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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you  "
Sometimes people feel better after chatting with strangers, lots of forum users have had support for serious issues over the years we have been on site, we see no harm with the op posting this on here to gain a bit of friendly support at what must be a tough time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Was thinking this. "
This is hardly the place to be.
But you have my sympathy and and cyber hug x |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Very sorry to hear this. I doubt that many of us can come close to imagining what you are feeling.
I would just say that whatever you are feeling, it's OK to feel that way. "
This!
Yhere is no right or wrong in whatever you are feeling and doing to help you with the shock and pain. I am really sorry to hear this - even though I don t know you, it must be so awful! |
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Was thinking this.
This is hardly the place to be.
But you have my sympathy and and cyber hug x"
why isn't it, these forums can offer a lot of support in time of need. Especially if your on your own.
So sorry to here this op
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"A lot of my family live a long distance away, and I have only just heard the news. I haven't much of a social life "
Dont worry about it. Theres nothing wrong with posting here and I hope you get to be with your family soon so that you can all support each other. |
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you "
Hat of he doesn't speak to his family. I think people should notvtell others how to handle their grief personally. We are all different.
OP, there will be a roller-coaster of emotions ahead of you. We don't know how close you were to your brother or your family dynamics so cannot tell you how to act or what to do but just remember that there are people there to support you be it on here if needed,friends, family or organisations such as samarotans who have helplines available 24/7 to just listen to you. They don't try to advise you or tell you how to cope, they offer you space to explore your feelings with someone detached from the situation which can be really helpful.
I hope you are able to find a way through this that works for you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I haven't got ANY social life, who am I kidding? I sacrificed it to work 65 hours a week to provide for my partner and child, and I found out that my ex put my baby in school at 3 years old in order to meet men for sex during the daytime. That's why I HATE cheating |
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Sometimes people feel better after chatting with strangers, lots of forum users have had support for serious issues over the years we have been on site, we see no harm with the op posting this on here to gain a bit of friendly support at what must be a tough time. "
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"I haven't got ANY social life, who am I kidding? I sacrificed it to work 65 hours a week to provide for my partner and child, and I found out that my ex put my baby in school at 3 years old in order to meet men for sex during the daytime. That's why I HATE cheating "
You really don't have to explain yourself to anyone.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you "
My thoughts as well though o p must be traumatised family will need each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have no family support or friends and feel the need to talk, then try the smartatains
Or pop into a church tomorrow ask to talk to a vicar or priest
Talking is easier than being alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Sometimes people feel better after chatting with strangers, lots of forum users have had support for serious issues over the years we have been on site, we see no harm with the op posting this on here to gain a bit of friendly support at what must be a tough time.
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couldn't agree more.. Take it easy OP there's some good sounding boards on here.. Better to talk then suffer in silence.. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best. |
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best."
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There was a family rift a few years ago and different members of the clan were not speaking. I only hope we can build bridges from this tragedy "
Things are hard enough fella for you all without the rift and truly hope things improve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best.
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units. "
Actually i have experienced it twice.
One work related and one personal and both horrid and heart wrenching |
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best.
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units.
Actually i have experienced it twice.
One work related and one personal and both horrid and heart wrenching "
I know at least one other that has experienced it (me) which is why I asked if the poster I quoted was sure that no one posting had experience of it.
It is a terrible thing to go through and each person needs to find their own way through it. Being told they cannot talk about it in any place or medium etc is far from helpful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best.
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units.
Actually i have experienced it twice.
One work related and one personal and both horrid and heart wrenching
I know at least one other that has experienced it (me) which is why I asked if the poster I quoted was sure that no one posting had experience of it.
It is a terrible thing to go through and each person needs to find their own way through it. Being told they cannot talk about it in any place or medium etc is far from helpful. "
I think some sites aren't for it as some don't understand it or won't comprehend it
Im not saying its wrong to chat about it, you know me better than that
I just think a time and place but if its the ops only outlet. Then go for it.
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best.
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units.
Actually i have experienced it twice.
One work related and one personal and both horrid and heart wrenching
I know at least one other that has experienced it (me) which is why I asked if the poster I quoted was sure that no one posting had experience of it.
It is a terrible thing to go through and each person needs to find their own way through it. Being told they cannot talk about it in any place or medium etc is far from helpful.
I think some sites aren't for it as some don't understand it or won't comprehend it
Im not saying its wrong to chat about it, you know me better than that
I just think a time and place but if its the ops only outlet. Then go for it.
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god you sound heartless |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Sometimes people feel better after chatting with strangers, lots of forum users have had support for serious issues over the years we have been on site, we see no harm with the op posting this on here to gain a bit of friendly support at what must be a tough time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jack.. Keep talking.. To the rest of your family. Parents?
Shock.. Makes you angry.
Get in touch with your boss, go where u need to be.
Go to doc to get support.. Get u thru the shock x |
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"Just heard that my younger brother has committed suicide. I don't know what to do, I am just numb "
It is truly hard, and the rollercoaster of varied emotions which will overwhelm you in the coming days will be even harder.
But you will come out the other side, and hopefully, as you say, the rest of the family will all pull together.
It is good you felt you had somewhere to vent. You mustn't bottle it all up.
Our thoughts are also with you all.
Mr.ddc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This may sound picky and insenstive for the o p he says he is one of 5 and then no family its a bit confusing.
There are better peolple and otganisations to help with loss of loved ones and whilst all posts are intended to empathise with you we do not have experience on this type of thing.
Wish you all the best.
You know for a fact that no one posting has experienced suicide in their life time?
You make a lot of presumptions.
Also you can have the biggest family ever but not be in contact with them or not be the sort of family that are good at supporting each other. Not all families are twin set and pearls, perfect, wholesome units.
Actually i have experienced it twice.
One work related and one personal and both horrid and heart wrenching
I know at least one other that has experienced it (me) which is why I asked if the poster I quoted was sure that no one posting had experience of it.
It is a terrible thing to go through and each person needs to find their own way through it. Being told they cannot talk about it in any place or medium etc is far from helpful.
I think some sites aren't for it as some don't understand it or won't comprehend it
Im not saying its wrong to chat about it, you know me better than that
I just think a time and place but if its the ops only outlet. Then go for it.
god you sound heartless"
Why?
As i said there is a time and place for everything but not on a swinging site
He can discuss it. Come to terms with it but talking to a bunch of strangers isnt going to console him.
He needs to go to his family (no matter if a feud is going on). Be there for the family his brothers
Times like this augments are forgotten, i know this been through it and no I didn't post it on here or faceache.
Op I'm sorry for your loss go make the call to your family mend the bridges, i bet they need you as much as you need them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People deal with personal bereavement in very different ways, and it's never logical to anybody else.
Op - my condolences to you, and respect to your little brother. |
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"People deal with personal bereavement in very different ways, and it's never logical to anybody else.
Op - my condolences to you, and respect to your little brother."
Exactly OP my condolences to you and your family at this time i lost a dear friend in similar circumstances  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm so very sorry for your loss Jack, I hope you find the strength to mend bridges with your family and get through the coming days, weeks and months.
Stay strong and if this is the only outlet you feel you have then you should use it as often as you need to. |
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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago
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"I'd suggest you spend time with your family instead of being on a swinger's site. Thoughts are with you
Sometimes people feel better after chatting with strangers, lots of forum users have had support for serious issues over the years we have been on site, we see no harm with the op posting this on here to gain a bit of friendly support at what must be a tough time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear of your loss OP. Death of any kind is always so hard to deal with and you have the extra shock, of it being sudden. I hope you have at least one supportive friend that you can talk to about how you are feeling. Be extra kind to yourself, as you will be in shock at the moment.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He was only 26 and had a bright future. Why?
You can't know. No one can. Don't torture yourself wondering. "
This. It's early days, more may come to light over the coming weeks and you may get some answers. The Samaritans are always there to listen - I'm just thinking you might need someone to talk to later on when it's quiet here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We know why he took his own life, he discovered his partner was cheating on him, and when he confronted her she had started to leave him "
Very sad situation. How are you doing Op ? X |
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"We know why he took his own life, he discovered his partner was cheating on him, and when he confronted her she had started to leave him "
Sadly, you will never know why he took his own life.
People look for a reason and someone to blame.
It would be awful if everyone tried to pin his death on his partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We know why he took his own life, he discovered his partner was cheating on him, and when he confronted her she had started to leave him
Sadly, you will never know why he took his own life.
People look for a reason and someone to blame.
It would be awful if everyone tried to pin his death on his partner. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am very sorry to hear this, I am a 'bereaved sibling' we are the forgotten ones, everyone forgets the pain a sibling feels and forgets that they have been your friend since as long as you can remember and (in my case) constantly ask 'how's your mum and dad doing?' Like i never felt anything when she passed. My sister had just turned 19 when she collapsed on a night out with friends - totally out of the blue. I was there at the hospital with her when she died 2 hours later.
I contribute a lot to a sibling support group for those who have lost brothers and sisters and can give you details if you want someone to talk to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So sorry for your loss. Don't get clouded by judgement and placing blame on his partner. When people do this, they are very troubled and there's usually more to it than meets the eye. I hope your family gets the support you need. |
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"We know why he took his own life, he discovered his partner was cheating on him, and when he confronted her she had started to leave him
Sadly, you will never know why he took his own life.
People look for a reason and someone to blame.
It would be awful if everyone tried to pin his death on his partner. "
Wise words x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have good friends who lost their 16 year old son through suicide, he'd been bullied online by some class mates for a number of years!. Suicide is such a terrible pervasive death, as it leaves you with the unanswered question why?
The fallout from it was that one of the bullies went on to commit suicide himself weeks later as he couldn't deal with the guilt of his actions! |
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"Just heard that my younger brother has committed suicide. I don't know what to do, I am just numb "
So sorry to hear that mate, my thoughts are with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Op as sad as it is and as much as you are probably looking for answers and reasons we cant blame other people for our own actions.
My sympathies go out to you for your loss whatever the the circumstances. |
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