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over a year ago
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A female colleague found my POF profile and we started chatting. Nothing really flirty. Then she admitted to me that she wants an 'adult agreement' where we could look after each others physical needs. Nothingvhas happened and I am trying to keep a little bit of distance (have seen horrific fallout from office romance in the past). I must admit to being a little intrigued but think I need to be strong on this one. Help and advice appreciated, but feel free to add personal experiences of this. |
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"A female colleague found my POF profile and we started chatting. Nothing really flirty. Then she admitted to me that she wants an 'adult agreement' where we could look after each others physical needs. Nothingvhas happened and I am trying to keep a little bit of distance (have seen horrific fallout from office romance in the past). I must admit to being a little intrigued but think I need to be strong on this one. Help and advice appreciated, but feel free to add personal experiences of this."
She is on here. Knows the scene. Be clear and open communication wise and have fun. |
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"A female colleague found my POF profile and we started chatting. Nothing really flirty. Then she admitted to me that she wants an 'adult agreement' where we could look after each others physical needs. Nothingvhas happened and I am trying to keep a little bit of distance (have seen horrific fallout from office romance in the past). I must admit to being a little intrigued but think I need to be strong on this one. Help and advice appreciated, but feel free to add personal experiences of this.
She is on here. Knows the scene. Be clear and open communication wise and have fun."
She found me on POF not here.  |
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My rules of who I shag is this
If it goes tits up do I have to see them again
If the answers yes I don't shag them
Plenty of people outside of your personal life to not have to shag those inside of it
Last thing I'd want is awkwardness and gossip at work if things go wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I mixed business & pleasure for 14 years!!
Luckily we are still good friends. I even took some pics for him recently so he could sign up to some dating sites!! |
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"My rules of who I shag is this
If it goes tits up do I have to see them again
If the answers yes I don't shag them
Plenty of people outside of your personal life to not have to shag those inside of it
Last thing I'd want is awkwardness and gossip at work if things go wrong "
So I should stop having sex with the other half sharpish.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My rules of who I shag is this
If it goes tits up do I have to see them again
If the answers yes I don't shag them
Plenty of people outside of your personal life to not have to shag those inside of it
Last thing I'd want is awkwardness and gossip at work if things go wrong
So I should stop having sex with the other half sharpish. "
Now your just being silly |
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"My rules of who I shag is this
If it goes tits up do I have to see them again
If the answers yes I don't shag them
Plenty of people outside of your personal life to not have to shag those inside of it
Last thing I'd want is awkwardness and gossip at work if things go wrong
So I should stop having sex with the other half sharpish.
Now your just being silly "
Always.
But it could be the start of a great fun relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started up a sex thing with a guy I used to work with, it was fun and we've developed a good friendship out of it.
However, we caused a lot of jealousy and bitchiness at work due to it.
It's really your choice whether you want to risk it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In your position I would a yes to questions
1, do I want to
2, do I feel where are both mature enough to handle it
No point hiding from something that could be great, unless you could actually lose your job go for, trouble passes by quick enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The wording was odd. Adult agreement to sort each other's needs. I dont know if she has the personality to keep it at that."
Iam sure no relationship ever started with a modicum of risk, best not to try it as it may back fire
Chuffin hell seriously, if it don't work out you move on, if it does you may have found something great
No risk never know
Its your decision and you should make it based on what you and the lady want,
Not hide from it because there may be repercussions |
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A lot of couples have met at work, I met Mr through work although we've never worked together.
I think it depends on if you're attracted to each other, and if you both feel that the arrangement suits you.
It may not work out and could be potentially awkward, but as long as you're both mature about it it'll be fine.
Of course it may work and develop into a full blown relationship, who knows?
I wouldn't automatically dismiss it, but you both need to chat about the pros and cons |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In all fairness if I worked with you I would be after a workplace romance too! Nice pics btw...
I have a regular thing with one guy who's child is at my child's school. I found him on fab and we both recognised each other. Works quite well because we are both married with children so we both stand to lose the same thing if it were to become public.
you need to see what would happen if worst case scenario happened ie are you married/partnered and could it cause problems etc
Also is she? If you are both single go for it...
your Work should also have a policy on work relationships so make sure you don't end up fired.
I think it's a risk worth taking tho if you are both single and won't lose you jobs... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mixed business & pleasure for 14 years!!
Luckily we are still good friends. I even took some pics for him recently so he could sign up to some dating sites!!"
Now that sounds fun... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In all fairness if I worked with you I would be after a workplace romance too! Nice pics btw...
I have a regular thing with one guy who's child is at my child's school. I found him on fab and we both recognised each other. Works quite well because we are both married with children so we both stand to lose the same thing if it were to become public.
you need to see what would happen if worst case scenario happened ie are you married/partnered and could it cause problems etc
Also is she? If you are both single go for it...
your Work should also have a policy on work relationships so make sure you don't end up fired.
I think it's a risk worth taking tho if you are both single and won't lose you jobs..."
Thanks for the nice comment haha.
She just messaged me asking to go to a bbq for another section and to see a movie. An adult arrangement it wouldn't be. I have just given her a polite but firm no thanks |
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