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Can you tell the truth without being rude?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is a women I'm acquainted with and occasionally we talk but she has the longest hairs on her upper lip that ive ever seen on a women...
But what is worse it that she bleaches it and no it doesn't become invisible which I believed she must it becomes.
Everytime I talk to her my eyed drop to her tash and I have the biggest urge to tell her.
But I'm not dense. It would be unbelievable rude.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She's already doing something about her tache. I suppose you could broach the subject by asking if she knows anything about bleaching body hair because you're considering it and need tips or advice. See if she wants to talk about it or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing if she bleaches it she has already made a dessision not to wax there for knows its there and not bothered
Some people don't care about such things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm guessing if she bleaches it she has already made a dessision not to wax there for knows its there and not bothered
Some people don't care about such things "
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The old `should I tell them they have halitosis` gambit...
If youre a real friend,you tell em...if not,its down to a real friend to bite the bullet on it,unless like a horse thats gone lame you man up and do the decent thing and shoot em/tell em... |
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The problem is if you are hairy and you wax pluck thread epilate is the hairs will all grow through at once and makes it stubbly.
If as you say she is bleaching it obviously doesnt bother her too much to have a tach.. She could have polycystic ovaries which causes heavy hair growth, she could be post menopausal which means you increase hair growth. I think unless you have a problem too leave it alone. It is embarrassing enough being hairy without you drawing attention to it.
I am much hairier on my face since I had to stop HRT Bloody single hairs sprout half inch over night  I still wouldnt consider waxing my face tho. |
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"There is a women I'm acquainted with and occasionally we talk but she has the longest hairs on her upper lip that ive ever seen on a women...
But what is worse it that she bleaches it and no it doesn't become invisible which I believed she must it becomes.
Everytime I talk to her my eyed drop to her tash and I have the biggest urge to tell her.
But I'm not dense. It would be unbelievable rude. "
It would be unbelievably rude you're right, almost as rude as discussing it with a load of strangers.
She has gone as far as she wants in dealing with it leave the poor woman alone its only hair. |
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"why does bodily hair on a woman offend people?
If you saw mine if I didn't wax, shaven and pluck you wouldn't need to ask that
I look like a gorilla  "
lol, I admit I wax my upper lip, I just wonder why we feel the need. Cultural norm I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some say leave her to it but she doesn't have to look at it.
And if it was me I'd want to know but then my looks are important to me and I make an effort.
I can see that some people dont care even if I don't really understand it. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can be even If its just for yourself.
How you look does effect the way you feel good or bad. |
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"why does bodily hair on a woman offend people?
I don't find it offensive. Just unattractive."
I understand that but I find bearded men unattractive I don't feel the need to point it out to them though. That's what makes me wonder. |
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"Some say leave her to it but she doesn't have to look at it.
And if it was me I'd want to know but then my looks are important to me and I make an effort.
I can see that some people dont care even if I don't really understand it. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can be even If its just for yourself.
How you look does effect the way you feel good or bad. "
You want her to conform to your standard of attractiveness. Hers is obviously different but that doesn't mean its wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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See I'm really upfront and would come out and say it!
My best friend is a female, and she actually appreciates what I say. She knows that I will always be truthfully and bluntly honest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with another poster in that it's rude to say anything to her. You may not like it, but tough, it's not your body is it. The lady obviously does what she wants to do.
Turn the tables and imagine if someone you are just acquainted with remarks negatively about a part of your body that they think is awful, would you be truly ok with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why does bodily hair on a woman offend people?
I don't find it offensive. Just unattractive.
I understand that but I find bearded men unattractive I don't feel the need to point it out to them though. That's what makes me wonder."
But you just did.
In off for a shave.. |
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It may be the thing to discuss somehow, with someone like a best friend, otherwise it is your issue - with someone you barely know. You have the choice over whether to deal with it or not. Or even to speak with her at all.
There is no law that we must adhere to others rules. She has her own challenges and priorities. Push some bics through her letterbox, until the problem is sorted. |
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"why does bodily hair on a woman offend people?
I don't find it offensive. Just unattractive.
I understand that but I find bearded men unattractive I don't feel the need to point it out to them though. That's what makes me wonder.
But you just did.
In off for a shave.."
Yeah I thought that when I was typing lol. I mean I wouldn't tell a man who was an acquaintance that I thought his beard was unattractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've often thought whether I should wax my facial hair. I'm not the bearded lady by any means and I am very fair but in certain light it is noticeable.
Then I think nope because once you start it becomes another part of the body to keep hair free and I for one can't be arsed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why does bodily hair on a woman offend people?
I don't find it offensive. Just unattractive.
I understand that but I find bearded men unattractive I don't feel the need to point it out to them though. That's what makes me wonder.
But you just did.
In off for a shave..
Yeah I thought that when I was typing lol. I mean I wouldn't tell a man who was an acquaintance that I thought his beard was unattractive "
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"I've often thought whether I should wax my facial hair. I'm not the bearded lady by any means and I am very fair but in certain light it is noticeable.
Then I think nope because once you start it becomes another part of the body to keep hair free and I for one can't be arsed!"
Mr N went to pull a long stray hair off my face the other day and when I say long I mean a couple of inches.....it was attached |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've often thought whether I should wax my facial hair. I'm not the bearded lady by any means and I am very fair but in certain light it is noticeable.
Then I think nope because once you start it becomes another part of the body to keep hair free and I for one can't be arsed!
Mr N went to pull a long stray hair off my face the other day and when I say long I mean a couple of inches.....it was attached "
My daughter did that to me the other day when I got out the bath, I had a hair on my chest and she said....come here a hairs feel out your head, pulled it and *ouch*
She called me a freak |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As somebody said above it could be caused by an underlying medical condition. I know a very pretty woman who has polysystic overy syndrome and has facial hair growth as a result. I think it would upset her greatly if someone drew attention to something that already causes her embarrassment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some say leave her to it but she doesn't have to look at it.
And if it was me I'd want to know but then my looks are important to me and I make an effort.
I can see that some people dont carefully even if I don't really understand it. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can be even If its just for yourself.
How you look does effect the way you feel good or bad.
You want her to conform to your standard of attractiveness. Hers is obviously different but that doesn't mean its wrong. "
Maybe I can't really tell whether its a wanting her to be the best she can be for her own good or I just don't like it.
Sometimes its not clear why you want things which is annoying. |
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"Some say leave her to it but she doesn't have to look at it.
And if it was me I'd want to know but then my looks are important to me and I make an effort.
I can see that some people dont carefully even if I don't really understand it. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can be even If its just for yourself.
How you look does effect the way you feel good or bad.
You want her to conform to your standard of attractiveness. Hers is obviously different but that doesn't mean its wrong.
Maybe I can't really tell whether its a wanting her to be the best she can be for her own good or I just don't like it.
Sometimes its not clear why you want things which is annoying. "
That's very true of us all. |
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Seriously though it's walking on egg shells, she knows it's there with the bleaching so tough one really 
