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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Part of my degree looks at alternative lifestyles. Including Polyamorous relationships. In its simplest teems I suppose this is a step up from swinging for couples. A relationship for 3 for the long term. It made me wonder how many couples who swing would ever consider this or have had relationships like this? |
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It a pretty hard lifestyle. Rewarding when it works, but bear in mind the multiplier effect, and that every relationship involves compromise.
2 people = 1 relationship
3 people = 3 relationships
4 people = 6 relationships
5 people = 10 relationships
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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No poly isn't something that we are interested in moving into, we are happy just swinging. That said, I think what we are ideally looking for is what some describe as "progressive swinging". We are not really after a series of one offs that we never see again, we would prefer to build a small circle of close friends that we swing with, but that we also enjoy seeing socially. I guess that this, like many other things when it comes to sexuality is a spectrum with full poly on one side and NSA on the other with people finding themselves at different places on the spectrum.
We first learnt about progressive swinging from the "Life on the swingset" podcast which you might find useful in your studies. They also have a website too. For podcasts you might also want to look at Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage, and Sex Out Loud by Tristan Taormino.
For books that cover poly you can try Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships by Tristan Taormino. Then there are a host of other books that are considered important in the field such as the Ethical Slut by Donnie Eastman and Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan that might also be of use.
I would be interested in hearing more about your project. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No poly isn't something that we are interested in moving into, we are happy just swinging. That said, I think what we are ideally looking for is what some describe as "progressive swinging". We are not really after a series of one offs that we never see again, we would prefer to build a small circle of close friends that we swing with, but that we also enjoy seeing socially. I guess that this, like many other things when it comes to sexuality is a spectrum with full poly on one side and NSA on the other with people finding themselves at different places on the spectrum.
We first learnt about progressive swinging from the "Life on the swingset" podcast which you might find useful in your studies. They also have a website too. For podcasts you might also want to look at Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage, and Sex Out Loud by Tristan Taormino.
For books that cover poly you can try Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships by Tristan Taormino. Then there are a host of other books that are considered important in the field such as the Ethical Slut by Donnie Eastman and Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan that might also be of use.
I would be interested in hearing more about your project."
Thanks for your honest response and the tips. I'm training to be a psychosexual therapist and I'd like to work within the alternative lifestyles community.
I think it's amazing that there is still a very singular view of what a relationship actually is. I've spoken with so many who feel they can't explore fully in the ways they would like to because of this. I've never doubted that it's possible to be in love and committed to more than one person. I also think that many who have longer term affairs may well find themselves in this situation. Granted it's not completely open. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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Thanks for your honest response and the tips. I'm training to be a psychosexual therapist and I'd like to work within the alternative lifestyles community.
I think it's amazing that there is still a very singular view of what a relationship actually is. I've spoken with so many who feel they can't explore fully in the ways they would like to because of this. I've never doubted that it's possible to be in love and committed to more than one person. I also think that many who have longer term affairs may well find themselves in this situation. Granted it's not completely open."
Wow that sounds really cool. I think that there is a lot of ignorance in terms of relationships and by that I mean that most people have never considered that there is another way to be other than monogamous. I know that we hadn't until coming to swinging at the start of the year.
On one of the Life on the Swingset podcasts I heard an interesting comment the other day. They were talking about how in gay and lesbian relationships there has historically been a more accepting view of different relationship models, but now as there is the push towards equality and the rights to a gay/lesbian marriage, it could be seen that they are taking a step backwards, towards a heteronormative view of a relationship being 2 people who are sexually monogamous. |
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"No poly isn't something that we are interested in moving into, we are happy just swinging. That said, I think what we are ideally looking for is what some describe as "progressive swinging". We are not really after a series of one offs that we never see again, we would prefer to build a small circle of close friends that we swing with, but that we also enjoy seeing socially. I guess that this, like many other things when it comes to sexuality is a spectrum with full poly on one side and NSA on the other with people finding themselves at different places on the spectrum.
We first learnt about progressive swinging from the "Life on the swingset" podcast which you might find useful in your studies. They also have a website too. For podcasts you might also want to look at Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage, and Sex Out Loud by Tristan Taormino.
For books that cover poly you can try Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships by Tristan Taormino. Then there are a host of other books that are considered important in the field such as the Ethical Slut by Donnie Eastman and Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan that might also be of use.
I would be interested in hearing more about your project."
That would describe us but I'd never refer to myself with a smug term like "progressive" anything |
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