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How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody is out of my league on here. That works both ways. Nobody should feel that I am unapproachable for any reason either. I have my preferences just the same as anyone else but at the end of the day, the person is more important than just mere looks |
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over a year ago
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I feel that so many are out of my league. 
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to meet folk that I wouldn't normally chat up in a bar, I find that everyone has a story to share and to me thats part of the fun finding out what makes them tick.
I tend to message and meet normal people, as opposed to wannabes or those who think they are gods gift |
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
But you're a hot skinny girl! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
In what way? Give an example please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"  I know all the women on this thread fancy me rotten so far
yea all the guys and girls are drooling over you,mostly the guys though"
I can't help that my beauty is appreciated by the masses  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a rule, we don't send first messages in case we offend anyone. I (Mrs) think everyone is out of my league.
I'm always dubious of messages from fit, athletic guys - what could they possibly see I me?
We're learning to relax a little, and using the wink function more and more. Fab has given me some confidence, but I've a way to go yet |
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I say give it a shot. Try your luck. What have you got to lose. You may think a woman's out of your league and would not go for a guy like you but you don't know what she likes. You may be just what she's looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
I never used to message of fear of rejection, but as time has gone on (as been here on and off for 3 years) I don't care anymore, if I get rejected, I get rejected.
Message them, one mans skinny girl is another's curvy girl, go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I messaged men I would message everyone who took my fancy,regardless of their physique. I'm am intellectual Olympian and don't feel anyone on here would outstrip me intellectually. Plus,intellect doesn't wobble when you have sex. |
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"If I messaged men I would message everyone who took my fancy,regardless of their physique. I'm am intellectual Olympian and don't feel anyone on here would outstrip me intellectually. Plus,intellect doesn't wobble when you have sex. "
Javelin champion??? |
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One of the reasons I go to the club's. You cannot say what a person is like by their photo or even their profile. Having been on here several times before, I can say I don't believe half the verifications either. This site is great for so many reasons but it has also been the let down for so many others. Too many judgemental people making assumptions of an individual with little information to base their argument on.  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
Going by previous threads on this subject I would say that a few people on here avoid messaging those they consider out of their league but may eventually bite the bullet and are often pleasantly surprised at the result so should maybe do so more often.
I don't personally consider leagues of subjective attractiveness when messaging someone unless that person has previously mentioned they feel some are punching above their weight (either in profile text, status updates or forum posts); they are obviously more concerned about it than I have ever been, and it shows a potential for arrogance that I don't consider attractive. |
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
 definitely this
sometimes I daren't meet people because I feel they'd be too good for me lol
jane x |
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
I am exactly the same hun, hubby says I should just enjoy the attention, so I'm meeting a hot 24 year old guy tonight, youngest I've met by a long way |
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"If I messaged men I would message everyone who took my fancy,regardless of their physique. I'm am intellectual Olympian and don't feel anyone on here would outstrip me intellectually. Plus,intellect doesn't wobble when you have sex.
Javelin champion???"
I was pretty good at javelin at school myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyway,even fit men have their lean moments and decide to fuck a fatty if she has an half-decent face
A bit of a sweeping statement "
Am I not allowed my turn at sweeping? Also,it was a joke now put your disgruntled fist away before I smack it |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!  "
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure? |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?"
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?"
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive. |
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As we all like different qualities in people, I don't see any leagues.
Reciprocal interests and you're good to go.
Just respect people's stated preferences, otherwise you're being a nuisance dick and wasting everyone's time. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Anyway,even fit men have their lean moments and decide to fuck a fatty if she has an half-decent face
A bit of a sweeping statement
Am I not allowed my turn at sweeping? Also,it was a joke now put your disgruntled fist away before I smack it "
I can't stop laughing at fatty fucker 
Ah bollox im going to burn in hell  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive. "
True, but if I was a man on here & I came across your pics I'd definitely want to message you!!! Stunning photos. |
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"Anyway,even fit men have their lean moments and decide to fuck a fatty if she has an half-decent face
A bit of a sweeping statement
Am I not allowed my turn at sweeping? Also,it was a joke now put your disgruntled fist away before I smack it
I can't stop laughing at fatty fucker
Ah bollox im going to burn in hell "
It rolls off the tongue nicely doesn't it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive. "
But we can pretend they do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
What !!!!! Your gorgeous x now I am surprised at how many gorgeous ladies message or fab me ,,, its a miracle lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
Their weight?
In what sense?
So many people with self esteem issues feel better for joining and realising they are attractive.
Me included.
Fecking message who I want.
Doesn't matter to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyway,even fit men have their lean moments and decide to fuck a fatty if she has an half-decent face
A bit of a sweeping statement
Am I not allowed my turn at sweeping? Also,it was a joke now put your disgruntled fist away before I smack it "
dont rap me across the knuckles with that broom |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
I don't agree at all - I don't think beautiful women necessarily want to be put on some kind of pedestal and it's all very much a personal taste thing. If you find someone attractive, you never know, they may just think the same, why would you limit yourself based on thoughts that you'd be punching above your weight. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am! "
If I followed your train of thought, I'll still be a virgin  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I never worry about how hot or not someone is. If I like them, I'll message them. The worst they can do is say no/not reply. It's not like they come round and reorder my dvd collection, so series 2 of the Sweeney is next to series 4 of When the boat comes in and the 1st series of Robin of Sherwood is tucked in with I Claudius. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its so much more about a 'meeting of minds' than of 'minding the meat' with me.
But I'm an oddball and I don't think my outlook fits in here very well."
I'm partial to an odd ball. |
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"Its so much more about a 'meeting of minds' than of 'minding the meat' with me.
But I'm an oddball and I don't think my outlook fits in here very well.
I'm partial to an odd ball. "
Or two |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its so much more about a 'meeting of minds' than of 'minding the meat' with me.
But I'm an oddball and I don't think my outlook fits in here very well.
I'm partial to an odd ball. "
Is that a Hitler fetish??? |
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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed.
But you're a hot skinny girl! "
Read your post & perved your pics. Wonder how it is so many women seem to lack confidence. You should be as confident as a confident thing. Feel free to approach us any old time you like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed.
But you're a hot skinny girl! "
I'm definitely not skinny but thank you. I guess I just have an ass load of confidence issues. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed.
But you're a hot skinny girl!
I'm definitely not skinny but thank you. I guess I just have an ass load of confidence issues. x"
not a bad arse either |
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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?"
Just looked at your pics - any man who can look at your 27th July photos & not drool needs a white stick & guide dog. Stunning. |
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"Its so much more about a 'meeting of minds' than of 'minding the meat' with me.
But I'm an oddball and I don't think my outlook fits in here very well.
I'm partial to an odd ball.
Or two "
I couldn't say no... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have often ignored messages from those we feel are out of our league .
Strangely we have bumped into the same people at clubs , and ended up having great fun with the very same people we thought were too good for us !
I think it's because face to face you can build a rapport and the looks thing somewhat becomes less important .
We don't figure we are the best looking on here , far from it . There are some truly stunning folk on fab , who in everyday life wouldn't look twice at us . But upon actually meeting up and having the opportunity to play , perhaps the usual laws of attraction change . |
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed.
But you're a hot skinny girl!
I'm definitely not skinny but thank you. I guess I just have an ass load of confidence issues. x"
Tut you're not to be starting that craic! |
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed.
But you're a hot skinny girl!
I'm definitely not skinny but thank you. I guess I just have an ass load of confidence issues. x
Tut you're not to be starting that craic! "
Momentary lapse! |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive. "
Nope.... It's the numbers game, some guys are not after experiences, but numbers.... |
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"We have often ignored messages from those we feel are out of our league .
Strangely we have bumped into the same people at clubs , and ended up having great fun with the very same people we thought were too good for us !
I think it's because face to face you can build a rapport and the looks thing somewhat becomes less important .
We don't figure we are the best looking on here , far from it . There are some truly stunning folk on fab , who in everyday life wouldn't look twice at us . But upon actually meeting up and having the opportunity to play , perhaps the usual laws of attraction change ."
I think this is bang on....
Many people become more attractive, the more you talk to them, probably due to rapport... |
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"We have often ignored messages from those we feel are out of our league .
Strangely we have bumped into the same people at clubs , and ended up having great fun with the very same people we thought were too good for us !
I think it's because face to face you can build a rapport and the looks thing somewhat becomes less important .
We don't figure we are the best looking on here , far from it . There are some truly stunning folk on fab , who in everyday life wouldn't look twice at us . But upon actually meeting up and having the opportunity to play , perhaps the usual laws of attraction change .
I think this is bang on....
Many people become more attractive, the more you talk to them, probably due to rapport... "
Absolutely xx |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
I think I'm punching above my weight chatting to you half the time |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
I think I'm punching above my weight chatting to you half the time "
Don't be silly xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
I think I'm punching above my weight chatting to you half the time
Don't be silly xx"
Awwww....
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By (user no longer on site)
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I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me. |
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"I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me."
With hot pics like yours, it's surprising
Just goes to show |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No one can message me unless I message them first but when I do message people and attach face pictures with my message most guys will send a face picture back but say they won't expect to hear from me! Have to send the "yeah not my type hun but good luck on here and have fun" message! |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We see profiles of people we would never want to contact, because of the things they say in their profile or because they aren't "our type" but we have never ever considered anyone to be out of our league. Also we always assume that people might not be interested in us for the similar reasons - and we never assume it's because they might consider they are either in a higher or lower league than us. |
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"Its so much more about a 'meeting of minds' than of 'minding the meat' with me.
But I'm an oddball and I don't think my outlook fits in here very well."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel that so many are out of my league.
It's very rare that I'll mail a guy first as I usually feel they're too good for me and if they're verified by hot, skinny girls..no chance I'm mailing for fear they'll be disappointed."
Same, although I don't think they're necessarily too good for me, just that they would in no way fancy me if they had only met 'hot skinny girls' before. But I do know they'd get a comfy ride from me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive. "
I agree. So it takes a few messages to work out if they're for real or not. I've occasionally been pleasantly surprised.
I'll chat to anyone anyway, I like talking. As some poor sods here, already know, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak. "
I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
I'm exactly the same, why on earth would I want to make myself feel more insecure?
But if they've messaged you, then surely they find you attractive? Why would that make you feel insecure?
I don't believe that some men on here limit themselves to only messaging the women they actually really think are attractive.
I agree. So it takes a few messages to work out if they're for real or not. I've occasionally been pleasantly surprised.
I'll chat to anyone anyway, I like talking. As some poor sods here, already know, "
I do agree with this, but for me that's the difference between messaging and actually meeting. I wouldn't dismiss their message but sometimes I'd end up not meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a habbit of deciding for people if they will like me or not, if someone mails me and I look at them and think there is no way he will like me in real life I don't reply....its that simple |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye."
For me I'm not judging them more worthy or unworthy than me. But I'm judging whether I'm attracted to them and whether they're going to be attracted to me.
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye.
For me I'm not judging them more worthy or unworthy than me. But I'm judging whether I'm attracted to them and whether they're going to be attracted to me.
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I think so many guys on here just play the law of average, that being if they mail enough women someone will mail back and I often wonder if they actually look at who they are mailing so when I get a message off a really good looking guys I just assume he hasn't actually looked at my pics and just blocked mailed a couple of dozen females, there for wouldn't reply as I feel he would probably block me if I did |
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I think so many guys on here just play the law of average, that being if they mail enough women someone will mail back and I often wonder if they actually look at who they are mailing so when I get a message off a really good looking guys I just assume he hasn't actually looked at my pics and just blocked mailed a couple of dozen females, there for wouldn't reply as I feel he would probably block me if I did "
Loads do that. They mail me... I ask what they like about my profile... they never reply....  |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
Their weight?
In what sense?
So many people with self esteem issues feel better for joining and realising they are attractive.
Me included.
Fecking message who I want.
Doesn't matter to you."
He was only asking a question |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
Their weight?
In what sense?
So many people with self esteem issues feel better for joining and realising they are attractive.
Me included.
Fecking message who I want.
Doesn't matter to you.
He was only asking a question "
YEAH |
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"Nobody is out of my league on here. That works both ways. Nobody should feel that I am unapproachable for any reason either. I have my preferences just the same as anyone else but at the end of the day, the person is more important than just mere looks"
Took the words right out of my...er fingers, lol.
Pretty much how I see it |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am! "
This is so me Mrs |
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"Nobody is out of my league on here. That works both ways. Nobody should feel that I am unapproachable for any reason either. I have my preferences just the same as anyone else but at the end of the day, the person is more important than just mere looks"
Spot on! |
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Depends what you mean by 'out of my league' - I genuinely believe nobody is out of anyone's league in terms of just being a decent human being.
But are there women that are more attractive than me and would seek only men better looking and better physically than me. Yes. Most, in fact.
There's a few on here I wouldn't mind meeting but when I look at their veris I can see they like the hung, handsome, muscly type. So obviously I wouldn't meet their physical criteria so don't bother even making that approach. But does that make them 'out of my league'? All down to your interpretation of the meaning I guess... |
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I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye.
Contradiction "
Not really. Anyone who catches my eye get's messaged.
I don't rely on some artificial standard of what the rest of society considers attractive, and I certainly don't attempt to rate myself above or below the person I'm messaging. |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am! "
Same here,or if they've met stunners in the past I won't meet them  |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
Same here,or if they've met stunners in the past I won't meet them "
I'm terrible for this, if they've only met slim girls before, I won't meet them. I don't want to be someone's disappointment! |
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
Same here,or if they've met stunners in the past I won't meet them
I'm terrible for this, if they've only met slim girls before, I won't meet them. I don't want to be someone's disappointment! "
Yep yep me too
Been there, done that, got the t shirt |
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I wouldn't have a clue who they've met before. I don't bother looking at who has given them veris. I take the view that they've messaged me because they like my pics & my profile.
Chatting can then lead to see if we have similar sense of humours & are able to have a decent conversation together. |
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I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye.
Contradiction
Not really. Anyone who catches my eye get's messaged.
I don't rely on some artificial standard of what the rest of society considers attractive, and I certainly don't attempt to rate myself above or below the person I'm messaging."
if they have caught your eye there is an attraction. It's not a difficult concept to understand. |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
Their weight?
In what sense?
So many people with self esteem issues feel better for joining and realising they are attractive.
Me included.
Fecking message who I want.
Doesn't matter to you.
He was only asking a question "
And I'm answering it.
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if they have caught your eye there is an attraction. It's not a difficult concept to understand. "
The concept of 'punching above your weight' as the OP said relies on you ranking people in order of attractiveness and placing yourself somewhere in that scale.
I don't do that. |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
Their weight?
In what sense?
So many people with self esteem issues feel better for joining and realising they are attractive.
Me included.
Fecking message who I want.
Doesn't matter to you.
He was only asking a question YEAH "
Subtle.
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"I know it's silly - but if I feel someone is 'too good looking' for me, I won't meet them... It's my own issue, but just the way I am!
Same here,or if they've met stunners in the past I won't meet them
I'm terrible for this, if they've only met slim girls before, I won't meet them. I don't want to be someone's disappointment! "
ive turned down.quite a.few men because of the stunners they have.met as I really can't see why they would want to meet a fatty.like me .....I know I shouldn,t be like that but I would rather feel.comfy meeting someone than thinking I will be compared all the.time. |
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"How do you decide who to message or who to reply to on Fab.
I personally only message people who I think I could chat up. Say in a public place or a bar.
Seems to me some profiles on here are trying to punch above there weight, so to speak.
I don't like the concept of measuring someones worth by their attractiveness, so I'm ok messaging anyone who catches my eye."
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Take a look at some of the most successful people in the planet, not all of them are drop dead gorgeous. They have confidence, like people on this site, and confidence has and always wi do go a long way in life
Peace |
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Don't work on leagues work the same as ladies and couples look at single men. If I don't like thier attitude on the profile I won't bother messaging. If someone thinks I'm punching above my weight that's there call not mine. |
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"I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me."
I very rarely message too, women usually know what they want, so I just let nature run its course and don't try and force the pace... |
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"Take a look at some of the most successful people in the planet, not all of them are drop dead gorgeous. They have confidence, like people on this site, and confidence has and always wi do go a long way in life
Peace "
Like Hugh Hefner you mean
Yep can't see why any woman want him |
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if they have caught your eye there is an attraction. It's not a difficult concept to understand.
The concept of 'punching above your weight' as the OP said relies on you ranking people in order of attractiveness and placing yourself somewhere in that scale.
I don't do that."
Where did I say you did? I was commenting on your post. I have already made my opinion clear on what the OP said earlier. It might be easier if you take your time and concentrate on what is actually said and not trying to second guess people. It may be less confusing for all that way.
I hope this has been a help to you. |
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"I'm just amazing. Nobody is out of my league except perhaps UN LOS. He's one hot fist.
He's MY fist!! Keep off yer trollop!
Oi! Be nice, we can share! "
Ah! Never thought of that! Would you like the left fist or the right fist dear?? |
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"I'm just amazing. Nobody is out of my league except perhaps UN LOS. He's one hot fist.
He's MY fist!! Keep off yer trollop!
Oi! Be nice, we can share!
Ah! Never thought of that! Would you like the left fist or the right fist dear?? "
as long as you make me comfortable in the middle |
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"I'm just amazing. Nobody is out of my league except perhaps UN LOS. He's one hot fist.
He's MY fist!! Keep off yer trollop!
Oi! Be nice, we can share!
Ah! Never thought of that! Would you like the left fist or the right fist dear?? as long as you make me comfortable in the middle "
Hot women either side of you.. Why wouldn't you be comfortable! |
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"I'm just amazing. Nobody is out of my league except perhaps UN LOS. He's one hot fist.
He's MY fist!! Keep off yer trollop!
Oi! Be nice, we can share!
Ah! Never thought of that! Would you like the left fist or the right fist dear?? as long as you make me comfortable in the middle
Hot women either side of you.. Why wouldn't you be comfortable! "
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"I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me.
I very rarely message too, women usually know what they want, so I just let nature run its course and don't try and force the pace..."
I realise this.....I've been waiting......and waiting......and waiting.....and still no message  |
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The whole reason I joined this site is because I want to meet people who make me think 'phwoar!' I want to get those butterflies and feel hopelessly in lust.
However, in reality, I find these (rare) people far too intimidating and don't feel secure enough with my body to think they seriously want to meet me!
Go figure. |
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Tbh I find all this a little confusing! I will only sleep with someone I like and find attractive - the fact that I'm a swinger has not changed that! Similarly I have no interest in sleeping with a man who doesn't genuinely like me and find me attractive too!
Some of the men I meet are gorgeous - some are fairly average looking but have 'something about them!' I very rarely have a meet that isn't great!
I know some people- particularly men - will have sex for its own sake with women they don't find attractive. Personally I'd rather use my rabbit than do this!! Xx |
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"I've met a lot of very hot men from here and in the other world and I'm just about tepid. I run them by my daughters to get a hotness rating from them "
Have you changed your name? I'm getting confused with familiar pictures that don't match the name I can see.
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"I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me.
I very rarely message too, women usually know what they want, so I just let nature run its course and don't try and force the pace...
I realise this.....I've been waiting......and waiting......and waiting.....and still no message "
Ooooopppsss yeah sorry.... I had 2 assignments to finish and had to travel up north for a course mon and tue....
I feel like I just got told off!! |
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"I haven't messaged anyone on fab for an age, not because I cant be arsed, but because its just never worked for me. Quite often the people I've messaged, message me a few months later. I figure they've just run out of other options. Hot profiles don't necessarily mean hot people. Rapport, rapport, rapport-that's hot to me.
I very rarely message too, women usually know what they want, so I just let nature run its course and don't try and force the pace...
I realise this.....I've been waiting......and waiting......and waiting.....and still no message
Ooooopppsss yeah sorry.... I had 2 assignments to finish and had to travel up north for a course mon and tue....
I feel like I just got told off!!"
I like that you came up with excuses......now I just need to come up with a suitable punishment.... |
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"Take a look at some of the most successful people in the planet, not all of them are drop dead gorgeous. They have confidence, like people on this site, and confidence has and always wi do go a long way in life
Peace
Like Hugh Hefner you mean
His confidence got him where he is today..... But i do agree with you, what does attract people to mutli million heirs
Yep can't see why any woman want him "
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