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Am I the only woman that replies to all sensible messages??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

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By *hyblueEyesMan over a year ago

Daventry

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Aww it's nice that you do. It does make all the difference

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Why?

If you check a profile out before reading the message and decide that the sender is the opposite of what you'd be interested in in a million years/the total opposite of what your text states you're looking for.........and never even open the message?

How do you know if it's sensible or not if you just head for the delete button?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can anyone go through and find the sensible messages if they have 800 messages?

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By *edangel_2013Woman over a year ago

southend

Most of us reply to sensible messages. Just most of us don't get many sensible messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Im waiting for a punchline......

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok, correction- I reply to all messages that are sensible and when people have read my profile.

I then say sorry you're not for me (if they aren't) instead of just deleting it.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Most of us reply to sensible messages. Just most of us don't get many sensible messages. "

this!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Thanks for doing the things us rude ones cant be arsed with. You're doing sterling work

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No problem, it's just common courtesy after all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

We will try to reply to all if they are respectful, not aimed at just one or the other etc.

If not we will delete and block.

But when I was on a singles profile I would often just group block as it could get stupid.. For instance if you put up a new photo or put a naughty status up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the things us rude ones cant be arsed with. You're doing sterling work

I'm preparing a medal for the OP As we speak

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

I don't care how sensible it is if they haven't read my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes you are op. I been emailing profiles for days and no replies yet looooooool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to reply to all nice mail even if I didn't like their pics, with a polite no thanks but I found a lot of guys don't like a polite no thanks one only yesterday called me a shallow cunt

Damned if you do damned if you don't

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By *ueenandworkerbeeCouple over a year ago

Manchester

We'll only reply to sensible messages if we're also interested them. No point wasting everyone's time by replying if we're not interested.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I do, but there are some odd ones. It's flattering getting a message from someone 2 hours away, but it's unlikely we'll ever meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I replied politely to a couple who wanted to meet me saying "sorry your not my type"

I got a barrage of abuse so no longer bother

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I do reply to polite messages that suggest the person has read (at least some) of my profile.

The problem I encounter sometimes is that it often does not stay there but people write back asking what I am looking for etc and I really do not want to engage in that kind of conversation; I do not usually reply to second and third messages if my first response was a polite "no, thanks".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sent 100 out got 7 replies 5 no thanks and 2 yes but not tonight! Great day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x"

So do I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to reply to all nice mail even if I didn't like their pics, with a polite no thanks but I found a lot of guys don't like a polite no thanks one only yesterday called me a shallow cunt

sorry i had toothe ache honest

Damned if you do damned if you don't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rarely i reply, i just thank guys on my profile for sending polite and nice messages when im meeting because i don't have time to reply to them all. I also don't even read most of the messages i get sent either.

Yes i am a deleter, rude, and ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x"

My time is so very limited I'm not spending it conversing with people I have no interest in. I really doubt they are going to be crying in their cornflakes because I didn't tell them I'm not interested. ....and if they are that's just crazy behaviour

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

I don't know if it's true or not. I do know that lots of men say that and lots of them say it's rude and ignorant too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Shallow cunt"....that's mean....and is the reason why many of us ladies don't reply to messages if you aren't for us. Now please excuse me while I chair a meeting of "shallow cunts anonymous"

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

If I get random messages from people who have worked the system to message me by adding a foto to their profile then removed after message I will ignore. If you reply it opens up their ability to keep doing so.

It may seem rude to you but unsolicited messages are rude also.

On that Go you.. I guess you need something to keep you busy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Nope I also reply to most messages. Just ignore the crude ones.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x

Same here. I go with the 'treat others as you'd like to be treated' philosophy, and I'm quite happy to take no reply as a no thank you, I really don't feel the need for an inbox full of polite reasons someone doesn't want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Nope I also reply to most messages. Just ignore the crude ones.

same here

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By *he tactile technicianMan over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands

"No problem, it's just common courtesy after all.

"
smile, you'll discover that FAB isn't short in common, its courtesy its lacking sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

OP it's incredibly good of you to take the time to respond to every message (pat on the back for that!) However you may have more spare time on your hands with which to do so, whilst others have to attend to more important things like say, having a life away from fab!?...imagine that? How ruddy dare they, so rude & ignorant!

How you choose to deal with your PMs is your business, and likewise whether other people reply to every one or not is none of your business!?

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x

Crying in their cornflakes

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We try to reply to all messages unless they are just silly!

But we don't get that many lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the right thing to do OP and you're quite right it's rude. I do hate it but I cannot reply to all messages for the life of me, sensible or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

How you choose to deal with your PMs is your business, and likewise whether other people reply to every one or not is none of your business!?"

jeez!

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By *bbandflowCouple over a year ago

South Devon

"I used to reply to all nice mail even if I didn't like their pics, with a polite no thanks but I found a lot of guys don't like a polite no thanks one only yesterday called me a shallow cunt

Damned if you do damned if you don't

I'm totally with you. Sometimes if I get a lot of messages and I'm really busy I cant reply to all. But when I do respond to those who don't fit my profile with a really polite no thanks I can get real abuse. Just makes me think I was right to think they weren't for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I do have a life outside of fab!!??

I must be one of the rare ones on here that only gets 20 messages a day from new guys that are sensible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's the right thing to do OP and you're quite right it's rude. I do hate it but I cannot reply to all messages for the life of me, sensible or otherwise. "

According to the site FAQs it isn't rude not to reply. I wish people would stop worrying themselves over how others run their profile. ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Almost all mine get a reply...e cept the nasty ones they just get reported...let administration reply to those lol...if someone's gone out of way to mail me I reply...but cut n pastes just get a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Exactly what I do xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's the right thing to do OP and you're quite right it's rude. I do hate it but I cannot reply to all messages for the life of me, sensible or otherwise. "

See I honestly, genuinely don't find it rude. When I block men and do the messaging myself, I'll have messages that go unreplied to. I actually don't know if they've been read or not as I delete my sent box. It's not worth fixating on by anyone, male or female.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Almost all mine get a reply...e cept the nasty ones they just get reported...let administration reply to those lol...if someone's gone out of way to mail me I reply...but cut n pastes just get a no thanks

It's easy with predictive text to be polite and send a reply. Even when you receive a fair amount of mail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get 100s of messages,I found a magic way of making that so. I do reply to all mine,I may miss some when I'm chatting but I eventually find them and answer them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just seen how you do it. That's pretty clever xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's easy with predictive text to be polite and send a reply. Even when you receive a fair amount of mail.

it's even easier to just ignore

I send out messages and don't expect a reply..if they do great, if not it's no big deal, they just aren't interested....it's fairly obvious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I constantly courted new messages with provocative status updates etc then I might feel the need to reply to all of them but my profile is quite clear that I'm not looking to meet new people, so I don't think it's being impolite in any way not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

I used to, but got fed up of the rude and ignorant responses to a polite 'no thank you'...strange how those 3 little words would instantly change me from being 'gorgeous' to a fat slag they had messaged to offer a sympathy shag to. I'm not saying I got that reply all the time, but I got it enough times to make me decide to stop replying to any I wasn't interested in. Plus the FAQ's highlighted that 'no reply' means 'no thanks' and I also discovered it gives people a screen when messaging again to say I didn't reply last time, so in theory they wouldn't waste their time messaging again...in practice they often ignore that screen, but at least they were warned I'm rude and ignorant the second time around!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't remember the last time I sent a message on the basis of trying to get a meet from it, but I wouldn't be offended if my message was deleted. If anything it's helpful to both parties in helping them get what they want quicker? As in, find people they share attraction / interest with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to all messages nicely.......if I got any....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Who made you Queen of morals ?

I think that it's disgusting to answer sensible messages you are so rude and ignorant to the unsensible people.

Just seeing what it's like to post judgemental messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Who made you Queen of morals ?

I think that it's disgusting to answer sensible messages you are so rude and ignorant to the unsensible people.

Just seeing what it's like to post judgemental messages. "

Was it fun? Would you recommend it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ooops never thought of that _ranny-crumpet. Ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get plenty of sensible messages not replied to. Even from those I consider friends. I just conclude they have better things to do than reply to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Naaa they staple sensible messages to their pillows so can read them when pillow biting during rough sex

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Who made you Queen of morals ?

I think that it's disgusting to answer sensible messages you are so rude and ignorant to the unsensible people.

Just seeing what it's like to post judgemental messages.

Was it fun? Would you recommend it?

Uhmmmmm no it was twatty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I enjoy reading some of the messages I receive and that's why I guess most of us who are honest, are here for. To meet people, and as a single lady that's why im here. Regardless of whether I find the sender attractive or worthy of a reply, as some seem to think. I just don't like blanking people unless they are incredibly rude. Oh and yes I'm guilty of provocative status updates lol shoot me

or over me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Who made you Queen of morals ?

I think that it's disgusting to answer sensible messages you are so rude and ignorant to the unsensible people.

Just seeing what it's like to post judgemental messages.

Was it fun? Would you recommend it?

It's so much fun believe me. I really struggle to not be a bitch on here so many times...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I enjoy reading some of the messages I receive and that's why I guess most of us who are honest, are here for. To meet people, and as a single lady that's why im here. Regardless of whether I find the sender attractive or worthy of a reply, as some seem to think. I just don't like blanking people unless they are incredibly rude. Oh and yes I'm guilty of provocative status updates lol shoot me

or over me

Nobody has a problem with those that choose to reply to messages it's the judging of those of us that don't as rude that we object to. There is no need for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah, that was never my intention.

I should have worded it differently.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You've been a very naughty girl!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Ah, that was never my intention.

I should have worded it differently."

What did you intend when you wrote the last sentence of your original post?

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By *issy louWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I almost always send a polite 'thanks but you're not what I am looking for' type of reply if someone has bothered to read my profile. ...but only yesterday I got the response 'you need to fucking get over yourself'!! As has been said, damned if you do, damned if you don't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

or over me

Nobody has a problem with those that choose to reply to messages it's the judging of those of us that don't as rude that we object to. There is no need for it. "

Aye that's cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the boot was on the other foot the forums would be full of women whinging about their well thought out messages being deleted from men they are sure they are compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the boot was on the other foot the forums would be full of women whinging about their well thought out messages being deleted from men they are sure they are compatible with. "

Probably, but I'd tell them to get over it as well....I'd really recommend everyone deletes their sent items box, it's much more liberating just seeing who does reply instead of worrying about who doesn't.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Ok, correction- I reply to all messages that are sensible and when people have read my profile.

I then say sorry you're not for me (if they aren't) instead of just deleting it.

Good for you!

However, my profile states, when visible, that I will NOT reply to anyone outwith what I'm looking for.

If others have the time to massage their egos answering all and sundry instead of moving away from the laptop and meeting...each to their own!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"The same happens to me when I put a new pic up/status etc.

But if someone has actually taken their time to read my profile and has been sensible in messaging me then I only think it's fair to reply. x"

You're changing your op!

I think most people reply to someone who has read their profile and sent a decent message, even if it's "no thanks!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely send out messages but sent out 5 cut and paste messages...3 nos...1 no reply..and 1 please meet me at a club....

Not bad

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By *urvybrunette91Woman over a year ago

tidworth

Oh I must be very rude then!

If I deem the boring message, I delete it.

If they are out of my age range, I delete it.

If they've sent just a cock picture, I delete it.

If it's outwardly sexual and explicit, I delete it.

If it looks like it's been copy and pasted to all women local to them, I delete it.

If it's asking for a private meet, I delete it...

If I don't fancy the person messaging, guess what, I delete it!

Oh and also - I feel no guilt! Many a time did I get a nasty response from a 'no thank you', deletion is the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is sensible message ? Had a message 5 minutes ago saying I know you are not meeting at the moment but can you make an exception ..... FFs I just pressed delete next button will be block !!!!!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I always used to reply to sane messages and now mostly do. I often get a little behind with a bulge in the inbox, so do my best. I tire of the fancy a fuck three word boys though.

I don't generally delete and block, unless someone gets repetitive and doesn't get the deal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Either you don't get enough messages or have all the time in the world to reply to all your messages. Good luck I will nominate you for the Fabswinger's Ms congeniality 2015.

Just kidding. I used to reply saying NO to the ones not my type. Then all I got was abuse. So now I just delete them now if they don't fit my bill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes after we have sent a no thanks have fun type of message - we then get a nice reply - the odd occasion we used to reply to that and then get yet another one back - its a bit like saying thanks to a driver who has let you in - show your hand to say thanks - they do the same - so you smile and nod and they do the same - gawd this being nice is a lot of effort - we say no ta and delete now otherwise still be chatting to 'em

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Nope, I actually reply to at least 98% of my messages, most with the thanks but no thanks, have fun on the site followed by block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We try not to delete/block the first message but the umpteenth "Hows youz?" Is hard to get up the inclination to reply to.

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By *ythenshawefredMan over a year ago

stockport

Some ladies do reply to decent (in my opinion when I've sent them) even if it is just a no thank you which oddly on occasion led to great conversations and bizarrely meeting but it's always nice to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest its very dependent on how many you get how busy your are etc. Op your taking the moral high ground based on no knowledge of peoples constraints? that's a bit rude to be honest in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Nope, I actually reply to at least 98% of my messages, most with the thanks but no thanks, have fun on the site followed by block"

Me too. I have set so many filters that I only get around 10 to 15 messages a day so easy to reply to. Of those, at least half have not read the first line of my profile and are not what I'm looking for so easy to decline politely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to most, depending on my mood.

About 95% haven't read the first line of my profile though, so I tell them that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

My profile says that I am educated and polite, which I am, so as a matter of respect I try to always reply even it is a no thanks...as you say it is rude...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I reply to most, depending on my mood.

About 95% haven't read the first line of my profile though, so I tell them that."

and yes this is also true..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Nope, I actually reply to at least 98% of my messages, most with the thanks but no thanks, have fun on the site followed by block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont reply as most of them havent been arsed to read my profile so I think why should I be arsed to reply to them...especially when you do and they take it as a chance to strike up a convo..nooooo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

I think its ignorant to tell other people how to yin their profile. Wr are here for our fun nobody elses. You carry on replying to your messages OP and leave us to run our profiles the way we want. You can't be getting that many messages to reply to all. Probably shy you put this look at me boys aren't I wonderful thread up.

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"I do have a life outside of fab!!??

I must be one of the rare ones on here that only gets 20 messages a day from new guys that are sensible. "

I did wonder why this post had been started, it would seem that its not quite as saintly as it seemed at first.... but just another look at me post.

I hope your inbox is bulging OP.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If the boot was on the other foot the forums would be full of women whinging about their well thought out messages being deleted from men they are sure they are compatible with. "

My messages are rarely replied to but I dont go whinging to the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do have a life outside of fab!!??

I must be one of the rare ones on here that only gets 20 messages a day from new guys that are sensible.

I did wonder why this post had been started, it would seem that its not quite as saintly as it seemed at first.... but just another look at me post.

I hope your inbox is bulging OP.

I've found it a useful thread, next time I get shit off someone for not replying with an entirely pointless no thanks message, I'll point them towards those on this thread who will reject them politely to their heart's content

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By *tandingtallMan over a year ago

york

Lady Chatterley you're clearly a really nice person, I see a few deleted messages that I send out and it's a shame but I clearly don't float their ferry, I'm selective who I pick though too...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Then I'm rude and ignorant because I used to answer every message only to have them start ping ponging messages back and forth or worse abuse. So now all they need to do is read my profile and if they match what I'm after great if not what's the point .

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I don't get 100s of messages,I found a magic way of making that so. I do reply to all mine,I may miss some when I'm chatting but I eventually find them and answer them. "

I've sussed it now I've seen your profile - Good thinking Batman....!

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

Nope, I actually reply to at least 98% of my messages, most with the thanks but no thanks, have fun on the site followed by block"

I'm with you on that. Block em so there is no confusion and don't try again, also stops the whingers who say 'why what's wrong with me' and the rude ones who get abusive....

Had a guy naming and snagging us on his status a few weeks back cause we said no (he was a munter) and he accused us of being timewasters who don't meet!?

Erm hello, we are verified and he wasn't!? Silly little man with his icky flaccid cock pics

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have answered every person on here. That's the truth. It's on my profile.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

shit ive hidden it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done to the op, it's always nice to get a message back, even if it is a thanks but no thanks. There's a very very small percentage of women who display an air of arrogance, some of which has been demonstrated on here, by giving the op grief for daring to say some are doing it wrong. I'm not saying all women here are arrogant, far from it, just a tiny minority

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No messages here, sensible or otherwise. But if they have sent a sensible one, then I will reply, if it includes a face pic, otherwise I dont, I just delete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

That really depends what you think is a sensible message?

I really wouldn't believe everything you've been told!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reply don't reply, delete don't delete. Email don't email...its a time factor thing, no manners involved

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most of us reply to sensible messages. Just most of us don't get many sensible messages.

this!

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By *abes in the woodWoman over a year ago

wales

Reply mostly all but it gets too much if like over 300 and not possible alway see sensible ones it just take your time up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well done to the op, it's always nice to get a message back, even if it is a thanks but no thanks. There's a very very small percentage of women who display an air of arrogance, some of which has been demonstrated on here, by giving the op grief for daring to say some are doing it wrong. I'm not saying all women here are arrogant, far from it, just a tiny minority "

No one is doing anything wrong. We all do things our own way

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Stop lecturing. You're as bad as the O.P.

There are no set rules that state what is manners and what is not.

It is NOT the social norm to get messages on sex sites and sit replying to them.

It's NOT even the norm on here.

The people that declare it bad manners and ignorant are merely self interested and made up the rule themselves.

People don't get replies for MANY reasons. It doesn't automatically follow that it's because the person who didn't reply is in the wrong.

Bleating like a victim and using condemnation of others may go a little way to licking your own wounds but it won't get you any replies.

Put that in the arrogant bag and give it a good shake up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one is doing anything wrong. We all do things our own way "
I never said there was a right or wrong, just felt the op was getting a hard time when she didn't deserve it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But it's not okay to say the way someone else runs their profile is wrong. It's ok if you want to reply to every message whether you're interested or not, I certainly wouldn't criticise the OP for doing that, but it's also perfectly ok not to, and I don't expect to be criticised for deleting either. If this makes me arrogant by your definition so be it, but I will continue to disagree. I don't not reply because I have more messages than anyone else or think I'm better than anyone else, but because I think they are pointless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am always polite and respectful either sending or replying to messages.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I am always polite and respectful either sending or replying to messages. "

Me too .. when I choose to reply.

See that word there .... Chooooooooooose.... Under my own rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one is doing anything wrong. We all do things our own way I never said there was a right or wrong, just felt the op was getting a hard time when she didn't deserve it"

You'll never win with some of the regular forum posters on here they're always right. Some of them even think it necessary to comment on what status updates one chooses to have. You'll find all-kinds of hypocrisy here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just send the profile of his to all you talk to,then bombarded his inbox ??????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, some people really miss the point don't they. I'm not calling people arrogant for not replying to messages, just for giving people a hard time. And I didn't name anybody did I? So if anyone took offence, they must feel they made an arrogant comment. I don't care whether somebody replies or not, I just simply move on. As stated, it's nice to get a message back, but it's not cool to dig out the op, just because they think it's wrong. Or are some people just stirring shit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most of us reply to sensible messages. Just most of us don't get many sensible messages. "

True - so very true....!

I always reply politely to nice messages - but they are totally outweighed by short and often crude ones that do the senders no favours...

My rule of thumb...

If the message is well written, send a well written reply, even if it's no thank you.

If it's short or obviously not related to my profile - send a short and appropriate reply..

As the messages get shorter - so do my replies!

If it's a one-word message (yes, I get a lot!), then my shorter reply is nothing at all, no response, just delete.

And if it's crude, just ignore it or report it and move on.

I try to treat others as they treat me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, some people really miss the point don't they. I'm not calling people arrogant for not replying to messages, just for giving people a hard time. And I didn't name anybody did I? So if anyone took offence, they must feel they made an arrogant comment. I don't care whether somebody replies or not, I just simply move on. As stated, it's nice to get a message back, but it's not cool to dig out the op, just because they think it's wrong. Or are some people just stirring shit?

Yes some people are just stirring shit, you'll find a few of them on this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the things us rude ones cant be arsed with. You're doing sterling work

I'm preparing a medal for the OP As we speak

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one is doing anything wrong. We all do things our own way I never said there was a right or wrong, just felt the op was getting a hard time when she didn't deserve it"

You said above. The op getting grief for daring to say some are doing it wrong!!!

I'm not really surprised she is!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I've quoted you for reference.

Note line 3. There's a very very small percentage of women who display an air of arrogance, some of which has been demonstrated on here, by giving the op grief for daring to say some are doing it wrong.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

She never got grief. She got other ways of thinking.

She shared her thoughts. Others shared back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

No you're not the only one.

No people who don't reply are not rude as is stated no reply is a no thank you.

No I don't have 800 mmessages as I use my filters wisely and therefore don't Waste my own time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

The problem is sensible messages are very few and far between.

So are good profiles. Im a profile reader first if it doesnt interest me i dont read the message anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?"

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, correction- I reply to all messages that are sensible and when people have read my profile.

I then say sorry you're not for me (if they aren't) instead of just deleting it.

If I was less than 10 miles away from you I'd write a sensible introduction.

Unfortunately I'm not.......

Note to self; move house!!!!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Dp you also write a letter to the companies that have junk mail and flyers posted through your door..?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

No one is doing anything wrong. We all do things our own way I never said there was a right or wrong, just felt the op was getting a hard time when she didn't deserve it"

And jolly well done you for riding to her rescue..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got to hold my hand up and admit to writing to someone who's profile clearly stated "not meeting anyone".

It was an honest and genuine mistake and I genuinely missed it and didn't notice until much later, after the damage was done and I feel mortified.

My message was sensible and sincere but no wonder she didn't reply. I'm sure I'm in the "oh dear another twat that can't read" pile.

If you're out there reading this, humble and sincere apologies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most of us reply to sensible messages. Just most of us don't get many sensible messages. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally get it that the single ladies are probably inundated, but it means a lot from even just a thank you but no when you send a polite message!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No need to give people a hard time - be flattered, not angry!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is another reason why I don't reply to all messages.

I'm not always looking for single guys so I use my filters to block them out when I'm not interested but if I have replied to their message saying no thanks they can still get through the filter. So I'm still getting messages from them even although I have single guys blocked

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"No need to give people a hard time - be flattered, not angry! "

or..

dont worry be happy..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

But this thread is not about people's profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do have a life outside of fab!!??

I must be one of the rare ones on here that only gets 20 messages a day from new guys that are sensible.

I did wonder why this post had been started, it would seem that its not quite as saintly as it seemed at first.... but just another look at me post.

I hope your inbox is bulging OP.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't reply to all messages...when you get about 30 "Hi" messages there is only so many times you can say thanks for the message...oh and shock horror I even delete without reading so hang, draw and quarter me...for being so rude and arrogant

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

But this thread is not about people's profiles.

No it wasn't was it

. However some people deemed it appropriate to comment on how others use their status updates whilst berating others ie OP for being judgemental. All the comments are still here on the thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

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By *educedWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

Hello. My name is Seduced and I am a mass deleter!

It's been 10 minutes 30 odd seconds since I last mass deleted messages I hadn't read.

Is there a support group I can attend so I can address my arrogant ways?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The cynic in me had me looking at OP's profile to see if it was fake, ie a man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The cynic in me had me looking at OP's profile to see if it was fake, ie a man

And???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

Yes indeed it is however the hypocrisy, as I stated earlier, is laughable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

this

The reason threads don't stay on track is because people don't take time to read, which is rather ironic considering some of the comments about not reading profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

But this thread is not about people's profiles.

No it wasn't was it

. However some people deemed it appropriate to comment on how others use their status updates whilst berating others ie OP for being judgemental. All the comments are still here on the thread

but you are the only one going on about provocative status updates....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant.

How you choose to deal with your PMs is your business, and likewise whether other people reply to every one or not is none of your business!?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

But this thread is not about people's profiles.

No it wasn't was it

. However some people deemed it appropriate to comment on how others use their status updates whilst berating others ie OP for being judgemental. All the comments are still here on the thread

but you are the only one going on about provocative status updates...."

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The cynic in me had me looking at OP's profile to see if it was fake, ie a man

And???

"
she has boobs and veris

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

this

The reason threads don't stay on track is because people don't take time to read, which is rather ironic considering some of the comments about not reading profiles! "

Have you ever thought that some go purposely off-track?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

this

The reason threads don't stay on track is because people don't take time to read, which is rather ironic considering some of the comments about not reading profiles!

Have you ever thought that some go purposely off-track?"

Yup. Some do just to vent their own issues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

this

The reason threads don't stay on track is because people don't take time to read, which is rather ironic considering some of the comments about not reading profiles!

Have you ever thought that some go purposely off-track?

Yup. Some do just to vent their own issues. "

I've been known to do it for the hell of it.

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By *ovepieceMan over a year ago

Borth

I only reply to messages from people who have clearly read my profile. If it's a one-liner, or unintelligible text speak I treat it like unsolicited mail.

If I send a well constructed message to someone, having read their profile and crafted it specifically for them, it's disappointing to not receive a 'thanks but, no thanks' at least, but judging by some comments on this and other threads it's hardly surprising that people use the 'bulk delete' button on occasion. If, after having spent time writing a message to someone, they don't reply to me simply because I don't float their boat, well that's their choice. I would however share the OP's view at that point that it's discourteous not to respond. However, without a response, I don't know the person's reason for not responding, so I don't make any judgements; I just wipe away the tears, pick up the fragments of my broken fantasies and move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Usual thread stuff!!

Doesn't always stay on track of the opening comment.

That's forum life eh?

this

The reason threads don't stay on track is because people don't take time to read, which is rather ironic considering some of the comments about not reading profiles!

Have you ever thought that some go purposely off-track?"

Yes. Some. Others don't read threads properly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people who think they have the right to judge others unfortunately. As I said all-kinds of hypocrisy

Surely the opening comment of the op is judgemental?

Rude for not replying to all messages?

Yes could be considered rude. I'm not just talking about her comments though

. Some people who don't like being judged find it necessary to judge how others run their profiles. Hypocrisy of it makes me laugh

But this thread is not about people's profiles.

No it wasn't was it

. However some people deemed it appropriate to comment on how others use their status updates whilst berating others ie OP for being judgemental. All the comments are still here on the thread

but you are the only one going on about provocative status updates...."

Err no I wasn't! Try reading the other comments.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

From this day forth you will be known as mother Theresa the patron saint of single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, back to the OP: I'm sure Lady now knows it's neither rude nor ignorant to not respond to messages.

Personally I don't care how I'm labelled by others on here for what I do and how I run my profile. It's water of a duck's back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No im a good gal

I always answer all my messages even the non- sensible ones

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By *andixxxMan over a year ago

Gloucester

"I have been told that a lot of women just delete sensible messages.

Is this true?? If so that is sooo rude and ignorant."

Nope,I always reply as I appreciate that it takes guts to approach somebody and manners cost nothing!! Even if it's a no, I always send a " thanks,but no thanks" message back and wish them all the best in finding the right couple for them!!

V xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway, back to the OP: I'm sure Lady now knows it's neither rude nor ignorant to not respond to messages.

Personally I don't care how I'm labelled by others on here for what I do and how I run my profile. It's water of a duck's back."

And that's exactly how it should be. X

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Id love to be able to reply to all my messages .... but I work full time and just dont have the time ....

I could do with my own PA to help out ... so after I while I just hit the delete button

Then I have to read all the abusive messages .... calling me names because ive deleated THEIR message ...

Sorry guys ..

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway, back to the OP: I'm sure Lady now knows it's neither rude nor ignorant to not respond to messages.

Personally I don't care how I'm labelled by others on here for what I do and how I run my profile. It's water of a duck's back.

And that's exactly how it should be. X"

That's cos my ego doesn't rule me. Well for most of the month. There is that vulnerable time peculiar to us women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway, back to the OP: I'm sure Lady now knows it's neither rude nor ignorant to not respond to messages.

Personally I don't care how I'm labelled by others on here for what I do and how I run my profile. It's water of a duck's back.

And that's exactly how it should be. X

That's cos my ego doesn't rule me. Well for most of the month. There is that vulnerable time peculiar to us women

Pmsl. Know that time well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I wonder if you will get inundated with messages now from guys expecting a message from you. If I was a guy I would message you after this thread but if I didn't get a reply I really wouldn't be impressed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's so r use most of them don't have the decency to reply wheather to say sorry not interested

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes it's so r use most of them don't have the decency to reply wheather to say sorry not interested "

Because funnily enough I have a life away from fab and to reply to a simple hi message...it's clear that the guy has put no effort into the message with hi so why am I going to respond with a thanks but no thanks only then on occasions to get abused because I've turned him down...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No need to give people a hard time - be flattered, not angry! "

No one is angry at getting messages.

No one give messagers a hard time.

It's the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the things us rude ones cant be arsed with. You're doing sterling work

Always so bloody sarcastic and nasty! Ever heard the saying " if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hello. My name is Seduced and I am a mass deleter!

It's been 10 minutes 30 odd seconds since I last mass deleted messages I hadn't read.

Is there a support group I can attend so I can address my arrogant ways? "

Hmmmmmmmm Arrogance I could have helped you with... but mass deleting unread... you can only be helped by the Goddess of How Rude now. Tsssssssssssk.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *educedWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

"Hello. My name is Seduced and I am a mass deleter!

It's been 10 minutes 30 odd seconds since I last mass deleted messages I hadn't read.

Is there a support group I can attend so I can address my arrogant ways?

Hmmmmmmmm Arrogance I could have helped you with... but mass deleting unread... you can only be helped by the Goddess of How Rude now. Tsssssssssssk."

I have browsed the site and can't find her! Maybe she is UNLOS?

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"OP I wonder if you will get inundated with messages now from guys expecting a message from you. If I was a guy I would message you after this thread but if I didn't get a reply I really wouldn't be impressed "

Neither would I! Especially if I'd sent a super-sensible message

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes it's so r use most of them don't have the decency to reply wheather to say sorry not interested "

Sorry for what ? This thread gets funnier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes it's so r use most of them don't have the decency to reply wheather to say sorry not interested "

I tried the reply to every message approach with a sorry, no thanks. Gets frustrating when some folk then want a reason why?

Easier to delete and move on. I don't need to say sorry to anyone if I dont want to reply to their messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of claws on show on this thread!

As someone who has a single man's profile, I understand how disheartening it is to put a bit of thought and effort into a message only to see it quickly read and deleted. As someone with a couple's profile - and Jane invariably leaves messages for me to deal with - I know sometimes you can't be arsed to reply! So I can see both sides. That said, if time and effort has been put into a message to us, I force myself to reply. Haven't had any abuse for doing so - indeed quite a few guys reply back to thank me for taking time to answer them, even when just saying thanks but no thanks.

It is the"Hi. How r u?" type messages I normally leave unreplied as I don't tend to fancy the stilted "Fine. You?" "I'm fine" banal exchanges

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"There are a lot of claws on show on this thread!

It is the"Hi. How r u?" type messages I normally leave unreplied as I don't tend to fancy the stilted "Fine. You?" "I'm fine" banal exchanges

Do you sign off with your name or with both of your names at the end of the message? Do you advise that it's the male half responding to the message?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I respond to messages I want to. If we're available to meet and someone sparks our interest I'll message. I don't demand a set criteria for messaging, if I received a 'fancy a fuck' message from a Christian Bale lookalike I would respond if we were free to meet.

Otherwise I don't reply. This site is just a hobby, I am under no obligation to acknowledge anyway and vice versa. If people want to think it's rude then it's your call

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the things us rude ones cant be arsed with. You're doing sterling work

Always so bloody sarcastic and nasty! Ever heard the saying " if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing"

Sarcastic yes, but nasty? Are you sure you're reading the same post as me?

If it's perceived as nasty then that's down to the reader and their lookout! And I'm not the author

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Most importantly, Did anyone change their mind ?

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