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"No, I chat to people before meeting them.  "
If I had time I'm sure I could be meeting different people every week.. But I think I would need to employ a PA to deal with all the messages then requesting seconds |
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I think the site has matured somewhat, meaning that a lot of users have been around for a long time, giving them opportunities to have developed longer term relationships - this has meant that chat can be based around more than just opinion, but also upon knowing some of the people that you're chatting with.
I don't think it's more of a social chit chat site, just that it's evident in a different way, as these relationships have matured.
Also, users have benefited from others experience, which also allows online relationships to have become more meaningful. The nature of why we're here is also different, for example, from an embroidery or car maintenance site, where we're sharing very personal information about ourselves, which does build different types of relationships.
As such, we're a diverse group of people, from all over the place. A fair few have met other regulars and the value of relationships is reflected through the non-meet elements of the site. It's a credit to fab and the users that we're not all here to find the newest shag, for immediate fulfilment 24/7. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I think there is more chat but then again, I also think sometimes people come across as if their life depends on getting a shag. That can be couples desperate to get a different cock or pussy.
Sometimes.
But hey, that's why we signed up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what you use the site for. All of my meets since I joined (3 verified, 2 unverified) have been with people that o don't see actively participating in the forums.
So I use the forums for 'chatting' (and some pm's too) but use other areas of the site for actually meeting.
So to answer your question : yes, and no! |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I play around here in the forums chit chatting and flirting. We meet some people from the forums but we meet more people from the rest of the site who have never ventured on the forums......I like to chat to people until I am sure I like them and then we meet and play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there is more chat but then again, I also think sometimes people come across as if their life depends on getting a shag. That can be couples desperate to get a different cock or pussy.
Sometimes.
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"Over the past year or so, has Fab now become far more simply a 'chat site' than one for arranging physical meets?
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Honest answer. If that is your current experience of the site then that is how it is for you. |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
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"I think the site has matured somewhat, meaning that a lot of users have been around for a long time, giving them opportunities to have developed longer term relationships - this has meant that chat can be based around more than just opinion, but also upon knowing some of the people that you're chatting with.
I don't think it's more of a social chit chat site, just that it's evident in a different way, as these relationships have matured.
Also, users have benefited from others experience, which also allows online relationships to have become more meaningful. The nature of why we're here is also different, for example, from an embroidery or car maintenance site, where we're sharing very personal information about ourselves, which does build different types of relationships.
As such, we're a diverse group of people, from all over the place. A fair few have met other regulars and the value of relationships is reflected through the non-meet elements of the site. It's a credit to fab and the users that we're not all here to find the newest shag, for immediate fulfilment 24/7. "
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I used to use it to meet, but now use it more to chat. We met on here, so it was great for that reason. I am not looking to meet from here so I am more likely to chat now and meet at clubs and parties. |
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"Yes it has turned into a chat site and they all chat how good the sex meet will be as it never will happen. I would say for the past 7 years lol  "
Meanwhile some people are taking action instead of talking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat first and if all goes well arrange meets from that. I'm more one for private meets than club meets so chatting, both on the forums and privately, does what I need it to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for the responses - we met on Fab and also had a previous joint profile. We deleted it because we were finding meets much harder to find - people just seemed to want to swap endless messages - which is not for us as it can take over your life. We re-joined but our _iew is that it has largely become a chat site. Perhaps there is a gap in the market for a straightforward 'meeting' site without all the additional 'chat' elements. Thanks again to all - appreciate your _iews  |
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We rarely meet through fab, prefer just going to a club and see what happens. Then, use fab to keep in touch and potentially coordinate our club visits around those we may want to meet.
If we were only meeting outside clubs we'd definately use fab and think it fulfils this requirement well.
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes it has turned into a chat site and they all chat how good the sex meet will be as it never will happen. I would say for the past 7 years lol
Meanwhile some people are taking action instead of talking lol yes if your prepared to travel 50 plus miles
If that's what it takes…... I've never been let down yet.lol that's good, for me its about 2 or so miles  "
We haven't yet met anyone that close...we average one to two hours each way for most meets but they are good fun and worth the journey |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Honest answer is that Fab has always been a chat site that is how you arrange meets. Finding like minded people takes time and effort most people on here are not going to respond positively to a "fancy a fuck" requests. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it has turned into a chat site and they all chat how good the sex meet will be as it never will happen. I would say for the past 7 years lol
Meanwhile some people are taking action instead of talking lol yes if your prepared to travel 50 plus miles
If that's what it takes…... I've never been let down yet.lol that's good, for me its about 2 or so miles
We haven't yet met anyone that close...we average one to two hours each way for most meets but they are good fun and worth the journey "
Yes and also you see loads of things to the meets to, nice sceneries and areas. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honest answer is that Fab has always been a chat site that is how you arrange meets. Finding like minded people takes time and effort most people on here are not going to respond positively to a "fancy a fuck" requests."
Not at all what we are saying - our profile hopefully shows we are not like that - BUT neither do we want to know what people are having for tea later or that they are taking the dogs for a walk - or you log on and straight away "Hi how are you today" (for the 6th time from the same person who wants to chat all day again).  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"people just seemed to want to swap endless messages - which is not for us as it can take over your life. We re-joined but our _iew is that it has largely become a chat site. Perhaps there is a gap in the market for a straightforward 'meeting' site without all the additional 'chat' elements."
What sort of timescale would you want to meet from initial first message?
I don't like endless pointless chat either but I do like to chat for obvious reasons though....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"people just seemed to want to swap endless messages - which is not for us as it can take over your life. We re-joined but our _iew is that it has largely become a chat site. Perhaps there is a gap in the market for a straightforward 'meeting' site without all the additional 'chat' elements.
What sort of timescale would you want to meet from initial first message?
I don't like endless pointless chat either but I do like to chat for obvious reasons though....
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we prefer a couple of messages - swap phone numbers to show genuine - have a chat on phone to arrange a meet. Let's face it you are not REALLY going to know if there is chemistry until you meet anyway? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Not at all what we are saying - our profile hopefully shows we are not like that - BUT neither do we want to know what people are having for tea later or that they are taking the dogs for a walk - or you log on and straight away "Hi how are you today" (for the 6th time from the same person who wants to chat all day again). "
Have to say that we only get those types of emails from couples who are miles and miles away from us so the chances of us meeting are pretty remote, assume they are keeping up a correspondence in the hope we will travel to their area at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not at all what we are saying - our profile hopefully shows we are not like that - BUT neither do we want to know what people are having for tea later or that they are taking the dogs for a walk - or you log on and straight away "Hi how are you today" (for the 6th time from the same person who wants to chat all day again).
Have to say that we only get those types of emails from couples who are miles and miles away from us so the chances of us meeting are pretty remote, assume they are keeping up a correspondence in the hope we will travel to their area at some point. "
perhaps we are too polite - maybe we need to learn to block people of this ilk - we don't like offending people but 'chat' can take over you life - thanks all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"people just seemed to want to swap endless messages - which is not for us as it can take over your life. We re-joined but our _iew is that it has largely become a chat site. Perhaps there is a gap in the market for a straightforward 'meeting' site without all the additional 'chat' elements.
What sort of timescale would you want to meet from initial first message?
I don't like endless pointless chat either but I do like to chat for obvious reasons though....
we prefer a couple of messages - swap phone numbers to show genuine - have a chat on phone to arrange a meet. Let's face it you are not REALLY going to know if there is chemistry until you meet anyway?"
True.
But without chatting I wouldn't know of there was any possibility of chemistry.
The last thing I want to do is turn up to a meet and there be absolutely nothing there.
It's happened.
That's why I chat a fair bit.
But it's never directionless chat. I can tell pretty quickly if it's not going to go anywhere in which case I move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the site has matured somewhat, meaning that a lot of users have been around for a long time, giving them opportunities to have developed longer term relationships - this has meant that chat can be based around more than just opinion, but also upon knowing some of the people that you're chatting with.
I don't think it's more of a social chit chat site, just that it's evident in a different way, as these relationships have matured.
Also, users have benefited from others experience, which also allows online relationships to have become more meaningful. The nature of why we're here is also different, for example, from an embroidery or car maintenance site, where we're sharing very personal information about ourselves, which does build different types of relationships.
As such, we're a diverse group of people, from all over the place. A fair few have met other regulars and the value of relationships is reflected through the non-meet elements of the site. It's a credit to fab and the users that we're not all here to find the newest shag, for immediate fulfilment 24/7. "
That is quite simply the best post I've seen on this subject. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat a lot before meeting. Not sex chat or what's going to happen on the meet or whatever, but generally trying to suss the person out and decide if it's worth my time meeting them.
If I was part of a couple, then I think it's a different dynamic as you have each other for backup and to bounce off and have fun, but for me the idea of turning up for a 1 on 1 meet with a complete and total stranger I know very little. about at all actually doesn't appeal much to me - though I'm sure it does to some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't meet anyone that isn't prepared to chat, including on the phone. Everyone I've met so far has been happy to do that and I think I'm still chatting on and off to them now, even if we might not meet again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It certainly has changed since I was here first time around, the chat rooms are clique (sp) in my opinion but hey ho stuff happens
I prefer to chat before a meet also family commitments means a meet takes planning
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is now a sex site not a swingers site like when I first joined. Totally ruined by arsehole men after instant meets. However try and set one up and they bottle it. Pathetic. Club meets only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is now a sex site not a swingers site like when I first joined. Totally ruined by arsehole men after instant meets. However try and set one up and they bottle it. Pathetic. Club meets only. "
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"I think the site has matured somewhat, meaning that a lot of users have been around for a long time, giving them opportunities to have developed longer term relationships - this has meant that chat can be based around more than just opinion, but also upon knowing some of the people that you're chatting with.
I don't think it's more of a social chit chat site, just that it's evident in a different way, as these relationships have matured.
Also, users have benefited from others experience, which also allows online relationships to have become more meaningful. The nature of why we're here is also different, for example, from an embroidery or car maintenance site, where we're sharing very personal information about ourselves, which does build different types of relationships.
As such, we're a diverse group of people, from all over the place. A fair few have met other regulars and the value of relationships is reflected through the non-meet elements of the site. It's a credit to fab and the users that we're not all here to find the newest shag, for immediate fulfilment 24/7. "
We're not!  Really?
Shit, things are really looking down these days.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the site has matured somewhat, meaning that a lot of users have been around for a long time, giving them opportunities to have developed longer term relationships - this has meant that chat can be based around more than just opinion, but also upon knowing some of the people that you're chatting with.
I don't think it's more of a social chit chat site, just that it's evident in a different way, as these relationships have matured.
Also, users have benefited from others experience, which also allows online relationships to have become more meaningful. The nature of why we're here is also different, for example, from an embroidery or car maintenance site, where we're sharing very personal information about ourselves, which does build different types of relationships.
As such, we're a diverse group of people, from all over the place. A fair few have met other regulars and the value of relationships is reflected through the non-meet elements of the site. It's a credit to fab and the users that we're not all here to find the newest shag, for immediate fulfilment 24/7.
We're not! Really?
Shit, things are really looking down these days. "
Don't worry, some of us are just looking for an instashag!! Social meets? What a waste of time that could be spent fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't get into drawn-out fantasy talk. That separates the men who think it's a sex site,with women on tap for quick release and the wankers from men who are after a good sexual experience they will remember for a while. I chat a little on here to establish a connection and take it off site to arrange to meet. Sometimes it doesn't get as far as meeting but such is life. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes it has turned into a chat site and they all chat how good the sex meet will be as it never will happen. I would say for the past 7 years lol
Meanwhile some people are taking action instead of talking lol yes if your prepared to travel 50 plus miles
If that's what it takes…... I've never been let down yet.lol that's good, for me its about 2 or so miles
We haven't yet met anyone that close...we average one to two hours each way for most meets but they are good fun and worth the journey Yes and also you see loads of things to the meets to, nice sceneries and areas."
Yes we do I love being in the car and getting driven around so I get to spend a lot of time watching the world go by |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't get into drawn-out fantasy talk. That separates the men who think it's a sex site,with women on tap for quick release and the wankers from men who are after a good sexual experience they will remember for a while. I chat a little on here to establish a connection and take it off site to arrange to meet. Sometimes it doesn't get as far as meeting but such is life. "
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"I don't get into drawn-out fantasy talk. That separates the men who think it's a sex site,with women on tap for quick release and the wankers from men who are after a good sexual experience they will remember for a while. I chat a little on here to establish a connection and take it off site to arrange to meet. Sometimes it doesn't get as far as meeting but such is life.
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I find it better to take off site Wenden you can actually get another form of contact details as lets face it women get loads of messages so to keep convo flowing so female or couple can establish whether they actually like you is long. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe since you blocked males  "
That's actually a v good point. We do still meet single men but Emma looks for them when she is in the mood now. Previously it was just unmanageable regarding the number of messages from men. To be fair - we have ALWAYS found single men to be the most reliable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find that LOTS of the ladies are just here to have a chat, then there are a few that just want to be taken out for a drink then there's a tiny minority who actually want to meet purely for fun...my experience only of course |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't meet without chatting and getting to know someone online, and then a social - which is very upfront in my profile.
Its my safety, and if people are not happy, then I'm not that desperate to meet that I would go against that.
I've never seen a fab social as a free night out - always pay my own way - often being out of pocket as a non-drinker and going round for round... and a few times been expected to be the free taxi home because I haven't drank.
I'm upfront what is on offer, and if people don't agree, they are free to move on.
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"I find that LOTS of the ladies are just here to have a chat, then there are a few that just want to be taken out for a drink then there's a tiny minority who actually want to meet purely for fun...my experience only of course "
I must be in a tiny minority then...! |
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