as well phorrrr

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"constant battle in my head between not feeling good enough, but still sometimes thinking I look better.. who knows. its easier to judge myself based on the people who treat me like shit.

"

And yet anther stunner. Some blokes are compleat not rights but we aren't all the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes I do but not as often as I would like these days. I'm tired all the time lately due to ill health and so have not been making my usual efforts to look as good aesthetically as I would like to. Lucky for me I have a wonderful man who comforts me every day and offers me reassurance that I am beautiful to him even if I don't feel so myself.

I think I'm a nice person though with a kind heart. Beauty comes from within right ?

It does and we can all wobble at times. I hope as your health improves you will feel beautiful again.

"

Thank you. Your beauty shines through on this thread. Xxx

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

I can make people laugh..

I can love people

I can be generous

I am mostly kind Tho sometimes the witch comes out.

I can laugh and poke fun at myself, mainly so it will take the wind out of other peoples sails when they want to knock me.

Guess I am more beautiful on the inside but that is ok.

If I could be bothered /motivate to lose weight I might feel better about myself.

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