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Dom bashing

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

50shades of shit has taken its toll on the community, a flood of 50s not knowing what they are getting into, and people being more on their guard, then people saying your a fake because you don't dom in a certain way.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Eh! Has someone been horrible to you?

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Who is judging you?

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By *rank EinsteinMan over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake"

Funnily enough I was checking out the new joiners last night and one lass had "looking for a Mr Grey" yeah, good luck with that welcome to cockpics.com

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cry more?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just some people jumping on a bandwagon they don't fully understand, I'm not the kind of Dom who is serious 24/7 I'm just a normal guy with some specialised skills, and people who think it's all about hitting women, and being controlling offer second hand oppinion and cod psychology and profess to be experts after reading a shit book and watching some late night tv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't know about Dom bashing but I did try and spank one once?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don't know about Dom bashing but I did try and spank one once?

How did that turn out for you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake"

Maybe they just mean you don't do things their way, all because someone likes a dominant man that does not mean they will like everything you do and are offering

Do you ask what the lady likes or tell her what she's to expect from you, I've spoken to many men who say they are dom and it's a case of what I say goes with most so tend to avoid them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't know about Dom bashing but I did try and spank one once?

How did that turn out for you lol"

As it happens, not too well! Lol

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"Eh! Has someone been horrible to you?"

I think somebody must have said "I 'ate you butler"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh! Has someone been horrible to you?

I think somebody must have said "I 'ate you butler""

With salt n vinegar?

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

50 Shades as caused a wide spread S&M epidemic lol, we were one of the first to introduce bukkake and like 50 Shades everyone copied because was fashionable.

I have shoot so many vanilla people in the last 4 months you wouldn't believe it as they have wanted to do something naughty, it will quieten down eventually until the next film but the good thing to come out of it is that there will be a big increase of people wanting a vanilla alternative.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake"

Sadly this is what the 50 shades has done for the Bdsm communuity and some swingers will never get it so they abuse

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By *.nottsbloke..Man over a year ago

the vale

Not got to the end yet but I bet the butler did it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being Honest

I bait doms and would be doms here,

I am in the bdsm scene and most know i can be a complete brat!

and baiting a dom on here or FL helps me see if they are a dom or a "would be dom"

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By *elvet RopeMan over a year ago

by the big field

If you're a Dominant then you should have the confidence in yourself to stand up to the comments or ignore them, how can you expect to install that confidence and respect for you in a sub if you let the trolls and narrow minded affect you?

People will always believe they have the right to comment or judge you, your thoughts and your actions- you have the right to choose how you wish to respond to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake"
.......you sound a bit whiney to be a real dom...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The fact you state your a dom gives some reason to judge you. Why it even bothers you is a bigger problem and i'd worry about any dom who was concerned what others may think of him. May'be think of bdsm sites?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're a Dominant then you should have the confidence in yourself to stand up to the comments or ignore them, how can you expect to install that confidence and respect for you in a sub if you let the trolls and narrow minded affect you?

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What gives people the right to judge me because I chose to be honest and up front and state clearly that I am a Dom?

I know there are a lot of wannabes out there, but there are a lot if wannabe swingers, as we all know.

It's a load of horse shit, people do things differently in everything swinging, sewing fishing, this ignorance needs to stop, be a bit tolerant for God sake"

Oh the irony. Moaning that poeple don;t respect your domliness while belittling other people's for being wannabes and not knowing what they are doing... There is little more amusing than a Dom throwing a tantrum

Maybe you have inadvertently answered your own complaint as to why you aren't taken seriously?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah ha, this looks like a covert 50 shades thread. I sense a conspiracy here.

When you say "be a bit tolerant for God sake" shouldn't tolerance also include wannabes and readers of 50 shades?

I'm sure the Dom rule book (copies available on application for a small fee) doesn't say you mustn't watch late night TV and isn't at all restrictive about the books you can read.

However, dealing with baiting brats... now there's a chapter to itself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

its took me years to finally understand that and since doing it

i feels awesome

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

its took me years to finally understand that and since doing it

i feels awesome"

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

As a Dom stand your ground mate get them contracts out and kick some arse, these new plastic S&M players/victims will soon fade or mingle into our communities as fully fledged masters/mistresses & subs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a Dom stand your ground mate get them contracts out and kick some arse, these new plastic S&M players/victims will soon fade or mingle into our communities as fully fledged masters/mistresses & subs."

This

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By *hortieWoman over a year ago

Northampton

Point me at them Geoffrey, and I'll show them some Domming (of a kind)

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" be a bit tolerant for God sake"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I dont HAVE to state I'm a Dom

I don't need your validation

Simply put, when people start flapping their gums about how they know so much about ME, because they read a book once, it is having an adverse effect on genuine new doms and subs, and all those who are unsure about who and what they are, I belive in the Bdsm sceen and we are trying to survive an onslaught from mainstream fuckwhits who try to destroy what they don't understand, the same type of people who tell the mainstream that everyone on this site puts their car keys in a bowl and away you go, it's a tabloid culture sensationalist bulshit, and some of you are buying into it, when I desc wannabes I'm talking about the twat who thinks if they put Dom on their profile they can get an easy shag that they can slap about a bit, that's not bdsm that's domestic violence, but people would rather go along with everyone else and cheapen it and slag it off.

I don't care what people say about me, really I dont, but bdsm has enough of a poor press at the moment without halfwhits trying to sound clever by attacking with the rest of the pack instead of thinking for themselves

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

your whimpering is not very Domish, not that I know what a dom is

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

Pass judgement if you like but don't do it from the safety of your Ivory tower ie hidden profile, because all ther is to judge you on is that you say you don't give a fuck then hide from everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont HAVE to state I'm a Dom

I don't need your validation

hmmm.

You've started a thread that massively suggests otherwise though....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just some people jumping on a bandwagon they don't fully understand, I'm not the kind of Dom who is serious 24/7 I'm just a normal guy with some specialised skills, and people who think it's all about hitting women, and being controlling offer second hand oppinion and cod psychology and profess to be experts after reading a shit book and watching some late night tv"

Maybe it's because the people who are judging you are serious guys who live the lifestyle 24/7? I dunno. Maybe you're just not hardcore enough for them?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

Pass judgement if you like but don't do it from the safety of your Ivory tower i.e. hidden profile, because all ther is to judge you on is that you say you don't give a fuck then hide from everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally if i meet someone at an event and i get a prang of my hairs on my neck stood up to attention i know something is there!

words are meaningless for me on here and on Fl to be honest

i like to converse in person and see if they make me feel like the above

anyone can say they are dom but the real doms wont shout and scream about it as they will just do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"your whimpering is not very Domish, not that I know what a dom is"

A Dom is someone who is dominant

Not someone who swoops into a forum and tries to attack from the safety of an anonymous profile go back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking"

yeah, very adult

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking

yeah, very adult

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"your whimpering is not very Domish, not that I know what a dom is

A Dom is someone who is dominant

Not someone who swoops into a forum and tries to attack from the safety of an anonymous profile go back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking"

Hypocrisy or irony.

I just can't decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dont HAVE to state I'm a Dom

I don't need your validation

hmmm.

You've started a thread that massively suggests otherwise though...."

Only if you have not bothered to try to comprehend what I am trying to say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"your whimpering is not very Domish, not that I know what a dom is

A Dom is someone who is dominant

Not someone who swoops into a forum and tries to attack from the safety of an anonymous profile go back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking

Hypocrisy or irony.

I just can't decide."

i cant either makes two of us

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm Done trying to explain myself now

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Not someone who swoops into a forum and tries to attack from the safety of an anonymous profile go back to your Lego sonny, adult are talking"

Dont make me get all domme on you

There is no need to be rude to other posters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A Dom is someone who is dominant

Seriously it's not.

Someone can be sexually Dominant without being a "Dom".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm Done trying to explain myself now"

Probably for the best you're gonna hit bed rock soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A Dom is someone who is dominant

Seriously it's not.

Someone can be sexually Dominant without being a "Dom"."

exactly

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"I pass judgement on anyone I choose to and I am equally comfortable for others to do the same to me.

I don't give a fuck

Pass judgement if you like but don't do it from the safety of your Ivory tower ie hidden profile, because all ther is to judge you on is that you say you don't give a fuck then hide from everyone

so you have just had a go at everyone for passing judgement - yet you are just as quick to pass judgement. Good move - haven't read your profile, but I think your other posts say you dont put it on your profile (I could be wrong), so why get so het-up that people are being specifically insulting to you?? If anything, they are clearing away the competition an doing you a favour.

Or if this a look at me thread - where you are actually looking pretty simple minded right now?

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And we can leave it there

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