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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fool us once, shame on them.
Fool us again, shame on us for falling for it a second time.
If it's a plausible and sincere reason for being cancelled then we'd offer a second chance. If it appears flippant or blatant BS............bye bye
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go with my gut feeling on it. I want to say a blanket 'no', but actually I know I've had to cancel at short notice before with what probably sounded like a spurious reason 
A no-show without cancelling before hand wouldn't get a second chance though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely wouldn't give a chance to anyone who criticises another person's socks, however stupid the socks look.
Time wasters are a menace and should be shot.
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What gets me with time wasters is they put so much effort in beforehand!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I go with my gut feeling on it. I want to say a blanket 'no', but actually I know I've had to cancel at short notice before with what probably sounded like a spurious reason
A no-show without cancelling before hand wouldn't get a second chance though. "
I go with my gut feeling too Anna and it's generally correct. Has been very very recently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely wouldn't give a chance to anyone who criticises another person's socks, however stupid the socks look.
Time wasters are a menace and should be shot.
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Whoohooo my socks are safe lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been caught a few times, but as annoying as it has been I have just treated it as a learning experience and now my bullshit detector is fine tuned "
Mine too!
I love it when I catch someone is lying! And I fucking tell them! |
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"I've been caught a few times, but as annoying as it has been I have just treated it as a learning experience and now my bullshit detector is fine tuned
Mine too!
I love it when I catch someone is lying! And I fucking tell them! "
It's a satisfying feeling |
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Generally I don't consider the wasters who fall at the first hurdle but keep an open mind and trust myself.
There's so much choice that soiling yourself with others who have something not quite right about their approach to you is a poor option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will always give people a second chance, I know from personal experience that life can conspire to halt you on your path to happiness, but after that, well life is just too damn short
Don't like liers, but I kind of understand that some people are in relationships where lies are used to avoid arguments, but if you lie to me after I have made it clear that I won't accept lying, and there is no reason to lie to me, then you are dead to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I will always give people a second chance, I know from personal experience that life can conspire to halt you on your path to happiness, but after that, well life is just too damn short
Don't like liers, but I kind of understand that some people are in relationships where lies are used to avoid arguments, but if you lie to me after I have made it clear that I won't accept lying, and there is no reason to lie to me, then you are dead to me"
Iv had lies like ... They are prepping for an interview, but you can see they are on cam!! then they send you a pic that was taken ages ago, then you ask to Skype to watch and they say they can't they have to get ready as they have an interview in an hour and they need a haircut before hand too! Ok so you are going to an interview with ears covered in hair |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I give second chances if a reason for cancellation is genuine
This "
How would we know? I've had seemingly 'genuine' reasons and rearranged only to be cancelled on again. So I've put it on my profile. Any cancellation means I never ever make arrangements to meet with that person again.
And I would never expect anyone to give me a second chance if I had to cancel. I wouldn't even bother to ask. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I give second chances if a reason for cancellation is genuine
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How would we know? I've had seemingly 'genuine' reasons and rearranged only to be cancelled on again. So I've put it on my profile. Any cancellation means I never ever make arrangements to meet with that person again.
And I would never expect anyone to give me a second chance if I had to cancel. I wouldn't even bother to ask. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I give second chances if a reason for cancellation is genuine
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How would we know? I've had seemingly 'genuine' reasons and rearranged only to be cancelled on again. So I've put it on my profile. Any cancellation means I never ever make arrangements to meet with that person again.
And I would never expect anyone to give me a second chance if I had to cancel. I wouldn't even bother to ask. "
This has happened to me before and it is annoying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cancelled a meet a few months ago because my step-grandson arrived a week early, with hardly any warning, and I was dropping everything that weekend to go and meet the little feller... I thought that was a perfectly understandable reason, just hope the lady in question didn't think I'd made it up! |
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"If I think someone is taking the piss on here then I don't give them any chances at all  "
I think you are right
I regularly reschedule only to find a bollocky excuse number 2
So nowadays I'm less understanding with good reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Liars once bitten, best forgotten and tara time.
Her
I used to know a Tara, lovely girl. Your mums friend?
Her"
No, she used to work behind the bar at my favourite pub, great looking girl. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I cancelled a meet a few months ago because my step-grandson arrived a week early, with hardly any warning, and I was dropping everything that weekend to go and meet the little feller... I thought that was a perfectly understandable reason, just hope the lady in question didn't think I'd made it up!"
I'm not saying it's an excuse. But kids is an excuse you know your going to get away with whether it's true or not. |
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"I go with my gut feeling on it. I want to say a blanket 'no', but actually I know I've had to cancel at short notice before with what probably sounded like a spurious reason
A no-show without cancelling before hand wouldn't get a second chance though. "
Short notice I can live with but when they go quiet and you just have no idea before the meeting it's shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Liars once bitten, best forgotten and tara time.
Her
I used to know a Tara, lovely girl. Your mums friend?
Her
No, she used to work behind the bar at my favourite pub, great looking girl."
Not seen a tara in years..sighh
Her |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I go with my gut feeling on it. I want to say a blanket 'no', but actually I know I've had to cancel at short notice before with what probably sounded like a spurious reason
A no-show without cancelling before hand wouldn't get a second chance though.
Short notice I can live with but when they go quiet and you just have no idea before the meeting it's shit"
If they suddenly go quiet the day before and ignore messages even when logged in I cancel. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Do you give them any chances?
Of course you do if it's a good excuse.
I'm talking about the crap excuses. We have all had them. "
I string them along and just when they think they are winning; pow  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got to say, I've only ever met genuine nice women on here. But I am very careful, take my time and get acquainted before even contemplating a meet....most of the time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the sentiment of most people on this thread .
When I said I had had three double cancellations in 3 weeks on a Post . All I got was a lot of abuse ad that was the way things worked on here . I have written a set of rules for my profile - These were derided .
Some people understood and were complementary and agreed
If you want to meet me its on my terms (Rules) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree with the sentiment of most people on this thread .
When I said I had had three double cancellations in 3 weeks on a Post . All I got was a lot of abuse ad that was the way things worked on here . I have written a set of rules for my profile - These were derided .
Some people understood and were complementary and agreed
If you want to meet me its on my terms (Rules)"
Sorry to hear that 
Good for you for sticking to your rules |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
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Being partially deaf I find texting easier. It's not always a cop out. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
Being partially deaf I find texting easier. It's not always a cop out. "
They could call your neighbours and ask them to tell you the 'meet' is off . Discreetly, ofcourse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
Being partially deaf I find texting easier. It's not always a cop out. "
Turn your bloody hearing aid on too
Good job the batteries don't fit anything else..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
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Really? I'd take genuine reason texted to me vs bullshit told to me on the phone anytime. But then I never really phone anyone anyway, it's not a cop out, it's just not how I choose to communicate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go with my gut feeling on it. I want to say a blanket 'no', but actually I know I've had to cancel at short notice before with what probably sounded like a spurious reason
A no-show without cancelling before hand wouldn't get a second chance though. "
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
Being partially deaf I find texting easier. It's not always a cop out.
Turn your bloody hearing aid on too
Good job the batteries don't fit anything else....."
I don't use one. All they do is increase the background noise. Deafness isn't cured by making things louder. It's different tones and other noise interference. Making it louder isn't particularly helpful to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To many fakes and timewasters on here should be able to name and shame"
Oh goody goody , been itching to do this for blooming ages.
This guy arranged to meet , I paid for hotel as he said he would give me half when he got there. Guess who spent a night alone in a hotel. Don't give this guy the time of day , a complete timewaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrsj has been bullshittered to so many times by single guys with excuses on why they can't make it, I really do wonder what they're doing on this site in the first place :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mrsj has been bullshittered to so many times by single guys with excuses on why they can't make it, I really do wonder what they're doing on this site in the first place :-/"
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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"If we have to cancel anything at the last minute we will always ring. Sending a text or message is a cop out and we won't tolerate it from others.
Being partially deaf I find texting easier. It's not always a cop out.
They could call your neighbours and ask them to tell you the 'meet' is off . Discreetly, ofcourse"
If the reason for cancelling a meet is genuine then a call should not be an issue.
Getting an abort text just as you are about to walk out of the door or even while in transit must be one of the most infuriating aspects of this 'game' and makes it feel dishonest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had to cancel an arranged meeting as I didn't realise at the time that the date I had booked the hotel for was the same day as the Scottish Cup semi final .
We had arranged a dirty weekend away and had arranged with the in laws to look after the kids. Hotel was booked , couple selected and new gear bought.
Then I realised when I went online to buy our tickets . My son would never have forgiven me if I didn't take him as we might not get a final ticket (if Hibs win).
Felt terrible having to cancel but I did give about 2 weeks notice.
Still feel bad about it as we certainly did not intentionally try to waste anyone's time.
Stuff happens. Especially if the couple have a young family .
We have never had anyone cancelling on us to be fair.
Had 2 meets and both went ahead . |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I always go by how much contact they make after cancelling aswell.If they try and rearrange and had a decent reason i'd give another chance.If they just go quiet and not ask to rearrange i'd just take it that they weren't that interested and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you give them any chances?
Of course you do if it's a good excuse.
I'm talking about the crap excuses. We have all had them. "
No. One chance in life |
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