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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you??
Would you have sex with someone who obviously has learning difficulties?
would you feel like you would be taking advantage?
Or couldn't you care less as long as they are over 16 ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a legal sense I guess it would depend on whether someone had been deemed to not have mental capacity, in which case they would be considered unable to consent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good luck with this one!
I thought there was something different about you 
Lol ... hide it well!
Bringing your carer along gave it away  "
Didn't think you'd noticed! Told them to be quiet and stay in the back!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In a legal sense I guess it would depend on whether someone had been deemed to not have mental capacity, in which case they would be considered unable to consent"
That's me fucked then. Or not, as the case may be.. |
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I have a partner with aspergers syndrome and severe dyslexia. But she knows exactly what she is doing with me. I am, however, careful to explain anything new and to get explicit consent.
If someone understands sex and the possible consequences then I see no problem with learning difficulties.
It would be a different matter if they didn't understand. |
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My guidelines are:
- over the age of consent (in practice this means 18+)
- is not incapacitated through drink/drugs/tiredness
- has the mental ability to understand and give consent to having sex
then I see no reason why not. But there has to be attraction between us; no attraction=no sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ?"
No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very tricky one this,seems to me it depends what is wrong with the person. As long as they understand what's going on and have the ability to make an informed decision I don't see a problem with it. BUT where do you draw the line? There is a strong moral issue here. Perhaps in an ongoing relationship ok but as for swinging I would not be comfortable with it |
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"What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ?"
- has the mental ability to understand and give consent to having sex
In this case - no. |
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"What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ?"
This is a hugely tricky subject. People of all physical and mental abilities have sexual needs and just as I wouldn't want to see them denied music I don't think they should be denied sex....but how do you manage these things?
No it wouldn't be right in my opinion for someone of "normal" adult mental capacity to have sex with another person with only a child's understanding of the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In a legal sense I guess it would depend on whether someone had been deemed to not have mental capacity, in which case they would be considered unable to consent"
i care for people like this and its a very individual thing - too many variences |
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"What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ?"
If they had a mental age of a 10 year old I would suggest they would not have capacity to concent therefore you are on dodgy ground |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What kind of learning difficulties? I have learning difficulties but am capable of making my own decisions and learning with the right teaching methods.
If you mean someone not capable of deciding if they want sex or not then no i wouldn't. |
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I met a blonde girl recently, she still hasn't learnt when she's being cheeky after meeting up several times- the bruises on her arse cheeks might be subsiding about now....does she count- she seemed to like the spanking though?  |
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"I met a blonde girl recently, she still hasn't learnt when she's being cheeky after meeting up several times- the bruises on her arse cheeks might be subsiding about now....does she count- she seemed to like the spanking though? "
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hmmm well this is interesting.
I have ADHD. Google it. Ryan Gosling, Richard Branson, Jim Carrey, Paris Hilton, Michael Phelps, Michelle rodriguez all have it, and yep, it's classed as a learning difficulty.
It means my concentration pretty much sucks balls but my brain is constantly in fucking overdrive.
I wasn't a fantastic example of a pupil at school (meaning I wouldn't have made it into their yearbook)
But, I know some perfect model pupils who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of.
And I piss all over them in that department now. 
P.S I went to quite a posh school and my mum and dad had to battle to keep me in there as the board basically wanted me out, to put it mildly, I was that much of a pain in the ass at school.
Having said all that though, I can also solve a Rubiks cube in 57 seconds. Which is highly ironic as I probably hold the school record for the most times a pupil has single handedly been thrown out of maths class.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a partner with aspergers syndrome and severe dyslexia. But she knows exactly what she is doing with me. I am, however, careful to explain anything new and to get explicit consent.
If someone understands sex and the possible consequences then I see no problem with learning difficulties.
It would be a different matter if they didn't understand. "
I think you are absolutely correct. Its all about the persons ability to be able to accept and understand what is happening. Honesty being key. Obviously, taking advantage of someone who is vulnerable, is totally wrong and dare I say immoral. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you??
Would you have sex with someone who obviously has learning difficulties?
would you feel like you would be taking advantage?
Or couldn't you care less as long as they are over 16 ?
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Depends on what their learning difficulty is
If they are not of an understand of what you are asking when you ask for sex even if they say yes it could land you in plenty of trouble so be careful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about if they are an adult IE : Over the age of let's say 25 but has a mental age of a ten year old.
Would having sex with them be ok too ? Would you be seeing to "their needs" as someone mentioned ?"
You do ask some odd questions
I've gone  to a few of your posts in the past |
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