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Do you only chat to people you want to fuck?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A lot of people in the forum say they like to chat and get to know people before they meet. Yet there's also a lot of people that complain when other people chat to them with no intention of meeting. Apparently these other people are classed as "time wasters".
No-one on here is forced to enter a conversation with someone else. There must be something you like about the other person/ people to continue chatting to them. So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
Do you only chat to people you want to fuck? Once that chance of a fuck has gone... do you feel cheated? |
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"A lot of people in the forum say they like to chat and get to know people before they meet. Yet there's also a lot of people that complain when other people chat to them with no intention of meeting. Apparently these other people are classed as "time wasters".
No-one on here is forced to enter a conversation with someone else. There must be something you like about the other person/ people to continue chatting to them. So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
Do you only chat to people you want to fuck? Once that chance of a fuck has gone... do you feel cheated?"
. I will chat to men as well and do not wish to fuck them so I will chat about any topic that I find to be of interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm being honest here.
Yeah.
But I've still developed friendships with them beyond after the fact.
Because I do have to like them to actually have sex with them in the first place.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being totally honest, I'm happy to chat to anybody, I'd happily chat to someone I had no intentions of meeting sadly though a lot of guys on here think me chatting means I'm interested in meeting, even those I've told I don't want to meet think because I've carried on chatting I will change my mind
I've had a few rude messages from guys when I've said after chatting for a while that I don't want to meet, being called a time waster etc so now days I tend to not bother because I don't like the idea I may he leading somebody on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are a few ppl I chat to regularly that I know, and they know, that we either wont ever meet, or that it would just be socially.
i just like chatting with like minded easy going friendly ppl.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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guess i am a badden then.i chat for long enough to know if i wanna fuck the guy.if i dont or they dont,then i dont see the point in wasting ppls time.sorry,itsjust the way i am.  |
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Do you only chat to people you want to fuck? Once that chance of a fuck has gone... do you feel cheated?"
No, I'm happy to chat with anyone on the forums (assuming we're talking normal chat)
I see the forums as a fun place to chat, pass the time of day, learn amazing (and scary) facts while we're arranging meets elsewhere.
There are plenty of people on here who are well out of my league meet-wise, but with whom I regularly pass the time of day.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I chat on the forum and sometimes that moves into private messaging chat with no intention of sex. Sometimes it goes into private messaging chat as a prelude to chatting about potential sex.
I have and do chat to others on the site who never even look at the forum and they may think I'm a timewaster but it's their choice to stick with it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No ill chat to anyone..
Although the chat maybe slightly different if I wanted to get jiggy..
Hell if I only chatted to people I wanted to fuck... I'd never get through them all...I chat to a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happy to chat on the forums to anyone and will sometimes pm people usually for extra advice. With regards to people I'm interested in meeting I'll ask them to meet for a quick coffee social, once I'm satisfied they are the people in the picture and if I want to meet them again for more then I'll engage in proper conversations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy chatting on the forums just for fun and to hear peoples' opinions. But if I'm chatting privately then yeah, I either expect to meet or to decide that one or both parties would rather not. The social side is fun for me, but ultimately I'm here for something more...
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat to anyone in the forums but I tend to not bother in private messages as 'chat' to most of the people that message me means 'free sex line' now I'm not completely adverse to that kind of chat but not at 10 30 on a Tuesday morning while I'm doing other things.... Multitask I can do... But not if it involves creatively thinking up an erotic novel out of nowhere!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
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So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
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Because despite the many and various claims that they aren't shallow (whatever that means) lots of people really do just want to have sex and go but are prepared to pretend that they enjoy a chat and a social meet as a means to an end. When the end doesn't materialise they feel their time has been wasted never thinking it's them who've done the wasting  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hi everyone, how are you all doing? im a bit of a newbie. I signed up ages ago but ive only plucked up the courage to explore the site now.
Anyone have any good tips for using the site?"
Hello newbie.  Read the forums, have a browse, learn new things, chat to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi everyone, how are you all doing? im a bit of a newbie. I signed up ages ago but ive only plucked up the courage to explore the site now.
Anyone have any good tips for using the site?"
Good tip :
Learn to type one-handed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No but if I don't have time to chat to those I do want to fuck then those I don't will take a back seat,I also don't want to unintenionally lead people on by chatting to them when a meet isn't going to happen so I try and keep it under control or else its chaos in my inbox  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
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I assume those people EXPECT a meet if you chat to them. Hence why we don't get involved in chatting to people who ask for a meet but we have no intention of meeting. |
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I'll chat to anyone, as long as I can put a face to the words and I'm not the one keeping the conversation going while they reply to my questions.
A lot of conversations end up as interviews and my interest rapidly wanes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I chatted to someone for two years before we could find a date and time we could meet.
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I've had this with a few. ...Sadly for me it's part and parcel of not being available often and the guys I click with always end up miles away. ....It's great when you meet someone after all that time though, isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...
So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
Because despite the many and various claims that they aren't shallow (whatever that means) lots of people really do just want to have sex and go but are prepared to pretend that they enjoy a chat and a social meet as a means to an end. When the end doesn't materialise they feel their time has been wasted never thinking it's them who've done the wasting "
Good point well made.
I do think the 'time waster' tag can go both ways. Are they wasting my time .. or am I wasting my own time by chatting to them when my sixth sense is screaming at me "they won't meet".  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
I assume those people EXPECT a meet if you chat to them. Hence why we don't get involved in chatting to people who ask for a meet but we have no intention of meeting."
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I chatted to someone for two years before we could find a date and time we could meet.
I've had this with a few. ...Sadly for me it's part and parcel of not being available often and the guys I click with always end up miles away. ....It's great when you meet someone after all that time though, isn't it?"
It was a great meet and all the chat continues.
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I only chat when I'm shagging. I'm up to six words per pump. I need to slow down. It's a bit Benny Hillish.
ooh ooh ooh ooh ooh ooh
And repeat."
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I chat to many people, as there are some stars here, so I'm not going to miss out.
I usually am upfront about my interests and objectives. If it's potentially physical, then ignoring that wouldn't allow us all to discover what we need. And I prefer honesty - I'd feel tricked if someone had a pretence, when they only wanted a shag.
My forum posts are the same. From my heart and usually clear.
I will debate in the forums and also in private messages. Some people here I really like and admire their opinions and thoughts. Taoist springs to mind and others too. It's a privilege to find a good thread and see some opinions. In the pub, you'd not find open discussions that you can add your bit to, as you can here, or probably could have done in our pubs more, in times gone by.
I like anyone who's respectful and has something interesting and well thought through to say, or can aid learning.
I'd find it tedious if all conversations were more sophisticated versions of 'fancy a fuck?' |
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I chat to anyone of my friends on here and have had a few convos with others
only recently I offered someone that ive spoken too if they would like a social meet for a drink or a meal also respecting there choices upon there forum profile page |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love to chat to people, even if I wouldn't want to meet or have sex with them at first, I at least let them know I'm not ready to meet them just so there not wasting their time and if they still wanna chat then great.
A great intelligent conversation can do wonders on how you see people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So having spent some time chatting, why the angst when it becomes obvious there will be no meet?
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But still this... If you have a nice time chatting to someone that later turns out to be not someone you would ever meet... why are they labelled time wasters?
Because despite the many and various claims that they aren't shallow (whatever that means) lots of people really do just want to have sex and go but are prepared to pretend that they enjoy a chat and a social meet as a means to an end. When the end doesn't materialise they feel their time has been wasted never thinking it's them who've done the wasting "
Exactly right , perfectly put
We only chat to those we want to fuck , but being totally honest we only exchange a maximum of three messages with them . If there's no mention of a meet by then we won't waste any more of our time on them .
If someone asks us a genuine question which we can help them with we always will do so . This instance doesn't mean we want to fuck them though , and one message generally does it .
Our profile pretty much sums up why we are on fab , and we are pandas , we don't try to hide it or anything else . We totally agree that the only way to eliminate time wasted is to not waste your own time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends. I won't have sexual chat with anyone I'm not interested in that way.
But if someone seems interesting and wants to chat in a platonic way that's fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been chatting to a girl for 3 years and we haven't met !!!
Mind you she does live 300 miles away...
I think meeting now would probably spoil everything !!"
Especially when you find out it's a guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll chat to anyone, some I've met socially and we have the same sense of humour . Nothing to do with sex. Plus I can talk for England if I'm in the mind to. Ive had some right interesting chats. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We couldn't meet anyone with chatting to them first. We're never disappointed if the chatting doesn't develop into something else. How else can you explore the recipient's needs and desires before hooking up? Anyone that complains of 'ping pong' messages as a waste of time potentially isn't appreciating the value of developing chemistry. Essential for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I chat to whom ever, although I'm straight I chat to gay and bi folk. It's reassuring talking to people knowing I'm not the only highly sexed person out there, in a way its comforting.
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We tend to only get into a convo with some we'd like to meet, however, there's been occasions where we're happy to chat to someone we're never going to meet but we always make that very clear early on. It's always been them that end the chatter.
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I have some on my friends list that are coffee buddy's only, we meet up just for chat and coffee. It's great and a great way of making friends.
Just a side note I've notice there's some on this forum that say happy to just chat but really they don't
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only chat to people I'm potentially interested in fucking - unless they've said something particularly interesting and relevant to me in the forums.
I get fed up of married guys going 'we don't have to do anything, we can just chat on here then one day meet for a chat!' Dunno about you, but I have friends to meet for coffee and chat with when I don't want to fuck... I don't spend enough time with my friends as it is, so I'm hardly going to meet some random, sex-starved cheat that I have nothing in common with for just coffee! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Depends..
Off the forums, no. We tend to only start chatting with people that we have an interest in meeting. If it works out great, if not and chat fizzles out that's fine too.
On the forums, have no problem chatting with most people. Struck up some great conversations, however I'll make it clear (if needed) when its just general chit chat.
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"I only chat to people I'm potentially interested in fucking - unless they've said something particularly interesting and relevant to me in the forums.
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This goes for me too.
Incidentally I'd be happy to chat to the girl who posted this reply on both counts   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only chat to people I'm potentially interested in fucking - unless they've said something particularly interesting and relevant to me in the forums.
This goes for me too.
Incidentally I'd be happy to chat to the girl who posted this reply on both counts "
No girl here... only an adult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat in the sense of occasional messages with quite a few people I have no intention of fucking or where I know it will probably never happen because of logistics. But I wouldn't say I invest much time in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No girl here... only an adult.
Ouch....I had no idea the term 'girl' could cause such offence. Many of my younger adult friends refer to themselves as guys and girls...  "
Oooh god, don't bring this up again! |
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There are a tapestry of people on here ...
Some nice ... some not so nice
Ive made some lovley friendships on here and had some local meets ....
I live in the midlands ... so if u live in Scotland its highly unlikely we are ever going to meet ..... but we can still chat
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a few fellow cuck couples we chat to and swap stories with. Also find a fair few people messaging asking for advice for some reason lol so to answer the question no we don't just chat to those who we're gonna fuck |
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