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had a few interesting messages on a well known site asking me to decide
Swinger or relationship
Lying in the bath, (one foot out as tattoos healing)
Made me think
Im single like meeting others for nsa on here where frolics and fantasies happen
Yet
If i met someone special i would consider leaving this behind (consider as I don't know till i meet that person)
The person said conflict of interest, yet why would i put my fab profile on a dating site and vice versa
Does it bother you if you are meeting someone who is also looking for a relationship? (I dont hide the fact of im looking to date btw, my meets on here are nsa)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"had a few interesting messages on a well known site asking me to decide
Swinger or relationship
Lying in the bath, (one foot out as tattoos healing)
Made me think
Im single like meeting others for nsa on here where frolics and fantasies happen
Yet
If i met someone special i would consider leaving this behind (consider as I don't know till i meet that person)
The person said conflict of interest, yet why would i put my fab profile on a dating site and vice versa
Does it bother you if you are meeting someone who is also looking for a relationship? (I dont hide the fact of im looking to date btw, my meets on here are nsa)
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It wouldn't bother me at all.
I just want people to be honest.  |
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As long as you're honest and clear what you want then I see no issues.
I've been on here for about 5 years and taken time out for two 18-month relationships before by hiding my account (I'm too cynical to delete it - though I came close with the last lady... lucky I didn't it turns out).
I'm now in an open, distance relationship with a lady - something between a FWB and easy going relationship. She plays with others and I have that option too.
The key is honesty. |
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"I agree. Though I was talking to someone off here last night about relationships and we both agreed that if we met someone we'd sack Fab off."
See i would. Some men get threatened |
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As long as you're honest and clear what you want then I see no issues.
I've been on here for about 5 years and taken time out for two 18-month relationships before by hiding my account (I'm too cynical to delete it - though I came close with the last lady... lucky I didn't it turns out).
I'm now in an open, distance relationship with a lady - something between a FWB and easy going relationship. She plays with others and I have that option too.
The key is honesty. |
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I think you can enjoy what you're doing now but also hope for something different as well.
I know i'd give all this up for someone special, but not as soon as a met them, only once trust has been built up between us and a proper bond formed. Otherwise i'm not giving up anything, i reckon most people are reciprocal like me and feel no incentive to do something for nothing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"had a few interesting messages on a well known site asking me to decide
Swinger or relationship
Lying in the bath, (one foot out as tattoos healing)
Made me think
Im single like meeting others for nsa on here where frolics and fantasies happen
Yet
If i met someone special i would consider leaving this behind (consider as I don't know till i meet that person)
The person said conflict of interest, yet why would i put my fab profile on a dating site and vice versa
Does it bother you if you are meeting someone who is also looking for a relationship? (I dont hide the fact of im looking to date btw, my meets on here are nsa)
It wouldn't bother me at all.
I just want people to be honest. "
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"I agree. Though I was talking to someone off here last night about relationships and we both agreed that if we met someone we'd sack Fab off.
See i would. Some men get threatened "
I think I'm weird for the fact that I'm happy to play with other couples, but if I was in a couple I wouldn't want to see someone I love fucking someone else. |
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"I agree. Though I was talking to someone off here last night about relationships and we both agreed that if we met someone we'd sack Fab off."
Exactly!! |
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I'm not looking for a long term relationship, but does that exclude dating ? 
What's wrong with seeing more than one person ?
Is there an exclusivity clause that you sign in the dotted line ?
But I'm not after lots of one night stands and fuck and goes either 
If I'm up front and honest about it, that I want to spend time with several people, but to be close enough in that relationship that we're good friends, is that ok ?
I guess it's a form of polygamy |
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"I'm not looking for a long term relationship, but does that exclude dating ?
What's wrong with seeing more than one person ?
Is there an exclusivity clause that you sign in the dotted line ?
But I'm not after lots of one night stands and fuck and goes either
If I'm up front and honest about it, that I want to spend time with several people, but to be close enough in that relationship that we're good friends, is that ok ?
I guess it's a form of polygamy "
polygamy needs a man with a big bank account. |
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"I agree. Though I was talking to someone off here last night about relationships and we both agreed that if we met someone we'd sack Fab off.
See i would. Some men get threatened "
Being single myself ive always thought if i met someone on here and we fell for each other big time, then if she wanted to quit here i would in a heartbeat but if she wanted to stay as a couple i wouldnt say no ethier but it would be her choice xx Dont force anyone to do anything they dont want to do xx |
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When I met jay we where both swingers, had the same outlook. Neither of us had to explain why we did what we did we just knew.
I have to have variety in my life, I don't "need" to shag a different guy each week but its knowing that I can do what I like when I like.
Its always been my life ever since I've been sexually active so I couldn't just stop.
Only difference is as I've gotten older I don't have to cheat in relationships I can be open and honest.
I couldn't be with someone who wouldn't let me have my freedom
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree. Though I was talking to someone off here last night about relationships and we both agreed that if we met someone we'd sack Fab off.
See i would. Some men get threatened
Being single myself ive always thought if i met someone on here and we fell for each other big time, then if she wanted to quit here i would in a heartbeat but if she wanted to stay as a couple i wouldnt say no ethier but it would be her choice xx Dont force anyone to do anything they dont want to do xx"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When I met jay we where both swingers, had the same outlook. Neither of us had to explain why we did what we did we just knew.
I have to have variety in my life, I don't "need" to shag a different guy each week but its knowing that I can do what I like when I like.
Its always been my life ever since I've been sexually active so I couldn't just stop.
Only difference is as I've gotten older I don't have to cheat in relationships I can be open and honest.
I couldn't be with someone who wouldn't let me have my freedom
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Just to add a twist I'd be OK for an open or swinging relationship if we both met at a club or on here say,
But if it was a purely vanilla meet not sure how i'd go about that |
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"Just to add a twist I'd be OK for an open or swinging relationship if we both met at a club or on here say,
But if it was a purely vanilla meet not sure how i'd go about that"
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