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Would you say to a persons face what you say here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol  jo xx |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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whether on the forums,or normal life.if my opinion,differs from others.they are always the first to know.sometimes people dont like what i say,but they always know,it is my honest opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you already know the answer but it will be fun looking what people say.
Try to but don't always get there to give my answer. 
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yes i am looking to see if some will be trithfull here ... if i was to meet them in a club are thay same people as in forum ? or mouse lol |
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I probably hold back a bit in the forums as it's easy to be misunderstood etc - having said that I would happily say the same things face to face with a person, I do believe in tact and diplomacy though and would hesitate to say something unkind or hurtful. Z |
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I'm more toned down in here as I'm aware how things can be taken in the wrong way with text only communication.
I'm a terrible wind up merchant in real life and live for getting a rise out of someone. But you can get away with it with a cheeky smile and a wink, that don't work here so I hold back biting my lip pretty much all day lol.
I also do way more bad dancing and piss awful singing in real life. |
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As a general thing it seems that people don’t ask the same sort of questions in real life as they do in these forums. Never had anyone ask me if I think they are being a cunt for cheating on the wife/husband for example. And when you see such question as, ‘Do you like the taste of spunk’ its not really the sort of thing for dinner conversation! Same sort of thing applies to PM’s, things we’ve been asked that have NEVER come up in a face-to-face!
So while I would like to ‘think’ that I’m the same in here as in the real world I would doubt that it’s actually possible.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I listen/read and then say what I think both here and to your face.
Get's me into trouble sometimes "
Me too get into loads of trouble because say what I think... H. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i do, but my comments are never made in malice and are an honest reflection of how i _iew things. as that's the case, i have nothing to feel uncomfortable about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally yes although I can have more Frank conversations with fab members than I can with vanilla friends.
I wouldn't walk into a shop or down the street & say you have the most stunning eyes, bet they hide a few naughty secrets' etc or 'your legs are gorgeous' it's more likely to be just eye contact & a smile lol
FAB gives you Grins!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just over the years i have been to clubs nights from sites meeting people and some people who are real in your face bitches in forums lovely woman really sweet and alot of fun to be around and could no get over how diffrent you found that ? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
I do count to 10 before posting on here... it has actually brought out the calmer side of me...
so I don't say anything on here that I wouldn't say face to face.... I use the "pub" scenario in my head... if i would say it in a pub, then I would say it on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kylie has said when its in person sometimes i can be a bit blunt and straight forward for my own good but as ive gotten older ive mellowed but in here i tend to think before i speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm more restrained on here as often writing in text the context is lost.
I was told that the majority of communication is tone and body language and that gets lost on here.
I do occasionally like to stick a little wind up in. Not through malice, more for devilment really to point out the hypocrisy of a few posters on here.  |
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People well friends come to me for advice cause they know im going to tell the truth. Someone from here actually said they expected me to be louder but they had only met me for two minutes. Someone else when they met me said id escaped from the mental home lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends what scenario I'm in. If I'm at a party with my dom for example I can get a bit cheeky but thats ok as I know it just means I'll get it harder |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yep although you do have to reflect a bit more when you put something into writing as once it's written it's there forever. Also it is not negotiable as it would be face to face and easily open to misinterpretation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All depends what scenario I'm in. If I'm at a party with my dom for example I can get a bit cheeky but thats ok as I know it just means I'll get it harder "
really very kinky i love it xx |
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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago
Notting |
I always say what i think - not usually in malice, and if it comes acrross the wrong way, face to face - its easily repaired.
I have noticed on here - if its taken the wrong way and 40 other posters jump on it- then its really hard to repair the damage as it all gets taken out of context.
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Hold my hands out to the posters who count to 10 and think twice etc. Inever do that - usually cos when i am posting its usually for a bloody good laugh and when pops into your head first is the honest response - it you start to think about what you have to write then i sometimes think that people are trying too hard to be funny/witty/snidey etc.
Most of the time this place is a good chatty place to be, so i enjoy it when i can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont know why some people choose to be rude. There is no need for it, I am polite with everyone. OK so occasionally some people need to be told if they are harrassing another user and the like, but rudeness just for the hell of it just winds people up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol jo xx"
I'm sure I'd just stare at you as my eyes glazed over ........so yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes in face-to-face situations I can't think fast enough about what I want to say and frequently reflect back and think, "oooh wish I'd said that" or "that didn't come out quite right", but online I have enough time to write down what I want to say, go over it and make sure it makes sense and make any alterations if I feel it gets my point across better.
It's not so much that I'm a different person on the forums, but more of a case of I have more time to really be 'me'. If that makes any sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I would, in fact I express myself better in person that i do in type. I wouldnt ever be rude to someone, but Im not opposed to expressing my opinion if asked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I would, in fact I express myself better in person that i do in type. I wouldnt ever be rude to someone, but Im not opposed to expressing my opinion if asked. "
There is a fine line between being honest (and not compromising that honesty) and being rude and offensive. I would never wish to upset anybody but then I would not wish to lie either. Hope that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree
Though some people just like to cause offense be it face to face or behind your back.
My old mom always said.
"if you have nothing nice to say, . say nothing"
I try and live by that . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we both as a couple say it how it is,some wont like it but others appreciate it.At the end of the day either way at least everyone knows what your thinking and feeling ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agree
Though some people just like to cause offense be it face to face or behind your back.
My old mom always said.
"if you have nothing nice to say, . say nothing"
I try and live by that . "
my mum said the same thing to me x lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol jo xx
I'm sure I'd just stare at you as my eyes glazed over ........so yes. "
Glazed over god i am not that bad or boring ,, lol JO X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know one lady on here, who in her own words is a gobby cow on here.
But when you meet here she's a sweety and just gobby "
eh up numbero uno bitach here....hope you arnt talking about me
was gona say i was a mouse.....now i have to say am a bitch of a mouse |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know one lady on here, who in her own words is a gobby cow on here.
But when you meet here she's a sweety and just gobby
eh up numbero uno bitach here....hope you arnt talking about me
was gona say i was a mouse.....now i have to say am a bitch of a mouse"
Are you really i better keep a close eye on you, lol XX |
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I have to say I am slightly less abrasive when "face to face", but the actual content of what I say is the same, its just when I look someone in the eye I tend to be a little more diplomatic.
Call me an old softie, but I dont like hurting peoples feelings, and even if you disagree with someone, the way you say something can often soften the blow. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't talk to most of the people on here in RL so, I guess, that's a no?
Oh shush ya old grump, you know you love everyone really.  "
I bet he is lovely just if a diffrent way lol.. and not a bad thing .. xx |
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
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"Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol jo xx"
I have to smile hugely at this one as so so so many just don't and end up being the mouse not the Lion.
But after a fair few socials, party meets and the rest even the ones who say i speak my mind just don't face to face. Personally i save what i have to say for up fount and friendly chats as its far better with eye contact.
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
I agree that at least most of us will have a distorted image of ourselves that feeds into this.
But....
socials, parties etc don't include whingers and timewasters, so the opportunity isn't really there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say I am slightly less abrasive when "face to face", but the actual content of what I say is the same, its just when I look someone in the eye I tend to be a little more diplomatic.
Call me an old softie, but I dont like hurting peoples feelings, and even if you disagree with someone, the way you say something can often soften the blow. "
Tickle Tickle x |
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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago
a block away from heaven |
"Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol jo xx"
I'll wait until I see you face to face to answer this one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldnt hide behind a keyboard either, but in real life when you meet forumites at a social or whatever, people arent really interested in indepth conversations etc like we have on here, they are there to say hello and have a laugh etc, so its usually lighthearted. If someone asked my opinion on something I would give it, if they didnt ask my opinion and I was opposed to what they were saying,I wouldnt offer it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say to a persons face what you say in your posts on the forum? or are you one person here and in life very diffrent ? Or are you all mouth here and a mouse in real life ? Or you say it how it is here and in normal life too ? My self I would say what i say here to a persons face and think nothing of it .... even if i got a black eye for it . lol jo xx
I have to smile hugely at this one as so so so many just don't and end up being the mouse not the Lion.
But after a fair few socials, party meets and the rest even the ones who say i speak my mind just don't face to face. Personally i save what i have to say for up fount and friendly chats as its far better with eye contact.
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see i told yer i was a mouse....squeak squeak.... |
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well as straight as a bi male can be but ya knows what i mean lol) xx 
