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over a year ago
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I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for that . The problem i have with her is that i never had any evidence that she had cheated on me . Other than she had some messages from a guy she deleted before i could see them . What's your take on it ? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for that . The problem i have with her is that i never had any evidence that she had cheated on me . Other than she had some messages from a guy she deleted before i could see them . What's your take on it ? Xx"
Did she know you are on here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear that , but the question is where you on here without her knowing ?
Jo x"
we had a joint profile. . I should of said at the start of my post . |
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ? "
It's clear that you couldn't whether or not you should have depends on if you prefer to mistrust and wait for proof that you can trust or trust and wait for proof that you can't. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I'm going to say what I said on the post earlier this week about a womans boring husband - I feel sorry for your partner if you're just going to post all the sordid details on here. We don't need to know, and if you have a problem with her, talk to her. Not us. |
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"I'm going to say what I said on the post earlier this week about a womans boring husband - I feel sorry for your partner if you're just going to post all the sordid details on here. We don't need to know, and if you have a problem with her, talk to her. Not us. "
You've pretty much summed it up. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Trust is earned.
If you can't trust each other nothing else matters in a relationship. Love just clouds your judgement.
No one can say whether you were right or wrong to trust her. She's betrayed your trust and the trust of her daughters by the sounds of it.
She's a serial cheater, she won't change. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm going to say what I said on the post earlier this week about a womans boring husband - I feel sorry for your partner if you're just going to post all the sordid details on here. We don't need to know, and if you have a problem with her, talk to her. Not us. "
i would of but she ant talking . As for her sordid past . Do you know her ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she's fucked her daughters boyfriends and cheated multiple times before, then blatantly not.
If she has no respect for her kids, then she certainly has none for you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't matter who she has slept with as you didn't know before she told you, Not looking at her phone is not a reason not to trust her,
And the question of should you have trusted her, Only you can answer that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hard to judge with only one side of the story and the op being on fab for quite some time"
like i said , we had a profile together. She knew i was on here and i wasn't looking for women. I was looking for guys for her .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's fucked her daughters boyfriends and cheated multiple times before, then blatantly not.
If she has no respect for her kids, then she certainly has none for you. "
i hadn't thought of that. Very good point . Cheers chap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hard to judge with only one side of the story and the op being on fab for quite some time like i said , we had a profile together. She knew i was on here and i wasn't looking for women. I was looking for guys for her . "
The greedy fucker  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hard to judge with only one side of the story and the op being on fab for quite some time like i said , we had a profile together. She knew i was on here and i wasn't looking for women. I was looking for guys for her .
The greedy fucker "
indeed lol ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ? "
Shagging her daughters boyfriends?
I'm sorry but there are some lines you just don't cross 
As for her cheating on you, well you have been here over a year and only split a week ago, so sounds like there's not trust either way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ? "
Should have could have.......might be best not to ask such questions as it might drive you crazy. Those thoughts are hard on the psyche.
Try and close the book and concentrate on the future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ?
Shagging her daughters boyfriends?
I'm sorry but there are some lines you just don't cross
As for her cheating on you, well you have been here over a year and only split a week ago, so sounds like there's not trust either way"
we had a joint profile. We was looking together, not for females but for guys . She liked the idea for lots of guys . |
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ?
Should have could have.......might be best not to ask such questions as it might drive you crazy. Those thoughts are hard on the psyche.
Try and close the book and concentrate on the future. "
This every time you think of it! Only you can answer the questions as only you felt what you felt, a bunch of strangers can console you etc but answering questions is only for you to do, once you've answered them, take on board your answers and the positives, then use them in future relationships...should haves and could haves will drive you nuts! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I have just split from my partner of 5 years . She finished it a week ago . Its a long story. But long and short of it is , she told me she had in the past had an affair with two of her eldest daughters partners, and had cheated on every guy she had been with . I was never allowed to see her phone or use it . If i did ,she went mental. I push her on The subject more than once . Think it was that that ended the relationship. Should i have trusted her ? "
If you didn't know about all the cheating before then yes you would have to trust her....but now I wouldn't of course
Only thing to do now is move on ( I nearly wrote block and move on then ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this?"
the likelihood of her being on here is so small . More chance of me walking to the moon in Thinking .
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I'd be less hung up about a phone and more what rules you both agreed upon. Or not.
We're gullible if we give absolute trust, before it's earned.
With a finished relationship, the job in hand is to see if there's anything to learn, so you can approach future relationships differently and to fall out of love and look after yourself.
Use your attention and energy wisely. |
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this? the likelihood of her being on here is so small . More chance of me walking to the moon in Thinking . "
What are you hoping to achieve from this thread? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes she knew .we had a profile together . We didn't meet anyone . "
maybe she felt it was ok as you was here to sleep with others even if you never meet together ... If it's gone the trust it's gone I feel .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this?"
Hope she does, if what he said about her sleeping with one daughters husband and one daughters boyfriend is true then she's a disgusting mother and human being.
To answer the ops question "can she be trusted" clearly not, if she can do that to her children then fuck knows what else she could do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this?
Hope she does, if what he said about her sleeping with one daughters husband and one daughters boyfriend is true then she's a disgusting mother and human being.
To answer the ops question "can she be trusted" clearly not, if she can do that to her children then fuck knows what else she could do. "
yes your right if it's true .... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this?
Hope she does, if what he said about her sleeping with one daughters husband and one daughters boyfriend is true then she's a disgusting mother and human being.
To answer the ops question "can she be trusted" clearly not, if she can do that to her children then fuck knows what else she could do. "
i don't believe she is on here . But you never know . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"so the likelihood is that she's still on here and possibly reading this?
Hope she does, if what he said about her sleeping with one daughters husband and one daughters boyfriend is true then she's a disgusting mother and human being.
To answer the ops question "can she be trusted" clearly not, if she can do that to her children then fuck knows what else she could do. yes your right if it's true ...."
it is true . Well as far as i know . Cause it was her that told me |
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