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just got a letter from the dwp telling me having had my leg amputated that to live on i need the almighty sum of £52.36 a week so my question is where is all the money jeremy kyle was on about?
p.s with that i do get a disabled parking badge. |
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"just got a letter from the dwp telling me having had my leg amputated that to live on i need the almighty sum of £52.36 a week so my question is where is all the money jeremy kyle was on about?
p.s with that i do get a disabled parking badge."
It depends on the level of disability and how they perceive you cope with it. I work with people with a mental illness and some people are on much more than that. |
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"just got a letter from the dwp telling me having had my leg amputated that to live on i need the almighty sum of £52.36 a week so my question is where is all the money jeremy kyle was on about?
p.s with that i do get a disabled parking badge."
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"just got a letter from the dwp telling me having had my leg amputated that to live on i need the almighty sum of £52.36 a week so my question is where is all the money jeremy kyle was on about?
p.s with that i do get a disabled parking badge.
WOW youll be a Millionaire soon "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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right im going to get a bolllocking here i know but lol
why cant you still work with 1 leg? there are many people worse than that who still earm their own money, the guy next door to me has'nt work in year due to a disability that i have never noticed, that also dont stop him playing golf 3 times a week and have a normal social life
My ex had a accident about 8 years ago where he almost lost his arm, luckly they did save it but he only has about 30/40% use in that arm now with means he cant do many thing like tieing shoe laces etc, he can only lift his arm shoulder high and it will never go straigh again, he never went on the sick, never got a penny in disability or anything
why do some people feel that because something has happened to them life has to stop while other think....well there are worse than me so i just have to get on with life? |
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"Confused......do you not have to be on the Higher rate of DLA Mobility component to get a Blue badge anymore?you do not have to be on mobility at all to apply for a disabled parking badge"
....but if you are on the higher rate of DLA mobility component, you are automatically entitled to a blue badge...but you still have to apply for it every few years....and pay a small administration fee |
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The reason I ask is because I am trying to help an elderly relative get onto the blue badge scheme....
Have you applied for DLA Mobility component?, it will get backdated to the application date if and when you are awarded the DLA benefit. |
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"The reason I ask is because I am trying to help an elderly relative get onto the blue badge scheme....
Have you applied for DLA Mobility component?, it will get backdated to the application date if and when you are awarded the DLA benefit."
i will look into it as im seeing c.a.b councillor on friday |
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over a year ago
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my dad was a champion cyclist until the age of 18 when he had an accident, broken neck.
there cant be more of an adjustment, from beeing a very fit sportsman to beeing in a wheelchair.
but he got on with it, changed his thoughts of what to do for a job. he is now retired after working all his life.
So my point is while it must be a huge adjustment for you, it doesnt mean your on the scrap heap. im sure there are plenty of jobs you are able to do, and nowdays disability is much less of a barrier than it was.
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I'm pretty passionate on people getting their priorities sorted in life, without wishing to appear too critical I would suggest that your time (the OP) would have been better served over the last few weeks since your operation filling in a Disability Living Allowance form rather than complaining about your lot on here.
Every day you have put off claiming this disability you have lost REAL money, you have a genuine claim as your mobility will have been adversely affected, I am amazed you haven't got on top of that straight away. |
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With all the proposed cuts looming and the very real possibility of means testing everyone receiving benefits of any description I'd wage that most DSS Depts have been put on a 'war footing' and told to reject all but the utmost needy. I'm not belittling your plight at all and who knows what criteria the DSS have employed to determine just who is the most needy. Given the current economic climate it is a very bad time to be newly disabled and trying to fathom out the minefield that is the DSS and what you're entitled to.
I think perseverance is your only path and although it may take some time to get what you're entitled to I'd say keep at them and don't give up, become such a pain in the arse that they'll give you what you need just to shut you up lol.
In any big society, corporation or company there is always a policy of 'refusal first, pacify second' - which means they'll fob you off at first hoping you'll go away quietly and if that doesn't work you go onto the next level of pacification.
Hone your negotiating skills and it'll pay dividends... and don't forget, it's damned near impossible to do anything with only one leg, geddit? 
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"are you right in the head? do you realise how hard it is to cope without a leg?the adjustments you have to make the things you can,t do anymore the pain you have to put up with i worked all my life up til this happened as a paver and block paver then as a minibus driver when paving dried up so given time maybe i will retrain and work again but i think your out of order you make it sound so easy to think i was suggesting we put money in to help you out when you got robbed  "
That's out of line. I regularly read through the forums and i must say, you appear to just complain about all that's been handed to you. Yes, it's devastating you've lost your leg but at least you're still alive. I think £50 per week is not an unjust amount for a single person to survive on! I do wish you all the best though. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I couldn't start to imagine what it feels like to have lost one of my legs and I wish you all the very best for the future.
You are the one in control of what happens next in your life.. you either allow it to overwhelm you and become bitter, or you embrace it and with a passion, retrain to do something else.. with the multiple of other skills you will have. Seek out all the grants available to do courses.Don't delay, do it now. Offer to do voluntary work in the interim to keep stimulated, also looks good on a CV. ( obviously depends on healing, pain control etc etc )
Contact centre work would be ideal and with the high turnover of people they face, they would welcome people who want to retrain and stick in a job.
Now this is where I may sound harsh, and I don't mean to ... but if you can spend time on a sex site, looking for meets, you can actively look for something to do..
Again, apologies if that sounds harsh.
Wishing you all the very best for the future and stay positive... it will all work out for the good.
People like Simon Weston are great role models. |
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" I think £50 per week is not an unjust amount for a single person to survive on! I do wish you all the best though. "
Single? What part of BERTnBECKY don't you understand?  |
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" I think £50 per week is not an unjust amount for a single person to survive on! I do wish you all the best though.
Single? What part of BERTnBECKY don't you understand? "
I fully understand they are a couple. I just presumed that this was a claim based on a single person because of a disability (regardless of partner's income). I obviously have no idea of how the benefits system works. My apologies for being so ignorant! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Personally I think some comments are a bit harsh, it isn't a long time ago since he became disabled and it must be damned hard to accept and get your head around it before you can be positive about where you life is hopefully going to lead.
Bert, I don't know how much people are meant to get but I am guessing they take into account your OH working?
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" "are you right in the head" "i think your out of order you make it sound so easy to think i was suggesting we put money in to help you out when you got robbed " whats out of line?"
It was those comments are felt uncalled for. |
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Employment Support Allowance is awarded regardless of the fact that you are married or not, so in that sense it is true to say it is irrelevant if Bert is married or not.
It is the 'add on' benefits that would be affected by Bert's partners income from earnings. |
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"Personally I think some comments are a bit harsh, it isn't a long time ago since he became disabled and it must be damned hard to accept and get your head around it before you can be positive about where you life is hopefully going to lead.
Bert, I don't know how much people are meant to get but I am guessing they take into account your OH working?
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becky gets approx £180 pwk we will get by and it will all work out just hard with trying to move and decorate buy new stuff for the house and cope with disability just by the time we pay the bills theres nowt left to decorate with oreat the food we used to when both working.also lost our place in spain tdue to bills mounting up had to sell it cheap to pay em but hey not moaning my question was where is the money jeremy kyle was on about not about us coping on the 50 qiud  |
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One of you is working so you will not qualify for many of the benefits, on top of the £180 you will get Working Tax Credits as one of you has a disablity.
You might like to look up an organisation called The Shaw Trust, they arrange retraining courses for people who have had to stop working through disabilities. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Personally I think some comments are a bit harsh, it isn't a long time ago since he became disabled and it must be damned hard to accept and get your head around it before you can be positive about where you life is hopefully going to lead.
Bert, I don't know how much people are meant to get but I am guessing they take into account your OH working?
becky gets approx £180 pwk we will get by and it will all work out just hard with trying to move and decorate buy new stuff for the house and cope with disability just by the time we pay the bills theres nowt left to decorate with oreat the food we used to when both working.also lost our place in spain tdue to bills mounting up had to sell it cheap to pay em but hey not moaning my question was where is the money jeremy kyle was on about not about us coping on the 50 qiud "
Opps sorry I wasn't asking how much money you both get, but was more asking is that why you didn't get much money because becky was working.
As you say though, I can't understand it when you hear reports of what other people are getting....they are either blowing up the figures or they share out the dole odd these days. 
The thing is, you have to get your head around not only losing your leg ...accepting you have lost your leg...coping with the pain and then having your life turned upside down because you lose the lifestyle you had before too...a hell of a lot to cope with at once.
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"The thing is, you have to get your head around not only losing your leg ...accepting you have lost your leg...coping with the pain and then having your life turned upside down because you lose the lifestyle you had before too...a hell of a lot to cope with at once.
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I totally agree with you Rugby,I think if it was me it would take me a while to cope with all the Bert has been through,physically and psychologically its hard to come to terms with the loss of a limb straight away
Well Bert what are you going to buy after the swimming pool has been paid for? luxury yacht?  |
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Cant remember where i saw it but the amount of unclaimed benefits far exceeds fraudulent claims. H.M. government makes it so difficult to find what your actually entitled to they are in fact the biggest benefit cheats of the lot.
Keep looking for info and asking you might well find your entitled to lots of things they forgot to mention.
You have to be a Rab Nesbitt sort of character to get your full entitlement.
Good luck. |
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"are you right in the head? do you realise how hard it is to cope without a leg?the adjustments you have to make the things you can,t do anymore the pain you have to put up with i worked all my life up til this happened as a paver and block paver then as a minibus driver when paving dried up so given time maybe i will retrain and work again but i think your out of order you make it sound so easy to think i was suggesting we put money in to help you out when you got robbed "
what a load of rubbish lmao
im sorry but for one i dont want or need anyones money and where would you send it too
naughtynymphis
care of fab swingers lmao
i think that comment is purely off the top of your head ot put me on a guilt trip
i never ment to offend anyone it was just my opinion, i know its hard to cope with a disability, i helped my ex with his for a long time while he ajusted, he could dress himself or anything at first but he went back to work and we never claimed benifits, it just seems some get on with life better than others, it wasnt even ment personally towards you it was a genral comment which is why i even used the neighbour as an example
if i offended you i am truely sorry it wasnt my intentions, and im not saying that because i have to, im saying it because its true, but your private message you send me was rather aggresive and i felt there was no need
on that note im off
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the pm i sent you was not meant to be agressive it was sent to say if you had a personal problem with me lets get it aired was all as your post seemed to be aimed at me personally. anyway if it upset you i,m sorry |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Just read all of the thread now and think the Op needs time to get himself sorted and deal with the massive adjustment that has happened. Give yourself time ok and get things done in your own time.
When my ex left me swinging chat rooms began to heal me and gave me some kind of life back while I was dealing with my own depression. I looked for meets and was also to hide from my life that was going on. So dont think anyone is fair to comment that rather than spending time on here looking for meets he should be filling in forms instead.
Unless you have been in a life changing situation you have no idea how it feels and as I have not had anything amputated then I have no idea how it must be for the OP.
Everyone deals with things in their own way.
wishing you all the best xxx |
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"Confused......do you not have to be on the Higher rate of DLA Mobility component to get a Blue badge anymore?"
there is a discretionary option but it is almost impossible to get it. my ma is 88 and can only just stand a shuffle a few steps but it took us three years and lots of letters to get one. |
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"Cant remember where i saw it but the amount of unclaimed benefits far exceeds fraudulent claims. H.M. government makes it so difficult to find what your actually entitled to they are in fact the biggest benefit cheats of the lot.
Keep looking for info and asking you might well find your entitled to lots of things they forgot to mention.
You have to be a Rab Nesbitt sort of character to get your full entitlement.
Good luck."
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"Can you not appeal?
Seems bad considering alcoholics and drug addicats can get nearly £100 a week.
I know I am naieve but do they?"
Yes,my brother is an alcholic,says he can't work because of his addiction and gets £96 a wk,so he's getting more money than jobseekers and extra money to blow at the off licence. |
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life is weird an so are bnifits
I have less than 50% lung capacity, acording to my last test, get asyhma attacks constantly, by just walking down the street and basicaly don't know till I get up if I can go anywhere that day, which tbh makes keeping a job a bloody nightmare. Yet the job centre have me in every friday to look for a job.
on the other hand, my friend is on high rate disability/mobility all due to suposed anxiety and asthma (only reason for the asthma is being fat and to bloody lazy to walk) |
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"Can you not appeal?
Seems bad considering alcoholics and drug addicats can get nearly £100 a week.
I know I am naieve but do they?
Yes,my brother is an alcholic,says he can't work because of his addiction and gets £96 a wk,so he's getting more money than jobseekers and extra money to blow at the off licence."
Then he must be on Incapacity benefit? |
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By *ruitWoman
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"Can you not appeal?
Seems bad considering alcoholics and drug addicats can get nearly £100 a week.
I know I am naieve but do they?
Yes,my brother is an alcholic,says he can't work because of his addiction and gets £96 a wk,so he's getting more money than jobseekers and extra money to blow at the off licence."
O my god, I am amazed at this. Would love to know why on earth he should get more than the other none alcoholics.
My cousin is an alcoholic but have always kept my distance from him as dont want to know him with all the other drugs etc that he has done.
Just amazes me tho |
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"Can you not appeal?
Seems bad considering alcoholics and drug addicats can get nearly £100 a week.
I know I am naieve but do they?
Yes,my brother is an alcholic,says he can't work because of his addiction and gets £96 a wk,so he's getting more money than jobseekers and extra money to blow at the off licence.
O my god, I am amazed at this. Would love to know why on earth he should get more than the other none alcoholics.
My cousin is an alcoholic but have always kept my distance from him as dont want to know him with all the other drugs etc that he has done.
Just amazes me tho"
I know,personally i think its disgusting that he gets more money that helps him feed his adiction when there are other people including the OP that meed it more x |
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The problem is that Incapacity for new claimants has been scrapped for want of a better word, so anyone suffering an illness or accident today will never get the £96 a week Incapacity rate.
So if you had a serious illness or injury before October 2008 you can get IB but after that it's ESB and a maximum of £65 a week.
It makes little difference to the OP because that difference is likely to be made up by Working Tax Credits that his wife receives as she works more than 16 hours a week.
In practice he would be no better off on the £96 a week as her Working Tax Credits would be lower. |
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"just got a letter from the dwp telling me having had my leg amputated that to live on i need the almighty sum of £52.36 a week so my question is where is all the money jeremy kyle was on about?
p.s with that i do get a disabled parking badge."
I don't know if its relevant but can't people lie the shaw trust help retrain you so you can work again and earn a decent wage? Sorry i don't know if your fit enough to work but is there no one willing to help that way? |
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